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We are looking for a specific single male, our meeting criteria is strict, if that's not to your liking, good on yer, there are lot's of other couples on the site that seek other things, that said, if you like what you read and meet the criteria we promise you a lot of fun and a lot of respect.
Must have full body pics on site, clothed pics are fine but body shape whilst not essential is nice to know in advance.
Must be able to accommodate at home or state why you cannot in your profile - yes we are meeting at ours but can't accommodate means your married and cheating, if you lived in shared accommodation or your kids live with you or you had another valid reason you would have stated that in your profile.
Must be submissive and enjoy being spanked/caned/whipped (mild or severe it's not important, must enjoy being tied up and restrained. must enjoy mild BDSM basically.
Must be happy to have pictures and movies taken, faces will be obscured and visible distinguising marks omitted but this is what we are looking for.
Must be respectfull at all times - we are smile
Jeds only involvement will be taking pics and video, I am straight, Sasha enjoys Domination but will make sure your other needs are well catered for :)
That is the basics, you can contact us for more info.
Oh and one line profiles or one line messages will be ignored, we are looking for someone who makes an effort in this lifestyle not for opportunists.
No takers then, s'funny copy and pasted the same add on another site and trawled through hundreds of replies, took only an hour to find a suitable guy, anyone think this site is becoming more of a "cammers only site" ? nowt wrong with that but maybe the site owners would be better off recognising that and concentrating thier efforts and server space on doing just that, forgetting actuall meeting facilities and make it the best cam site on the net ? just a fort like wink
We agree!
maybe the people who fit the criteria for your meet from this site are all busy with meets that have been arranged in advance. we have an event advertised on here and another site, we have 63 people from off here saying they will attend and only 8 from the other site. its all swings and roundabouts really.
Did you use the photo ads as well? I ask because I think (IMO) more members trawl the adverts and less look in the LMU forum.
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maybe the people who fit the criteria for your meet from this site are all busy with meets that have been arranged in advance. we have an event advertised on here and another site, we have 63 people from off here saying they will attend and only 8 from the other site. its all swings and roundabouts really.

That certainly could be the reason, but we think it is probably more likely that there is just nobody on this site that find us as attractive as we find them, it is not easy finding 4 people who are mutually sexually attracted to each other. Remember we have been members for over 6 years and though we work from home and dont have kids (Making us available almost every day and can accommodate) we have only ever had one meet off here and they met us because they had been recommended by friends. A party we held recently had over 50 couples attend, 1 couple only responded from this site and they didnt turn up on the night.
We advertise everyday on here for meets but never get any serious responses, the few responses we do get say they will meet but never actually get round to it (dreamers and fantasists) kinda like the chase when you first start dating the buzz of the chase is great but when you catch the prey the adrelanin ebbs and the desire goes for some here.
Now we know better than most that we dont suit many people and we know that we are very picky in who we choose to meet, wouldnt want that any other way, I have Sasha who I love deeply why would I want to have sex with anyone else unless there is a real attraction for me and Sasha feels the same way, but that said you would have thought that the occasional couple would want to meet us in the last 6 years, they do on other sites and at clubs.
If what you say is totally correct and not partly so, why did we get such a big response from the other site (which does not have very good cam facilities) and no response from this site whatsoever for both the single male meet or the party ?
Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy this site and enjoy being members, we just think that the improvements in camming facilities has brought a lot more members in, who have no interest in meeting but enjoy voyeurism and exhibitionism which these days is a big part of the swinging scene.
Guys.
Dont think for one min your unattractive cause your not. If you lived closer to us I'm sure we'd have fun week in, week out.
There is ALOT of time wasters and morons here but I'm afraid they are everywhere.
Keep smiling!
L&G xx.
I think maybe its because we are respectful, and read ads and profiles. I find yourself attractive and fairly local, and wouild love chance to meet....but I am a bit of a wuss, and not into pain to much, and so didn't reply myself as I didn't feel I fitted the criteria. Your ad is very good and tells us what exactly you look for and therfore if we don't fit criterea we dont reply. Hopefully this saves you time weeding out the replies from guys that are just trying their luck.
You're a long way away from me but with adequate time to organise it, I'd certainly love to meet you two. I didn't contact you yet as I wouldn't be free until later in September.
quick question ......your profile says 98% of users who are on another site with 3 letters are time wasters ....so confuses me a bit moaning about this site yet in profile moanign about another site! confused
i would love to meet up with you as well and im willing to travel and can accom but didint post because some people prefer closer to there home. dont worry about the attractiveness because that is certainly not a problem x
Thanks to everyone for the nice comments and advice, we understand what you are saying and we know that the big thing against us when seeking couples is the age gap, if we were both in our 50s we would do fine, if we were both in our late 20s we would do fine but we aren't and we know that is the biggest reason for couples not wanting to meet us, this we understand and accept, but come on, 1.3 million members, 6 years on site, available 24/7, can accommodate advertise available on the 24 hours list everyday, update our advert 3-4 times a day (sounding desperate aren't we) use the chatrooms occasionally, use the forums, and we could only find one couple interested in coming to a party (then didn't turn up on the night) let alone get a private meet, there has to be something in what I am saying.
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Did you use the photo ads as well? I ask because I think (IMO) more members trawl the adverts and less look in the LMU forum.

