Depression!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

11 Sep 2007

:color: Im posting this as i need to know if its just me, i figure deep down that its not, yet would love to hear from ppl going through the same thing. (this is not also a way for me to get added mail to my profile as in essense im not meeting at the moment anyway. Here goes,,,,Whew this is hard to write about,yet at the moment im feeling pretty isolated and need to understand i guess that im not the only one. I suffer from major depression, not all the time yet when it comes it hits me like a tonne of bricks. It consumes everything,both my waking and sleeping hours. Desperation doesnt even touch on how this chemical imbalance effects me. My mother would say .........pull your socks up and get a grip, i dont wear socks only stockings lol

Sure the docs give me meds yet not even sure if they help. Before i depress the whole forum with my post ,i guess im posting this to see if im not the only one who is ill in this any out there have ways they could share to help me deal with my depression a little better? plz feel free to mail me directly if you wish to be anonermous. Hope know one minds me sharing this post ,i just need to know im not the only one here going through this. Much love and light to you all Merlleena. :rose:

11 Sep 2007

I'm pretty sure you're not the only person with depression. Go back to your GP; he knows your history better than anyone on here is likely to, so will be able to offer you the most appropriate advice. Ask him/her about support groups.

11 Sep 2007

Very sorry to hear about this, awesome.
The topic of depression has been discussed before in this forum, there are several people here with experiences which they have been willing to share, and some who have offered useful advice, e.g. here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/52941.html
I'll come back later.

11 Sep 2007

no your not the only one.
Im losing my home, everything in my life is coming to a big stop.I was supposed to move to a new place with someone but that has also fallen through.
I dont know what im going to do or where im going to not the only one.
trust me on that.

11 Sep 2007

I've been a victim of deep depression which took years to get over, with the help of my doctor.
I still suffer from chronic depression, but I'm now able to live a relatively normal life.
If you like a chat to find out more Awesomemistress, you can PM me.
There is light at the end of the tunnel
:therethere:

11 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover
I've been a victim of deep depression which took years to get over, with the help of my doctor.
I still suffer from chronic depression, but I'm now able to live a relatively normal life.
If you like a chat to find out more Awesomemistress, you can PM me.
There is light at the end of the tunnel
:therethere:

Thankyou for sharing, I would love to chat in confidence. Love and Light :rose:

11 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover
I've been a victim of deep depression which took years to get over, with the help of my doctor.
I still suffer from chronic depression, but I'm now able to live a relatively normal life.
If you like a chat to find out more Awesomemistress, you can PM me.
There is light at the end of the tunnel
:therethere:

snap, thats exactly like me, so if you would also like a womans point of view, please feel free to PM me also
TY, if you need a friendly ear to listen, you can pm me also.....i may understand more about your situation that you know hun.
(((hugs)))) for you ty and awesome xxx

11 Sep 2007

Quote by Awesomemistress
I've been a victim of deep depression which took years to get over, with the help of my doctor.
I still suffer from chronic depression, but I'm now able to live a relatively normal life.
If you like a chat to find out more Awesomemistress, you can PM me.
There is light at the end of the tunnel
:therethere:

Thankyou for sharing, I would love to chat in confidence. Love and Light :rose:
You can contact me any time hun. It helps to chat to someone who's been through it and understands first hand.
So don't be shy you can contact me.
:therethere: :therethere: :therethere:

11 Sep 2007

I had a serious bout of depression a few years back and was refered to a counsellor which was the best thing that could have happened.
She helped me deal with the baggage I was carrying from my childhood,and the nasty divorce my parents went through. She also taught me the importance of exercise to help manage any future episodes. It really works for me, and it doesn't have to cost anything, a good power walk can do wonders, or if you join an class or take up a sport you get the added extra of making new friends.
I hope you find a way to manage it :therethere:

11 Sep 2007

Desperation doesnt even touch on how this chemical imbalance effects me.
My mother would say .........pull your socks up and get a grip

wow! thanks for that mam! like, that's about as valuable as i really want to tell you right now mam? confused

it's sooooo great to know you understand the fruit of your loins soooo well mum? rolleyes

