I was at a rubbish family party last night, and my second cousin who I haven't seen since I was 15 (note he's now 41 & i'm 24) was really flirting with me, smacked my bum, kept grabbing me and asked me out for a drink.
So so wrong. :shock: We're related.
Does anyone actually think this would be ok?
Note: I have no intention of anything, it just staggers me he was like that.
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petal24
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 43
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I thought Evans started at a size 16?
I think Kiss is right about the ratio thing, I'm a size 8 but I'm 5foot1 so I'm not skinny.
The funny thing is, I used to be 14stone4 and size 20, but the thinner I've got the more critical I am about myself. I think I was actually happier when I just accepted I was big.
Btw, what does BBW mean?
I think Kiss is right about the ratio thing, I'm a size 8 but I'm 5foot1 so I'm not skinny.
The funny thing is, I used to be 14stone4 and size 20, but the thinner I've got the more critical I am about myself. I think I was actually happier when I just accepted I was big.
Btw, what does BBW mean?
I met someone on Friday, who I'd seen before but wasn't attracted to. I got a bit drunk, we kissed and had a bit of a grope, and oh my god, it was amazing. He wants more, and I can't stop thinking about how incredible he was.
The only thing is, lookswise I don't find him attractive. But he has a great personality, and the way he touched me was unbelievable, and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. And we've spoken on the phone etc and I really really want him. And I know it will be amazing.
The only thing is, I've never been with someone I don't find physically attractive before. Would you let that put you off, or would it not bother you at all?
I know this sounds superficial, but I'm really confused, as this is still really new to me.
(By the way, im married, my husbands fine with me experimenting, and I dont want more than a pysical relationship with anyone
).
The only thing is, lookswise I don't find him attractive. But he has a great personality, and the way he touched me was unbelievable, and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. And we've spoken on the phone etc and I really really want him. And I know it will be amazing.
The only thing is, I've never been with someone I don't find physically attractive before. Would you let that put you off, or would it not bother you at all?
I know this sounds superficial, but I'm really confused, as this is still really new to me.
(By the way, im married, my husbands fine with me experimenting, and I dont want more than a pysical relationship with anyone
). 
Wow, I haven't made a very good start on here have I!
Firstly, the reason my initial post didn't mention the fact that I'm married was because I didn't think it was relevant. I was only asking if the wording used by my colleague was him letting me down gently, as I think it was.
I don't want a relationship with this man. We were drunk, we had some passionate kisses and I was attracted to him and would like things to go further. As in I would like to sleep with him, maybe once, maybe more I don't know, but in a purely nsa way. I have no intention of leaving my husband for him. Also, I know its stupid of me but I am an insecure person, and I want this guy to fancy me, I guess for my own self approval. And be interested in me (in a sexual way), because I want to sleep with him, and also because I don't want him to think 'What was I doing with her?'.
As for my husband, I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Unfortunately, we didn't live together until we married, and have now discovered our sexual desires and drives are very different. He only wants it maybe once a fortnight if I'm lucky, whereas I'm pretty much at a constant. He likes straightforward sex, i'd like to experiment. We had a chat over dinner a few weeks ago and he said he doubts it'll ever be any different. He said fi I wanted to leave him because of this its ok, and I said no. He then suggested (note his idea, not mine) that I maybe look elsewhere. He gave me some rules, but the general gist was as long as I'm safe and he doesn't get the details, he's happy. So it is really an attempt to keep us together, not split us up. And this work guy is the only person I've even looked at since meeting my husband, so thats a bit of a big deal for me at the moment.
I do see how one of my posts trivialised my marriage, but that was only the badly worded way I put it. I take my relationship seriously and I would never do anything to hurt my husband. I can only apologise if anyone took offence to that.
I didn't assume anyone was a 'cheating swinger' or that because this is a swinging site, people would approve, or even not approve. But at the same time I assumed people would reply only to what I wrote in my post. It didn't even occur to me that anyone would bother to check my marital status, or criticise, as noone knows anything about me or my marriage to approve or criticise it.
I'm sorry if any of you see this as a plea for approval (its not) or a sympathy shag post (I don't get that bit?). I don't want your approval, or much care for it, as only I truly know my situation. And although my husband doesn't know about my colleague specifically, that is at his request I'm not doing anything behind his back. He does by the way know I am member of this site, although I choose not to go on here when he's around because i don't want to rub it in his face.
If you think I'm a bad person thats fine. I don't want an argument with anyone, and I don't want anyone criticising my marriage as thats not why I posted.
