Advert experiment...

27 Feb 2009

Before anyone decideds this is a single bloke bashing thread, it's not... I like single blokes. :mrgreen:
However, I decided I was going to poke through the photo ads to see who was round and about in my area. I'm looking for single blokes so I ticked that box (and the fetish one) :rascal: and searched in a 50 mile radius. So far I've been through eight pages and not found very many that have:
a) more than one line;
b) photos;
c) any more info on their profile; or
d) something that jumps out at me!
Now... it struck me as a bit odd that single blokes have a hard time finding women. For me, it seems to be the other way round. So, I decided that I'd stick an advert up and see where it got me. Now I've cheated a little for the time being and simply copied my profile over and changed a couple of bits. I will sit down over the weekend and write something slightly more constructive but I've had 317 views so far resulting in one semi-decent response and a wink.
Maybe if I'd written a one liner I'd be inundated with offers. Who knows? I wonder if guys just can't be bothered reading an essay. Perhaps most people are looking for a quick shag and in that way I don't appeal with all my questions and requirements. Again, who knows?
So what I'd like to know is whether any of the forumites actually use the ads and have a big success through them? If so, can you give some tips on adverts that are actually successful cause quite frankly, I'd like to have sex this weekend! :mrgreen:
AND... there are some budding writers in amongst us so I thought maybe it would be fun to write an advert for each other... and if anyone would like to start with one for me then I'd be delighted to experiment with that too! :twisted:

27 Feb 2009

oh god dont ask me i have a ad and not one single reply lol
i was pondering this the other day, we always hear the site is overrun by single men, but ... i think once you sort out whos actually single, not pretending to be, then how many of them are really looking to swing, not just cyber, then out of those how many either live close enough, i would fancy or they would fancy me, or they are really cool in a 3 sum situation, well i think that leaves just the one, and thankfully i found him lol
i have searced the ads looking before, but they just are not there. i would only message someone who had a pic, some info etc, its no good not even knowing anything before im labled a time waster cuse when i find out they are nothing like what im after i dont want to meet.
xx fem xx
sorry im rambling today and i should be working
xx

27 Feb 2009

Great idea DG and a good idea for a thread.
I've trawled the ads as a single and a couple looking for various things and have rarely found anyone I/we fancied.
Ive posted the odd ad too as a single and couple and rarely seen much activity.
The amount of couples trawling public chat rooms looking for single men (always assumed by many to be easily found) may be an indicator that the ad system isn't providing the results.
Ill be really interested to see how what others think.

27 Feb 2009

317 views, you must have expected some, and a decent response. Well perhaps you will get an indecent response later.
...and I did read to the end. What a list, a shame you are so distant, I like Scots.

27 Feb 2009

well..DG..real answer is move to cannock !!! lol

but if your ad was a copy of your profile on here...then I think you have simply weeded out the wheat from the chaff. You clearly say age, size personality preferance etc etc... so slowly some of us fall to the wayside. For example I see has to be 6 foot....so as I'm 5 foot 9..I would sadly have to pass on by ... maybe you just being to bloody fussy ( i mean whats a couple of inches between friends..lol) !!!..there again you can afford to be !!
Have fun..
xxxx

27 Feb 2009

You may be rambling but you're right Fem!! :mrgreen:
I just don't understand why there are so many moans from single blokes when every girl I speak to seems to be having little luck in finding the decent ones. I know they're out there, they all just live too far away from me! lol

I haven't had an advert up before because I'm so fussy that I don't want to be wasting anyone's time which is why I thought I'd go raking through the ads and reply to one rather than actually write one. I was chatting to someone yesterday and she mentioned feeling guilty about telling someone that you're not interested for whatever reason. I don't have issue with this at all but I suspect my ad, as it stands is way too specific and in fact, that person doesn't exist! :lol:
I will write another and see where it goes.
Makes a pleasant change for the girls to have a bit of a whinge huh?! :giggle:

