bi or not?

12 Nov 2007

While at a club the other night we was sat having a ciggy chatting to some other people when a woman said to my hubby.....its a pity your not bi cause i'd do you with my strap on if you was!! :shock: (don't say much for our topic of conversations does it lol) anyway to this i replied "why does he have to be bi for you to do him with a strap on" dunno

so she said cause straught men don't take anal and taking anal even from a female makes you bi :crazy: okkkkkkkk so i was confused but didnt want to start a heated debate up so kinda left it at that, but what suprised me more was the amount of people who actually agreed with her and though men who took anal was at the least bi curious

Personally i can't see where they coming from, if you have never been with a man and don't get turned on by the though of men, assuming your male of course, how can you be bi just cause you like a woman tho whack a bit of plastic up your arse???? :rascal:
And going by them thought if lesbians use toys on each other does that make them bi too? :?
If a bi woman plays with another bi women but don't use toys are they straight? :?
It could go on forever couldn't it? lol

12 Nov 2007

Good point I hadn't thought about it like that.
I was talking to someone a little while ago (in a vanilla environment) and he was asking what my star sign was and various other questions, he said he liked to pidgeon-hole people, I said I didn't like the idea because everyone is different. He replied, 'Well everyone gets their own pidgeon-hole, I just like to know what it is.'
H.x

12 Nov 2007

Hmm - a tricky one.
Surely he wouldn't be bi simply because theres no same sex activity?
If I stick my knob in another blokes mouth/ass does that make me gay? You would think so wouldn't you?
I have straight male friends that maintain that "Your only gay if you take it" Despite finding that philosophy somewhat lacking in sophistication they kind of have a point.
I think that being sexually attracted to both same and opposites sexes makes a person BI. Sticking something into another same-sex persons orofices (SP?) doesn't necessarily make you bi.

12 Nov 2007

My sexuality isn't defined by a sex toy, simple as that. I'd see this as different if a guy was having sex with another guy and saying that he's not gay or bi, but with him wanting a woman to use a strapon on him then that's got nothing to do with his sexuality.

12 Nov 2007

Hi Naughty
Not a tricky one? I am not bi, I am also an anal virgin, but the thought does sometimes appeal? and a correct placed finger also does the trick sometimes?

12 Nov 2007

Hmm, i would say not a tricky one!!
if a guy likes a girl playing with his ass he is not gay or bi(unless he likes other guys playing with his ass too!)
As regards the "your only gay/bi if you recieve" wheres the logic in that???

12 Nov 2007

No logic, just allows a guy to maintain that hes still macho and straight, even tho he has sucked more meat than a swedish porn star!!
and if I label myself bi curious, and have fun with a girl, until I am no longer curious....but then decide its not for me....does that mean i can go back to being straight??
OR..... if I kept on saying for years that I was still curious, despite playing with women on a regular basis....could that keep me from having to admit I was Bi sexual??? dunno

:dunno:
BTW i havent had fun with a girlie yet...so does that mean Im technically straight lol

:lol: :lol:

12 Nov 2007

I have in my profile that I am bi curious, I have played with once with a fem, so should my profile state that im bi dunno

, even tho im still figuring out if I really like it or not :dunno:. (dislaimer: this makes sense to me appoligies if it makes no sense to anyone else :lol2 smile

12 Nov 2007

Quote by lyns
I have in my profile that I am bi curious, I have played with once with a fem, so should my profile state that im bi , even tho im still figuring out if I really like it or not :dunno:. (dislaimer: this makes sense to me appoligies if it makes no sense to anyone else :lol2

Lyns, I played with a few guys before I came out of the closet: It's when you feel that saying it is the truth then you know what you are.
(Sorry if that sounds pompous, I think if I start writing more stuff like that I'll start writing the fortunes for fortune cookies lol

)

12 Nov 2007

oh for goodness sake... aren't labels so restrictive.?
if you like it up the bum whatever gender you are then you are somewhere on my list of people to have sex with. :twisted:
I just love sex with sexy people.... women, men, genderless, TV's, queer, TS's etc etc......I couldn't care less how they define themselves either.
I have had sex with 'straight' women. 'Gay' men... how they want to label themselves is fine by me.
To my friends on here I am bi(ish) more on the lesbian line... to my Real life friends I am queer or Gay.
to my colleagues I am just amusing. (or lesbian)
To my son I am bi/wierd/queer... or whatever suits him at the time.
To complete strangers, they assume, I am straight.
splendid

