Right ok here goes .reading the adverts in photos ,dogging and lets meet ,i am amazed at the language and discriptions given to peoples because swingers and people who wish to involve their lifes with other members for sensual pleasures really need words like fuxking ,wanxing,up the are these ads put in by other people not realy interested in our pursuits and just getting cheap kicks .I feel that because we pursue these pleasures we are traeted like degenerates and my self cannot think of a bigger turn off or lose respect fro this what is excepted or expected nowdays ??am i the prude ??.
And anyone got any views on the ads that say we need more photos as their comp went down or a virus lost all the ones sent or maybe they are pic collectors and not really up for meets .I for one have never sent a photo until someone has asked for my phone number and ive spoken to both parties .ok i hear you shouting shut up and get off lol.
Thanks for your interest in this post
Jay
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AM i A prude ?
You are, of course, perfectly entitled to your opinion and your own high standards. Don't let others put you off.
I spend some considerable time trawling the ads (all part of the work you understand) and do find some lovely ads which are much more reflective of my own opinions. I have no doubt that many people find the crude use of explicit language attractive. I prefer to keep the explicit language for an initmate situation where I find it enhances my enjoyment.
Search for the lovely ads - they are out there. As are some lovely people - I always try to focus on the positives and take them with me and try to ignore the negatives.
Good luck in your search.
I spend some considerable time trawling the ads (all part of the work you understand) and do find some lovely ads which are much more reflective of my own opinions. I have no doubt that many people find the crude use of explicit language attractive. I prefer to keep the explicit language for an initmate situation where I find it enhances my enjoyment.
Search for the lovely ads - they are out there. As are some lovely people - I always try to focus on the positives and take them with me and try to ignore the negatives.
Good luck in your search.
I hate to hear words like Prick or Cunt used as insults.
Used in sexual terms they are fine.
There comes a point when its no good being bashful - this is in a sexual context - and if the acts or parts of the body so called are called that in a spirit of play,fun,desire,lust or love then its beautiful.
Afterthought:The time to use those intimate terms is more in consentual privacy than in public,true.
Used in sexual terms they are fine.
There comes a point when its no good being bashful - this is in a sexual context - and if the acts or parts of the body so called are called that in a spirit of play,fun,desire,lust or love then its beautiful.
Afterthought:The time to use those intimate terms is more in consentual privacy than in public,true.
Know what you mean gentlemanfor2 
Some of the ads scare the life outta me :scared: So graphic, and not really necessary - kinda like a word version of the close up genital photo :scared:
But then I s'pose it floats some peoples boats
As someone who grew up not even allowed to say words like bum, belly, fart, shut up, what - I find the more extreme words literally make my toes curl up with embarrassment :?
Although, must admit that just recently I have had the mouth of a sewer on occasion, effin and jeffin with temper I was - really not very nice, and it just doesn't sound right coming from me, just sounds plain silly :undecided:
I don't mind swearing so much, so long as it's not literally every other word in every single sentence written, but the graphic descriptions and scenarios just don't do anything for me (apart from said toe curling). Leaves nothing to the imagination, but as I said earlier, it does do it for many people. S'posed they're just a whole lot more realaxed than uptight ol me
Some of the ads scare the life outta me :scared: So graphic, and not really necessary - kinda like a word version of the close up genital photo :scared:
But then I s'pose it floats some peoples boats
As someone who grew up not even allowed to say words like bum, belly, fart, shut up, what - I find the more extreme words literally make my toes curl up with embarrassment :?
Although, must admit that just recently I have had the mouth of a sewer on occasion, effin and jeffin with temper I was - really not very nice, and it just doesn't sound right coming from me, just sounds plain silly :undecided:
I don't mind swearing so much, so long as it's not literally every other word in every single sentence written, but the graphic descriptions and scenarios just don't do anything for me (apart from said toe curling). Leaves nothing to the imagination, but as I said earlier, it does do it for many people. S'posed they're just a whole lot more realaxed than uptight ol me
thank you ,opinions are well recieved .The language isnt a issue has as been said .In our own company i agree some words and actions are sometimes used for more sensual pleasures . We are all adults and except this ,but in the written word ??? do we really need to see these in print ?.
thanks for your input and time given
jay
thanks for your input and time given
jay
Quote by Flirty Fruitcake
I hate to hear words like Prick or Cunt used as insults.
Used in sexual terms they are fine.
There comes a point when its no good being bashful - this is in a sexual context - and if the acts or parts of the body so called are called that in a spirit of play,fun,desire,lust or love then its beautiful.
I quite agree. I only ever use the word "cunt" when referring to.... a cunt! Can't stand hearing someone referred to as a "fucking cunt/prick" etc.
Years ago I met an old friend for a beer. Before parthing, he asked me if I had a message for a mutual friend with whom we had shared a house. I said "tell him he is a cunt". My friend registered surprise... until I pointed out that our pal had always said... "a cunt is a nice thing". "Excellent" said my friend, relishing the prospect of the look on our pal's face until the message was explained to him.