Those of you who did post advice, thank you, it is greatly appreciated. And I have decided to let it be - maybe a colleague isn't the way to go.
Firstly, the reason my initial post didn't mention the fact that I'm married was because I didn't think it was relevant. I was only asking if the wording used by my colleague was him letting me down gently, as I think it was.
I don't want a relationship with this man. We were drunk, we had some passionate kisses and I was attracted to him and would like things to go further. As in I would like to sleep with him, maybe once, maybe more I don't know, but in a purely nsa way. I have no intention of leaving my husband for him. Also, I know its stupid of me but I am an insecure person, and I want this guy to fancy me, I guess for my own self approval. And be interested in me (in a sexual way), because I want to sleep with him, and also because I don't want him to think 'What was I doing with her?'.
As for my husband, I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Unfortunately, we didn't live together until we married, and have now discovered our sexual desires and drives are very different. He only wants it maybe once a fortnight if I'm lucky, whereas I'm pretty much at a constant. He likes straightforward sex, i'd like to experiment. We had a chat over dinner a few weeks ago and he said he doubts it'll ever be any different. He said fi I wanted to leave him because of this its ok, and I said no. He then suggested (note his idea, not mine) that I maybe look elsewhere. He gave me some rules, but the general gist was as long as I'm safe and he doesn't get the details, he's happy. So it is really an attempt to keep us together, not split us up. And this work guy is the only person I've even looked at since meeting my husband, so thats a bit of a big deal for me at the moment.
I do see how one of my posts trivialised my marriage, but that was only the badly worded way I put it. I take my relationship seriously and I would never do anything to hurt my husband. I can only apologise if anyone took offence to that.
I didn't assume anyone was a 'cheating swinger' or that because this is a swinging site, people would approve, or even not approve. But at the same time I assumed people would reply only to what I wrote in my post. It didn't even occur to me that anyone would bother to check my marital status, or criticise, as noone knows anything about me or my marriage to approve or criticise it.
I'm sorry if any of you see this as a plea for approval (its not) or a sympathy shag post (I don't get that bit?). I don't want your approval, or much care for it, as only I truly know my situation. And although my husband doesn't know about my colleague specifically, that is at his request I'm not doing anything behind his back. He does by the way know I am member of this site, although I choose not to go on here when he's around because i don't want to rub it in his face.
If you think I'm a bad person thats fine. I don't want an argument with anyone, and I don't want anyone criticising my marriage as thats not why I posted.
Those of you who did post advice, thank you, it is greatly appreciated. And I have decided to let it be - maybe a colleague isn't the way to go.
We work together. He's not on here.
And he was slightly bothered about me being married - he knew about that from the start. But that didn't stop him kissing me.
I was very very drunk - he said he was sober. So i'm thinking maybe its just the marriage thing, because his email said he was concerned about 'the situation I'm in'.
Btw, we didn't have sex - just kissed. But now I want more & am trying to figure out if he likes me or not. The married thing I can overcome if he fancies me.
And he was slightly bothered about me being married - he knew about that from the start. But that didn't stop him kissing me.
I was very very drunk - he said he was sober. So i'm thinking maybe its just the marriage thing, because his email said he was concerned about 'the situation I'm in'.
Btw, we didn't have sex - just kissed. But now I want more & am trying to figure out if he likes me or not. The married thing I can overcome if he fancies me.
Wow, I got some great responses, which in all honesty have helped a lot! I was kind of expecting eeryone to be superconfident, because I assumed you would have to be to do this kind of thing - which is why I worry about whether its really for me.
I'm yet to arrange to meet anyone, but, knowing that most of you are in the same boat, won't be quite as scared
I'm yet to arrange to meet anyone, but, knowing that most of you are in the same boat, won't be quite as scared
I don't think you can always tell by looking at someone.
I'm an 8-10, but because I'm short, I look chunkier than a taller 8-10 would.
I have my dress size in my profile, I'm not sure why, but it wasn't to make myself sound more attractive, I guess I was trying to be as descriptive as possible.
I don't really care what dress size someone is, it doesn't make them any more or less attractive imo.
I'm an 8-10, but because I'm short, I look chunkier than a taller 8-10 would.
I have my dress size in my profile, I'm not sure why, but it wasn't to make myself sound more attractive, I guess I was trying to be as descriptive as possible.
I don't really care what dress size someone is, it doesn't make them any more or less attractive imo.
