Yay! Well done!
Keep an eye on things tho...
Mums are such heroes, aren't they (we)!
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janis_j
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 56
0 miles · Greater London
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Hi there
I’m a teacher and from what you’ve said, yes, she is being bullied – the comments are directed to the same person, it’s repeated, it’s from the same person and more importantly, it’s distressing your child.
I would suggest you go to your child’s class teacher/form tutor to express your concerns and he/she will set the ball rolling from there so it can be stopped before it gets out of hand. Ask for an appointment and tell him/her your worries in a nutshell – this way the teacher can give you his/her time and will have time to think about the problem – ‘doorstepping’ won’t be satisfactory for anyone. Your daughter’s school will have an anti-bullying policy which helps everyone to approach the situation systematically. Bullying must be reported – if the teachers don’t know about it, we can’t stop it. Don’t expect an immediate solution – the teacher will need time to get some information about what’s been happening – but arrange another appointment for a couple of days later to see how things are going.
I disagree with comments that teachers don’t have time to deal with ‘minor’ complaints about name-calling (we don’t have time for much at all!) but at my school, and all the other schools I’ve worked in, such incidents are leapt on immediately as name-calling can be the start of more prolonged bullying – best to nip it in the bud and let it be known that it’s not tolerated.
I do agree with you that the term ‘bullying’ is over-used. I use it rarely, and never in front of children. It’s such an emotive word – if your child comes home and says ‘I’m being bullied’, it’s heart-stopping. What they may actually mean is that someone was bossy to them that day. I’ve had parents come to me in a state saying their child is being bullied (the child’s words) and when we’ve got down to it, the child has said ‘He pushed in front of me in the line’. How often does this happen? Answer: ‘He did it last year, as well’. ‘Bullying’ is a extremely serious matter and the word shouldn’t be bandied about willy-nilly.
I think it’s fantastic that your child confides in you. Remember, in doing so, she’s asking for you to help her. She may insist you don’t tell the school but remember you’re the adult and you know what’s best.
Final plea – don’t approach the child or the child’s parent. The school will do that for you, and you can ask to be present at such meetings.
Hope this helps and you get it sorted soon.
I’m a teacher and from what you’ve said, yes, she is being bullied – the comments are directed to the same person, it’s repeated, it’s from the same person and more importantly, it’s distressing your child.
I would suggest you go to your child’s class teacher/form tutor to express your concerns and he/she will set the ball rolling from there so it can be stopped before it gets out of hand. Ask for an appointment and tell him/her your worries in a nutshell – this way the teacher can give you his/her time and will have time to think about the problem – ‘doorstepping’ won’t be satisfactory for anyone. Your daughter’s school will have an anti-bullying policy which helps everyone to approach the situation systematically. Bullying must be reported – if the teachers don’t know about it, we can’t stop it. Don’t expect an immediate solution – the teacher will need time to get some information about what’s been happening – but arrange another appointment for a couple of days later to see how things are going.
I disagree with comments that teachers don’t have time to deal with ‘minor’ complaints about name-calling (we don’t have time for much at all!) but at my school, and all the other schools I’ve worked in, such incidents are leapt on immediately as name-calling can be the start of more prolonged bullying – best to nip it in the bud and let it be known that it’s not tolerated.
I do agree with you that the term ‘bullying’ is over-used. I use it rarely, and never in front of children. It’s such an emotive word – if your child comes home and says ‘I’m being bullied’, it’s heart-stopping. What they may actually mean is that someone was bossy to them that day. I’ve had parents come to me in a state saying their child is being bullied (the child’s words) and when we’ve got down to it, the child has said ‘He pushed in front of me in the line’. How often does this happen? Answer: ‘He did it last year, as well’. ‘Bullying’ is a extremely serious matter and the word shouldn’t be bandied about willy-nilly.
I think it’s fantastic that your child confides in you. Remember, in doing so, she’s asking for you to help her. She may insist you don’t tell the school but remember you’re the adult and you know what’s best.
Final plea – don’t approach the child or the child’s parent. The school will do that for you, and you can ask to be present at such meetings.
Hope this helps and you get it sorted soon.
Hi, we're Paul and Sha
We're having a small party at Sha's place in North London on Sat 17th May. We'd like to invite 2 bi couples, or a couple where at least the woman is bi/bi curious. The men would have to be comfortable with bi men playing. Ideally, we would like to meet for a drink first to check that we all get on and that everyone's genuine.
The other guests so far are 3 bi men who we have met before and will be able to supply photos of. So, as you can see, the ratio is a bit unbalanced at the moment... (not that Sha minds....!)
Face photos of both m and f please...
We're having a small party at Sha's place in North London on Sat 17th May. We'd like to invite 2 bi couples, or a couple where at least the woman is bi/bi curious. The men would have to be comfortable with bi men playing. Ideally, we would like to meet for a drink first to check that we all get on and that everyone's genuine.
The other guests so far are 3 bi men who we have met before and will be able to supply photos of. So, as you can see, the ratio is a bit unbalanced at the moment... (not that Sha minds....!)
Face photos of both m and f please...
