sorry all found it!!
my post disspeared for a few minutes and thought I'd caused a SH riot and sexual mayhem and it has been removed!
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sarflad34
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 53
0 miles · Greater London
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Hey all SH people,
I thought "forum" was a place to meet and discuss things?!
any ideas why a post of mine then got removed from the list?
it wasnt offensive (AT ALL) , and I had some really nice personal responses to my mailbox... and now its gone altogther with no explanation
any ideas? who would know these kind of things...
not that important - but though it was a bit odd.
thanks
:-)
I thought "forum" was a place to meet and discuss things?!
any ideas why a post of mine then got removed from the list?
it wasnt offensive (AT ALL) , and I had some really nice personal responses to my mailbox... and now its gone altogther with no explanation
any ideas? who would know these kind of things...
not that important - but though it was a bit odd.
thanks
:-)
Thanks SSC. The comment about me "looking elsewhere"... well I found not that helpful really!
I think that you will find the experience of WHO you are in this site i.e. couple looking for other couples/ woman looking for couples etc is VERY VERY different.
I have just received some very friendly post inviting me out based on this posting...
BUT
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
This is even true of casual conversation - as there seems to be little or no culture of conversational emails that have nothing to do with sex initially or may lead to it. I dont expect to turn up and shag someone. I want personality and a connection, and I have found that extremely difficult.
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
I'm sure there are nice people on here. But its extremely hard to find a good fun bi couple, and I though this *might* be the place to do it!
But after a year of attempting - Im beginning to think not...
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect when I ask a reasonable questions and try to explain and help other people who might not be able to articulate their own experiences. The inference is always that I have a wrong approach, dont know the rules etc...
Initially before I bought a membership, I though that might be the case, but having done so not much changed.
I also apologise for putting this in the wrong section of the forum...
If anyone knows how to now shove it in the Cafe section... please do so!
Thanks for the people who wrote to me directly. It was refreshing, polite and inclusive - and Iook forward to meeting other people like them.
I must reiterate that Im not trying to criticise, but actually show what goes on here, but maybe never gets talks about. It might be theres a way this can change, and if something good comes from this thread then great.
phew!
:-)
Thanks alot
P
I think that you will find the experience of WHO you are in this site i.e. couple looking for other couples/ woman looking for couples etc is VERY VERY different.
I have just received some very friendly post inviting me out based on this posting...
BUT
In the single male bracket, you will find that the general attitude towards you is hostility.
People presume you are a dickhead loner with no friends, no manners, no intelligence and completely incapapable of being charming, considerate and sexy.
The attitude seems to be if youre a sijngle man on here - then you cant cut it in the real world and have no social skills. Im afraid thats not true in my case at all. IM intelligent and well liked and have a massive groups of friends.
It actually doesnt matter what approach you use in adverts, e.g. horny/polite/ anything
The result, for a single bloke is generally the same - which is frequently hostile and dismissive.
This is even true of casual conversation - as there seems to be little or no culture of conversational emails that have nothing to do with sex initially or may lead to it. I dont expect to turn up and shag someone. I want personality and a connection, and I have found that extremely difficult.
The culture on here is one of some bizarre elongated interview technique with kafka-esue rules.
I'm sure there are nice people on here. But its extremely hard to find a good fun bi couple, and I though this *might* be the place to do it!
But after a year of attempting - Im beginning to think not...
The idea that this site as you said ..." not for me" and I should "look elsewhere" actually just typifies the responses I have come to expect when I ask a reasonable questions and try to explain and help other people who might not be able to articulate their own experiences. The inference is always that I have a wrong approach, dont know the rules etc...
Initially before I bought a membership, I though that might be the case, but having done so not much changed.
I also apologise for putting this in the wrong section of the forum...
If anyone knows how to now shove it in the Cafe section... please do so!
Thanks for the people who wrote to me directly. It was refreshing, polite and inclusive - and Iook forward to meeting other people like them.
I must reiterate that Im not trying to criticise, but actually show what goes on here, but maybe never gets talks about. It might be theres a way this can change, and if something good comes from this thread then great.
phew!
:-)
Thanks alot
P
Quote by SSC
We would like to comment that although we have been using this site on/
off for a while now, we have met with some really great people. This in turn has evolved into good friendships and ... cough...fabulous sexy times...
ops: .... lol
So we would perhaps question what it is that you are really wanting from the site? We have managed to get out of it what we had hoped for, if it's not for you - then maybe you should look elsewhere??
SSC xxx
Ive been on this site for about 10 months...
and Im afraid I'm not convinced!
