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neolithic
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 66
Straight Female
0 miles · Staffordshire
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Warming the Bed
People dont seem to help themselves by saying things in their profiles such as 'seeking like minded people' and not describing what they are into, or having no pcitures and not wanting larger people to play with. Maybe I like slaying melons with a chainsaw, of course you are psyhic arent you? Why do people meet without chatting first, we don't normally meet without a few words on msn and establishing no no's and please do's. Having said all that it's hard to tell when the action is about to kick off. Most people don't seem to flirt that much. My wife once made the mistake of coming on to a guy and you would have thought she asked him to shit himself in a bucket by the reponse he gave her, damn she only wanted a kiss! Communcation people - none of us are good at it lets practice more giving signals and being mroe understanding when we get it wrong cos we all do!
Warming the Bed
Thanks very much for all your replies, its late now but i have read my way through all your replies and I welcome all your advice. I will have another look tommorow and pick up on all your points.
It seems I provoked discussion not just about my circumstances but those of other single guys and women.
I do look at the single ladies ads but there are only 10 in the midlands, I am not black (I wish) I do not have a 8"+ cock (I wish) and I am not under 35 (I don't care), the rest I have replied to lol.
Keep smiling and I will, talk to you all soon, Oh and Judy, regarding my attire, I have tried dressing up on webcam and it was great fun for me and the two guys who chatted to me all night, at least I am trying!
dave :-)
It seems I provoked discussion not just about my circumstances but those of other single guys and women.
I do look at the single ladies ads but there are only 10 in the midlands, I am not black (I wish) I do not have a 8"+ cock (I wish) and I am not under 35 (I don't care), the rest I have replied to lol.
Keep smiling and I will, talk to you all soon, Oh and Judy, regarding my attire, I have tried dressing up on webcam and it was great fun for me and the two guys who chatted to me all night, at least I am trying!
dave :-)
Warming the Bed
Ok sorry i can't edit the poll to add 'tried it and it was fantastic' so if it was please tell us here
Try going in the chat room as a single guy and try and get any couple to talk to you, I could get better results begging for £10 notes in derby dressed in an Armani suit.
Of course it's up to the individual person whether they introduce themself to a single guy I respect everyones right to their lifestyle and their right to FREE SPEECH so why am I a whinger when i excercise my right to free speech? Isn' this a conversation or even a debate, I was hoping for a constructive response not 'oh another whinging single who cannot get a shag'
I am not looking for the sympathy vote here, you have all probably been part of this much longer than I have, I am a novice and freely admit it. I thought swinging was about free spirit and community(quote) and tolerance, god at least if I was gay I wouldn't be such an outcast. I am not taking the piss some of my friends are gay.
Finally
I am open for discussion after all I thought this was what a forum was for, not fuck the single pathetic moaning guy cos he don't matter.
The other option was to see if he could suss out which couples were willing to play with a single guy and then PM them....well I did honour the fact that many swingers are not like this, I am basing my comments/observations (not whinges) on the fact that I have contacted around 25 couples thru the photo-ads, using a genuine email address and carefully constructed advert #81373 and the only replies i have had are, 'no thanks we don't do singles' with no enquiry as to what my personal situation is, I could easilly lie and say that I wasn't married.
Try going in the chat room as a single guy and try and get any couple to talk to you, I could get better results begging for £10 notes in derby dressed in an Armani suit.
Why do you assume you are talking to the male part of a couple only?where did i say that???? I have often spoke to the lady in msn messenger
Of course it's up to the individual person whether they introduce themself to a single guy I respect everyones right to their lifestyle and their right to FREE SPEECH so why am I a whinger when i excercise my right to free speech? Isn' this a conversation or even a debate, I was hoping for a constructive response not 'oh another whinging single who cannot get a shag'
I do think this does a valuable service - it lets other single guys in similar positions know that they're not alone, and it's not that they're social lepers or hideously Everyone needs a little bit of community, I think.well at least I have one person batting for me.
I am not looking for the sympathy vote here, you have all probably been part of this much longer than I have, I am a novice and freely admit it. I thought swinging was about free spirit and community(quote) and tolerance, god at least if I was gay I wouldn't be such an outcast. I am not taking the piss some of my friends are gay.
Finally
the world is against me and thats why i cant get a shagHave you ever made love to a woman who screams in pain when you hold her close, its not remotely funny I hope you have a conscience and you never have lumbago compounded with kidney stones.
I am open for discussion after all I thought this was what a forum was for, not fuck the single pathetic moaning guy cos he don't matter.
Warming the Bed
Hi there I am fairly new to the forum and i think it is a great idea, I work as an IT manager so I know what a properly run site looks like and this is GREAT!
My question for discussion or whatever is, I understand couples are nervous about single guys especially married ones as there is a moral dilemna when the guy is cheating on his wife, many of us have our own problems in the marital department and when we state them in out ads we are given the 'oh yeah that old excuse again' treatment.
My wife has long term back problems and I love her dearly, is it fair that I be treated as a leper when I attempt to contact people through the proper channels and especially in the chat room.
I also have a long term friend that I meet with on occasions and she is fully aware that i am married and ok with it, she just happens to be too far away most of the time.
It's even worse if you admit to being bi or bi-curious, can't a guy get pleasure from watching a guy with his own wife, just because I am bi-curious doesn't mean thats I will jump on the next cock that comes along.
Anyway just wanted to stir the waves a little, I am aware that most swingers are very honest tolerant and fun loving people, it is just a shame that some don't treat single guys that way.
We are not all time wasting morons who want to run off with your wife!
Ironically I have had about 4 couples waste my time after I have spent hours talking to the husband whi insists that he wants to see me with his wife and that she has fully agreed.
Insult is added to injury when couples say we don't take singles, unless you are a girl of course arrrrrgh!
Anyway to the mods and the site owners, you are all doing a great job in a difficult area, keep up the good work.....
My question for discussion or whatever is, I understand couples are nervous about single guys especially married ones as there is a moral dilemna when the guy is cheating on his wife, many of us have our own problems in the marital department and when we state them in out ads we are given the 'oh yeah that old excuse again' treatment.
My wife has long term back problems and I love her dearly, is it fair that I be treated as a leper when I attempt to contact people through the proper channels and especially in the chat room.
I also have a long term friend that I meet with on occasions and she is fully aware that i am married and ok with it, she just happens to be too far away most of the time.
It's even worse if you admit to being bi or bi-curious, can't a guy get pleasure from watching a guy with his own wife, just because I am bi-curious doesn't mean thats I will jump on the next cock that comes along.
Anyway just wanted to stir the waves a little, I am aware that most swingers are very honest tolerant and fun loving people, it is just a shame that some don't treat single guys that way.
We are not all time wasting morons who want to run off with your wife!
Ironically I have had about 4 couples waste my time after I have spent hours talking to the husband whi insists that he wants to see me with his wife and that she has fully agreed.
Insult is added to injury when couples say we don't take singles, unless you are a girl of course arrrrrgh!
Anyway to the mods and the site owners, you are all doing a great job in a difficult area, keep up the good work.....
