the profiles are not ads, some people consider if they havent placed a ad then they are not sat waiting for ppl to message them re swing meets. therfore they can say what they like in the profile as maybe they are sick of ppl messaging them based on their gender/ couple status and not what they are looking or not looking for?
i imagine those not seeking single men, will have not clicked seeking single men, so wont be expecting single men to be seeking them out?
i dunno?? lol
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Sex God
We agree - Hate it when you see things sich as NO SINGLE MALES - SINGLE MALES WILL BE IGNORED - DO YOU UNDERSTAND NO SINGLE MALES!! And lots of others in a similar vein.
Just a simple "Please note we are not entertaining single men" Should suffice. If then you get unsolicited mail/attention from them you can ignore with impunity.
Just a simple "Please note we are not entertaining single men" Should suffice. If then you get unsolicited mail/attention from them you can ignore with impunity.
Sex God
keep it real ..
Sex God
I have no figs!! I have no figs!!
Those profiles are not what I would call agressive, I regard them as snooty and just close them down. There have been one or two attitudes I have read an lmffao, keyboard comandos acting tough are nothing more than a joke.
It was recently suggested to me in a chatroom that I must be a single parent because I'm a "crap shag", had I wanted to fuck that person up I would have said I was widdower and offered to meet for a straightner, but when I saw the profile I had to laugh at the wimp.
All that rubbish is written by insecure little maggots who are worried that another man might make them look weak in front of their partners.
Either ignore or point and laugh.
BTW my ex isn't dead, she left when I had the snip after five kids. But that wanker was not to know that, was he?
It was recently suggested to me in a chatroom that I must be a single parent because I'm a "crap shag", had I wanted to fuck that person up I would have said I was widdower and offered to meet for a straightner, but when I saw the profile I had to laugh at the wimp.
All that rubbish is written by insecure little maggots who are worried that another man might make them look weak in front of their partners.
Either ignore or point and laugh.
BTW my ex isn't dead, she left when I had the snip after five kids. But that wanker was not to know that, was he?
Sex God
:lol2: Brightongeezer :lol2:
Sex God
I simply click on the red cross in the corner and move on to the next profile/ad...
Seeemples :-)
Seeemples :-)
Sex God
Quote by fem_4_taboo
the profiles are not ads, some people consider if they havent placed a ad then they are not sat waiting for ppl to message them re swing meets. therfore they can say what they like in the profile as maybe they are sick of ppl messaging them based on their gender/ couple status and not what they are looking or not looking for?
i imagine those not seeking single men, will have not clicked seeking single men, so wont be expecting single men to be seeking them out?
i dunno?? lol
xx fem xx
that sounds like fighting talk, you wanna fight d'ya yokal burd? :boxing:
let me know if you do so i can get the paddling pool and jelly ready in time :rascal:
Quote by Ms_Whips
maybe some of us have been polite and nicely asked for people to NOT get in touch. unfortunatly you still get some people who think they should. if a profile screams at you to not get in touch for meets then why bother? do you not think that maybe some of us are sick of trying to spell it out in any other way?
also that just maybe the fact that some of us don't want to be contacted it means by anyone at all looking for a meet. just because someone is polite about asking for no meet contacts doesn't mean 'don't want to be contacted......unless you're a goodun of course. then by all meana ignore me'
for example; today alone i have had 3 contacts from guys asking me to contact them back. my profile clearly says i won't, so again why bother? it says i'm happy seeing who i am and will not be meeting anyone else. then i get bitched at because i haven't replied, but i said i wouldn't already. it's not my fault people are then ignorant enough to ingore what my profile says.
the question surely is who is worse, the person for asking not to be contacted, or the ones who have little respect for the request and pm anyway?
whips
We have to totally agree with what you have said, we have put things 'nicely' on our profile (we use the same profile on other sites and have been on SH before now..in the old days when it was free) and it just gets ignored so not we clearly state at the top of our ad what we are not looking for in caps, yes this may annoy some people but unfortunately you can not please everyone, but it is our ad/profile and we will manage it how we please. if its not to your liking then move on to the next
Sex God
Yeah but two wrongs dont make a right whips - at least you have the power of ignore surely
Sex God
So good i posted it twice 
Sex God
Whips I think your profile is fine says what it says.
Some however, and not too few, are rude. One could even be pedantic and point out the ones that state stuff in capital letters is rude because computing etiquette tells us its so. OK the point about people soliciting someone not wanting it is a pain but usually not rude. and any follow up in the way of "why not answer my mails.. whinge moan" etc can possibly be junked before they're even read If it was rude then that means Junk mail about things i specifically dont want is rude and a lot of TV advertising about stuff i specifically dont want is rude. Its the same with spam on pc's.
