Great replies to my original post.
Dirtygirly did mention in her reply that uninvited whispers were against the rules and I can't argue against that because I have agreed to them
Persistent whispering seems to be the bane of some posters. Perhaps SW needs to provide an option in members profiles to turn off whispers for those that don't want to receive them. I hope any further posts will support this together any other views.
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Vellvell
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Great to be getting replies to my post some for and some against. The idea of the post was to put my view from a responsible whisperer and to ask that we arn't all tarred with the same brush.
I know there are a few that have been intimidated by whispers which haven't been controlled. But this reflects society where there are bullies in every way of life. Those that do bully must be removed and those that don't think or are ignorant must be shown the error of there ways.
fabio thanks for your reply - but if you read my post again and for further clarification if there is a misunderstanding -
if the chatroom says "no whispers" or "ask before you whisper" then there must be no uninvited whispers.
Also if a person profile states "no whispers" then whatever room it is - no whispers should be directed to that person.
However there are the other rooms with no rules and this is where the poll and post was directed at to introduce a protocol for polite whispering.
This should mean that if you are inundated with whispers and there is a protocol you can report that person for not following it if they are not following it, you can put on your profile *no whispers" and I believe there is a tool in the chatroom that prevents whispers. But selecting that might mean that you don't meet a person who is genuine and too shy to tell you in pubic what he or she thinks.
Please try to look at it from my side - as I have tried to look at yours. If a room to discusses whispers please refer them to this page
vellvell
I know there are a few that have been intimidated by whispers which haven't been controlled. But this reflects society where there are bullies in every way of life. Those that do bully must be removed and those that don't think or are ignorant must be shown the error of there ways.
fabio thanks for your reply - but if you read my post again and for further clarification if there is a misunderstanding -
if the chatroom says "no whispers" or "ask before you whisper" then there must be no uninvited whispers.
Also if a person profile states "no whispers" then whatever room it is - no whispers should be directed to that person.
However there are the other rooms with no rules and this is where the poll and post was directed at to introduce a protocol for polite whispering.
This should mean that if you are inundated with whispers and there is a protocol you can report that person for not following it if they are not following it, you can put on your profile *no whispers" and I believe there is a tool in the chatroom that prevents whispers. But selecting that might mean that you don't meet a person who is genuine and too shy to tell you in pubic what he or she thinks.
Please try to look at it from my side - as I have tried to look at yours. If a room to discusses whispers please refer them to this page
vellvell
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I am starting this topic from a different angle to another topic called uninvited whispers
Continuously whispering when not invited is plain bad and ignorant and there is no place for them in chatrooms. Also whispering in a room that states no whispering is also not on.
But they are there for a reason - a person wants to say something without the others in the room reading it.
Before I whisper I read that persons profile
If the profile says that they don't want whispers - I don't.
If the profile dosn't - then I always ask myself
1. do I ask that person if I can whisper and send the message to everyone
or 2. do I whisper the words "please can I whisper?"
I prefer the second because if I did the first way I might look a perve (we all are). Alot of us are shy and don't want others to know we want to whisper. However if I get a whisper or a message in open chat saying no or no reply - I don't continue.
There should be nothing wrong with ONE uninvited whisper.
Let me know what you think especially from those who try to responsibly whisper
Continuously whispering when not invited is plain bad and ignorant and there is no place for them in chatrooms. Also whispering in a room that states no whispering is also not on.
But they are there for a reason - a person wants to say something without the others in the room reading it.
Before I whisper I read that persons profile
If the profile says that they don't want whispers - I don't.
If the profile dosn't - then I always ask myself
1. do I ask that person if I can whisper and send the message to everyone
or 2. do I whisper the words "please can I whisper?"
I prefer the second because if I did the first way I might look a perve (we all are). Alot of us are shy and don't want others to know we want to whisper. However if I get a whisper or a message in open chat saying no or no reply - I don't continue.
There should be nothing wrong with ONE uninvited whisper.
Let me know what you think especially from those who try to responsibly whisper
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There are alot of men, myself included, who are straight, but fsncy the idea at the right time of being a little curious and experimenting a little. If you have too many sections you will remove the interesting bit of finding out what they will do or not do.
That doesn't mean to say we arn't interested in a straight female or straight couple encounter.
Most men will adapt and give their all.
regards vellvell
That doesn't mean to say we arn't interested in a straight female or straight couple encounter.
Most men will adapt and give their all.
regards vellvell
