Now I do like the whole nurse thing, but it would have to be an outfit that closely resembles an actual nurse (possibly one of the more old fashioned 80's-90's ones).
Actual 'sexy nurse' outfits don't look like nurses outfits. Don't get me wrong, a woman can still look mighty sexy in one, but for me the whole nurse fantasy is based upon an actual nurse coming on to you.
I think one of the biggest problems with swinging and people outside the scene is quite simply their lack of experience of what it actually is.
Most people still think it involves something akin to putting keys on a bowl and then arbitrarily picking from the bowl, with partners having little say.
There is only one person who knows that I have done things like this but there are others that I have tried to educate a little but saying something less shocking that "I'm a swinger". Normally I say "I've moved in swinger circles". It's a nice way of saying I have experience but I'm not telling you what or how much and most people don't ask. They probably prefer to think that I've just known people who do. People don't like uncomfortable truths about people they care about.
So yeah, I think if people knew more about it and how it is more like dating but with sex much more 'on the table', there would be less of a stigma.
Good topic and totally understand where the OP is coming from.
With regard to feeling completely differently after you've cum, well that's fairly normal. I'm sure most guys have had a wank and felt a bit silly (maybe even ashamed) right after they finish.
I've always described my self as sexually bisexual, but emotionally straight. It's a term I use whenever I'm chatting to bi men or Bi-m couples on here. It is a nice shorthand way of explaining things.
To give you something to think about I'll tell you how I got into the bi side of things...
I've always had a high sex drive and one evening in my 20's, whilst at a party I was sitting in a small group, there were a couple of gay guys. In amongst the general chat one of the guys said that he was always bottom (or the receiver, I think might have been his actual words).
A few days later I was horny watching some porn and that line came back to me. I thought that if there are guys who only like that, then it must feel good in some way.
SO being someone who would rather regret having done something, than regret never having done something, I decided to see if I could arrange it.
I was on a different site and after a lot of messages to different people, chatted to a guy and he came over.
There was mutual oral and he took my anal cherry.
I'll be honest, I didn't enjoy it. I don't think it was the act itself, I think it was a combination of things. Me being nervous, there not really being enough lube and the feeling of wham-bam-thankyou-man, that came of it.
That put me off for a bit, but I decided to try again after a while.
One evening on here I advertised for a guy. Nothing much came back that I felt comfortable with, so I went out. I came back to find a message (amazingly) from a couple.
I went over there soon after and we had a really relaxing evening, slow build up and we all had sex. O and A (both ways) for us guys. It was a good experience and from that I started occasionally meeting other guys.
I'm still mostly into women, but I completely accept that I like a cock up my arse. You say about how it is a 'gay activity'. It's really not. Sex is about what feels good and if you like a to suck cock or like me, have the occasional anal fuck, that just means you have a sexual kink. Being gay (so far as I can tell) is about much more than that.
I'd encourage you to dabble. It can be great fun, especially with a couple.
I'm still looking to fulfill a fantasy of being in the middle of a couple, me fucking her while he's fucking me. After the mindblowing orgasms I've had from anal sex alone (seriously, a lifelike dildo is a great investment), I can only imagine how good that would be!
Wow, that got a bit longer than I had planned.
To summerise: You have one life to experience things. Go find out if you like it or not. You might be very happy that you did.
Hey there,
been on sh swinger for donkeys. Depending on location (for travel logistics) I'd like to be considered for this. I live in Romford, so generally it shouldnt be an issue with the travelling.
Cheers.
I'm only on page one of this, but thought I'd throw in a reply at this point, so sorry if this has already been said.
I totally understand people not wanting to pay when there are free members, but I don't think charging the free members is the way to go.
I am a free member and the way I see it is this...
