Thanks for the reply Kenty but I do go in the chatrooms and i'm normally in the NE/NE Bi/BiTVCD room....I was on about what bi guys say to me when I ask them why their profile says straight......I also stated it wasn't a witch hunt.
Even in this lifestyle, there are some who are homophobic. The bi-guys will then just "forget" to put this on their profile to ensure they appeal to a broader range of potential meets.
Dave_Notts
Again Dave very true but it boils my blood to think that some people can think that way...hey-ho such is life I guess.
This thread was never meant to cause offence to anyone..as stated on the 1st post I was merely curious as to why some choose to hide it.
C xx
No offence caused here and I, for one, think it is a good thread to start and discuss :thumbup:
I am going to stop posting now as I don't want to hijack your post
Dave_Notts
No worries Dave, thanks for the feedback :P
i have always been honest and open about my sexuality on my prof,and have never met with any i know of guys who are scared it may put people of.
Flower we all have our own opinions hunni and as a fellow human I appreciate yours...and yes maybe biggot was a tad strong but you get the idea?
No offence was meant at all but some people can and do mis-read posts and take them to heart.
Thanks for the feedback so far everyone.
C x
Profiles can be misleading. I found in some cases if people wanted a way out of a meeting, they simply chose anything on your list of preferences and said we don't do that. 'So sorry goodbye'.
Also if your initial experience is going to be fairly straight and conventional, its quite a leap to change to bdsm or anal in the early stages of forming a relationship.
So I feel that profiles can put people off as much as they turn them on. In that its worrying that people's expectations could lead to something very challenging or extremely embarrassing.
In which case people tend to take it all with a pinch of salt I think, and don't necessarily believe them to be accurate either way.
The bifem thing has somehow become convincing. its almost like a rubber stamp which adds an extra assurance or almost a guarantee that you will be meeting a totally committed experience from people. That swingers have the obligatory bi fem.
But again its something else which needs to be considered and not to draw upon as a conclusion.
There's no such thing as the RONSEAL swinger. they all come with a variety of do's and don'ts, they all feel its right to go about how they want. Even if its entirely in contradiction to themselves. There isn't an example you can compare yourself to.
If I ask the question would anyone like to come forward and demonstrate they are a good example of a swinger, no one will reply.
I like this thread a lot. It has really made me think. I had no idea that some bi males here felt the need to hide or withhold there bi-ness on profiles, I, rather naively perhaps, assumed that this is one place where you could be open and have no need to hide anything. I had presumed that this is one place, due to the nature of the site, where open minded people would not be judging others.
We are here because I love to watch my wife with other men, however on occasions I may like to join in with the pleasuring of her to form a threesome, as a so called straight male; I have no problem if the other male is bi as we make boundaries clear way before we even meet.
On the other side of the coin I can see if a straight male is uncomfortable with being in the same bed as a bi male then that is a freedom of choice.
Oh dear oh dear...
Getting back to the original point.
I think I may be able to explain why couples don't put bi-male even if he is and it has been hinted upon by several others already. This is not intended to offend, but if you do take , please do get a life. The world doesn't revolve around you and your opinions.
I think there is a perception, be it rightly or wrongly, that a bisexual male is somehow not as appealling to the majority of couples as a straight male. Why that is, I have not a clue. It bears no rigorous examination of the facts and says more about peoples own narrow minded view of sexuality and their misapprehensions of others, than it does about the bisexual chap in question.
However I believe the general line of thinking to be thus; A male/female couple states they are bi-male or bi-female. With them being a couple, and it generally being understood that swingers wish to expand their sexual horizons, you look at the reasons they wish to swing. Therefore a bi-male can sate his 'female' desires with his partner. His male yearnings however, presumably, remain unsated within their relationship. This may therefore make couples wonder if they wish to do that with them, given it is overtly stated that this is his interest sexually. It is entirely unfounded and presumptuous to think that of course, but I think it is more common than people would let on and perhaps people, who may feverishly state that they are genuinely not bisexual are afraid of another man seeing him and just being so overwhelmed by his manly gorgeousness that he cannot help but bend him over and wazzock him up the chuff without so much as a "hello ducky!"
Whether this says more about them and their insecurities than the other couple, is of course a matter for conjecture (although not much, the idea is frankly laughable and if you genuinely believe then you need help). Or indeed whether it says more about the 'tolerant and understanding' nature of swingers as a whole is another matter.
I'm not bi. I don't know why. I like sex in all its forms and I like seeing Mrs R with another man, but I have no desire to join in with him in a sexual way in any circumstances. Does this make me a bi-voyeur? Not really, because my pleasure comes from seeing the pleasure Mrs R gives and receives and as callous as it sounds, the joy of the chap is a secondary or even tertiary concern to me.
However I am not bi-phobic. If another mans cock was to touch me, I wouldn't scream and leap away as if scalded, or grab the wine cork and hammer it home with a mallet. I certainly do not think I would act upon it in any way, but as I've never been in that situation, I can not say for certain.
I must admit, I am yearning for the return of gay or bi men in here. It would make a refreshing change from the overblown scent of self-righteous, pompous, indignantly sarcastic, testosterone (wrapped up in the form of utterly juvenile and puerile machismo), that has littered the place on occasion of late. In my humble view.
That, to me leaves a far more bitter taste in my mouth than any bisexual man could muster (and yes, feel free to enjoy the double-entendre).
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like wot they is and maybe they are just jealous.
