It's all about first knowing what you as man in the marriage really wants. For the first 20 years of our marriage my wife would not even listen to any fantasies of that kind that I may have had. Then it is about gently being open and accepting that you just a get a knowing sarcastic smile in return and then it is about finding the right guy, either by searching or as in our case, by chance.

As we had always liked nudity and enjoyed visiting nudist beaches in the summer in England or in Germany, we went on a holiday to Maspalomas, stayed in a really nice hotel and trekked every morning down to one of the kiosk and enjoyed our time under the sunscreens, on the beach and in the water. We were both 48 then and by chance we started talking to tall, sporty gent, in his late 60ies, who just started to chat up my wife. And to my great surprise she was lapping it up. It was so obvious that she was very attracted to this gentleman. He managed to completely mesmerize my wife with his stories, his compliments, his witty remarks and my wife was on her sun-lounger, with both her legs on either side, wide open and sporting her hairy bush and he moved quite close to her and it was clear to see that he was impressively built and his special warez were dangling right in front of her face and again she did not even try to hid that she was looking at it.

I also immediately liked the guy. It was as if I had met my best friend again, who I had not seen in years and he made sure that I was not left out either. In a moment when my wife was in the water he talked to me and asked me if I was ok with him flirting with my wife, and I told him where I stood and that I had tried for many years to convince my wife that we could have a lot of fun. And I assured him that I was ok with him taking it to wherever my wife was willing to go.

To cut the story short, he became our holiday best friend, and on the night after the day we met him, after good food, a pub and bar crawl where my wife was plied with many cocktails, and enjoyed a lot of salsa dancing with her new holiday boyfriend, who was an expert dancer, and where they also enjoyed that slow dances in the dimmed light darkness of the dance floor, and this being Maspalomas, and even at night it was still hot I had convinced my wife to just wear her little black number, aka a nice black dress that just went down to about 5 inches below her ass and had asked her to leave bra and knickers in the cupboard - and she did just that, no bickering, no discussion.

So it was safe to assume that the slow dances allowed for ample chance to gently motivate her neither regions with some skilful fingers. And judging from her flustered face I was sure that I was right.

It smoothly progressed into some more clubs, dances and cocktails and then back to the hotel where she insisted that we should all have a last drink on our balcony and relax for bit .....

Relax we did and that was the first time I saw my wife moaning and cumming underneath another man and on another man's cock. ....... and after that she became a wife that had lovers that we would both meet, We are also not into any notions of humiliation and punishment of the cuckold. I would probably class us as a couple that enjoys wifesharing, I have no interests in meeting other ladies, and am happily faithful to my wife and get all my thrills, excitements and satisfaction from watching her, even allowing her to meet another man, once we know that he can be trusted and joining in when I can or enjoying the erotic cinematic rollercoaster of my mind and what I imagine. We are both 66 now and naturally she is no longer as active when we started but we have a naturist circle which we enjoy, we meet for naked swims and she still has one long term lover who we have known now for over 10 years and my wife meets him about once a month, sometimes with me and sometimes without me.

So to all of you out there whose wishes have not yet been fulfilled I can only say that there is hope, You need to know what you want, you need to let your wives know what your desires are, and to accept that they think you are bit mad but anyway that is no reason for them to divorce you and then you need to bring about opportunities and hope that chance strikes, serendipity happens, and this can come in many forms.

For me it was the vacation in Maspalomas .... for you it may your wife's business meeting in Manchester or the train ride to there .....

With us my mother knows as I always had this honest, open and non-judgmental relationship with her and surprisingly she approves and says that I am lucky to have found a wife that shares my idea of life and enjoyment as a couple and my wife's older sister, who at the same time is her best friend. Both my mother and my wife's sister would never say a word to anyone else - they are like a locked safe at the bottom of a very deep ocean. My wife's sister, even though she was surprised first, also approves and in conversation she often admitted that she would really love to have that same relationship with her husband but there was not even a slim chance that he would ever even consider anything of that nature. But she always loves it when they both get time together and then they talk about everything and my wife has told me that she always has to tell everything that we have done in the last few months in great detail.

Swinging can get complicated but you can enjoy it as well even without any rules .....

But full marks for the effort. Well done guys and very funny and a lot of food for thought ... haha