:lol: :lol: Quote by MISSCHIEF
I don't mind swearing so much, so long as it's not literally every other word in every single sentence written, but the graphic descriptions and scenarios just don't do anything for me (apart from said toe curling). Leaves nothing to the imagination, but as I said earlier, it does do it for many people. S'posed they're just a whole lot more realaxed than uptight ol me
I always think it's more a case of laziness or lack of vocabulary.
Sex God
much the same as the majority of the posters that have already replied gent. I also trawl the ads as part of the job and find some of the language used dissapointing, however in my posts I swear more than I do in real life to fill in the emotion and expression that would normally be picked up through body language.
...anyways were the fuck have you been, it's fifteen months since you asked
...anyways were the fuck have you been, it's fifteen months since you asked
Sex God
some things turn people on or they get a kick out of what they read/say
some like polite posts
some like crude ones
some like water sports
so a post might not suit u
but suits others
if we all liked the same thing
life would be boring
some like polite posts
some like crude ones
some like water sports
so a post might not suit u
but suits others
if we all liked the same thing
life would be boring
Quote by Jags
You are, of course, perfectly entitled to your opinion and your own high standards. Don't let others put you off.
I spend some considerable time trawling the ads (all part of the work you understand) and do find some lovely ads which are much more reflective of my own opinions. I have no doubt that many people find the crude use of explicit language attractive. I prefer to keep the explicit language for an initmate situation where I find it enhances my enjoyment.
Search for the lovely ads - they are out there. As are some lovely people - I always try to focus on the positives and take them with me and try to ignore the negatives.
Good luck in your search.
Have to agree with all said here... not all ads use such expletives and certainly not our own!
Mike x
Thank you mdr .
in my opinion your ad is the one thats likely to seduce me and my female friend to forward a reply
Please to all others ,the thread does ask AM i A prude ?
im not asking for just for agreement its a poll to ask what others look for in ads .
many thanks to all for your contributions h
Have to agree with all said here... not all ads use such expletives and certainly not our own!
Mike x
in my opinion your ad is the one thats likely to seduce me and my female friend to forward a reply
Please to all others ,the thread does ask AM i A prude ?
im not asking for just for agreement its a poll to ask what others look for in ads .
many thanks to all for your contributions h
Have to agree with all said here... not all ads use such expletives and certainly not our own!
Mike x
Quote by gentlemanfor2
Thank you mdr .
in my opinion your ad is the one thats likely to seduce me and my female friend to forward a reply
Please to all others ,the thread does ask AM i A prude ?
im not asking for just for agreement its a poll to ask what others look for in ads .
many thanks to all for your contributions h
Have to agree with all said here... not all ads use such expletives and certainly not our own!
Mike x
Very kind of you to say....... and No we don't think your a prude whatsoever! One thing though, its odd you post what you have and only have ads as a single guy? Maybe why some havn't taken your question very seriously!!
Mike and Julie xx
thank you for your input.
Its true >i post as a single guy because thats my honest status .
once in a while i have the request from my young female friend to arrange nice meets with other cpls.
I never mislead or try and dupe others .
I do have had some stunning meets with cpls who require a single male .
And twice now ive picked 2 cpls who would meet my friends criteria .
jay
Very kind of you to say....... and No we don't think your a prude whatsoever! One thing though, its odd you post what you have and only have ads as a single guy? Maybe why some havn't taken your question very seriously!!
Mike and Julie xx
Its true >i post as a single guy because thats my honest status .
once in a while i have the request from my young female friend to arrange nice meets with other cpls.
I never mislead or try and dupe others .
I do have had some stunning meets with cpls who require a single male .
And twice now ive picked 2 cpls who would meet my friends criteria .
jay
Quote by mdr2000
Thank you mdr .
in my opinion your ad is the one thats likely to seduce me and my female friend to forward a reply
Please to all others ,the thread does ask AM i A prude ?
im not asking for just for agreement its a poll to ask what others look for in ads .
many thanks to all for your contributions h
Have to agree with all said here... not all ads use such expletives and certainly not our own!
Mike x
Very kind of you to say....... and No we don't think your a prude whatsoever! One thing though, its odd you post what you have and only have ads as a single guy? Maybe why some havn't taken your question very seriously!!
Mike and Julie xx
well its seems it has caught some peoples eye.
The main word (Seduction ) i think this is the way forward ,many cpls like the SEE HOW IT GOES approach .Some cpls do prefer to be in control and if the feelings right they will allow you be part of their adult evening.
Has part of that evening ,some expressions and verbal discription of the sexual kind are used .
So i feel its a matter of choice ,as long has its your hosts choice.
thanks
The main word (Seduction ) i think this is the way forward ,many cpls like the SEE HOW IT GOES approach .Some cpls do prefer to be in control and if the feelings right they will allow you be part of their adult evening.