:? ;)

i dont wear socks only stockings

not been that brave yet. tend to do both, cos the stockings are after all only part time? :P ;)

Sure the docs give me meds yet not even sure if they help.

my most recent script made me infinitely worse, as they killed the emotions i needed to deal with. that is not to say meds don't work? if you're getting meds from your doc, you really need to make sure s/he's giving you the right meds for you. different meds have affected me differently at different times, depending where i was at?
if you think they ain't giving you the right meds, get another doctor? even better, tell them exactly why they are making you worse, and try something else? all they have to go on is what you tell them? ;)

Before i depress the whole forum with my post ,i guess im posting this to see if im not the only one who is ill in this way

as Mike says, there are many threads re: depression. as many depressives on here as there are in real life.

Do any out there have ways they could share to help me deal with my depression a little better?

not really. none ((( some? not all? :? ))) of us are qualified to give proper advice? advice i got on here made me better, and worse, in equal measure. evil

neil x x x ;)
p.s. i'm out of it now? i'm not the same person i was even 6 months ago? it does stop. it can get better.

11 Sep 2007

Hang on the the fact that is does pass . You won't feel this bad forever. It will come and go . Once you hit bottom theres only one direction left .
Trace x

12 Sep 2007

I come from a "depressive" family. My grandma regularly "took to her bed" when my mam was little with "episodes" they called them. Back then they presumed she was having a breakdown. Now of course, knowing the symptoms she had, she needed more help for depression. Because of being brought up in that environment, my mam became a depressive person also.
Is depression hereditary or is it just that a depressive atmosphere brings you down? dunno

Either way, after watching my mam in her depression and nursing her through two suicide attempts I vowed I would do my utmost to try and overcome the illness if I ever had it.
I've had "down" moments in my life, more anxiety than depression. I'm lucky and touch wood I've not had full blown depression. My heart goes out to anyone suffering who suffers as I know first hand the effects it has on people. sad

12 Sep 2007

Awesome :therethere: take that for the moment, and know that there are hundreds more like you here.
I'll come back to this when i'm not covered in orange marmalade.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by winchwench
Awesome :therethere: take that for the moment, and know that there are hundreds more like you here.
I'll come back to this when i'm not covered in orange marmalade.

Marmalade now theres a vision. XXXXX

12 Sep 2007

You need people whom are close to you to understand fully how you feel and that it's not just a case of the blues that day. Then they can be supportive and keep your own spirits high.
Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.
It will be hard on them though and they have to realise this from the outset that you may have real down days and they may feel tired or at the end of their teather but that they've got to be permanently positive for you to begin to feel positive again.
Hope this helps - there's no quick fix sorry, but give it a few months and am sure with everyones support and help you'll be feeling positive and alive again.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Jpsauce
Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!
Always seek a doctors advice and take what is offered whether that is counselling or medication. Some people need support from those that are not close to them. Admitting your problems to someone you don't know can be easier than admitting it to a close friend.
Never leave depression to get worse, sweeping it under the carprt is no the long term answer.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!

They do indeed. They relax you enough to help you cope with what is happening with yourself. The unfortunate thing is they don't take away what is causing the depression in the first place which is why I'm a firm believer in the cognitive therapy, the counselling and Dawnie's right, it's far better an unbiased chat with a professional.

12 Sep 2007

I also suffered from depression a few years back i knew the reason for my depression tho i dont really want to go into it on here, i think personally you have to know yourself why its happening, depression usually has a root problem and only you will know what that is, if you know the problem thats causing it your half way there, i would say go to your doctor and ask him to refure you to someone who can help you, tho medication may help you feel better its not a cure you need to talk to someone who can really help you thro it and the mixture of both will help you thro it smile

12 Sep 2007

PM sent - hope it helps.
Russell

12 Sep 2007

I agree with Dawnie, Jaymar and Naughtynymphos1, drugs definitely do work. I had a spell a few years back, and something did trigger it. The drugs helped calm me down and clear my mind and gave me the strength to get rid of the factor in my life which was affecting me so badly.
One divorce and a few years later I`m now fine and I know when I`m getting low nowadays to be able to look out for it so it doesnt get too bad.
You`re not alone Awesomemistress, dont put off going and getting some help whatever you feel is the right path to take whether it be drugs, CBT or friends and family support. There`s no shame in having to take anti depressants, more people than you realise take them. Your world doesnt have to be a grey, horrible place, get yourself some help and brighten things up.