I think most people at some point get exasperated by such things but by and large its not an unsurmounatble problem. Bit annoying yeah but not
Some however, and not too few, are rude. One could even be pedantic and point out the ones that state stuff in capital letters is rude because computing etiquette tells us its so. OK the point about people soliciting someone not wanting it is a pain but usually not rude. and any follow up in the way of "why not answer my mails.. whinge moan" etc can possibly be junked before they're even read If it was rude then that means Junk mail about things i specifically dont want is rude and a lot of TV advertising about stuff i specifically dont want is rude. Its the same with spam on pc's.
I think most people at some point get exasperated by such things but by and large its not an unsurmounatble problem. Bit annoying yeah but not
Sex God
Quote by Steve
I simply click on the red cross in the corner and move on to the next profile/ad...
Seeemples :-)
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Sorry couldnt resist :lol2:
go look at my profile ..... is that aggressive? to me it states what i do and dont do and saves me repeating myself constantly in the chat room. However a few , mostly guys have said its harsh and had a bit of a moan. To me its sensible what u think???? should i change my name to little miss agressive?
Master of Sex
It does get annoying when you get mails or winks from people that haven't bothered to read your profile, or that think they are exempt from it.
Mine has got a couple of sentences in capitals because I got sick of messages and and people in chat pestering me to meet without even bothering to look past my pics. However I do feel that those who persistantly ignore peoples does and don'ts on profile do give the genuine respectful members a bad name, this maybe a single guy... a couple...or single females speaking from many friends on here.
My biggest gripe is I get men chatting to me asking to meet even though they dont meet my criteria or if they seem ok and I tell them they need to speak to Si too cant be bothered. It annoys me greatly that some men on here seem to disrespect the fact that we are a couple and to stand the chance of meeting they have to be able to communicate with both of us, as I would not meet alone although if I did want to I know I would have Si's blessing as he has told me so many times.
Maybe they should think of choosing a catagory system where you have to meet a profiles criteria to message someone or recieve an invite to do so. On a site we used to use you could select just friends messaging you so people took the time to chat to you more in open rooms to get to know you and then hopefully obtain a friends invite to chat more privately or PM.
Mine has got a couple of sentences in capitals because I got sick of messages and and people in chat pestering me to meet without even bothering to look past my pics. However I do feel that those who persistantly ignore peoples does and don'ts on profile do give the genuine respectful members a bad name, this maybe a single guy... a couple...or single females speaking from many friends on here.
My biggest gripe is I get men chatting to me asking to meet even though they dont meet my criteria or if they seem ok and I tell them they need to speak to Si too cant be bothered. It annoys me greatly that some men on here seem to disrespect the fact that we are a couple and to stand the chance of meeting they have to be able to communicate with both of us, as I would not meet alone although if I did want to I know I would have Si's blessing as he has told me so many times.
Maybe they should think of choosing a catagory system where you have to meet a profiles criteria to message someone or recieve an invite to do so. On a site we used to use you could select just friends messaging you so people took the time to chat to you more in open rooms to get to know you and then hopefully obtain a friends invite to chat more privately or PM.
Master of Sex
It does get annoying when you get mails or winks from people that haven't bothered to read your profile, or that think they are exempt from it.
Mine has got a couple of sentences in capitals because I got sick of messages and and people in chat pestering me to meet without even bothering to look past my pics. However I do feel that those who persistantly ignore peoples does and don'ts on profile do give the genuine respectful members a bad name, this maybe a single guy... a couple...or single females speaking from many friends on here.
My biggest gripe is I get men chatting to me asking to meet even though they dont meet my criteria or if they seem ok and I tell them they need to speak to Si too cant be bothered. It annoys me greatly that some men on here seem to disrespect the fact that we are a couple and to stand the chance of meeting they have to be able to communicate with both of us, as I would not meet alone although if I did want to I know I would have Si's blessing as he has told me so many times.
Maybe they should think of choosing a catagory system where you have to meet a profiles criteria to message someone or recieve an invite to do so. On a site we used to use you could select just friends messaging you so people took the time to chat to you more in open rooms to get to know you and then hopefully obtain a friends invite to chat more privately or PM.
Mine has got a couple of sentences in capitals because I got sick of messages and and people in chat pestering me to meet without even bothering to look past my pics. However I do feel that those who persistantly ignore peoples does and don'ts on profile do give the genuine respectful members a bad name, this maybe a single guy... a couple...or single females speaking from many friends on here.
My biggest gripe is I get men chatting to me asking to meet even though they dont meet my criteria or if they seem ok and I tell them they need to speak to Si too cant be bothered. It annoys me greatly that some men on here seem to disrespect the fact that we are a couple and to stand the chance of meeting they have to be able to communicate with both of us, as I would not meet alone although if I did want to I know I would have Si's blessing as he has told me so many times.
