Are Swingers Sites a waste of time?

13 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
play at clubs in the midlands about 7 times a year both 36 bi fem . we have only met 2 couples of a swingers site and it was a waste of time we have to get a sitter to have my son over night to play and have decided that we are only going to meet at clubs have you found fun if so please tell us as we are about to give up on the whole web thing

Loads of people have found fun, but I doubt they'll give you details on a public forum confused

Can't see what difference it will make to you, how many others have met.
You say you've been members for over three years - members of where?

13 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
play at clubs in the midlands about 7 times a year both 36 bi fem . we have only met 2 couples of a swingers site and it was a waste of time we have to get a sitter to have my son over night to play and have decided that we are only going to meet at clubs have you found fun if so please tell us as we are about to give up on the whole web thing

the whole web thing.....hmmmm
I suppose it is a case of how you go about meeting the people you play with.... for example are you just using the ads.... or are you using the chatrooms..... or are you going to any of the socials/meets/parties advertised on the site.....
but do whatever works for you.... if that happens to be clubs then good and i wish you luck

14 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
not after details just to find out if websites work as we have found that 90 % of the people are couples up till the pint you ask them to put the webcam on
one couple where saying they had 3 limos they let out for nights on the town but did not have a cam fu**ing wankers
this is just one of them i think it is a waste of time my wife says give another go you please tell me is it a waste of time

Perhaps its an attitude thing dunno

14 Mar 2007

Perseverence, tolerance and patience.
Virtues for here and real life.
It takes time and we all get messed about at some point - whether you're a couple, single, male, female and regardless of what you are looking for, where you live and what you look like.
I enjoy clubs for the spontaneity that arranged meets do not afford. I also have childcare problems so i can appreciate where you're coming from.
I'm also exceptionally fussy - which doesn't go down well with a lot of people.
Personally, I'd rather do without than settle for second best.
Maybe you're trying too hard? Not being selective enough? Maybe spend more time chatting or on the Forums, get to a social or Munch? Maybe change your outlook?
Just suggestions, I can't say they are fool-proof ideas.

14 Mar 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
not after details just to find out if websites work as we have found that 90 % of the people are couples up till the pint you ask them to put the webcam on
one couple where saying they had 3 limos they let out for nights on the town but did not have a cam fu**ing wankers
this is just one of them i think it is a waste of time my wife says give another go you please tell me is it a waste of time

Perhaps its an attitude thing dunno

this did alarm me too.......I don't see what is so wrong about people if they dont have a cam, I didn't have one when I joined the site and managed fine without one for sometime, until a very lovely member gave me her spare one kiss

but then I broke that and have only just fixed it and started using it again.
I think the thing with any site is just to work out what you want and find the way to use the site that works for you and your own needs. Some people like to use the forum, some like chat and some like the add section, whilst others would rather go to socials and munches.......there is no right or wrong answer.....just find what works for you.......... biggrin

14 Mar 2007

hiya..definatly get to some socials and munches (there is a social in derby this sat )
we have found loads of fun through the chatroom, forums and going to parties and a certain swinging club.
we have both been members of this site for years
staggy earlyish 2003
rose march 2004 under different usernames and we didnt start swinging until last year.
if the people dont have a web cam then we normally dont meet them..of course if we have seen them at a social or someone else has said that they are genuine then thats a different mater.
we find that if its hard work then it wont happen..
chat in chatroom and then go straight to msn web cam..
meet for a drink and take it from there
wildrose

14 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
play at clubs in the midlands about 7 times a year both 36 bi fem . we have only met 2 couples of a swingers site and it was a waste of time we have to get a sitter to have my son over night to play and have decided that we are only going to meet at clubs have you found fun if so please tell us as we are about to give up on the whole web thing

hi staggy here now, the web is a different ball game to clubs, we swing at clubs and like the anonimity and speed from meet to play, bit different to on the net, we also swing via the net and have found we have had more of a relationship style of swinging where you get to know the others you play with a little more than in a club, it has its good points, with the net you get out what you put in, a rapport has to be built up first , perhaps via the chatrooms or pm, we dont bother with the forums as tbh we find them far more hostile than chatrooms, although the forum will educate you and is a useful tool for arranging larger events, ie munches socials etc, dont be put off by a lack of success, it really isnt that hard to swing via the net if you play the game.....pop in the mids room on servcer 3 we will endeavour to make you welcome and so will the others in there, then take it from there, feel free to whisper me in there if you want any advice, on the subject of web cams , not essential but useful we like to chat on cam via msn before meeting, it helps to weed out the single guys playing games , you can see there is a girl there, lol
staggy
good luck
xx