The reason this site was so attractive to the company which bought it, was because of the massive existing userbase. That userbase is what made/makes the site. Without those users, this site would not have been worth anyone paying for. I doubt many of the paying members would have signed up in the first place. I have a little experience with that. I was party to a new swinging site start-up a few years ago. It started well, small but fun. At first it was free for us lot who helped start it and free for newbies. Then due to financial matters it was only free for 3 months for new users, then it was only free for a month due to low revenues. The problem was that there was no 'free' time to build the userbase to make it worth paying for, and that is what the free users did for this site.
As a free user I have to say that my activity on this site is sporadic. If I had to pay I would go elsewhere (nevermind any recriminations about the promise that was made, to never charge existing members (indeed, there was initially a similar promise to never introduce tiered paid membership, which there now is)) as would a lot of others, I believe.
Yes there are new features, but just as they CAN be an aide to finding a good swing meet, they also make it easier and more attractive to the people who don't actually understand swinging and thin it's all about a quick shag (not to slight the genuine swingers who like their swinging that way).
Aside from the potential ramifications of a mass exodus of free members, you ask the question about it being unfair to charge the ones who joined after the takeover.
Well is it fair to charge the people who made the site what it is?
Ohhhh this is right near me. Well in Essex.
Can I come please????
Purleeeeeesssseeee
Oooooo, I may just turnup for it at the HH as it used to be?
Has an old timer in the SH essex circle, can I jump on that reserve list please?
We have an issue in the Bi/gay wank room with the room host kicking a user for no apparent reason and with no warning.
We are all asking why and who the owner is, but we are receiving silence and would like this dealt with please
thankyou
I can answer from my point of view (you'll notice that my profile does indeed say 'Almost Single'
Earlier in the year I split with my gf because she had fallen in love with someone else.
I quickly realised that I wanted to give it another try, because I felt that we worked well together and I didn't want to just dump her and have regrets later.
I made it clear that I wanted her back, but she wasn't sure what she wanted, she didn't want to be with this other guy as they had decided to stay friends instead, but to her it brought up issues about our relationship (she *really* is not one for cheating).
So although I wanted her back, I was the wronged party and I was/am not going to hang on like a puppy dog waiting for her to make her mind up. I told her that until we are back together I will be leading my life as a single man, so i have been. I'd still like to get back with her but it doesn't look good.
So I class myself as single but with a few ties, so 'Almost single' seemed to be more honest than saying I was single.
I think it is good business sense and totally with their rights to link from this site to the dating site. However I also agree that it will fill up with swingers from here who don't realise the difference as well as the new free members from here who rather than pay here, can get a full membership there for a year.
I think a good idea would be that instead of the link from here going directly to the front page of the dating site, it should go to an in-between page that says in big bold unmistakable letters 'This is NOT a swinging site but a normal dating site. If you want to swing, keep it to swinging heaven' with a link at the end to proceed to the main dating site. If you make sure that there is no link on the dating page to that disclaimer, then the singles won't know about the affiliation.
Mike
I like the ideas put forward. A lot of them seem to be directed towards stopping the idiot single blokes from annoying the couples and fems with repeated abuse and whispering.
With that in mind, would it be possible to introduce a system where the decent, polite genuine single blokes could be listed in a different colour, so people will know that they are decent caps and all that.
I ask because what with the fools that abound in the rooms, I hate being tarred with the same brush and it seems that if there are things to punish idiots, it would be good to reward the good guys. I would very much like to stroll into the chatroom and have the couples and singles instantly know that I'm not an idiot and am worth talking to.
Clearly these people would have to be nominated by somone and approved by an op or someone who has been here for ages and ages.
Hey there, I'm off to the Reading Festival this weekend (will be there on Wednesday), so i was wondering who from here is going and if you are going, why don't we all get together for a drink in town.
I know the town very well, so if people are interested, I'll work out a place and time
Mike
When I read the initial post, I thought he was having a joke, maybe trying to break the ice and all that.
I think it's a little sad that people are being so quick to jump on him.
Bad form people, not up to your usual friendly standards.