12 Nov 2007

Quote by byron
I have in my profile that I am bi curious, I have played with once with a fem, so should my profile state that im bi , even tho im still figuring out if I really like it or not :dunno:. (dislaimer: this makes sense to me appoligies if it makes no sense to anyone else :lol2

Lyns, I played with a few guys before I came out of the closet: It's when you feel that saying it is the truth then you know what you are.
(Sorry if that sounds pompous, I think if I start writing more stuff like that I'll start writing the fortunes for fortune cookies lol

)
I think I just need to have a few more goes at it to make up my mind :rascal: wink

12 Nov 2007

What Crap!
As a regular on the gay scene in Derbyshire i know loads of gay men who dont like anal and some that have been gay over ten years that wont let anything near there bum.
I also know straight guys who like fingers, or objects up their bum during sexual practice.
The person that said this, are they Uneducated?? or small minded?? Or just silly??
It's pretty much like saying ' shame you don't want to fuck me, i thought you were a swinger!' rolleyes

12 Nov 2007

Quote by naughtynymphos1
so she said cause straught men don't take anal and taking anal even from a female makes you bi

Jeeze the attitude of some folk !!!! I got me fingers burnt in another 'bi' debate in a recent forum. Labels shouldn't matter but to some they do. It's the restrictive definitions that some impose on those labels which are frustrating. Unfortunately some men think of thier 100 % str8 status as hallowed turf that shouldn't be sullied by anything remotley resembling gay/bi practices - In this particular instance what surprised me most was this opinion was voiced by the superior species ....woman biggrin

12 Nov 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
No logic, just allows a guy to maintain that hes still macho and straight, even tho he has sucked more meat than a swedish porn star!!

Bone xxx soooooooooooooooooooo funny - I'm avin that put on a tee shirt xxx

12 Nov 2007

strapon?

lp

12 Nov 2007

Quote by Pendulous007
I think that being sexually attracted to both same and opposites sexes makes a person BI. Sticking something into another same-sex persons orofices (SP?) doesn't necessarily make you bi.

Surely that's the definition? It doesn't matter what you do and who you do it to, the ultimate key is whether you are sexually and emotionally attracted to the same, opposite, or both sexes.

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
What Crap!
… i know loads of gay men who dont like anal and some that have been gay over ten years that wont let anything near there bum.
I also know straight guys who like fingers, or objects up their bum during sexual practice.

I agree, although normally guys are loathed to admitting they like anything anally because they think it makes them less of a man.
It's soooooooo tedious but ultimately I agree with splendid_ labels are a pain. Does it really matter? If you enjoy something and the people or person you're with is enjoying too, who cares? You're all enjoying it why restrict yourself with unnecessary labels?
By the way a man taking something anally doesn't make him gay and/or bi unless he really wants to be penetrated by another man, but this is further complicated by whether this is a sexual need or an emotional need.
So I think … if it feels good, then do it! biggrin

12 Nov 2007

Quote by splendid_
oh for goodness sake... aren't labels so restrictive.?
if you like it up the bum whatever gender you are then you are somewhere on my list of people to have sex with. :twisted:
I just love sex with sexy people.... women, men, genderless, TV's, queer, TS's etc etc......I couldn't care less how they define themselves either.
I have had sex with 'straight' women. 'Gay' men... how they want to label themselves is fine by me.
To my friends on here I am bi(ish) more on the lesbian line... to my Real life friends I am queer or Gay.
to my colleagues I am just amusing. (or lesbian)
To my son I am bi/wierd/queer... or whatever suits him at the time.
To complete strangers, they assume, I am straight.
splendid

You will always be odd to me
Stormy, who might enjoy a bit of finger fun with the odd woman…

12 Nov 2007

Quote by splendid_
if you like it up the bum whatever gender you are then you are somewhere on my list of people to have sex with. :twisted:

Fan-bloody-tastic! :thumbup:
Nola x

12 Nov 2007

I really do hate labels
Im just sexual lol

12 Nov 2007

i agree a man having something put into his arse by a women is not bi (unless he likes it of men aswel biggrin