14 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
not after details just to find out if websites work as we have found that 90 % of the people are couples up till the pint you ask them to put the webcam on one couple where saying they had 3 limos they let out for nights on the town but did not have a cam fu**ing wankers this is just one of them i think it is a waste of time my wife says give another go you please tell me is it a waste of time

Couple sans-webcam here. wave

That's a personal choice. Just because we use a swingers site doesn't mean we have to own a cam, or that we have to meet people we don't fancy. Or does it? dunno

If you feel this is a waste of your time then we ain't gonna change your mind. I guess you get out what you're willing to put in?

14 Mar 2007

Quote by cu3b4ll
Couple sans-webcam here.
That's a personal choice. Just because we use a swingers site doesn't mean we have to own a cam, or that we have to meet people we don't fancy. Or does it?
If you feel this is a waste of your time then we ain't gonna change your mind. I guess you get out what you're willing to put in?

... and that is what it basically comes down to in the end....
so back to the question... are internet swinging sites a waste of time......
would the people who go to the countless socials,munches and private parties say that... probably not...some will
would the people who use the chatrooms say that... again probably not..but again some will
again would the people who use the photo ad's say that... some will say not... but some will
What sites like these have done is to provide a medium to which you can decide whether to use these things to your advantage... whether you then want to use it as little as you want to narrow your search, or to use it to its fullest extent is then entirely up to you...........
If then site has extended your social, friends and playing base beyond what it would have been otherwise (i.e just a club) then has it not served its purpose as such???? for example, without sites like these would people find out about clubs... or have the courage to go to them.....you have probably played with couples in clubs indirectly because they used sites like these......
and it would still be one of those underground hush hush thing that the people down the road did......
sean xxxxx

14 Mar 2007

I personally don't think swinging sites are a waste of time. The majority of meets I've been fortunate enough to enjoy, all started on the Internet!
Waving my finger in the air, I've probably had around 10% of contacts not actually being couples. It sounds like you've just been really unlucky if you're hitting the 90% mark :shock: or maybe it's just that you use the criteria "no cam = not a real couple"? confused

14 Mar 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
not after details just to find out if websites work as we have found that 90 % of the people are couples up till the pint you ask them to put the webcam on
one couple where saying they had 3 limos they let out for nights on the town but did not have a cam fu**ing wankers
this is just one of them i think it is a waste of time my wife says give another go you please tell me is it a waste of time

Perhaps its an attitude thing dunno

You think so?

14 Mar 2007

I think sites have a valid part to play because they allow people to get as involved as they want. I'm not looking to meet at the moment but I like to come on and chat cos I have met loads of fab and fun people and want to keep in touch. But for those who want to meet regularly, there are plenty of ways to meet on a site like this too!
Tiger
xx

14 Mar 2007

i dont consider sites like this a waste of time, they fill my time quite nicely, i enjoy using them
and i have a 100% success rate too
i dont approach anyone, i dont get refused

14 Mar 2007

We're members of a number of sites.. some better than others.
We haven't found them to be a waste of time. Same as life in general really - you get back what you put in. If you're really serious about finding people to have fun with, it can be done.
There's always going to be fakes, timewasters and picture collectors around. You've just got to have a finely tuned bullshit detector, and insist on a telephone call if they don't have a cam.

14 Mar 2007

We find this site incredibly good we have only ever been let down once by a single guy - and to be fair he did apologise at the first opportunity. He ended up in casualty the day before meet then on a ward for a cpl of days after so fair play. And being he seems to be so nice hopefully we will meet up.
Be philosophical about this. I mean its not like setting up a game of darts in a pub is it. I mean to say, whatever your viewpoint on swinging. It still ain't the sort of thing you parade openly in your everyday life. For us it is incredibly difficult to sort sitters etc and to co-ordinate with others meets etc. When we manage it then we enjoy ourselves whether or not the meets go onto anything physical or not.
The internet at least gives us opportunities and contact with people we have an affinity with. Otherwise where/What/how could we go about things being a minimum of 50 miles from the nearest club and then wanting maybe a little more intimate swinging than they provide
Its a great site with a lot a good people using it concentrate on the good in it all. The best of luck guys!!