27 Feb 2009

Quote by deancannock
well..DG..real answer is move to cannock !!!
but if your ad was a copy of your profile on here...then I think you have simply weeded out the wheat from the chaff. You clearly say age, size personality preferance etc etc... so slowly some of us fall to the wayside. For example I see has to be 6 foot....so as I'm 5 foot 9..I would sadly have to pass on by ... maybe you just being to bloody fussy ( i mean whats a couple of inches between friends..lol) !!!..there again you can afford to be !!
Have fun..
xxxx

Aha... yes but can I afford to be?! dunno

I'm not exactly sporting the activity of a brothel in my bedroom on a weekly or even a monthly basis so that sort of tells me that I need to stop being so fussy!! :lol:
I bend pretty much all of my rules to be honest and they're not set in stone but I really don't want to be Mrs Robinson to the 21 year olds (sorry 21 year olds!) so I leave them in there and hope that the cheeky ones who chance their arm, sneak through and send a message anyway! wink

And it all depends on where that couple of inches are now doesn't it?! :twisted:
But fancying someone is so important for me. There's little point in having sex for the sake of it with someone I don't have any chemistry with. I don't really have a type either so it's not like I can be specific... someone jus thas to have something about them that flicks my switch and then it doesn't matter how tall they are or how old they are or whether they live in Timbucktoo! :mrgreen:

27 Feb 2009

live in Timbucktoo! icon_

:bounce:

27 Feb 2009

I always think of an advert as a way to attract and a profile as a way to filter.

27 Feb 2009

A fantastic post and there is so much in this.
If I was a single male and I saw a profile or advert like DG or Fem4Taboo, It wouldn't matter to me if you lived in Namibia and lived solely on a diet of goats testicles and crocodile whizz water. I'd have written you such eloquent replies you'd be crying tears of joy, burning your underwear and throwing yourself prostrate on the floor shouting "take me now!"
Am I the only person who thinks some of the ladies profiles on here are breathtaking? I mean seriously breathtaking, funny, clever, insightful with pictures so mindbogglingly delicious they make you sigh... I am not attempting some kind of "love me cos I flatter you" thing here. They love me anyway wink

But I look at profiles like Fem4Taboo, DG, and many, many others and hear that finding meets is like pulling hens teeth for them and I just cannot understand it...
Is it Geography? Are they too fussy? I can't see it myself. They chat to me for fecks sake! Is it that so many single men are timewasters? I don't know. I do know that there is a perception amongst some that you join here and all you have to post is "Oy come and Fook me!" and all single women within 30 minutes are expected to drop their knickers, part their legs and wait patiently. So I do think there is a degree of laziness on some parts, that sex is expected no strings and no effort. But that is by no means the whole story.
I think some of it is that a confident, strong woman who knows what she wants sexually, can feel somewhat threatening to some. Especially when a man feels it undermines him. I think maybe their erudite, informative, witty profiles put off some folk who are not comfortable with exposing their own frailties, or lack of personality, by chatting first and who do just want to "meet & f*ck".
Maybe the social aspect puts people off. It certainly doesn't me. It is a huge part of it for us. If we cannot laugh and joke as friends then I can't just move on into other areas. Perhaps some perceive this social aspect as a "relationship" of some form? I really don't know the answer and I am just giving possibilities here.
What I do know, is that I, personally, am not so desperate for sex that I would feel time spent with someone socially would be "wasted". Some of the best experiences we have had with folk from here have been purely social events and often from that it has led on to wonderful times. But even if it hasn't then it means you have gained another friendship. I wonder if many people feel that the social side "gets in the way" of the sex rather than enhances it?
I also wonder if being a "name" on the Forum or in chat plays a part. The more well known members must have a reputation amongst the quieter ones. Perhaps that is intimidating to some?
There is also of course, the fear of rejection... Are these ladies "too" good to be true? Do people feel they are not worthy. I know I ain't but it doesn't stop me trying! ;-) Besides, 'rejection' is only a "no thankyou". I'm told that 100 times a day normally (not on here only I hasten to add, though to be fair that usually does take up a fair percentage!)
Maybe there is a large percentage of people who love the idea of the naughtiness of all this, but who when it comes to it, cannot follow it through for whatever reason. It would certainly explain the times I've read "I arranged a meet with 40 people, 2 turned up, and one left to take his greyhound on a bit of string for a walk around the park and ran off, with a fiver from my purse..." I think this is a distinct possibility.
Maybe some people have no intention of meeting and just use SH as a "masturbatory aid". A view of the pic, a quick private fantasy. Baby wipes to clear the mess on the desk, then tuck it away and off to bed for another day?
Maybe it is a combination of all of the above.
Maybe I am the only person on site who thinks they are stunning? (Yeah Right, and every female on site wants to shag my brains out twice a week for the next 20 years or so and Mr Kent is voting Labour at the next General Election!)
It's hard to know in what proportion each of these applies but I think perhaps there is an element of truth in some, or even all of these.
I just hope that in time somebody who does "fit the bill" takes the step and puts together a well constructed reply or response. I'm as ugly as sin, have the morals of a lactating walrus and the odour of a sheep that's been marinading in cow-pats for a month, but I can at least TALK to folk and listen. I'm here to meet likeminded people and hopefully make friends, anything else I view as a bonus, not a requirement of membership.
So I hope you get the responses you are looking for. I always feel if the chemistry is right, geography can be overcome. In which case, my PM box is thattaway ladies <<<<<<<<<<<<< ;-)
Until then, I really hope you find what you want. I am certain the right person(s) is or are out there. Hopefully they will be in touch soon enough.

