body blues??

19 Sep 2007

When I think of the times I have spent worrying about the way I look I could slap myself. The worse thing about it is, I still do it! I know people come in all shapes and sizes with different bodies, scars etc but can I stop feeling self concious, can I heck. Reading some of the threads here really gives me some hope that one day I will put my fears aside get off my backside and actually get out there and meet someone.
Confidence is a great asset, just wish someone would bottle it and sell me a couple of pints

19 Sep 2007

I wouldn't say I was a confident person but I have learned to love my body with all its flaws..and if anyone else doesn't like it then ..meh!!
Took me a long time to get there though and for a long time i hated my physical self confused

19 Sep 2007

Quote by Missy
So where's Shaz's stretch marks?? round her mouth?? :shock:

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hehe nope, there on her belly, not real noticeable as there light like her skin pigmentation but they are there... makes no difference to me, each and every one of us are unique, if we was all perfect and without flaws then we would be a boring bunch of buggers!
Tony wink

19 Sep 2007

the only thing I hate about my body is the morning hard on ............its a bugger when your trying to go to the toilet....you have to be careful you don't piss in your face....... rolleyes

20 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover
i have stretch marks scars flabby bits droopy bits fatty bits think to a certain extent we all have but id much prefer to play with someone who has scars etc because it sorta shows they are real just like me and personally i aint into the flawless barbie doll look

You may be surprised to know that although there are some men who like 'eye candy', there are also those who like people for who they are, so scars, stretch marks, lumps and bumps are just part of that person.
There is nothing to worry about really! Real people look different that's what makes them interesting.
As an example Mathew Wright, The Wright Stuff, is quite open about his love of women with stretch marks because he sees it as a sign of femininity.
So there you go!
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yes i have to agree with you there theres an old saying somewhere that most men subconsciencly pick there women for long term relationships and having children with. will pick women with big hips etc think there is some t5ruth in it and of course some men just love having something to grab hold of lol

20 Sep 2007

Quote by markz
the only thing I hate about my body is the morning hard on ............its a bugger when your trying to go to the toilet....you have to be careful you don't piss in your face.......

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Love it!
A few times in the morning i have had to have 1 knee on the floor and the other up so i can lean over the loo to pee because it just refuses to go down lol

Tony

20 Sep 2007

Quote by dekntan
i have stretch marks scars flabby bits droopy bits fatty bits think to a certain extent we all have but id much prefer to play with someone who has scars etc because it sorta shows they are real just like me and personally i aint into the flawless barbie doll look

You may be surprised to know that although there are some men who like 'eye candy', there are also those who like people for who they are, so scars, stretch marks, lumps and bumps are just part of that person.
There is nothing to worry about really! Real people look different that's what makes them interesting.
As an example Mathew Wright, The Wright Stuff, is quite open about his love of women with stretch marks because he sees it as a sign of femininity.
So there you go!
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yes i have to agree with you there theres an old saying somewhere that most men subconsciencly pick there women for long term relationships and having children with. will pick women with big hips etc think there is some t5ruth in it and of course some men just love having something to grab hold of lol

Definitely!
Unfortunately, just as women are 'brainwashed' into believing there's only one desirable and perfect body type, men are also 'brainwashed' into thinking they should only fancy that particular type.
The true liberation is being able to see different shapes and sizes, with all their imperfections, as beautiful in their own right.
cool

20 Sep 2007

Quote by Jgee
Hi all, i'm quite to new to all this and wanted to ask a question to those in the know. I'm all curves, which I love, but I do have some horrible scars and stretch marks on my stomach after having my child. I feel compelled to tell potential partners...Am I being silly? Don't want to disappoint anyone? What do you think?

Hi Jgee
Splendid's link is a good one to read. I too have a few battle scars from various operations, I am told by a swinging partner they are a part of me and I have a stomach with personality! I wouldn't think twice of warning anyone, but then I am comfortable with them, they are an achievement to me for various reasons.

Quote by bbw_lover
The true liberation is being able to see different shapes and sizes, with all their imperfections, as beautiful in their own right.

Very true and beautifully put BBW.
pink x

20 Sep 2007

Quote by markz
the only thing I hate about my body is the morning hard on ............its a bugger when your trying to go to the toilet....you have to be careful you don't piss in your face.......

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: never had that problem myself but i no wen i wake dek up with a blow job takes him ages before he can go to the loo

20 Sep 2007

at the end of the day alot of women have stretchmarks and scars i no i have stretchmarks on the side of my boobs and under my arms loads on my tummy a few on top of my thighs and bum its a sign of being a women yes they can sometimes look unsightly but its only really the women who knows they are there who notices. for all the stretchmarks i have, a small 1 inch scar on the side of my face bothers me more

20 Sep 2007

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
the only thing I hate about my body is the morning hard on ............its a bugger when your trying to go to the toilet....you have to be careful you don't piss in your face.......

:laughabove: :laughabove:
Love it!
A few times in the morning i have had to have 1 knee on the floor and the other up so i can lean over the loo to pee because it just refuses to go down lol

Tony

brings a whole new meaning to the word "pisshead"..... :roll:

20 Sep 2007

Im very body/weight conscious and have a huge complext about my body. Takes me a long time to feel relaxed with anyone enough to let them see all the scars of life!!!
Is only women who feel this way or do men too??
xanaisx

23 Sep 2007

Quote by anais
Im very body/weight conscious and have a huge complext about my body. Takes me a long time to feel relaxed with anyone enough to let them see all the scars of life!!!
Is only women who feel this way or do men too??
xanaisx

If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?
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24 Sep 2007

Quote by keeno
Im very body/weight conscious and have a huge complext about my body. Takes me a long time to feel relaxed with anyone enough to let them see all the scars of life!!!
Is only women who feel this way or do men too??
xanaisx

If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?
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Ohhhhhh Keeno, what an oldie!!! lol

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