Has part of that evening ,some expressions and verbal discription of the sexual kind are used .
So i feel its a matter of choice ,as long has its your hosts choice.
thanks
Quote by blonde
Well babe,
I agree ................ I hate the use of the "nasty" words
So guess I must be a prude too ! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Blonde? A prude? No way!
But seriously, I follow the Maxim "There's a time and place for everthing..." meaning, that even though this IS an adult site, language should be used properly and certain words should be used when necessary, otherwise they lose their strength and meaning......
I don't think you're a prude at all. I have read quite a few ads and I'm put off when reading one that's littered with sexual acts in such graphic detail. There is a time and place for this kind of talk but I don't see ads as a place to do it. Some people like to talk dirty in the bedroom and if that's what butters your muffin, then that's fine, just keep it for the bedroom ( or private chat etc )
An ad that's to the point without being crude is much more likely to get a response IMO
:swingingchair:
An ad that's to the point without being crude is much more likely to get a response IMO
:swingingchair:
I agree Crude isn't needed and I personally would not reply to anything like that. informitive and to the point without being rude is much better. 1 line fuck me ads must be just kids mucking about aren't they, surely anyone seriously thinking of meeting up wouldnt waste peoples time in this way?
jst my 2p
jst my 2p
it seems to me that the language used is just an unhappy sign of the time in which we live i find it hard to go anywhere these days without hearing foul mouthed youngsters f-ing & blinding boys & girls even at primary school age :? i know if i had ever used that kind of language in front of my parents i would have had a very sore behind for a week!
sorry getting off the subject a bit there,as for the language used on the photo ads i dont really see the problem as anyone offended by that sort of language only has to press the back button & ignore the ad, i think its just the way people are brought up now & that kind of talk is normal to them :?
but hey its them who will miss out on meeting some great people because they dont get any replies
i find it hard to go anywhere these days without hearing foul mouthed youngsters f-ing & blinding boys & girls even at primary school age :? i know if i had ever used that kind of language in front of my parents i would have had a very sore behind for a week!sorry getting off the subject a bit there,as for the language used on the photo ads i dont really see the problem as anyone offended by that sort of language only has to press the back button & ignore the ad, i think its just the way people are brought up now & that kind of talk is normal to them :?
but hey its them who will miss out on meeting some great people because they dont get any replies
is not swearing or course language a rich part of our history and indeed remains a diverse and ever changing part of language today........although if you dont like it don`t send em a mail
Quote by gentlemanfor2
Right ok here goes .reading the adverts in photos ,dogging and lets meet ,i am amazed at the language and discriptions given to peoples because swingers and people who wish to involve their lifes with other members for sensual pleasures really need words like fuxking ,wanxing,up the are these ads put in by other people not realy interested in our pursuits and just getting cheap kicks .I feel that because we pursue these pleasures we are traeted like degenerates and my self cannot think of a bigger turn off or lose respect fro this what is excepted or expected nowdays ??am i the prude ??.
And anyone got any views on the ads that say we need more photos as their comp went down or a virus lost all the ones sent or maybe they are pic collectors and not really up for meets .I for one have never sent a photo until someone has asked for my phone number and ive spoken to both parties .ok i hear you shouting shut up and get off lol.
Thanks for your interest in this post
Jay
Quote by PLUM
Well babe,
I agree ................ I hate the use of the "nasty" words
So guess I must be a prude too ! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Blonde? A prude? No way!
But seriously, I follow the Maxim "There's a time and place for everthing..." meaning, that even though this IS an adult site, language should be used properly and certain words should be used when necessary, otherwise they lose their strength and meaning......
My thought exactly Plum :thumbup:
Minx x x
P.s Fucking lovely new avatar ;)
what an interesting thread....
U ask whether people think that you are a prude?
It seems to me that you have given yourself the label" prude" and are then seeking others to accept YOU.... as you see yourself as one.
Im not critisizing at all..... its great that you have found your levels....
as you can see, your views on this and the use of profanity are shared by some....... and to a degree by myself.........
but before i give my tuppence worth.... i think i better check your advert before i end up making a fuxxing cxnt of myself...........
PLEASE NOTE THIS POST HAS BEEN EDITED IN ORDER NOT TO SHOCK THE LIGHWEIGHTS
U ask whether people think that you are a prude?
It seems to me that you have given yourself the label" prude" and are then seeking others to accept YOU.... as you see yourself as one.
Im not critisizing at all..... its great that you have found your levels....
as you can see, your views on this and the use of profanity are shared by some....... and to a degree by myself.........
but before i give my tuppence worth.... i think i better check your advert before i end up making a fuxxing cxnt of myself...........
PLEASE NOTE THIS POST HAS BEEN EDITED IN ORDER NOT TO SHOCK THE LIGHWEIGHTS
