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Paul80
1 month ago
Bi-curious Male, 67
Bisexual Female, 63
0 miles · Birmingham
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Some people offered some nice words of encouragement some time back on this thread, we both thank you for that. We would like to just update you on our progress since our last post. We are both much better now though not totally over it, we are both still on Citalopram and will be for a while. Rachel started a phased back to work program and I’m still to get back to work but feel that I can see a future now which for those people that have suffered depression can possibly understand the situation.
We have learnt a lot over the past months, we have talked with professionals about the possibility of misuse of drugs. It is possible that a drug could have been used however we can not prove such. It is however the only thing that even starts to make sense of what happened that day. All I can say is that it happens all the time and its possible its going on, on this site. I know a number of people will be saying “contact the police and SH admin” we have talked to some parties about this but without evidence we have little to offer to support this.
We are meeting people now again which is helping our recovery, “getting back on the bike” as so to say!
So all be careful when meeting people, keep an eye on your drink!
Have fun but be careful
Paul
We have learnt a lot over the past months, we have talked with professionals about the possibility of misuse of drugs. It is possible that a drug could have been used however we can not prove such. It is however the only thing that even starts to make sense of what happened that day. All I can say is that it happens all the time and its possible its going on, on this site. I know a number of people will be saying “contact the police and SH admin” we have talked to some parties about this but without evidence we have little to offer to support this.
We are meeting people now again which is helping our recovery, “getting back on the bike” as so to say!
So all be careful when meeting people, keep an eye on your drink!
Have fun but be careful
Paul
Thank you Lost
We are taking counseling, but not together, Rachel feels the need to go alone, she is having trouble trying to understand why she did what she did, and why she lost control of the situation. Its 2 months today that it happened and each friday I re-run the day in my head, it was such a long afternoon and night of worry I know it could take years to recover, thats if I ever recover. I want to get over this but post traumatic depression is one hell of a bad illness and I would not wish it on my worst enemy.
I just want to warn all you happily married couples, don’t let other men make you forget your rules of play.
Thanks again Lost
Paul
We are taking counseling, but not together, Rachel feels the need to go alone, she is having trouble trying to understand why she did what she did, and why she lost control of the situation. Its 2 months today that it happened and each friday I re-run the day in my head, it was such a long afternoon and night of worry I know it could take years to recover, thats if I ever recover. I want to get over this but post traumatic depression is one hell of a bad illness and I would not wish it on my worst enemy.
I just want to warn all you happily married couples, don’t let other men make you forget your rules of play.
Thanks again Lost
Paul
Thank you tweeky
We are still working it out, Rachel is in a low mood because of what happened and has lost time off work and knows she did wrong and feels very guilty about 'that' night. She lost the plot 'that' night because a man who simply over powered her, he took advantage of the situation, long story really but one she is writing about, so hopefully in the near future you can all read about it.
We would consider ourselves as experienced players so let me say to all you people, take care you are never sure of the out come and don't take it lightly.
Paul
We are still working it out, Rachel is in a low mood because of what happened and has lost time off work and knows she did wrong and feels very guilty about 'that' night. She lost the plot 'that' night because a man who simply over powered her, he took advantage of the situation, long story really but one she is writing about, so hopefully in the near future you can all read about it.
We would consider ourselves as experienced players so let me say to all you people, take care you are never sure of the out come and don't take it lightly.
Paul
My wife went off to a hotel with a bloke when it was only meant to be a social meeting, I was told nothing was going to happen. The first evidence of what was happening came in the form of a photo by txt of them in bed doing a sexual act. I went into shock and now on medication for depression. I have never felt so hurt in all my life.
If I had have known I would have stopped it, YES IT'S CHEATING...
If I had have known I would have stopped it, YES IT'S CHEATING...
Cuckold is a term that is becoming more & more popular in swinging circles but what exactly does the term mean?
Basically the Cuckold is the male partner (cuck) in a marriage or relationship whose wife (referred to as the cuckoldress or hotwife) openly has sex with other males (referred to as bulls). Historically, where the term originates, this wasn't done for sexual gratification on the male/couples part but to humiliate the weak husband.
As part of the modern day swinging scene this act is not secretive and so not an affair, the cuck is fully aware that his partner is engaging in sexual activities with other men and is more often than not present to watch them having sex. This is not the same as general swinging as he will not be involved in the actual sex acts and only one other male is present, not another couple.
Swingers cuckoldry can be split into two types with the cuckold husbands being typically submissive or dominant, which for some is a serious position whilst others just part of their swinging sexual role play:
Submissive Cuckold
As the male becomes the submissive partner the female then takes on the submissive role which can just mean that the cuck is 'made' to watch while she has sex with her bull or in more of a dominatrix role she can humiliate her cuckold husband by making him perform oral sex on the bull showing that she has complete control over both of them.