Maybe they should think of choosing a catagory system where you have to meet a profiles criteria to message someone or recieve an invite to do so. On a site we used to use you could select just friends messaging you so people took the time to chat to you more in open rooms to get to know you and then hopefully obtain a friends invite to chat more privately or PM.
Sex God
ours is complete bollox..
My take on it is that's it's rude plain and simple. I agree with what's been said earlier, they are likely wimps in real life and probably wouldn't say it to your face and use this place to exercise power and control over people they wouldn't get a second look from in 'real life'. Harsh? Maybe.. but in my opinion, true 
It's mostly couples and single females profiles that I've seen it happen on.. a few guys, but not many. In my experience, these people are usually 'punching way above their weight' anyways - it's just a numbers thing and there's more customers than there are sweets in the sweetie jars here - simple as.
I've found that the lovely, sexy decent people here are just that.. and don't try and pretend to be anything other than themselves. They play quietly and discreetly with like-mided folks while the whingers and whiners wax lyrical about how evil most single males are when the honest truth is that's the closest they'll probably ever get to a decent one.
Just my observations and opinion
It's mostly couples and single females profiles that I've seen it happen on.. a few guys, but not many. In my experience, these people are usually 'punching way above their weight' anyways - it's just a numbers thing and there's more customers than there are sweets in the sweetie jars here - simple as.
I've found that the lovely, sexy decent people here are just that.. and don't try and pretend to be anything other than themselves. They play quietly and discreetly with like-mided folks while the whingers and whiners wax lyrical about how evil most single males are when the honest truth is that's the closest they'll probably ever get to a decent one.
Just my observations and opinion
Quote by BIoke
My take on it is that's it's rude plain and simple. I agree with what's been said earlier, they are likely wimps in real life and probably wouldn't say it to your face and use this place to exercise power and control over people they wouldn't get a second look from in 'real life'. Harsh? Maybe.. but in my opinion, true
It's mostly couples and single females profiles that I've seen it happen on.. a few guys, but not many. In my experience, these people are usually 'punching way above their weight' anyways - it's just a numbers thing and there's more customers than there are sweets in the sweetie jars here - simple as.
I've found that the lovely, sexy decent people here are just that.. and don't try and pretend to be anything other than themselves. They play quietly and discreetly with like-mided folks while the whingers and whiners wax lyrical about how evil most single males are when the honest truth is that's the closest they'll probably ever get to a decent one.
Just my observations and opinion
Amen to that!!
Sex God
On the other side - if you think about someone who serially ignores the content of your profile, your comments in chat and your replies to pms and still insists (albeit politely) that THEY really are worth meeting. Just how are they likely to behave in a meet?
You have to assume they will ignore a) your preferences, b) your boundaries and c) your responses (or lack of) and just plough on regardless.
They are clearly selfish, imagine themselves to be better than everyone else and highly unlikely to be able to create and share any kind of enjoyable experience (and probably have alweays been like that).
Best ignored, and maybe pitied.
Even deleteing their pms unread becomes annoying - similar to slamming down the phone on those flaming recorded messages. The point is, they demand action on your part and don't deserve the effort but it becomes necessary anyway.
You have to assume they will ignore a) your preferences, b) your boundaries and c) your responses (or lack of) and just plough on regardless.
They are clearly selfish, imagine themselves to be better than everyone else and highly unlikely to be able to create and share any kind of enjoyable experience (and probably have alweays been like that).
Best ignored, and maybe pitied.
Even deleteing their pms unread becomes annoying - similar to slamming down the phone on those flaming recorded messages. The point is, they demand action on your part and don't deserve the effort but it becomes necessary anyway.
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
My take on it is that's it's rude plain and simple. I agree with what's been said earlier, they are likely wimps in real life and probably wouldn't say it to your face and use this place to exercise power and control over people they wouldn't get a second look from in 'real life'. Harsh? Maybe.. but in my opinion, true
It's mostly couples and single females profiles that I've seen it happen on.. a few guys, but not many. In my experience, these people are usually 'punching way above their weight' anyways - it's just a numbers thing and there's more customers than there are sweets in the sweetie jars here - simple as.
I've found that the lovely, sexy decent people here are just that.. and don't try and pretend to be anything other than themselves. They play quietly and discreetly with like-mided folks while the whingers and whiners wax lyrical about how evil most single males are when the honest truth is that's the closest they'll probably ever get to a decent one.
Just my observations and opinion
Yep, well said that blokey personage...
I don't see why because someone sends you a PM or wink that gets on your tits, means that you then have to appear rude to everybody else via your profile.
I don't understand why "No single males! Ok! Got that you stupid fools? We won't answer! Not ever! So go f*ck yourself backwards" is so much more preferable over "We aren't looking for a single male at the present moment, if that changes we will contact you."
One profile I saw did make me smile the other day. It was a single lady, looking only for single chaps and she stated something along the lines of.