I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly... lots of barriers, pretty closed and thats about it.
you'll shoot me down in flames IM sure.... and defend things.... but thats really what I have found in my personal experience.
maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
theres less traffic to my mailbox... and I dont really know why.
I just dont know... any ideas or comments about this would be interesting - but to be honest I think it will descend into a dead thread pretty quick!
maybe this posting will be shoved aside as quickly as possible... or maybe it opens things up a bit...
Im not negative... have no problem getting sex or being fancied in the real world at all... but what I thought I might get from this place (i.e. horny up for it sexy MF couples... who wan to meet) is about as easy as trying to make a 8 tog duvet out of dodo feathers!
:-)
and Im afraid I'm not convinced!
I actually think people on here on a day to day level arent that friendly... lots of barriers, pretty closed and thats about it.
you'll shoot me down in flames IM sure.... and defend things.... but thats really what I have found in my personal experience.
maybe people will blame my lack postings or whatever... but something about it really doesnt work in the same way other "community" or profile sites do...
theres less traffic to my mailbox... and I dont really know why.
I just dont know... any ideas or comments about this would be interesting - but to be honest I think it will descend into a dead thread pretty quick!
maybe this posting will be shoved aside as quickly as possible... or maybe it opens things up a bit...
Im not negative... have no problem getting sex or being fancied in the real world at all... but what I thought I might get from this place (i.e. horny up for it sexy MF couples... who wan to meet) is about as easy as trying to make a 8 tog duvet out of dodo feathers!
:-)
That elusive species...
I think that the rest of the UK must be hornier than London for MMF! As the London up for it couples seem to be thin on the ground.
Someone might prove me wrong...
Im based in London for people up for a casual drink, check each other out, chat, flirt and then onwards and inwards :-0
I think that the rest of the UK must be hornier than London for MMF! As the London up for it couples seem to be thin on the ground.
Someone might prove me wrong...
Im based in London for people up for a casual drink, check each other out, chat, flirt and then onwards and inwards :-0
cor im touched at the breath of opinion and advice. thanks alot.
yeah this a fucking stupid place to ask!
*** youre all crazy and love fucking! *** LOL!!!
- I sort of forgot you lot are sex mad
look at that ...
NEVER get shagged off here - just come for agony advice! Whats that about!
im too nice!
well it nearly all happened on friday - and i kind of put the breaks on (idiot!!) ... cos I think if it will happen better to do it with eyes open I rekon. but maybe i think i should have just dived in . so confused.
but.. yeah she knows Im a.... errrr... "sexual maverick"... so that side of things is fine..
so what happens from there we'll see.
But yep she is what i would class as a genuine friend. Like a real one.
and I think im right to be cautious, and not muck up something valuble.
thanks
xxx
p.s. AWWW. nice aint I?... :-)
p.p.s ...and if any ones out there who wants to give me more personal advice on procedures and techniques...let me know!
ill try and keep you posted!
yeah this a fucking stupid place to ask!
*** youre all crazy and love fucking! *** LOL!!!
- I sort of forgot you lot are sex mad
look at that ...
NEVER get shagged off here - just come for agony advice! Whats that about!
im too nice!
well it nearly all happened on friday - and i kind of put the breaks on (idiot!!) ... cos I think if it will happen better to do it with eyes open I rekon. but maybe i think i should have just dived in . so confused.
but.. yeah she knows Im a.... errrr... "sexual maverick"... so that side of things is fine..
so what happens from there we'll see.
But yep she is what i would class as a genuine friend. Like a real one.
and I think im right to be cautious, and not muck up something valuble.
thanks
xxx
p.s. AWWW. nice aint I?... :-)
p.p.s ...and if any ones out there who wants to give me more personal advice on procedures and techniques...let me know!
ill try and keep you posted!
Dear Doctor SH
Should I sleep with my friend?
Shes lovely we get on really well. We are both single. We are very very good mates, Shes pretty much asked last night if we wanna muck about... neither of us want a relationship..
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward...
and I actually really like her.
What should I do? Should we just get on and let the juices flow, or be restrained and keep being good mates.
yrs horny but concerned of South London.
lol
Should I sleep with my friend?
Shes lovely we get on really well. We are both single. We are very very good mates, Shes pretty much asked last night if we wanna muck about... neither of us want a relationship..
but... I am worried that I will lose a good friendship and things will get awkward...
and I actually really like her.
What should I do? Should we just get on and let the juices flow, or be restrained and keep being good mates.
yrs horny but concerned of South London.
lol
well little did I know I would start such a cuni linguistic clittorary debate.
clitorides ... well I never. sounds weird to me.
On a question of navigation...
WHAT ISTHE FUCKING PROBLEM!!! :-)
I have NEVER understood that one at all. I know theyre not marked with a flag or a set of runway lights.. but come on... !!!