14 Mar 2007

Quote by essex34m
i dont approach anyone, i dont get refused

Incase you change your mind, and fancy trying out your theory, my pm box is that way >>>>
or is it that way <<<<< dunno

Oh sod it, you will find it wink

Back to topic - Sites like this are as good as you want them to be and you get from them what you put in.
As for the Cams, we have a cam but dont use it for meets etc. We would rather get to know people in a social setting, for example a munch, or get to know people via the forums before we meet, so a cam to prove they are genuine wouldnt be necessary. Jut because we dont cam, doesnt make us timewaster biggrin

14 Mar 2007

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple

i dont approach anyone, i dont get refused

Incase you change your mind, and fancy trying out your theory, my pm box is that way >>>>
or is it that way <<<<< dunno

Oh sod it, you will find it wink

quoted, so i can refer to it, and so you cant deny it, wouldnt want to label you a timewaster...

14 Mar 2007

Quote by essex34m
and i have a 100% success rate too
i dont approach anyone, i dont get refused

Same here....bar the odd one...or two in fact. rolleyes

15 Mar 2007

I have no cam and no pics on my profile but am totally genuine.I don't want to risk being recognised on a public site by anyone I wouldn't want recognising me and a pic the rest of me could be a pic of any average bloke of my age range lol.
If I said I was a 26 year old blonde bodybuilder when you'd meet me you'd see I'm I was fool enough to dare to pretend to be a couple you'd soon find out I'm not.
I will admit that lately I haven't had any 'success' at all but that doesn't mean the site itself is a waste of 's to do with the number of single men and the many options for the couples and single women, and my initial contact not convincing the people I approach and so on.
When I make an approach I always do so with courtesy and to people who appear to not rule someone like me out in their requests - a couple asking for a black male for example, I wouldn't write to them.

15 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
we have been members for over 3 years play at clubs in the midlands about 7 times a year both 36 bi fem . we have only met 2 couples of a swingers site and it was a waste of time we have to get a sitter to have my son over night to play and have decided that we are only going to meet at clubs have you found fun if so please tell us as we are about to give up on the whole web thing

Have we found fun? Yes we have both by meeting people, playing with people, fun on the forums/chatrooms. Is this swingers site a waste of time for us. No.
Louise xx

15 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
we have been members for over 3 years play at clubs in the midlands about 7 times a year both 36 bi fem . we have only met 2 couples of a swingers site and it was a waste of time we have to get a sitter to have my son over night to play and have decided that we are only going to meet at clubs have you found fun if so please tell us as we are about to give up on the whole web thing

Hiya
There are lots of people from off this site who are here to enjoy themselves and they do!!
There are also people who dont last long on here and moan and groan about this site!
Some people think by joining a swingers site that they will have lots of sex on a plate.....
To get the best out of this site(and any other) You have to put some effort in!!!
This can be done in the Chat rooms and via the forums, attending Socials and Munch's.
In short you get what you put in.....little effort to get known will end up in little attention from other members.
If you want more out of this site you will have to put a little more in!!! There is no devine right to have other members throw themselves at you just because you are a swinger on a swingers site!
Hope you find what you are looking for
Mr & Mrs goodtimez

15 Mar 2007

So, here I am. Back from the obsure world of No SH for a couple of months! Due to unforseen circumsition.. I mean circumstances!!
So, I guess this is a good topic for me to reply to I think? dunno

I have already met some lovely people here, in person and online, and I have to say I don't think it's a waste of my time or energy.
We all have our reasons for being here, But, we're here non the less!
I have missed coming on and chatting to people, and if that's all I will get from this, then so be it! I'm just glad I came here and have met some Great People who have touched my heart! I said Heart!!! smackbottom