27 Feb 2009

I never use the ad section, and infact do not have one on any more, due to the large ammount of mails they generate.
We put an ad on the LMU section the other day, wont be doing that again either, too many mails, and as I try to be polite and replied to all, it tooks ages.
I still prefer a few basic lines on a profile page message, but the really long ones I find I now skip over, unless their first mail to us sparked interest.
The "come and f**k " me style of ads seems to get loads of hits on them, in the LMU section of the forum, way more than a tame ad!
All good fun!!
IN EDIT.....I find that a lot of folk just dont like to travel far, if its not on their doorstep, they dont seem to be bothered(not all of course)
How many times do we see "shame you live so far away" typed in the chat rooms!!
As has been covered in another thread, quality is worth the drive.
If you are want DG, Mike says he will drive up! wink

:wink:

27 Feb 2009

Quote by Lucyandmike7
I never use the ad section, and infact do not have one on any more, due to the large ammount of mails they generate.
We put an ad on the LMU section the other day, wont be doing that again either, too many mails, and as I try to be polite and replied to all, it tooks ages.
I still prefer a few basic lines on a profile page message, but the really long ones I find I now skip over, unless their first mail to us sparked interest.
The "come and f**k " me style of ads seems to get loads of hits on them, in the LMU section of the forum, way more than a tame ad!
All good fun!!

That is the bit that sticks out at me..... I like my ad, and I don't think it would have been me if I didn't ramble on for a bit.... the way I see my ad is as an extension of my personality, but if long ads has that effect on you, then I am sure it does the same on others.....
maybe it is time that I go back to the drawing board... there has to be a happy medium between "2 lines and a cock shot" and my winding effect which is something akin to war and peace.......
so do really long ads hurt or hinder people?

27 Feb 2009

Quote by fabio
I never use the ad section, and infact do not have one on any more, due to the large ammount of mails they generate.
We put an ad on the LMU section the other day, wont be doing that again either, too many mails, and as I try to be polite and replied to all, it tooks ages.
I still prefer a few basic lines on a profile page message, but the really long ones I find I now skip over, unless their first mail to us sparked interest.
The "come and f**k " me style of ads seems to get loads of hits on them, in the LMU section of the forum, way more than a tame ad!
All good fun!!

