Hello all and espeacially those in the know. Having been absent from the site for a wee while I come back to find a fortress built around tyhe chatroom. Not being a technophobe the instructions are like double dutch.
Having followed the instructions several times and having failed to get any response other than 'my nickname is not registered', which of course it isn't because I haven't been given the opportunity to register it.
Could anybody let me me know by PMing me. And please don't be referring me to previous threads several pages down the line. The very fact that there are other threads (I am assuming) means this is a ligitimate request / complaint.
Thanks to all of you who will be helping us before this thread is locked.
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Lets make a rule that you can never disagree or question a statement. Lets agree that if what you are going to say may offend or upset someone in any way that you dont post it.
That sounds similar to something Tony Blair might say in defending the Iraq war against critics. A worrying development for SH.
Come on, we are adults and we need to behave accordingly so that new people coming into the fold will not get the wrong vibes. We have had some great munches and super general meets and parties so lets build on that. Many of us know each other personally so lets get back to where we used to be.
The problem with this Judy is that you are assuming, it would appear that most of the 1000's of people who contribute to this site have been to the same munches you have or indeed have any interest in attending said munches, and I know this won't be popular but any interest at all in mixing with the regular crowd. If this is a site only for those who choose to mix with the forever 'we are united' crowd, then really it should be stated in the blurb.
I have always understood and more hoped, this site to be for those who swing, and not solely for those who swing and agree with the predominant opinion of the day. It maybe time for those who moderate the site (and I ain't looking for a mod battle), and who hail from the 'united crowd' to consider what keeps this site so fresh. It is the newcomers, and the last thing a newcomer needs to see is a crowd of inward looking individuals gloryfying intolerance of opinion.
What surprises me when anyone mentions the topic of being allowed freedom of speech on this site is the tirade of sentimentality from those who oppose it. If threads were to exist on this site that god forbid may cause offence then I would say to those of you who have an aversion to freedom of speech
"DON'T CLICK ON THEM, AVOID THEM AT ALL COSTS, BUT LET THE REST OF US HAVE AN ADULT CONVERSATION"
Not often, if ever I start a thread but tonight (this week) I have been whole heartedly saddened by the reaction of the press and politicians to Yasser Arafat first becoming ill and then passing away. I am not in any doubt the man would have wanted most of us hanged for daring to think differently, but in so many ways we are kindred spirirts, daring to rise above the expected and the usual.
Before he even died and without so much as a thank you to this Noble Peace prize winner the politicians and the press were writing him off as no more than a failed terrorist. It seems every comment in the media has been disrespectful.
I would simply like to state that any individual who stands up against the odds, who fights oppression and who favours the underdogs of this world has my respect. I know he wasn't a saint (but then who of us is), I just feel a loss has happened.
Billy
Before he even died and without so much as a thank you to this Noble Peace prize winner the politicians and the press were writing him off as no more than a failed terrorist. It seems every comment in the media has been disrespectful.
I would simply like to state that any individual who stands up against the odds, who fights oppression and who favours the underdogs of this world has my respect. I know he wasn't a saint (but then who of us is), I just feel a loss has happened.
Billy
McCorrie, McSarge, Mcicepie, McJags, McTallnhairy, McMal609, McBlue and McGooners........no, he's gone, sorry.
That's all the Scottish contingent!
No it ain't, Mcbloody ScotsCpl could also be added to the shower of swingers named above
:taz: :taz: :taz: :taz: :taz:
Just don't talk to us right now, not sociable at the best of times, but currently arguing over when St. Andrews night is. Decided to sort it out by counting the amount of times we can nut each other. Winner takes all
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: Aw. I think you are all being so unfair to Bush and Blair. Just think of the fun the world is going to have for the next few years. Some of the stuff Bush comes away with is hysterical. You couldn't pay to watch a better stand up. And Blair is like that lil snivelling gremlin creature out of Lord of The Rings when he's in the company of bush.
The jokes will be endless. Here's one I just made up.