Hopefully I can pop in more often. Cos I missed you all.
wave

15 Mar 2007

Quote by Argt05
So, here I am. Back from the obsure world of No SH for a couple of months! Due to unforseen circumsition.. I mean circumstances!!
So, I guess this is a good topic for me to reply to I think?
I have already met some lovely people here, in person and online, and I have to say I don't think it's a waste of my time or energy.
We all have our reasons for being here, But, we're here non the less!
I have missed coming on and chatting to people, and if that's all I will get from this, then so be it! I'm just glad I came here and have met some Great People who have touched my heart! I said Heart!!!
Hopefully I can pop in more often. Cos I missed you all.

sorry to all those people this pisses off but
great to see you back Argt :twisted:
actually i'm not really sorry biggrin

15 Mar 2007

Like everything, it depends. The sentiments expressed so far are dead on the money. You will only get out what you put in. Also ones expectations should not be too ambitious. Better to be happy to just make good friends and see how it develops from there.
I have been here a short time and I have found it to be great. Brillant way to meet people and have the craic.
I love the chat room and the forums and have used the ads and ive found them to be worth it for me. (How many "and"s in one sentence, my old english teacher wouldnt be happy)
Friday x

15 Mar 2007

Quote by earthchild
So, here I am. Back from the obsure world of No SH for a couple of months! Due to unforseen circumsition.. I mean circumstances!!
So, I guess this is a good topic for me to reply to I think?
I have already met some lovely people here, in person and online, and I have to say I don't think it's a waste of my time or energy.
We all have our reasons for being here, But, we're here non the less!
I have missed coming on and chatting to people, and if that's all I will get from this, then so be it! I'm just glad I came here and have met some Great People who have touched my heart! I said Heart!!!
Hopefully I can pop in more often. Cos I missed you all.

sorry to all those people this pisses off but
great to see you back Argt :twisted:
actually i'm not really sorry biggrin

Im sorry. Sorry he's back. rolleyes

15 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
thanks all but i think we will but it down to a waste of time we have a lot to do in life. and have not got hours day after day to be on a pc seting up a meet then to find that we do not fancy cam no chat and the times you get let down we have to get a sitter one time we had a sitter for the night booked the hotel and it was a no show (fuching wankers)we go to a club with 30 to 50 couples been about 24 times and have a great night if the sites tickle your fancy keep it up if not get your self to a club it tuck my wife seven years on sites like this and still did not find a bi fem of a bi fem couple we whent to a club and played the first night if you have not yet swung get yourself to a club if you can come to the midland we may hold your hand to all gen swinger keep on loving and good luck

So basically, what you're saying is that the site is full of timewasters, that people should go to clubs? And you didn't want opinions after all, because you've already made up your mind?

15 Mar 2007

Quote by horney2staff
thanks all but i think we will but it down to a waste of time we have a lot to do in life. and have not got hours day after day to be on a pc seting up a meet then to find that we do not fancy cam no chat and the times you get let down we have to get a sitter one time we had a sitter for the night booked the hotel and it was a no show (fuching wankers)we go to a club with 30 to 50 couples been about 24 times and have a great night if the sites tickle your fancy keep it up if not get your self to a club it tuck my wife seven years on sites like this and still did not find a bi fem of a bi fem couple we whent to a club and played the first night if you have not yet swung get yourself to a club if you can come to the midland we may hold your hand to all gen swinger keep on loving and good luck

sorry to say this but that was quite hard to read with no commas or paragraphs.
Suze x

15 Mar 2007

You don't like being here. Most of us do.
I see no problem- enjoy your clubs. wave

15 Mar 2007

And the point of the original post was
dunno

Louise xx

15 Mar 2007

Quote by winchwench
So, here I am. Back from the obsure world of No SH for a couple of months! Due to unforseen circumsition.. I mean circumstances!!
So, I guess this is a good topic for me to reply to I think?
I have already met some lovely people here, in person and online, and I have to say I don't think it's a waste of my time or energy.
We all have our reasons for being here, But, we're here non the less!
I have missed coming on and chatting to people, and if that's all I will get from this, then so be it! I'm just glad I came here and have met some Great People who have touched my heart! I said Heart!!!
Hopefully I can pop in more often. Cos I missed you all.

sorry to all those people this pisses off but
great to see you back Argt :twisted:
actually i'm not really sorry biggrin

Im sorry. Sorry he's back. rolleyes

You'd better run my little wench!!!
:twisted:
wink