Other variations of the scenario can include the cuckold male being made to do traditionally female chores around the house whilst the female is having sex with the bull, the cuck driving the female to the bulls house and to wait outside until she is finished or for more of a bondage slant the cuck may be tied up in order to force him to watch the action and restrained so that he can not relieve his own sexual tension so to speak.
Whichever scenario is played out the submissive cuckold male gains his sexual arousal through being humiliated and knowing that his wife/partner is being pleasured sexually by another male.
Dominant Cuckold
A distinct move away from the traditional cuckold, but in this instance the male doesn't get sexual gratification from the humiliation side of the act but from the fact he is in control, gets a kick from being the voyeur and watching his wife being serviced by other males. He will often be the instigator of the scenario and he will be the one who chooses the bulls for the cuckoldress who then becomes the submissive partner.
Another main difference is that the cuck will often get involved in the sexual activity in as much as he will tell the cukoldress and bull what he wants them to do, maybe telling them to change positions so he gets a better view or to do different sex acts to each other.
The whole domineering act is taken further by some cuckold husbands where a slightly more bondage feel is obtained by the cuck blindfolding and possibly even restraining his wife/female partner so that she cannot see the bull and is therefore totally submissive to the whole experience.
In either case it is quite normal for the cuckold to have sex with his wife when the bull has left and for some their cuckold scenario can utilise more than one bull.
Basically the Cuckold is the male partner (cuck) in a marriage or relationship whose wife (referred to as the cuckoldress or hotwife) openly has sex with other males (referred to as bulls). Historically, where the term originates, this wasn't done for sexual gratification on the male/couples part but to humiliate the weak husband.
As part of the modern day swinging scene this act is not secretive and so not an affair, the cuck is fully aware that his partner is engaging in sexual activities with other men and is more often than not present to watch them having sex. This is not the same as general swinging as he will not be involved in the actual sex acts and only one other male is present, not another couple.
Swingers cuckoldry can be split into two types with the cuckold husbands being typically submissive or dominant, which for some is a serious position whilst others just part of their swinging sexual role play:
Submissive Cuckold
As the male becomes the submissive partner the female then takes on the submissive role which can just mean that the cuck is 'made' to watch while she has sex with her bull or in more of a dominatrix role she can humiliate her cuckold husband by making him perform oral sex on the bull showing that she has complete control over both of them.
Other variations of the scenario can include the cuckold male being made to do traditionally female chores around the house whilst the female is having sex with the bull, the cuck driving the female to the bulls house and to wait outside until she is finished or for more of a bondage slant the cuck may be tied up in order to force him to watch the action and restrained so that he can not relieve his own sexual tension so to speak.
Whichever scenario is played out the submissive cuckold male gains his sexual arousal through being humiliated and knowing that his wife/partner is being pleasured sexually by another male.
Dominant Cuckold
A distinct move away from the traditional cuckold, but in this instance the male doesn't get sexual gratification from the humiliation side of the act but from the fact he is in control, gets a kick from being the voyeur and watching his wife being serviced by other males. He will often be the instigator of the scenario and he will be the one who chooses the bulls for the cuckoldress who then becomes the submissive partner.
Another main difference is that the cuck will often get involved in the sexual activity in as much as he will tell the cukoldress and bull what he wants them to do, maybe telling them to change positions so he gets a better view or to do different sex acts to each other.
The whole domineering act is taken further by some cuckold husbands where a slightly more bondage feel is obtained by the cuck blindfolding and possibly even restraining his wife/female partner so that she cannot see the bull and is therefore totally submissive to the whole experience.
In either case it is quite normal for the cuckold to have sex with his wife when the bull has left and for some their cuckold scenario can utilise more than one bull.
There appears to be a lot of interest in cuckolding and is always a chat room open which has cuckolding in its name. This poses the question - what is the modern day definition and interpretation of cuckolding in the swinging community, when safe sane and consensual terms are agreed between husband and wife?
We were a femdom couple that played with male chastity and agreed to always play as a couple. Who calls the shots the ‘bull’ or the wife? Does the ‘cuck’ have any say in the matter? Should a meeting that was set up as a social be hijacked by the ‘bull’ without the ‘cuck’ knowing, to take full advantage of a vulnerable wife?
I paste the Wikipedia versions.
For the complete text on the subject, see the wikipedia article on cuckold.
A cuckold (or cuck) is a married man with a sexually unfaithful wife. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples as well, although the common and traditional meaning is a man who is a victim of his wife's adultery.
The term has acquired additional meanings among sexual fetishists, referring to couples where a dominant female takes on additional partners, while a submissive male is either monogamous to her, denied sex altogether, or only allowed to perform a restricted range of sex acts with her.
Cuckolding may also be part of the practice of male dominant-female submissive couples. A submissive wife may be "naughty" with another man with her husband's knowledge and permission, then return to tell him about the betrayal and submit to punishment from the husband.