)- its something i have never personally done but would like to try :twisted: at some point
labels - where's the bin

13 Nov 2007

Quote by Pendulous007
If I stick my knob in another blokes mouth/ass does that make me gay? You would think so wouldn't you?
I have straight male friends that maintain that "Your only gay if you take it" Despite finding that philosophy somewhat lacking in sophistication they kind of have a point.

if you only stick you knob in blokes mouths/asses then yes your gay if you also shag women then surely not??
as for your second point i fond that interesting, i have a male friend who counts himself as str8 cause he only shags pre op trannies, but to me if they pre op they still men?? men with boobs that look like women maybe but men all the same so how can that make you str8??

13 Nov 2007

What is the problem if you enjoy it and dont hurt anyone in the process why try to label it. Just have fun.

13 Nov 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
and if I label myself bi curious, and have fun with a girl, until I am no longer curious....but then decide its not for me....does that mean i can go back to being straight??

in my personal opinion yes, everyone has the rights to be curious and try new things, if you try same sex fun and have decided its not for you then i can't see how you can be bi, if you was bi you'd have enjoyed it wouldnt you?
I personally never know what to put now days regards sexuality, i was one of the odds women on here, i think most women try swinging to get to meet women, i started with women first and was sexually active with females for about 5 years before i had sex with a man, and thro the early years of my swinging i did use it as a means to meet women, now days meeting women really dont appeal to me at all not sure why dunno

i think my sexual needs have just changed and i havn't played with a woman for around a year :shock: i put str8 female on my profile as i had no interest in meeting women but then people who have known me a while commented on that as they had seen me with women in the past or even played with me themselves so i changed it to bi female but then you get couples asking to meet cause they after a bi fem confused

so what do you put? lol

13 Nov 2007

Quote by Chaotic_Spirit
It's pretty much like saying ' shame you don't want to fuck me, i thought you were a swinger!'

only the single guys say that ;)
bolt

13 Nov 2007

Quote by helnheaven
I really do hate labels
Im just sexual

:thumbup:
I totally agree, especially the second bit wink

13 Nov 2007

Quote by lyns
I have in my profile that I am bi curious, I have played with once with a fem, so should my profile state that im bi , even tho im still figuring out if I really like it or not :dunno:. (dislaimer: this makes sense to me appoligies if it makes no sense to anyone else :lol2

It makes sense hun.
You are what you want to be, but if you're still not sure then "curious" probably still applies.
biggrin

13 Nov 2007

Labels are so restrictive, but they'ye a handy barometer for figuring out what kind of chance you may have with someone :>
A liking for anal shennanigans doesn't make someone bi, though. I'm bi and I don't recieve anal from anyone ever as I have found that I do not like it - it's not a hang up, not a denial of the gay side of my sexuality (and for those who know me, it's not as if I make any effort whatsoever to deny or disguise my sexuality), it just has nothing to do with anything other than it hurts. But, if I did do it, and it was a female person doing the fucking, then that would not to me count as a bi experience. It might if I was sucking someones willy whist she was doing it, though :}

13 Nov 2007

Quote by gothicpunk
But, if I did do it, and it was a female person doing the fucking, then that would not to me count as a bi experience. It might if I was sucking someones willy whist she was doing it, though :}

Could we test run that? you know, just for research purposes? wink

13 Nov 2007

I remember snogging the face off a certain lady in this thread and after she said "you know i amn't bi" :shock:
I was horrified and wanted to curl up and die lol

She was only kidding as she put me out of my misery shortly afterwards.
Label or not, i thought i had got it wrong as i assumed that she was bi.
Right back to the male bi thing.
My male partner doesn't fancy guys in the slightest but he is bi. Just thought i would throw another spanner in the works!
I have played with many straight guys who love me playing with their ass and they certainly don't think they are gay or bi. they are open to new experiences and not ashamed to enjoy it.
G xx

13 Nov 2007

Quote by splendid_
But, if I did do it, and it was a female person doing the fucking, then that would not to me count as a bi experience. It might if I was sucking someones willy whist she was doing it, though :}

Could we test run that? you know, just for research purposes? wink

Well, I'm all for encouraging research and furthering the pursuit of knowledge...