We do use the photo ads everyday, that is to say we put our advert on there but I confess to never looking at other peoples adverts.
To be honest we really don't have the time to trawl through thousands of adverts because the majority of people who advertise make no effort with thier advert,
so many without pictures so then you have to go to thier profile to see if there are anyon there
Invariably there are none or if there are there is only a picture of they guy or only a picture of the woman or only pictures of body parts and we already know which bits men and women have, blind dates are not our thing,
You see an advert you like but there is no location stated, so again you go to the profile to find that they are hundreds of miles away or worse there is just a postcode like KL17 so then you have to go to a postcode site to find out where the hell KL17 is (probably hundreds of miles away again)
All too much time consuming when the facility is there to state location and put a few pictures up.
Pictures don't have to show faces, they can be clothed or unclothed, faces removed or blotted out etc, body shape matters to many, some like em big some like em small. Must be some really cool job if your work colleagues are going to recognise you naked with distinguishing marks and faces blotted out, giz a job at your naked workplace please
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Thanks to everyone for the nice comments and advice, we understand what you are saying and we know that the big thing against us when seeking couples is the age gap, if we were both in our 50s we would do fine, if we were both in our late 20s we would do fine but we aren't and we know that is the biggest reason for couples not wanting to meet us, this we understand and accept, but come on, 1.3 million members, 6 years on site, available 24/7, can accommodate advertise available on the 24 hours list everyday, update our advert 3-4 times a day (sounding desperate aren't we) use the chatrooms occasionally, use the forums, and we could only find one couple interested in coming to a party (then didn't turn up on the night) let alone get a private meet, there has to be something in what I am saying.

If I'm honest I think you came across quite bossy on the advert (just my view)
lines like "Must be able to accommodate at home or state why you cannot in your profile -"
so if someone wants to meet you they should change profile first, what if they don't want the whole world to see?..
you must do this , you must write 100 lines. you must do dull a lol
also the line on your profile don't help
We occasionally play with single guys but only at the clubs we visit, contacting us on here will only show us you have no respect for our wishes and eliminate any chance of us ever playing with you and you will just be added to our blocklist.
maybe people are scared to mail you about a meet. as don't want to be "added on your blocklist"
maybe ramp your profile up and come across more friendly would help smile
I hope I helped you in your need for finding a playmate. better go someone on cam wink
If I'm honest I think you came across quite bossy on the advert (just my view)
lines like Must be able to accommodate at home or state why you cannot in your profile
so if someone wants to meet you they should change profile first, what if they don't want the whole world to see?..
you must do this , you must write 100 lines. you must do dull a lol
also the line on your profile don't help
We occasionally play with single guys but only at the clubs we visit, contacting us on here will only show us you have no respect for our wishes and eliminate any chance of us ever playing with you and you will just be added to our blocklist
maybe people are scared to mail you about a meet. as don't want to be "added on your blocklist"
maybe ramp your profile up and come across more friendly would help smile
I hope I helped you in your need for finding a playmate. better go someone on cam
I agree entirely with what you say, our advert and profile do stipulate exactly what we are looking for, there is no point pussyfooting around, everyone has thier own criteria, we always respect everyone else's criteria and ask only the same in return, we don't want to waste anyone's time so we state our criteria upfront and honestly.
We know many guys cannot accommodate because thier wife might be a little shocked, we don't play with men, women or couples who are cheating on thier partners. We also realise that some men cannot accommodate for valid reasons such as living in shared accommodation, single parent with children at home, work accommodation such as Police Houses, Barracks etc, we think it is in a persons interest that if that is the case they let people know the reason BUT of course the choice is thiers, nobody is forcing them to do it but nobody is forcing them to meet us either there are plenty of couples on the site that will meet without that particular criteria.
Do you respect someone who ignores you ? if you say to the shopkeeper I don't want that special offer thanks (wilkinsons phone cards n stamps, poundland special choccy buy etc) would you respect them for ignoring you and putting the item in your bag and charging you for it, we have asked that single males don't contact us, someone who ignores that really doesn't command respect with a "f,,, you attitude and I am only interested in what I want and your wishes don't come into it, this is swinging, people need to be able to trust each other to respect everything about them, what would they do next (oh sorry I know you don't do anal but I like it so stuck it in there anyway!)
We don't contact people whose criteria we do not meet because that is offensive, swinging maybe taken lightly because it is about fun but to be fun it has to be taken seriously in many aspects, a guy who says he is straight doesn't want to meet a couple who ignore this criteria and the male partner starts to give him a blowjob.
When we do find compatible people we play with no regrets, we do exactly what it says on the tin and we do our utmost to ensure those we meet have as much fun as us, but the scene revolves around respect, honesty, trust and fun, without the first 3 it is hard to have the fourth.
People might not enjoy taking the scene seriously or admit they do but if you want to avoid, dissapointment, horrendous meet situations, embarrassment, arguments, misunderstandings, timewasters, STD's and many other downsides then you had better take it seriously if you want it to be all mutual fun fun fun :)
Just so you know, just because someone has details of why they can't play at home in their profile, it might not always be truthful.
Its not for me to say but they could be lying dunno
Lying in a profile surely not, giggles very true though but we have many ways of doing our best to make sure we dont play with cheats, each to thier own, they have the choice to cheat though we do wonder why they choose to use swingers site to do it when there are so many "married and cheating" sites that welcome the practice (some even ban swingers who are not cheating"
Surely they would get a better response on such sites, some people like to meet cheats because they believe they are likely to be more discreet or less likely to be "clingons" etc.
My pet hate is when thier profile says "wife doesn't know I swing but at least I am honest" be honest with your wife not us she deserves your honesty
Hi I wud love to
You have been critising but when someone does send you a message you do not even open it. If this is the way for everyone that sends you a message then how are you to meet anyone off this site anyway. Im not saying you would meet me, but you have been having ago about various things but then dont have the decency to open the mail and say no thanks. I have been swinging as a couple and as a single and always replied even if it was to say no thanks although i know this is cetainly not the case on here with 99% of the members (thanks to the couple of members who have replied). I hope you find what you looking for because you are a good looking couple but manners are a 2 way thing. Yes i know there are alot of 'liers' out there and this makes it harder for the genuine ones who are here for the right reasons and if you are turned down, you respect the decision. Good luck and i hope a few idiots and lack of replies havent turned you off sh. just an after thought, maybe they thought you were too good looking and didnt want to get turned down again so didnt send you a message.
That is a damning statement for one who does not have access to my account, how could you possibly know if we open mails or not ? you yourself have never sent us a mail, I checked my inbox back to oct 09 and have never recieved one from you.
We always open our mails and always reply, politely and respectfully in the positive or negative.
When you send someone a message, if you go into your sent mail folder it tells you if they have opened the message or not.
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When you send someone a message, if you go into your sent mail folder it tells you if they have opened the message or not.