Q. Why are the Americans looking so happy
A. Cause they just planted that Dope Bush :smoke: in the white hoouse for another four years
The jokes will be endless. Here's one I just made up.
Q. Why are the Americans looking so happy
A. Cause they just planted that Dope Bush :smoke: in the white hoouse for another four years
We consider ourselves lucky. We moved into a small village in Scotland 6 months ago. within 48 hours our neighbours knew who we were, where we came from, our occupations, why we had moved and a lot more besides.
Although there is just one thing we keep from them
:wink:
The local newsagents know us by name, and the pub landlord pours our usual without even having to be asked, but that might :beer: say more about us than him :beer:
Although there is just one thing we keep from them
:wink: The local newsagents know us by name, and the pub landlord pours our usual without even having to be asked, but that might :beer: say more about us than him :beer:
Robinhood. Prince of thieves.
When Robin first goes to maid Marians castle, it's all dark, only a candle burning. I'm expecting the worst, she's been beaten to a pulp by the Sherriff. It's all getting very tense.
And then a bloody cat jumps onto the table and out of the door. I threw my drink in the air. It's been the only film for years that has made me jump.
When Robin first goes to maid Marians castle, it's all dark, only a candle burning. I'm expecting the worst, she's been beaten to a pulp by the Sherriff. It's all getting very tense.
And then a bloody cat jumps onto the table and out of the door. I threw my drink in the air. It's been the only film for years that has made me jump.
Coca-Cola? Does anybody really like that shit? It just gives me wind and makes me thirsty, making me drink more water.
As for the quality of the water. Here in SW Scotland it is very soft and delicious. :lickface:
However I've heard, urban myth it may be, that in the SE of England by the time the water flows from the tap it has already passed through a dozen or so people? Does anybody no if that's true. If it is and I was a Londoner
As for the quality of the water. Here in SW Scotland it is very soft and delicious. :lickface:
However I've heard, urban myth it may be, that in the SE of England by the time the water flows from the tap it has already passed through a dozen or so people? Does anybody no if that's true. If it is and I was a Londoner
As for, "those who wish to be exposed to the full horror of war, for whatever reason, do so without restriction". To those who truly wish to experience this then may I suggest they join the Army instead of viewing remote attocities at home from the comfort of their chairs.
Its easy isn' it to label the atrocities of war as 'remote'. By doing so we allow ourselves to take a step back and say it has nothing to do with us. And of course its easy for me to lay back in my armchair and view war from afar and pontificate about it.
If you are already convinced of the horror of war then why do you have to watch this video of an ignominous death of an innocent man by protracted means. Are you mad?
I'm not so much convinced as I am fascinated by the horror of war. And why should anyone in this country be surpirised. Is it worse to be fascinated by it than to support the bloody horror that goes on in our name? Am I to be labelled mad for being interested in what our government does in the name of democracy?
And as for 'innocent man'??? There is only one reason, other than charity that civilians from this country are working in Iraq and that is money. Money, the same reason this country went to war and the same reason that opportunistic civilians are now risking their lives by working in Iraq.
To lay my cards on the table I have no sympathy for Ken Bigley or any other British civilian trying to earn their fortune on the back of an illegal war. I have every sympathy for those soldiers who swore to 'defend' queen and country and I have every sympathy for all those innocents who now suffer at the hands of western democracy.
I just want to say I agree with most of the sentiments here. War is santised for our viewing 'pleasure' on TV. Maybe if the worst barbaric behaviour that happens during war was shown on the television less people in this country and others, would be willing to tolerate it(war) as a solution when the politicians fail to develop more imaginative strategies.
As for anyone watching the video (which I have yet to do) and then complainging about it? WTF???? Don't do it. Keep those itchy fingers away from the download button and let those who wish to be exposed to the full horror of war, for whatever reason, do so without restriction.
As for anyone watching the video (which I have yet to do) and then complainging about it? WTF???? Don't do it. Keep those itchy fingers away from the download button and let those who wish to be exposed to the full horror of war, for whatever reason, do so without restriction.
totally respect the responses so far. Can I ask, if you are against the idea why is it not possible for u to post responses saying 'go for it but not for me!'.