:wink:
IN EDIT... lovely ad, and it does reflect the personality that comes over in your posts and chat room banter.
Please can I have a Gold Blue Peter Badge?? smile

27 Feb 2009

I think you might be better off joining a dating type site. You are more likely to get to the sex bit sooner. Certainly if you want something this weekend.
But if its just a longing for something unattainable, well batten down the hatches, you may be in for a long wait.
But your ad was fine, except I suppose some paragraphs might help. Anyway there is only so much of a language one can use for this type of thing, I think. So I often see a number of very similar adverts. Yours was largely of the 'list' and 'demands' type. That's fine, one needs to be true to oneself.
But I also think that with so much being detailed its almost like you have covered everything people can be. Sometimes less is more. So maybe just mention a few important and special things about you, and this may focus people into you more closely.

27 Feb 2009

Posted from a PM with consent!
"I do like a challenge... So here is my advert for you... icon_
Nymphomaniac lass with the sexual depravity of a member of parliament, seeks a hunky man (6ft tall & wide, from near Liverpool, Called Resonance) or perhaps couple (also near Liverpool, both with large boobs, called Resonance again) to come and spank my latex clad behind and do unspeakably yummy things to me until bits of me tingle that I didn't even know I had.
I want you to fuck with my mind and then my body. Lead me about the bedroom and make me your submissive... Failing that, you can turn up, we'll have a game of Triv and you can try and perve at me through my jim jams while we drink copious amounts of coffee and eat Cheesy Wotsits.
I know I am gorgeous and I know I have great pics, so please don't write back telling me that. Tell me how you see our little meeting progressing. Better still show me. Write it to me. Show me you have the imagination I need to make me tick.
Meet me on my level mentally, and you will have the most incredible sex ever. I guarantee it.
Applications and CV by email to the PM box below.
Love Dirty Girly.
(PS. Men with non-retractable foreskins, sore willy's and Croc wearers need not apply). "

27 Feb 2009

well having already seen DG's profile, and having immediately sent her a PM ( if memory serves it was quite the essay ) I can hands up say that profiles and ad's DO work, however there are a few things to note.
Putting that you are NOT swinging with single guys on your profile, as there are examples that are out there, does mean that a lot of the guys that read the profiles, then don't want to waste the time of, or annoy women that have that on their profiles.
I myself took a chance a while ago with a profile that had written on it, and the reply I got nearly made me close my account in disgust at the way people can treat each other on here for the smallest mistake or taking a chance.
Needless to say, I stuck around and some of the great people I've been chatting with ( who sadly live at the opposite ends of the country to me! GRR!!! ) have really turned my opinions around smile

27 Feb 2009

Quote by duncanlondon
I think you might be better off joining a dating type site. You are more likely to get to the sex bit sooner. Certainly if you want something this weekend.

A dating site? :shock: But I'm not looking for a relationship... I want to fuck!! :rascal:

Quote by duncanlondon
But if its just a longing for something unattainable, well batten down the hatches, you may be in for a long wait.

I think I sort of know what you mean... I sometimes wonder if my list is too specific. People often say "blimey I like a girl who knows what she wants" but that's just it... it's not a list of the things I want, it's a list of the things I don't want. That's how it was written if that makes sense. I thought of all the things I didn't want and wrote the list. Maybe it's time to think about the things I do want and write another! lol

Quote by duncanlondon
But your ad was fine, except I suppose some paragraphs might help. Anyway there is only so much of a language one can use for this type of thing, I think. So I often see a number of very similar adverts. Yours was largely of the 'list' and 'demands' type. That's fine, one needs to be true to oneself.

Hmmmm... paragraphs? It has paragraphs... not really sure what you mean there. Interesting that you read it as demands though... I hadn't really thought about it like that before. I'm hoping that someone is writing me something as we speak. Tempted as I am to use Ms Whips suggestion I'm not sure anyone would believe that I'd want a chat about football! :lol: wink

Quote by duncanlondon
But I also think that with so much being detailed its almost like you have covered everything people can be. Sometimes less is more. So maybe just mention a few important and special things about you, and this may focus people into you more closely.