12 Sep 2007

Quote by jaymar

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!

They do indeed. They relax you enough to help you cope with what is happening with yourself. The unfortunate thing is they don't take away what is causing the depression in the first place which is why I'm a firm believer in the cognitive therapy, the counselling and Dawnie's right, it's far better an unbiased chat with a professional.
Cognitive therapy yeah it rocks! and the drugs can be vital nearly worst case scenario's they keep people alive! Whilst other stuff works in the back ground like counselling and therapy sessions.
Years ago I was as sceptical as could be. Since studying cognitive therapy and psychology for a few years. Not a sceptic anymore.
Though i will say that counselling and psychology are the most wordy jargonistic subjects surely - Good sense in plain English whilst training would make life so much more easy to learn and understand it lol

There is help. Good professional help is worth it! Invest some energies if you can in seeking it out.

12 Sep 2007

Depression is an illness not just a state of mind. It is impossible to "pull yourself together" or "snap out of it".I also believe it is hereditary.I think we all feel a certain amount of despair in our lives at times.
Just wanted to add..dont ever stop ur drugs without checking with a doc... going cold turkey can have some nasty side effects. Things that affect brain chemistry need to be treated with care. Took me almost a year to wean off seroxat.

13 Sep 2007

I got diagnosed as being Bi-Polar a few years back. not knowing what it was i had a good look round and found out it is pretty much manic depression episodes, that come and go depending on variations in chemical balences in your brain....you feel fine and dandy, than BANG! you wake up feeling like your life is shit...why do you bother? no-one likes you and is it really worth getting your sorry ass out of bed. Its times like that that you withdraw from ppl and just want to be left alone with your misery...which is just when you shouldnt really be left alone. In my pre-diagnosed years, i quite often had suicidal thoughts whilst going through a deppressive bout. When i was finally diagnosed, there was a little bit of experimenting to find out which drug suited me best...and my dosage.
Now im glad to say that, although I dont feel any different from how I used to feel on my "positive" days, ppl who have known me for a few years have all said they can see a marked difference in my attitudes and behaviour.
I still get the odd "down" day, but hey, Im human and there are days when i really cant be bothered...but with the balance in my brain restored, i know that i am ok...so i just take a little "ME" time to unwind and think about whats made me down.
What this long winded ramble is trying to say awesome, is that, your not alone in your depression, and there is hope and light at the tunnels end....and i know how long that tunnel is to walk!
See the doc....speak to the ppl closest to you and explain as much as you are comfortable with, and you WILL get through this.
Take care hun, see you at the tunnels end
biggrin

13 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!
Awesome said it was major depression and it's really not wise to tell someone so ill to stay off the drugs. I agree with Dawnie, drugs do work, also someone can be too depressed that no other intervention will work to get them on a stable footing so they can use counselling, the support of loved ones etc. I'm speaking from experience, I've also had major depression some years ago and until I found the right drug I was suicidal, couldn't function/think/rationalise etc. Awesome, talk to your GP, if they don't help, ask for a referral to a psychiatrist. And no, you're not mad, just depressed - it gets to the best of us! If the meds aren't making any difference, the GP shouldbe increasing the dosage, if it still doesn't work they should try another type of AD.
Take care kiss

And Ty, my inbox now! lol

13 Sep 2007

Quote by hornyinslough

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!
Awesome said it was major depression and it's really not wise to tell someone so ill to stay off the drugs. I agree with Dawnie, drugs do work, also someone can be too depressed that no other intervention will work to get them on a stable footing so they can use counselling, the support of loved ones etc. I'm speaking from experience, I've also had major depression some years ago and until I found the right drug I was suicidal, couldn't function/think/rationalise etc. Awesome, talk to your GP, if they don't help, ask for a referral to a psychiatrist. And no, you're not mad, just depressed - it gets to the best of us! If the meds aren't making any difference, the GP shouldbe increasing the dosage, if it still doesn't work they should try another type of AD.
Take care kiss