If you're not into it then you don't have to visit the thread. I'm not quite sure why you would object to other people having their say?
If you're not into it then you don't have to visit the thread. I'm not quite sure why you would object to other people having their say?
:xJust wondering if it would be allowed to post a thread on here that was totally out of limits for the OPs.
For example we have a GFZ and occasionaly a BFZ, what about an OPFZ for folks. It would only be for those that were not easily offended or for those that were prepared to be offended. Things could get personal, so long as they were not illegal, i.e. no racists, sexists, etc. (although even I can see a problem arising here)
Maybe as a concession we could agree the OPS could lock it now and then (without comment) and then it could start up again. Probabaly a silly idea, but god sometimes I would love this site to have a thread that just let us all loose on each other. If you didn't like it then just don't get involved. It's a bit like those folk that write into TV moaning about sex and violence. IF YOU DONT LIKE IT THEN DONT WATCH. same principle would apply here.
For example we have a GFZ and occasionaly a BFZ, what about an OPFZ for folks. It would only be for those that were not easily offended or for those that were prepared to be offended. Things could get personal, so long as they were not illegal, i.e. no racists, sexists, etc. (although even I can see a problem arising here)
Maybe as a concession we could agree the OPS could lock it now and then (without comment) and then it could start up again. Probabaly a silly idea, but god sometimes I would love this site to have a thread that just let us all loose on each other. If you didn't like it then just don't get involved. It's a bit like those folk that write into TV moaning about sex and violence. IF YOU DONT LIKE IT THEN DONT WATCH. same principle would apply here.
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8-) 8-)I'm amazed anyone on this sight could possibly consider any American President as a good prosepect.
If you are gay...............You have no rights.
If you swing...................Texans would hang you.
If you are bisexual........The bible belt would cure you.
If you are not white........All the best, but don't expect much.
If you are white and straight..........Welcome to America
Forget what the hell they say about foreign affairs. What is most important is how they treat their own people. Thank allah/God I aint a black, hispanic, gay, lesbian, swinger, muslim, free thinker or anyone else who would choose to reject the American idea of what is a dream.
And please don't be thinking I'm anti American. All my friends in america have been expressing the same opinion for years........if you want an American president who cares then stop consuming.
If you are gay...............You have no rights.
If you swing...................Texans would hang you.
If you are bisexual........The bible belt would cure you.
If you are not white........All the best, but don't expect much.
If you are white and straight..........Welcome to America
Forget what the hell they say about foreign affairs. What is most important is how they treat their own people. Thank allah/God I aint a black, hispanic, gay, lesbian, swinger, muslim, free thinker or anyone else who would choose to reject the American idea of what is a dream.
And please don't be thinking I'm anti American. All my friends in america have been expressing the same opinion for years........if you want an American president who cares then stop consuming.
Being dumb doesn't come into the equation. The chatroom ops are there to make sure that the room is 'safe' for everyone to use. That's why we have rules. Ignore them if you want but your stay in the room will be very short lived if you do.
Sorry. Really sorry. I understand there are reasons for OPs and I do understand they do a very good job. I really have nothing but admiration for the OPs, it's not a job I would volunteer to do.
Messed up in what I was trying to say is that, yes in the chatroom OPs are a necessity., But, what is uncalled for is when newcomers post something on this forum, they then have a barrage of sanctamonious claptrap from people who should know better. We have all been there. We have all been new, and we should all be as welcoming as possible, even when the newcomers have got it wrong. Especially if they are brave enough to post their misgivings on the forum
Newcomers to the site in my truely humble opinion
don't have a valid point to moan about the chatroom when they haven't bothered to read the rules(despite my earlier statement, I probablyu jusy got lucky.....read the rules). On the other hand if they do post a query on the forum, more wisely members of this site have an obligation not to chastise them but to encourage them. I ain't getting involved anymore. And apologies in advance for those I might still be rubbing up the wrong way. Although feel free to PM me and maybe we can discuss ways I and my beloved can rub you up the right way
:lol: :lol: i think you might find some people no longer op the chatroom because it is a thankless task, which can rapidly see friendships ((( which aren't about backslapping or opping kudos at all! ))) and attitudes to you change.