Point totally taken! kiss

27 Feb 2009

Yes I added this a bit later.
But I also think that with so much being detailed its almost like you have covered everything people can be. Sometimes less is more. So maybe just mention a few important and special things about you, and this may focus people into you more closely.

27 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
A dating site? :shock: But I'm not looking for a relationship... I want to fuck!! :rascal:

would gladly oblidge as you well know...

27 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
I think you might be better off joining a dating type site. You are more likely to get to the sex bit sooner. Certainly if you want something this weekend.

A dating site? :shock: But I'm not looking for a relationship... I want to fuck!! :rascal:
Oh not really. There are several dating sites which are just 'polite' sex clubs. Last year I met a few ladies who were on the lookout for a sex partner, and that really was all they wanted. Certainly not a proper romance.

27 Feb 2009

MY AD FOR SOMEONE ON HERE, PRIZE FOR WHO GETS IT FIRST.
Hello there.
I am a happy lady, we play as a couple though.
I have a great sense of humour, like to have fun, and try not to take life too seriously though, but know when I have to!
I live in the country, so you must be prepared to travel.
I have family commitments, so can not meet at a drop of at hat.
Love sex, and all the naughtiness that this life style brings, we also like to go to clubs and enjoy them as well as meets off here.
Enjoy the ladies as well as men.
Get in contact, lets chat a bit and take it from there, hope to hear from someone soon!
Thanks for reading all this.
.......
WHO CAN THIS FORUM CONTRIBUTOR BE??
OVER TO YOU!

27 Feb 2009

Sometimes we wonder if its worth putting loads of effort into crafting a profile / advertisiment. Doesn't seem to have done us much good, mind as softswingers we know we won't appeal to all people.
We like to see a well written / humourous advert / profile, gives a clue to the sort of person your getting in contact with. Even if the advert is for a person(s) we have no chance of meeting, other end of Country for instance we often drop them a pm just saying how good the profile / ad is.
Could also be that the photos on DGs (and others) are just too good? People look and think, "wow, dead nice, but out of my league?" Perhaps dumbing down the ad and some "deaths door" photos will bring a better response?
John & Shel

27 Feb 2009

ads are way too cool and funny we love them...useless for pulling tho.. fab for having a laff.

27 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
So what I'd like to know is whether any of the forumites actually use the ads and have a big success through them? If so, can you give some tips on adverts that are actually successful cause quite frankly, I'd like to have sex this weekend! :mrgreen:

Hmm define success lol

I have used the ads on and off over the years and they have been successful to an extent. Certainly, when I've advertised for bi men, I've been inundated but there's a big element of cold feet syndrome with them so it's hard work (although worth it in two or three memorable cases). I had a BDSM ad once and that worked out really well. I've had a dogging ad for a long time, not loads of success with that but the odd interesting PM. I once ran an ad (in LMU rather than the photo ads) for a bi female, that also worked out really well.
I've never put up an ad specifically for a single guy for one on one but my instinct is that less is often more when aiming ads at the blokies. I have the feeling that most men like list of things they can tick yes or no to, to work out if they're "the right man for the job". Let's be realistic, many men won't read instruction leaflets for anything, they're not going to get through multiple paragraphs! Give them a fairly straightforward "do I qualify" list, then they can move onto the profile to find out the rest. I tend to see ads as the shop front, the stock is at the back, so to speak! biggrin

(sorry guys but you know I'm right about those instruction manuals! :lol: )

27 Feb 2009

I have the feeling that most men like list of things they can tick yes or no to, to work out if they're "the right man for the job". Let's be realistic, many men won't read instruction leaflets for anything, they're not going to get through multiple paragraphs! Give them a fairly straightforward "do I qualify" list, then they can move onto the profile to find out the rest.

That about sums up how I sort out who to reply to... once I feel I'm a suitable candidate I will still only reply to ads where the profile has either the location or the distance on display and a photo not a gynocological shot.

