I have read and responded to travlinman's thread about older swingers.
I was just wondering whether people felt that younger swingers also have a hard time being accepted on the scene?
Now I joined this site in my late twenties, so I'm not sure I have experience as a 'young swinger' but I would reckon there are an equal amount (if not more maybe?) of adverts that specify an age limit under which they won't go as those that have an upper limit.
Is there an optimum swinging age? Is age just a number and completely irrelevent? Have you played with people significantly younger than you?
I'm now apparently classed as an older woman :twisted: and so am currently pondering the merits of the younger man... recent dalliances with a twenty-something certainly had their advantages! :rascal:
there is a point where i think someone is too young for me personally, generally any more than 15 yrs younger and i start to get uncomfortable about the age, but most of the guys i play with are younger when i think about it, apart from a recent dallyance with an older guy which was fantastic, so now am thinking of exploring more of the older man.
but at the end of the day as long as i really click with someone their age can become irrelevant, i have met some really mature young people and some very immature older people, i think it depends on the person, for me it does anyway.
my feelings on younger people swinging ..... have they had enough of the dating game already and know what swinging is about ... i think not .. they think swinging is just like 1 night stands in 1 respect they are right but it is not how i see swinging... it is an enhancement to a relationship or to help others enhance their relationship and not about selfishness
they have the energy but do they have the self control and the maturity to control themselves .... yes some are mature but the majority in my opinion do not
as with older swingers my opinion and preferences are .... i wont play with someone i could have given birth to or who could have given birth to me lol
dont think its an age thing its a maturity one.. we know 40 year olds that arent mature and 20 year olds that appear to be moreso, you cant judge a person by their age its too general.
No young ones here ....over 50 years of age prefferd everytime.
trav..
the age limit thing comes up for me quite a bit (people telling me i'm too young for the)..... maybe its just a polite way of saying piss off! lol
Good question Nola! :thumbup:
I'm wondering if it's a male vs female thing?
Personally I'm not adverse to younger women (20+), but I remember when I was that age I didn't really have a clue what I was doing. Being a bloke I seem to have acquired an inbuilt instinct to want to give more pleasure than I receive, and the thought of showing a younger woman what it's all about is quite appealing.
Yet Cubette has told me in the past that, although the younger man's body is appealing, she wouldn't enjoy the inexperienced fumblings and short fuse that tend to go hand in hand with youth. For her, experience is everything.
Anyway, it's all pretty moot when you get to my age. As soon as the waist size starts to exceed the chest there's not much chance of pulling any age! ;-)
I must admit to having a liking for a lady older than myself but I doubt I would refuse an offer from a younger lady...
I have seen profiles of some very young people on here and I do wonder if they have seen enough on the outside world before getting into swinging but hey....
Its their choice and I'm not going to knock them for it.....
Oooh, maybe I can turn this penchant for hot young thangs into a bit of a niche market then and mine a rich seam of talent... :rascal:
*off to perve profiles in the 23 - 28 age range!*
and therein must lie a problem for couples with big age ranges, one partner may be to old for a couples age limits while the other fits in with preference or one may be too young.
there are few couples i know of with this age difference and i know it causes problems for them
I think its up to anyone what they do as long as its not harming anyone else but i do feel there should be an age limit put on this site in my experience i feel you get more abuse from the younger guys on here in their twentys and feel that people as young as 18 that are on here and twentys should not be allowed to be menbers ..they need to learn to grow up and experience real life outside a site and i feel more of the younger people on here are only here to lurk and be abusive and i know that as fact .x
I couldn't get even remotely intimate with anyone young enough to be my daughter, and as my eldest child is in his twenties I tend to set my sights on over thirties only.
Besides what would the tweny somethings think if Mr big fat forty something started hitting on them? I'm a dirty oold man, that is for sure, but I'm no pervert!
The youngest guy Ive been with was 25, and I would say that was probably the youngest i would go. My eldest is 16 and going any lower would be too close in age, and TBH any younger just doesnt do it for me at all.
I think I've been somewhat narrow minded in my appreciation of the older man, meaning up to 15 years older, generally I've turned down some very hot guys in their late teens and early twenties, mainly because I have younger brothers in that age group, and it just somehow seems 'wrong'...
That said, maybe time will tell and I might have to match 'peak' with 'peak'...
I'd hate to be discriminated against because of my age but maybe it's just a part of the general 'appeal'..
when i first joined the site back in 2004, it was quite rare to see people in there 20's the majority of people i spoke to / meet at socails were in there 30's +. i got told on many occasions that i was too young to be thinking about swinging, as i cant of learnt about myself enough.
5 years on.. and the site and Swinging in general as evoled.. more and more people are turning to swinging at a younger age.. its not so much a "keyrings and Ash trays" kinda persona.
for me personally when i am meeting people from the site i tend to go for women either my age or a little older.. it may be because i#m used to.. but i like to think that i would go for personality first. so be it, if she is 20 or 45. if we both get on.. and there are sparks, then it would be daft to shy away from it.
there are too many labelled boxes in this world.. so i try and keep well out of them all!
:D
) but all of a sudden I am lusting after men that much younger than me.
Damn him!
