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scubamum
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 57
0 miles · West Midlands
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Warming the Bed
As a single fem I stopped attending Xtasia due to the 'pack hound' mentality of the single guys who attended.
I've only been once in the last 2 years and that was a SH social, (thanks Bambi it was great fun) but the regular single guys were still a nuisance.
It sounds like you've made some great changes and time I revisited, Wednesday night sounds like a great option, so keep an eye out for me!!
I've only been once in the last 2 years and that was a SH social, (thanks Bambi it was great fun) but the regular single guys were still a nuisance.
It sounds like you've made some great changes and time I revisited, Wednesday night sounds like a great option, so keep an eye out for me!!
Warming the Bed
Hi, just realised today that if I go in a room and the font is all black, I don't even read the convo, I search for another room.
However, if the room is alight with a variety of colours, I read back the convo and join in, even if it is about cookery, cars, football and DIY and many other non sex related items I have little interest in.
Have I got the opposite of colour blindness?
Attracted by all that is bright and cheerful!
Just wondered if I am alone in this or do others do it, even inadvertently!!
However, if the room is alight with a variety of colours, I read back the convo and join in, even if it is about cookery, cars, football and DIY and many other non sex related items I have little interest in.
Have I got the opposite of colour blindness?
Attracted by all that is bright and cheerful!
Just wondered if I am alone in this or do others do it, even inadvertently!!
add me please!!! Warming the Bed
in reply to your comments, before i took eye off your boobs lol, and i not like that :-) i just thinking of my safety, especially now in the news etc dont want to say any more. my safety is more important than my sex life, but the clubs sounds perfect , I have phoned and they said they would welcome me but still feel a bit like
i shouldnt be there :-)
Debs,
Safety is paramount for me too, and in a club if you so 'no' it means 'no' so the ball really is in your hand
Also I went to chams on saturday and counted 17 single fems, us ladies really are catching up with the sexual revolution.
As for 'feel a bit like i shouldnt be there' thats just normal vanilla reaction and I'd be more concerned if you didn't feel nervous/worried about your first time.
Hope you enjoy your visit, keep us posted to how it went.
xxx
i shouldnt be there :-)
Debs,
Safety is paramount for me too, and in a club if you so 'no' it means 'no' so the ball really is in your hand
Also I went to chams on saturday and counted 17 single fems, us ladies really are catching up with the sexual revolution.
As for 'feel a bit like i shouldnt be there' thats just normal vanilla reaction and I'd be more concerned if you didn't feel nervous/worried about your first time.
Hope you enjoy your visit, keep us posted to how it went.
xxx
Warming the Bed
Again, I find myself siding with skinny,
I think discretion is the better part of valour!
I attend chams quite regular, and so know quite a few people but on the occassions
when someone has tried to tell what makes Mrs xxxx gush, I've just said 'don't tell me I'd rather find out for myself!' I believe some things are personal and for exploring yourself. But I haven't had it happen that often either!
As for awkwardness when seeing others playing with someone you've played with, I seem to recall that bothering me at the start, yes it is just a vanilla hangup as you think people will be judgemental of you as they are in vanilla world.
I think its becasue they are your first swinging partners and even if they don't know it, they are special to you!
But those feelings become less important as you get into the lifestlye, when you realise that no one is judging you, they are just trying to..............enlighten you lol
Hope that makes sense and helps, but as one single fem to another, email me if its not clear
I think discretion is the better part of valour!
I attend chams quite regular, and so know quite a few people but on the occassions
when someone has tried to tell what makes Mrs xxxx gush, I've just said 'don't tell me I'd rather find out for myself!' I believe some things are personal and for exploring yourself. But I haven't had it happen that often either!
As for awkwardness when seeing others playing with someone you've played with, I seem to recall that bothering me at the start, yes it is just a vanilla hangup as you think people will be judgemental of you as they are in vanilla world.
I think its becasue they are your first swinging partners and even if they don't know it, they are special to you!
But those feelings become less important as you get into the lifestlye, when you realise that no one is judging you, they are just trying to..............enlighten you lol
Hope that makes sense and helps, but as one single fem to another, email me if its not clear
Warming the Bed
Sorry Just realised I didn't answer your initial concern!
'Single' refers to bodies through the door, i.e. 1 man turns up on his own.
Couples equals a man and woman turns up together!
Of course some of the 'single' men are married, so are some of the 'couples' and not to each other on occassion.
Marital status is not a query at a club, It just helps when refering to 'single and couple' to maintain a good ratio of females and males.
Hope that helps but mail me if you have any other queries
Good luck swinging!
xx
'Single' refers to bodies through the door, i.e. 1 man turns up on his own.
Couples equals a man and woman turns up together!
Of course some of the 'single' men are married, so are some of the 'couples' and not to each other on occassion.
Marital status is not a query at a club, It just helps when refering to 'single and couple' to maintain a good ratio of females and males.
Hope that helps but mail me if you have any other queries
Good luck swinging!
xx
Warming the Bed
Debs, single women are not mentioned because we are such a rare commodity apparently.
But I felt same as you and didn't fancy meeting in public so went to a club through a social event and now you can't keep me away lol
See if there's any socials in your area!
If not just give the local club a ring and tell them your coming and would like someone to show you round.