AND if you actually own one!! - how can you not know where it is?
Girls - I need some help understanding that one!!
LOL
p.s. hmm on second thoughts I think I might need some lessons.
clitorides ... well I never. sounds weird to me.
On a question of navigation...
WHAT ISTHE FUCKING PROBLEM!!! :-)
I have NEVER understood that one at all. I know theyre not marked with a flag or a set of runway lights.. but come on... !!!
AND if you actually own one!! - how can you not know where it is?
Girls - I need some help understanding that one!!
LOL
p.s. hmm on second thoughts I think I might need some lessons.
Where are all you sexy Londoners eh?
Sexy bloke, here, Londoner born and bred, based in london looking for horny couple or single women for some no strings fun and frolics.
I'm clean (but dirty mind), trim my fingernails, shave (sometimes), im in good shape, and it would be good if you were too. I'm firm and sensual in bed, got good hands and tongue, and pretty frisky and a good laugh all round :-) I like making people feel good. Love it in fact. But I am not desparate!! - ta very much :-)
Prefer 'people' - minds and personalities - to just 'bodies'... as it make the sex much much better doesnt it? Getting to know people first is a priority, and if after a drink there's no spark - mental or physical then no problem at all.
So anyone fancy a no strings drink and maybe trial run if things click? Message me. Cos ive been on here a while and am still in the SH wilderness!
:-)
London area... some pics would be handy and Ive got more too...
Sexy bloke, here, Londoner born and bred, based in london looking for horny couple or single women for some no strings fun and frolics.
I'm clean (but dirty mind), trim my fingernails, shave (sometimes), im in good shape, and it would be good if you were too. I'm firm and sensual in bed, got good hands and tongue, and pretty frisky and a good laugh all round :-) I like making people feel good. Love it in fact. But I am not desparate!! - ta very much :-)
Prefer 'people' - minds and personalities - to just 'bodies'... as it make the sex much much better doesnt it? Getting to know people first is a priority, and if after a drink there's no spark - mental or physical then no problem at all.
So anyone fancy a no strings drink and maybe trial run if things click? Message me. Cos ive been on here a while and am still in the SH wilderness!
:-)
London area... some pics would be handy and Ive got more too...
Hmmm....the plural of "Clitoris"?
I just wondered if it could be 'Clittori"
Clittoris' - (that's "S" - apostrophe – if you're taking notes)
or even Clittorises -- just doesn't sound so good does it?
I have unfortunately, not yet been in a position - (ahem) and close proximity to more than one, and their proud owners, for this to be validated, and this pressing problem to be explored fully in depth.
I just wondered if anyone has any suggestions to resolve this (cunni) liguistic issue.
Yours worried of South London.
I just wondered if it could be 'Clittori"
Clittoris' - (that's "S" - apostrophe – if you're taking notes)
or even Clittorises -- just doesn't sound so good does it?
I have unfortunately, not yet been in a position - (ahem) and close proximity to more than one, and their proud owners, for this to be validated, and this pressing problem to be explored fully in depth.
I just wondered if anyone has any suggestions to resolve this (cunni) liguistic issue.
Yours worried of South London.
as i said on another thread
'you dont have to eat all the types of chocolates from a selection box in one sitting"
that bi couple /str8 male thing is complex.
men like wanking off and watching each other get horny, porn, egging each other on etc...which is sort of getting off on a guy getting turned on. true?
so although not doing anything its sort of shared and sexual.
theres a real barrier over the whole bi thing. some blokes are totally str8, but all of them appreciated a masculine big lad putting a smile on a girls face - watching etc.
as for the girls ... well you better tell us....!!
'you dont have to eat all the types of chocolates from a selection box in one sitting"
that bi couple /str8 male thing is complex.
men like wanking off and watching each other get horny, porn, egging each other on etc...which is sort of getting off on a guy getting turned on. true?
so although not doing anything its sort of shared and sexual.
theres a real barrier over the whole bi thing. some blokes are totally str8, but all of them appreciated a masculine big lad putting a smile on a girls face - watching etc.
as for the girls ... well you better tell us....!!
lol!!!
my cock is errr. not quite that big... which will disspoint all those unfussy couples who only except men with AT LEAST 8 inches.
i have no idea why its like that.( i took it!) i had to crouch to get in the frame i think.
that was back in the 1960's so cant remember. we were all stoned.
my cock is errr. not quite that big... which will disspoint all those unfussy couples who only except men with AT LEAST 8 inches.
i have no idea why its like that.( i took it!) i had to crouch to get in the frame i think.
that was back in the 1960's so cant remember. we were all stoned.