Yes I know, but before you can do that you have to send the person a mail and this guy has NEVER mailed us.
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When you send someone a message, if you go into your sent mail folder it tells you if they have opened the message or not.

Yes I know, but before you can do that you have to send the person a mail and this guy has NEVER mailed us.
You belive he didn't and he believes he did. There could be a glitch on this PM, the privacy settings could have prevented it coming though, someone could have pressed delete by mistake........lots of reasons really.
I suppose if admin is contacted they could sift your inbox to see if one was sent........if it is that important to you.
Dave_Notts
If that is the case then we appologise unreservedly to him because we do reply to all mails, though many feel this is not necessary we think it is just polite and only take a minute and as we only get 1 mail a fortnight on average it is no big task for us smile
thank you for your apology and i apologise for my rant if you have not received it . I have checked my emails and it was sent on 22nd August. Good luck xx
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If that is the case then we appologise unreservedly to him because we do reply to all mails, though many feel this is not necessary we think it is just polite and only take a minute and as we only get 1 mail a fortnight on average it is no big task for us smile
Thanks Dave. I will re send it to save any more hassle and once again i apologise if i have upset any one
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When you send someone a message, if you go into your sent mail folder it tells you if they have opened the message or not.

Yes I know, but before you can do that you have to send the person a mail and this guy has NEVER mailed us.
You belive he didn't and he believes he did. There could be a glitch on this PM, the privacy settings could have prevented it coming though, someone could have pressed delete by mistake........lots of reasons really.
I suppose if admin is contacted they could sift your inbox to see if one was sent........if it is that important to you.
Dave_Notts
would i be out of line in thinking you did this post just to have a dig about not getting a in fairness you really could??? cause when derby mailed he said you didn't answer. then when ozmond55 said he love to play. you didn't answer that.. it seems rather strange smile
Quote by MidsCouple24
If that is the case then we appologise unreservedly to him because we do reply to all mails, though many feel this is not necessary we think it is just polite and only take a minute and as we only get 1 mail a fortnight on average it is no big task for us smile

Thats mine then.................is the answer still "Feck orf Dave_Notts you ugly barsteward"? lol
Dave_Notts
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would i be out of line in thinking you did this post just to have a dig about not getting a in fairness you really could??? cause when derby mailed he said you didn't answer. then when ozmond55 said he love to play. you didn't answer that.. it seems rather strange smile

In fairness, some members take correspondance to PM after they see interest on the post. It is private between these two sets of members what they discuss. The topic though is public and people can, and are, adding to it
Dave_Notts
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would i be out of line in thinking you did this post just to have a dig about not getting a in fairness you really could??? cause when derby mailed he said you didn't answer. then when ozmond55 said he love to play. you didn't answer that.. it seems rather strange smile

In fairness, some members take correspondance to PM after they see interest on the post. It is private between these two sets of members what they discuss. The topic though is public and people can, and are, adding to it
Dave_Notts
Couldn't have put it better myself Dave, n no your not ugly and we haven't written you off at all, but as our profile says, generally when we meet single males it is when we are at club and the mood is there for that, once in a while like when this thread was first started we did see a guy under other circumstances but as said we found what we were looking for albeit on another site.