Is the activity of meeting people for 1-2-1 sex swinging?
I am not asking if you think the people that meet for 1-2-1 sex are swingers - I am asking what you think about the activity itself... is that swinging?
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1-2-1/Swinging
Quote by PoloLady
Is the activity of meeting people for 1-2-1 sex swinging?
I am not asking if you think the people that meet for 1-2-1 sex are swingers - I am asking what you think about the activity itself... is that swinging?
I suppose it is if either of the singles are in a relationship and their partner is consenting
but as for 2 singles meeting and having sex...............:dunno:Not much of an answer really but its almost lunch time and I'm hungry...
I think it's very dependant upon where you meet. If you go to a (vanilla) club, meet someone and end up having sex, then no because sex was a by product of meeting, not the reason for it.
If you arrange to meet someone with the express purpose of having sex then that is swinging. At the end of the day I believe it comes down to attitude not numbers.
What's your opinion Polo?
(nice sig by the way
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H.x
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If you arrange to meet someone with the express purpose of having sex then that is swinging. At the end of the day I believe it comes down to attitude not numbers.
What's your opinion Polo?
(nice sig by the way
)H.x
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Quote by H-x
What's your opinion Polo?
If it is two singles - as far as I am concerned it is just plain ol' shagging.
To take your examples - let’s say a vanilla guy went to a regular night club with the one main aim of finding someone to bone. He doesn't manage to get any takers on the night but the barmaid says "it is my night off tomorrow, here is my number - give me a ring if you want to hook up". If he calls her and asks her round to his place for a tromboning... is that swinging then?
Quote by PoloLady
If it is two singles - as far as I am concerned it is just plain ol' shagging.
To take your examples - let’s say a vanilla guy went to a regular night club with the one main aim of finding someone to bone. He doesn't manage to get any takers on the night but the barmaid says "it is my night off tomorrow, here is my number - give me a ring if you want to hook up". If he calls her and asks her round to his place for a tromboning... is that swinging then?
lovely expression
It depends, is she expecting anything more? Is he? Would either object if the flatmate joined in?
Like I said, for me it's all about attitude.
H.x
I'm still thinking about my opinion but I just wanted to quote this, taken from the internet.
Singles
The acceptance of singles at swinging events varies from geographic area to geographic area. Some swinging 'clubs' have a policy of allowing only couples and females, but most do allow single men on selected nights. Single females are also often admitted at reduced admission price. Parties and events may differ, however, and are often restricted to couples or couples and single females only.
The reasons for this vary. Most (but certainly not all) of the people who pay to participate in swinger events are male-female couples and most swinging couples are more interested in interacting with other couples or with single women than with single men. Thus, swinger events strive to achieve a balance between male and female participants or have a (usually slightly) larger number of females than males.
A common complaint among swingers is that single men change the tone and nature of event. While outright hostility towards single men is rarely prevalent, an abundance of single males is rarely looked upon favourably in any swinging context. When single males are permitted their number are usually limited by high entrance fees or stringent membership requirements.
Conversely, some oppose the involvement of any singles of either sex in swinging because of the fear that they might split existing couples.
Sex God
Some people feel that "swinging" is becoming a somewhat imprecise term anyway - many are preferring to use the term "recreational sex". I don't really think it matters whether two singles getting together for recreational sex is "swinging" or not. And those who try to answer the question will never agree!
Mike.
Mike.
depends if they are on a swing but seriously no i personaly don't think 1 to 1 sex is swinging unless of course both have partners who have consented or are present but in different rooms, thats how i see it others may differ but i don't think it's down to attitude to how you see something as i wouldn't consider a single person who sleeps around a swinger wether intentionally going out to find sex or not, surely if this is the case someone visiting a prostitute is a swinger 
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but seriously no i personaly don't think 1 to 1 sex is swinging unless of course both have partners who have consented or are present but in different rooms, thats how i see it others may differ but i don't think it's down to attitude to how you see something as i wouldn't consider a single person who sleeps around a swinger wether intentionally going out to find sex or not, surely if this is the case someone visiting a prostitute is a swinger : Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
i wouldn't consider a single person who sleeps around a swinger wether intentionally going out to find sex or not
I better close my account now then because I'm not a swinger. :cry:
I hope all the other single females out there do the same!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Quote by H-x
So you can only be a swinger if you're part of a couple?
H.x
You tell me? what is a swinger? as everyone has different opinions of what swingers are but 2 single people having consentual sex isn't swinging to me but thats just my opinion your may differ but i'm only answering what polo asked which was peoples opinions on the subject and didn't reply to offend anyone.
Quote by PoloLady
So you can only be a swinger if you're part of a couple?
H.x
No (just my opinion) - but that gets into the debate about 'what is a swinger' and then the attitude bit is very relevant
But what about single people being sought? When a couple goes to a club or party and singles are permitted it wouldn't therefore be called a swinging club/party would it?
Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
So you can only be a swinger if you're part of a couple?
H.x
You tell me? what is a swinger? as everyone has different opinions of what swingers are but 2 single people having consentual sex isn't swinging to me but thats just my opinion your may differ but i'm only answering what polo asked which was peoples opinions on the subject and didn't reply to offend anyone.
I would hope you haven't offended anyone - it is all about opinions and asking questions (loved your comment about the prostitute btw)
Before we even got into swinging....i too thought swinging was just for couples....wife swapping i use to call it.....i didn't thing singles really had a look in.....but since we got into the scene we now know its not like that.....swinging caters for all scenirios i suppose...not just couples swapping
Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
So you can only be a swinger if you're part of a couple?
H.x
You tell me? what is a swinger? as everyone has different opinions of what swingers are but 2 single people having consentual sex isn't swinging to me but thats just my opinion your may differ but i'm only answering what polo asked which was peoples opinions on the subject and didn't reply to offend anyone.
No offence taken, a personal opinion can neither be right or wrong, it is an opinion - if we all shared the same opinions there would be no need for debate and where would be the fun in that
Apologies if this is long winded or convoluted. My opinion. If two people meet in a swinging situation (be it club or social, munch or a meet) and have sex, then they are swining. If two people meet in the real world (not the best term but you know what I mean) and have sex they are not swinging - even if, unbeknown to each other at the time they are both swingers, because of the circumstances underwhich they met.
H.x
Quote by Kiss
i wouldn't consider a single person who sleeps around a swinger wether intentionally going out to find sex or not
I better close my account now then because I'm not a swinger. :cry:
I hope all the other single females out there do the same!
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:why's that? i never said singles couldn't be swingers i was merely answering polo's question about people seeking 1 to 1 sex as to wether we judged it swinging or not not once did polo mention on here (swingers site) or in a club (swingers club) to which my answer would probably been different so i don't know why i've upset you as i answered in general and not from a swingers only point of view i just don't think that all singles that sleep around are swingers then theres a lot os swingers out there that don't know they are.
As I see it.....
If I meet someone from here for 1-2-1 sex, I am shagging (if they are single they are just shagging too - if they are one half of a couple and their partner knows they are having sex with me - they are swinging... I am not).
If I then decide to meet other people with this person and we either share, group or swap - then the activity becomes swinging.
If I go and meet another person on a different day for 1-2-1 ... I am just shagging another person.
If I meet someone from here for 1-2-1 sex, I am shagging (if they are single they are just shagging too - if they are one half of a couple and their partner knows they are having sex with me - they are swinging... I am not).
If I then decide to meet other people with this person and we either share, group or swap - then the activity becomes swinging.
If I go and meet another person on a different day for 1-2-1 ... I am just shagging another person.
Sex God
whats in a name?
Quote by dambuster
Could it be that it's not possible to seperate the people/attitude from the activity
I'd disagree with this purely because I am aware that some single people come on here looking for love and so the meets are designed to find their new ideal partner via the happy medium of sexual meets.
I am a firm believer that swinging is an attitude and that it doesn't matter if you are single or in a couple, if that bit is right.
For the purposes of Polo's question purely on the activity I'm saying it's not swinging because there isn't enough info on the purpose or expected outcome.
:lol: :lol: Jas
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Quote by H-x
So you can only be a swinger if you're part of a couple?
H.x
You tell me? what is a swinger? as everyone has different opinions of what swingers are but 2 single people having consentual sex isn't swinging to me but thats just my opinion your may differ but i'm only answering what polo asked which was peoples opinions on the subject and didn't reply to offend anyone.
No offence taken, a personal opinion can neither be right or wrong, it is an opinion - if we all shared the same opinions there would be no need for debate and where would be the fun in that
Apologies if this is long winded or convoluted. My opinion. If two people meet in a swinging situation (be it club or social, munch or a meet) and have sex, then they are swining. If two people meet in the real world (not the best term but you know what I mean) and have sex they are not swinging - even if, unbeknown to each other at the time they are both swingers, because of the circumstances underwhich they met.
H.x
yes your definition i'd say is swinging but polo never stated on here or at a munch or at a swinging club which is obviously gonna be full of swingers so the answer is yes i only answered to polo's wording on the original topic so our wires have crossed :D
Quote by dambuster
Could it be that it's not possible to seperate the people/attitude from the activity
I think you can.
You are a tuck driver.
You may one day be driving a car - you are still a truck driver but you are not truck driving whilst doing that particular activity. And further more - the fact you are a truck driver will never make the act of driving the car truck driving.
Quote by Jas-Tim
Could it be that it's not possible to seperate the people/attitude from the activity
I'd disagree with this purely because I am aware that some single people come on here looking for love and so the meets are designed to find their new ideal partner via the happy medium of sexual meets.
I think that would have me question whether they are indeed swinging/swingers at all