They're much friendlier places than you imagine and they'd love to have you attend!
Have fun!
But I felt same as you and didn't fancy meeting in public so went to a club through a social event and now you can't keep me away lol
See if there's any socials in your area!
If not just give the local club a ring and tell them your coming and would like someone to show you round.
They're much friendlier places than you imagine and they'd love to have you attend!
Have fun!
Warming the Bed
2 stroke, I just thought I'd point out that since single fems get in free or very cheap you are not offering much of a deal.....
Since, she would have to share a locker with you, ask for the key all time, wait round if one is doing something the others not involved in, Have to check out at the same time. etc etc.
let me think go by myself for free and have locker or with a man who is 'paying' for me?
good luck anyway
xxxxxxx
Since, she would have to share a locker with you, ask for the key all time, wait round if one is doing something the others not involved in, Have to check out at the same time. etc etc.
let me think go by myself for free and have locker or with a man who is 'paying' for me?
good luck anyway
xxxxxxx
Warming the Bed
to get back to original post,
gagmaster clearly a lack of communication going on,
She doesn't know what you like or are into!
You should be happy you have found a woman who keeps her body in shape
Its time for you to put your hand in wallet and show her how to dress it!!!!
gagmaster clearly a lack of communication going on,
She doesn't know what you like or are into!
You should be happy you have found a woman who keeps her body in shape
Its time for you to put your hand in wallet and show her how to dress it!!!!
Warming the Bed
If your date turned up in sloggis and a sports bra you should be thinking hallelujah!
cos didn't the last one turn up in tenna ladies and a colostomy bag lol
cos didn't the last one turn up in tenna ladies and a colostomy bag lol
Quote by HughGRection
Sports bras arent supposed to be frou frou - they are made to make sure a ladys boobicles dont look like right said fred wrestling over an empty hammock - when they are being sporty ! If my date turned up in the bedroom after a night out wearing knee length sloggis and a sports bra i would expect she was trying to tell me something - especially if the said items had keep out written across them!!
Warming the Bed
I'm with foxyaldy. sex, food or food, sex,
If you could cover your cocks and pussies with chocolate or cream I too would be much slimmer....
OH No wait! I wouldn't I'd be even bigger....
where's the fridge?
If you could cover your cocks and pussies with chocolate or cream I too would be much slimmer....
OH No wait! I wouldn't I'd be even bigger....
where's the fridge?
Quote by foxylady2209
I like sex. I like food. I am as likely to be day dreaming about either anytiume I am not doing anything else. I wouldn't say I am addicted to or obsessed with food, so I'm sure I'm not addicted/obsessed about sex.
But if I shag-snacked like I food-snacked I think I would be put away. :giggle: But I'd also be a lot thinner.
Warming the Bed
I'll add my thoughts to this too.
as a single fem, I have to buy basque, £55
Stockings £7 which are invariably ripped off
knickers....well optional
high heels have selection but bought and paid for at some point
Hairdressers for night out, waxing, I'm on a roll now and of course condoms,because I too like to use my own.
I sometimes get in for free and sometimes pay a fiver,
but economically I am still paid less than any man I know doing the same job,
what ever the equal pay act says.
I no longer have to pay for babysitters (thankgod) but I did,
As for the clubs where men got in cheap. I just don't go there anymore because they are generally disrespectful.
So I now attend clubs where single men are charged a little more, and they appreciate being limited in number, so more likely to be respectful and therefore, have a play.
In life I've learnt you get what you pay for,
I could take you to cheap entry clubs if you like but single men outnumber women 10 to 1 and very rarely get a look in as women feel uncomfortable around the hoards of gropers.
as a single fem, I have to buy basque, £55
Stockings £7 which are invariably ripped off
knickers....well optional
high heels have selection but bought and paid for at some point
Hairdressers for night out, waxing, I'm on a roll now and of course condoms,because I too like to use my own.
I sometimes get in for free and sometimes pay a fiver,
but economically I am still paid less than any man I know doing the same job,
what ever the equal pay act says.
I no longer have to pay for babysitters (thankgod) but I did,
As for the clubs where men got in cheap. I just don't go there anymore because they are generally disrespectful.
So I now attend clubs where single men are charged a little more, and they appreciate being limited in number, so more likely to be respectful and therefore, have a play.
In life I've learnt you get what you pay for,
I could take you to cheap entry clubs if you like but single men outnumber women 10 to 1 and very rarely get a look in as women feel uncomfortable around the hoards of gropers.
Warming the Bed
I think nerves still apply for everyone,
but I actually prefer chameleons to xtasia, because I've never had the 'wandering hand' experience there, I find people a little more respectable, probably because they value their memberships.
As for dress I always go in a basque and stockings, I can not bear the thought of towels, so for the ladies what ever lingerie you feel comfortable in.
It is a lovely friendly club, and the staff will do anything to help and make you feel comfortable.
Hope you have fun
xxx
but I actually prefer chameleons to xtasia, because I've never had the 'wandering hand' experience there, I find people a little more respectable, probably because they value their memberships.
As for dress I always go in a basque and stockings, I can not bear the thought of towels, so for the ladies what ever lingerie you feel comfortable in.
It is a lovely friendly club, and the staff will do anything to help and make you feel comfortable.
Hope you have fun
xxx
