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Smooth8
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 60
0 miles · Greater London
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Warming the Bed
Quote by flower411
If we have no Ad and have not posted in the Lets Meet Up forum, I consider mail unsolicited and feel no obligation to reply.
The profile is there to give people a little bit of information....It is not an invitation to mail us !!!
If you mail people out of the blue and receive no reply, move on ...they`re not interested.
If somebody has an Ad and you sort of fit the criteria, then I think they should reply with a no thanks but as has been stated, that usually opens you up to at best...further begging mail and at worst...abuse !!
Try being on the receiving end .
Being realistic, you have a profile on a swingers site that in its self is an invitation for people to mail you. Unless of course it directly says dont mail us. Profiles can be searched as well as adverts so there is in a sense no need for an advert. Profiles say, looking for or interested in so thats an invitation for mail. If you have anal on your profile and someone pops by it who likes anal why be surprised if they mail you.
Not surprised at all !!!!!
Just can`t understand why anybody has the fuckin cheek to moan at me for not replying !!!
Dur !!! if we ain`t interested we ain`t interested !!! move on ...simple as fuck isn`t it ???
errr why place an ad then??
exactly my point
by the way as i didnt mail you and didnt moan at you for not replying perhapsyou could refrain from swearing!
also i was wondering...as you apparently dont bother replying to mail, why did you bother repling to this thread if it was going to make you angry??
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Quote by couplefunuk
We're the same as a couple of others here in that, our profile clearly states we're not looking for new people right now. We have people we "work with" lol and we're not looking to expand on that right now. If someone still thinks it's OK to mail us, when we said we're not looking, then thats their own luck out to be honest.
Occasionally we'll get a nicely composed mail which we'll take the time to reply to, but usually it's along the lines of "i'm in the area tonight, fancy a fuck"? Of course we're not going to reply to that! Glad we're convenient for you, but you've given us no reason at all there to make us think you'd change our minds from what we've already said, we're not looking!
*Her*
yes fair enough if you put something specific on your ad then i wouldnt expect anyone to mail you and if they did, wouldnt expect you to reply! (i ONLY EVER send proper messages by the way)
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Quote by flower411
If we have no Ad and have not posted in the Lets Meet Up forum, I consider mail unsolicited and feel no obligation to reply.
The profile is there to give people a little bit of information....It is not an invitation to mail us !!!
If you mail people out of the blue and receive no reply, move on ...they`re not interested.
If somebody has an Ad and you sort of fit the criteria, then I think they should reply with a no thanks but as has been stated, that usually opens you up to at best...further begging mail and at worst...abuse !!
Try being on the receiving end .
flower some people dont like forums some dont like chatrooms so the only option left is mail. personaly i always read and only ever reply to profiles / ads i fit. this however doesnt seem to make any difference.
i would agree entirely if you dont fit dont mail!
ill just have to keep trying
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Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
So many reasons people (I) don't always reply
-Can't be arsed with yet another random email
-Only popped on to say hi to someone, don't have time and forget after
-When you reply and say no thanks some people get cranky and a 10 point reason why not
-They don't fit criteria and if they cant read my profile or respect what I am looking for I wouldn't want to meet them
- Because mom always said if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all
I could do on ..... Everyone has a reason / excuse.
I think maybe your having a stroke of bad luck if you not getting any replies or your emailing the wrong people - But quite frankly if you think its rude not to reply then you probably wouldn't have like them anyway !
all fair points! i like the Mom one myself..lol but its probably the first one!
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Quote by Freckledbird
ok freckle your point of veiw so fair enough. but if someones got a good profile and looks good they ARE going to get a lot af attention so sould expect lots of mail. its the nature of the beast!
as for moving on bloody hell m8 i only just posted the topic at least lets have some discussion!
M8?
Regardless of how good looking they are, it doesn't mean they have to answer every mail. I didn't mean move on from the topic, I meant move on as in, pass those people by - pointless worrying when there are so many other people on site. You might not get a lot of discussion - or people will say the same things they have said when this topic has been discussed lots of times before.
Good luck!
ok ok i went over the top with the M8 bit especially as it may be Mrs freckle..lol
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Quote by corrie2010
Oh Smooth you keep mentioning other sites. Comparing sites doesn't really work. Each has its ways of working and thats why there are so many. You have a great piuc on your profile and you are up front about being married but you are after a select group of women who are looking for an attached single man. Good luck in your quest but you wont like me be everyones cup of tea.
Or couples...and you may be surprised at just how many are interested in "attached" guys and how many fems in a coulpe are quite happy to meet behind the guys back.
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ok freckle your point of veiw so fair enough. but if someones got a good profile and looks good they ARE going to get a lot af attention so sould expect lots of mail. its the nature of the beast!
as for moving on bloody hell m8 i only just posted the topic at least lets have some discussion!
as for moving on bloody hell m8 i only just posted the topic at least lets have some discussion!
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dont get me wrong i can understand if its a "wanna fuck" or some other poor attemt at introduction but im talking about a genuine message. also the chat rooms here are very fast compered to others and friends on other sites dont use this noe because of that. i do go in the chat rooms but have found people change rooms before you can post to them so obviously sending a proper message is the answer, well i thought so anyway.
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Quote by Freckledbird
I know I'm not alone in finding it really annoying when you take the time to mail someone and they cant be bothered to reply. If they are bothered to read mail why not reply with a message or a simple thanks but no thanks! i have seen others add in their profile about this and i don't understand why it is, to me its just courteous to reply.
thinks i wonder if anyone will post a reply to this? what do you think?
Because they're snowed under by uninvited mail?
Because sometimes if you say 'thanks but no thanks', some people answer back quite rudely?
Because they think it's kinder to say nothing?
Welcome to the forum, even though your first post is a whinge.
whinge! not really.
snowed under? prehaps they should change their profile?
rude answer? just ignore thatif it comes.
Kinder to say nothing? no i think its poor show to say nothig.
i find it bordering on rude myself and so do quite a few other people but then i guess if your one of the ones who doesnt reply so you wouldnt think it rude. you are in the majority though ill give you that. and im on a few sites and it happens there to.
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I know I'm not alone in finding it really annoying when you take the time to mail someone and they cant be bothered to reply. If they are bothered to read mail why not reply with a message or a simple thanks but no thanks! i have seen others add in their profile about this and i don't understand why it is, to me its just courteous to reply.
thinks i wonder if anyone will post a reply to this? what do you think?
thinks i wonder if anyone will post a reply to this? what do you think?