I agree 100%, its a thankless task, but lets not get sentimetal about it. It's like asking someone to feel sorry for a politician.
How would you feel if you were giving somebody your email addy or phone number and it was sent to a third party because someone who couldnt be arsed to read the rules had pm'd you???
I wouldn't be so dumb!
Life shouldn't revolve around rules and regulations. If as I'm sure is the case some folk stumble upon this site while surfing the net. Think to themselves I'll pop in there for a wee chin wag, have a bit of a gas with someone, then whats the problem with that. Sure in an ideal world they would have the rules downloaded to their brain the minute they hit the site, but life ain't perfect and people don't always understand the etiquette of sites they are visiting.
I'm desperately hoping I don't get into trouble for this, or shat on from the hights of a soap box, but in a year of visiting this site I have never read the rules.
And I have joined clubs without reading the rules in the past, both on line and for example my local golf club. On the whole I have found members more than willing to take the time to explain the rules when I ask about them. When I don't ask and get things wrong they have all been kind enough to politely and with respect tell me about the rules.
What they don't do is go running to the nearest OP or equivalent and say they have PM'd me without asking. And before the usual suspects bemoan the fact they are PM'd without permission, could I suggest it would be a lot more fuss to press the ignore button rather than letting everyone in the chatroom know how popular you are with the newcomers. Some folks fingers must be red raw, just click ignore, its a lot less bover.
I'm desperately hoping I don't get into trouble for this, or shat on from the hights of a soap box, but in a year of visiting this site I have never read the rules.
And I have joined clubs without reading the rules in the past, both on line and for example my local golf club. On the whole I have found members more than willing to take the time to explain the rules when I ask about them. When I don't ask and get things wrong they have all been kind enough to politely and with respect tell me about the rules.
What they don't do is go running to the nearest OP or equivalent and say they have PM'd me without asking. And before the usual suspects bemoan the fact they are PM'd without permission, could I suggest it would be a lot more fuss to press the ignore button rather than letting everyone in the chatroom know how popular you are with the newcomers. Some folks fingers must be red raw, just click ignore, its a lot less bover.
We've been coming on here for almost a year now off and on. And while we have never personally been chastised by the chat room ops I understand peoples frustration at being jumped upon by the OPs the minute they misunderstand a thread of conversation in the chatroom. Sometime its simply a newcomers way of getting into a conversation.
It's unrealistic to expect everyone to read the rules before entering the chatroom. And I (m) really cannot be done with all the back slapping that goes along with being an OP. If they find it is a hard job then stop doing it. No one is forcing anyone to be an op. Get off the soap box and give some of the new comers a break.
And yes I understand that without the OPs chaos may reign. But some of the best times I have had in the chatroom are when OPs are not present.
It's unrealistic to expect everyone to read the rules before entering the chatroom. And I (m) really cannot be done with all the back slapping that goes along with being an OP. If they find it is a hard job then stop doing it. No one is forcing anyone to be an op. Get off the soap box and give some of the new comers a break.
And yes I understand that without the OPs chaos may reign. But some of the best times I have had in the chatroom are when OPs are not present.
We had one guy who sent an unsolicited message to us on another site asking if we would dominate him and in particular thrust his 12" dildo up his bum and make him bleed. Along with this tempting offer was a close up picture of his arsehole with what I think must have been huge piles. Huge pink sores that looked really painful.
After a lot of thought we replied very politely that we didn't think we would be able to oblige.
He quickly replied........."You've never even fucking met me, how do you know?"
After a lot of thought we replied very politely that we didn't think we would be able to oblige.
He quickly replied........."You've never even fucking met me, how do you know?"