27 Feb 2009

May I join the argument from the other side of the spectrum???
Yes I am a single bloke, and I would like to think I am quiet a nice person....
But once again I think it is a case of the nice guys never get laid!!!!
I cannot remember how many polite and articulate messages I have sent on this site. I always add a picture and a friendly and open invititation to get back to me.... do I get a reply????
euurrrh no... so it is the same for single woman eledgedely ( Hoe do you spell this word again, sorry I am french???!!) looking for some fun, albeit we have to admit there are more single male looking for sex on this site that single female...
So here I stand firm with pride yes there are some lovely single guys in this site and they would love to meet the genuine single female who want to have fun...maybe we should start a new websiet with references from previous meet??!!!! and we could call it genuine swingingers only.... lol
I do not know anyway good to sort of speak, write and be heard for once.... lol

laurent

27 Feb 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
I bend pretty much all of my rules to be honest and they're not set in stone but I really don't want to be Mrs Robinson to the 21 year olds (sorry 21 year olds!) so I leave them in there and hope that the cheeky ones who chance their arm, sneak through and send a message anyway!

Whatever we do we are wrong.
I have seen that if someone was to put in their profile or ad that they are looking for a person who is 6ft tall, and I was to PM them, saying "look, I know you said you are looking for 6 footers, I'm 5' 10", what if I was to wear shoes with a 2" heel, can we meet?" I would be slaughtered for not reading the profile, and completely ignoring what that person is asking for.
And you are hoping that someone would chance their arm and send a message anyway, yes, I am aware that it is your preferences and you are prepared to be flexible with them, but reading of "FFS, why can't men read a profile properly" as I said, whatever we do are wrong.
The above is not a dig at you DG, far from it, but just an observation of how I have seen comments regarding single males and profiles.
Whenever I have sent approaches to people, I try, wherever possible, to include something regarding their profile in my PM, in an effort to try and show that my approach is not a copy and paste, and yet I don't even get a thank you reply, and for a long time, that frustrated the hell out of me, and I thought it was rude, and on a few occasions, was enough to make me realise that I wouldn't want to spend time with someone so ignorant.
Nowadays I accept that it goes with the territory, due to the volume and content of PM's that women have to put up with on these sites, and there is also a big part of me that maybe I am too nice, and too respectful, and a part of me has wondered if a one liner, or even "fancy a shag?" might get me further than previous efforts have managed?
And I also think a possible reason ads etc don't work for me, is being too well known among some people, I suspect that some people may feel that I am "too good a friend to lose" or feel that the comfort and companionship has taken things to the point where others may now feel that I am off their radar due to over familiarity.
I don't think I will ever have the answer.

27 Feb 2009

Quote by laurent
May I join the argument from the other side of the spectrum???
Yes I am a single bloke, and I would like to think I am quiet a nice person....
But once again I think it is a case of the nice guys never get laid!!!!
I cannot remember how many polite and articulate messages I have sent on this site. I always add a picture and a friendly and open invititation to get back to me.... do I get a reply????
euurrrh no... so it is the same for single woman eledgedely ( Hoe do you spell this word again, sorry I am french???!!) looking for some fun, albeit we have to admit there are more single male looking for sex on this site that single female...
So here I stand firm with pride yes there are some lovely single guys in this site and they would love to meet the genuine single female who want to have fun...maybe we should start a new websiet with references from previous meet??!!!! and we could call it genuine swingingers only.... lol
I do not know anyway good to sort of speak, write and be heard for once....
laurent

Allegedly :thumbup:
well, allegedly... wink

27 Feb 2009

I have my profile on here and one advert biggrin

:D
I took it off for about a week to see if I still got replies......and yes I did ,the advert is still on but you dont necessarily have to have one to meet people, the chats are a gr8 place as are the forums , but my personal preference now is talking to people to build up that friendship :shock:
be it publicly or privately :D :D
I find this works for me .i guess the moral is be patient.............. :shock:
steve

27 Feb 2009

Advert? :shock: Oooooooooo no!