Thanks for the comments by the majority of people so far but as it's getting to people resorting to having pops at me I think it's better to end the thread here.
thanks for the replys...
I won't quote all my replies but I'll answer each one as you took the time to comment:
Freckledbird - I was hoping the anonymity aspect of a forum would get some replys... yes I am having doubts TBH, I posted to see what other people thought who might be in the same position.
Jpsauce - yep I understand your stance and from my point of view I'd only enter into something with people involved being fully aware of how I stand also.
Oh, and thanks for the compliment LOL.
jaymar - you must have mis-understood I actually said mucho fun in the sack, lighthearted way of saying when we have it it's good (at least from what I can tell, I enjoy anyway).
I might be here more sex yes. A relationship more than that no... as said I am happy with my partner.
Lost - to be honest I would agree, better to be honest but if the "singles" lie and you find out I don't think you should feel any guilt at all.
Srne - Yes our different levels of sex drive has been discussed to a certain extent, the fact remains I want sex more, she doesn't. My head says I could just handle that fact and put up with it but my desire says something else so it's confusing.
The options you put forward: I am basically at what you call square one. The 2nd option isn't an option. Neither is the 3rd.
H-x - You only want to be intimate with people to form some sort of relationship though so it's different.
Ukwineman - Yes, dangerous ground. As for your question if sex is that good why am I here... because it's not as often as I would like. Not sure what I want ATM. As far as it's made out to you in life, you fall in love and have a happy home with the full family and everything all stable and going well, you shouldn't want sex with anyone other than your partner... that's the way it's supposed to be isn't it? Yet I find myself looking elsewhere.
laterunner - not I'm not going to fib even if it improves my chances, as said above I would only be willing myself if they were fine with the fact it had to be discrete and knew I had a partner I had no intention of leaving or making any other relationship.
blonde - I can not say she isnt capable of deceiving me. No I don't think so, I think it's simply her sex drive is lower. I think a lot of womens sex drives are lower or peak at differing times I don't know, seems that way when talking to friends anyway.
Lost - she isn't forthcoming as it is, not exactly damned if I do. It wouldn't be the end of the world if I just put up with it. I bet many men even women probably do. I also don't claim to know what to do yet either. There are hundreds of singles here anyway, maybe none of them would be up for anything with me anyway. For one, I have a partner who can not know what I'm upto so some people won't like that and for two maybe people won't fancy me!!!
firelizard - as above really
makaveli69 - single advantages, yes it does but they don't outweigh the negs for me.
naughtynymphos1 - 1st question answer: you tell me.
2nd question: yes double standards.
typical man as you say, maybe.
The answers would be different if this wasn't anonymous... hence the post, we can speak freely.
Cherrytree and noladreams30 - thanks
fabio - risk/reward... hmmm, I'm not sure. If found out then deffinatly not. You would see the point if you didn't want to give up your relationship. And I wouldn't be happy roles reversed. Reason for post is maybe to here from others in the same boat if they are there not validation unless validation was other people opinions, here for opinions.
Thanks for all the replys, I will pop in again soon if anyone wants to comment further.
Would be great to hear from anyone else out there who is playing away purely for sex but want to keep there relationship at home. At what point you started and what made you make the decision that this is what you wanted to do.
thanks
Hi,
Noticed the numbers of all the single males here and wanted to hear from you (and others opinions welcome).
Are you really single?
I'm not, I love my other half very much and we have mucho fun in the sack and it's not boring.
But I want sex more often than she does.
I don't want it to a huge extreme but I find myself I'm here on this site thinking should I explore further?
I'm not looking for a relationship or to have an affair so is it that bad?
I wouldn't be happy for her to go elswhere for sex... but there again, she gets when she wants
I am here in secret, I would never want her to find out, as said I love her very much.
But like I said, I love her so I shouldn't be here should I?
I had just given it a wipe LOL
(it's my boxers)
glad you approve tulip, your looking pretty hot too going off your ad ;-)
actually I followed your lead and made an ad (see my sig below) myself for same reasons as you really with some more (revealing LOL) pics :censored:
yes jo, nice ass work you have there also
bet you struggled to write that eh?
did sound like fun... too shy atm
Megasexy xx
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