"No men with partners, no men attached, no married men! Of Any kind! At all! Ever! I won't entertain cheaters!".
The next thing you know, people on here will be saying that they are swingers and it is ok to do things like that! Tsk!
Foxy, if people consistently harass members like that, then I think that's a matter for Admin, if you've told them no and they won't get the hint, then I should think that would constitute a breach of the AUP and you shouldn't have to put up with that. I don't know if a village elder or passing mod can confirm that or not...
Quote by mrs-cream123
I simply click on the red cross in the corner and move on to the next profile/ad...
Seeemples :-)
Welcome to the I.T department where we are installing a new computermebob
Sorry couldnt resist :lol2:
Well if you want it to work, I'd leave them to do it without any of your wonderous p.c. knowledge.
ok its gone off topic a bit here about aggressive profiles, I see mine as a light hearted profile its good to have a laugh and it might be the longest on sh I dont know, but I just cant see the point of being agressive on profiles as there are ways of stopping alot of this from happening in the first place if you use you account profile properly.
You can block single males or couples or single females in your account sets from sending you messages but if you have any single males couples or single females on your friends list these people will still be able to message you.
If you dont like winks you can also stop winks from coming through on your account sets and an automatic message is sent back:- Whilst I love the attention I prefer a real mail to a wink, please take a few minutes to make sure that you have read my profile and then why not drop me a personalised message if you think we are looking for the same things.
You can block single males or couples or single females in your account sets from sending you messages but if you have any single males couples or single females on your friends list these people will still be able to message you.
If you dont like winks you can also stop winks from coming through on your account sets and an automatic message is sent back:- Whilst I love the attention I prefer a real mail to a wink, please take a few minutes to make sure that you have read my profile and then why not drop me a personalised message if you think we are looking for the same things.
Quote by meat2pleaseu
the profiles are not ads, some people consider if they havent placed a ad then they are not sat waiting for ppl to message them re swing meets. therfore they can say what they like in the profile as maybe they are sick of ppl messaging them based on their gender/ couple status and not what they are looking or not looking for?
i imagine those not seeking single men, will have not clicked seeking single men, so wont be expecting single men to be seeking them out?
i dunno?? lol
xx fem xx
that sounds like fighting talk, you wanna fight d'ya yokal burd? :boxing:
let me know if you do so i can get the paddling pool and jelly ready in time :rascal:
one day you will see my name on a munch list you are attending and
pmsl lol anyway i much prfer custard to jelly lol
xx fem xx
Quote by Ms_Whips
bloke that's very harsh and 'tar everyone with the same brush'. it's also very personal. there is nothing to say that people wouldn't get looked at twice in real life. even if you have seen their photo's it would still only be your opinion and not strictly everyone elses. it's not up to someone else to say whether a person is as you said punching above their weight.
Now Whips you know me better than to think I'd do that. I always choose my words very carefully when I post that kind of thing and you'll notice I use words like 'likely'.. 'mostly' and 'some'... and it really is just my opinion but it does happen, let's not be naive here.
I didn't say 'everyone' and as far as 'tar with the same brush' goes.... isn't that exactly what the kind of users that the OP talks of in his post are doing on a massive scale when they trounce all single males?
As far as seeing their photos to be able to give my opinion goes too.. I wouldn't need or want to - with that kind of attitude and approach I'd have switched off before they even got that far to be honest.
In my experience it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it and the ‘NO SINGLE MALES... NO SINGLE MALES... NO SINGLE MALES... NO SINGLE MALES... NO SINGLE MALES’ type-thing is a really crappy, immature and judgemental way of doing it. It says much more about the poster than it does anyone else.
Quote by soul-girl
ok its gone off topic a bit here about aggressive profiles, I see mine as a light hearted profile its good to have a laugh and it might be the longest on sh I dont know, but I just cant see the point of being agressive on profiles as there are ways of stopping alot of this from happening in the first place if you use you account profile properly.
You can block single males or couples or single females in your account sets from sending you messages but if you have any single males couples or single females on your friends list these people will still be able to message you.
If you dont like winks you can also stop winks from coming through on your account sets and an automatic message is sent back:- Whilst I love the attention I prefer a real mail to a wink, please take a few minutes to make sure that you have read my profile and then why not drop me a personalised message if you think we are looking for the same things.
100% agreed :thumbup:
As soul-girl says, there are ways of stopping any of the things that people complain about even happening to them.
I think mrs whips is spot on the main problem we find in chat is lots of single males dont even bother to read the profile just check out the pics and think its ok to ask can they fuck the wife, it is anoying as its there for a reason so why not read it ? im sure theres plenty of males that do read profiles so unfortunatly the ones that respect whats wrote as to read somethings that they dont like, because of the ignorant ones that dont.