Cuckolding among female-dominant couples differs from the original definition of cuckolding in that many of these men are "voluntarily" "cuckolded" by their wives, as part of the husband's sexual fantasy of gaining sexual pleasure from being humiliated by his wife; indeed, the husband may even be the instigator of this practice, raising questions about who is truly the dominant partner. This is a common theme in letters to erotica magazines.
In the fantasy realm, the wife of a cuckold is sometimes referred to as a hotwife. In a broader context, the contrast between a cuckold and bull is sometimes used to summarize an individual's personality or behaviour; the male third party, or "bull" representing an aggressive alpha male and the cuckold suggesting weakness, fear and vulnerability.
(This entry in the BDSM Dictionary incorporates text from the Cuckold article in Wipipedia.)
We were a femdom couple that played with male chastity and agreed to always play as a couple. Who calls the shots the ‘bull’ or the wife? Does the ‘cuck’ have any say in the matter? Should a meeting that was set up as a social be hijacked by the ‘bull’ without the ‘cuck’ knowing, to take full advantage of a vulnerable wife?
I paste the Wikipedia versions.
For the complete text on the subject, see the wikipedia article on cuckold.
A cuckold (or cuck) is a married man with a sexually unfaithful wife. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples as well, although the common and traditional meaning is a man who is a victim of his wife's adultery.
The term has acquired additional meanings among sexual fetishists, referring to couples where a dominant female takes on additional partners, while a submissive male is either monogamous to her, denied sex altogether, or only allowed to perform a restricted range of sex acts with her.
Cuckolding may also be part of the practice of male dominant-female submissive couples. A submissive wife may be "naughty" with another man with her husband's knowledge and permission, then return to tell him about the betrayal and submit to punishment from the husband.
Cuckolding among female-dominant couples differs from the original definition of cuckolding in that many of these men are "voluntarily" "cuckolded" by their wives, as part of the husband's sexual fantasy of gaining sexual pleasure from being humiliated by his wife; indeed, the husband may even be the instigator of this practice, raising questions about who is truly the dominant partner. This is a common theme in letters to erotica magazines.
In the fantasy realm, the wife of a cuckold is sometimes referred to as a hotwife. In a broader context, the contrast between a cuckold and bull is sometimes used to summarize an individual's personality or behaviour; the male third party, or "bull" representing an aggressive alpha male and the cuckold suggesting weakness, fear and vulnerability.
(This entry in the BDSM Dictionary incorporates text from the Cuckold article in Wipipedia.)
That’s just the point englishchris I’m NOT cuming as in “orgasm cumming†that is. It is so frustrating and the moans are for real too, she got the cum out of me with out orgasm and with out me been able to do a dam thing about it.
But the good side it, after a draining like this you can keep hard for longer than if you used a cock ring. You can’t cum because you are empty. Maybe you should try it it’s not an exclusive to Rachel.
I bet that’s put a few ideas into a few heads lol
Paul
But the good side it, after a draining like this you can keep hard for longer than if you used a cock ring. You can’t cum because you are empty. Maybe you should try it it’s not an exclusive to Rachel.
I bet that’s put a few ideas into a few heads lol
Paul
I wasn’t thinking of organising a Birmingham Munch myself just wondering if I could start some interest going. We did miss the Coventry munch, I think it was at an hotel?!?!?! (Job commitments)
It would be great to put a face,bum,tit, Mmmmm to a name and get to know people around the site.
Thanks
Paul
It would be great to put a face,bum,tit, Mmmmm to a name and get to know people around the site.
Thanks
Paul
Guy4fun
Tying a shoelace dose work but it can be painful too. It can be strange, feeling your orgasm with out shooting your load,,, yes you can still have your orgasm with out cuming. You sort of stay hard but its not the same as if you try and hold back having an orgasm. One thing for sure it’s a challenge to see how long you can bonk after your first orgasm,
Let us know how long you last if you try!!!!
Paul
P.S. when it turns blue take it off
Tying a shoelace dose work but it can be painful too. It can be strange, feeling your orgasm with out shooting your load,,, yes you can still have your orgasm with out cuming. You sort of stay hard but its not the same as if you try and hold back having an orgasm. One thing for sure it’s a challenge to see how long you can bonk after your first orgasm,
Let us know how long you last if you try!!!!
Paul
P.S. when it turns blue take it off
What about a Birmingham Munch? Dose anybody run a west Midland munch? Rachel and I would love to meet others. Is there such a thing as couples only munches, just curious that’s all wouldn’t bother us one way or the other.
In any case we could travel to Nottingham next time they have a munch if invited that is, hint,, hint,,
Paul
In any case we could travel to Nottingham next time they have a munch if invited that is, hint,, hint,,
Paul
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