And Ty, my inbox now! lol

Spot on hun!
When I had my major bout of depression my GP put me on drugs. It was the only thing that allowed me to function at the time. The idea that you can pull yourself out of it, is precisely what can't be done, even with the support of friends and relatives.
Most people don't understand the true condition of depression, as oppose to feeling meloncholic, where you lose all control and all sense of worth. It is an all consuming sensation that for me was the most frightening experience I've ever had.
Without the drugs I'd still be staring at the walls, and although I've been off them for some time now, I still get the occassional bouts but they're less frequent. The thing is it has taken me years to get to this state.
So no you can't just pull yourself together.
evil

13 Sep 2007

Quote by bbw_lover

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!
Awesome said it was major depression and it's really not wise to tell someone so ill to stay off the drugs. I agree with Dawnie, drugs do work, also someone can be too depressed that no other intervention will work to get them on a stable footing so they can use counselling, the support of loved ones etc. I'm speaking from experience, I've also had major depression some years ago and until I found the right drug I was suicidal, couldn't function/think/rationalise etc. Awesome, talk to your GP, if they don't help, ask for a referral to a psychiatrist. And no, you're not mad, just depressed - it gets to the best of us! If the meds aren't making any difference, the GP shouldbe increasing the dosage, if it still doesn't work they should try another type of AD.
Take care kiss

And Ty, my inbox now! lol

Spot on hun!
When I had my major bout of depression my GP put me on drugs. It was the only thing that allowed me to function at the time. The idea that you can pull yourself out of it, is precisely what can't be done, even with the support of friends and relatives.
Most people don't understand the true condition of depression, as oppose to feeling meloncholic, where you lose all control and all sense of worth. It is an all consuming sensation that for me was the most frightening experience I've ever had.
Without the drugs I'd still be staring at the walls, and although I've been off them for some time now, I still get the occassional bouts but they're less frequent. The thing is it has taken me years to get to this state.
So no you can't just pull yourself together.
evil

amen to that!!
I cant function without my daily dose of anti d's, without them, I am either a mad rage filled banshee, or I wouldnt be arsed to drag my miserable body out of bed, and be too frightened to answer the door or open mail, or use the phone.
My medication helps me to be fairly normal (ish) :lol:

13 Sep 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
I am either a mad rage filled banshee, or I wouldnt be arsed to drag my miserable body out of bed, and be too frightened to answer the door or open mail, or use the phone.
My medication helps me to be fairly normal (ish)

That's exactly how it gets you and no amount of rationalising, or pulling yourself together makes any difference.
I've often just sat on my own and just cried, for no apparent reason, and all I can do is wait for it to go away. It's very debilitating, and friends and relatives cannot begin to understand what to do about it.

13 Sep 2007

I came to this site through being depressed from a long and intense relationship that ended and thought - right this place will give me what I am looking for - wrong - it didnt. In some ways it actually masked the things I needed to sort out in my life - me.
I suffer from pms - no pain, just real mood swings and I dont hide that but only my family and friends undertsand that and as I have been like this since aged 14 and still manage to hold together a successful career, I am very good at hiding it. It took me years to admit I had a problem and I can tell you its not an easy one to live with.
You are an articulate, extremely attractive and by all accounts intelligent woman Awesomemistress, but depression does not choose any one type of person. Its real and it is a disabler if you let it take over you will never be the person you are capable of being and loving.
I actually feel that I have come to terms with the fact that its here to stay and I live with it and I control it most of the time but often I feel I have weights on my shoulders. Its funny the worse I feel the better I perform in work lol. The one important thing to me is that I have grown to love me with all my quirks and can hold my head high. That only happened in the last 3 years.
I dont think there is one way to deal with depression otherwise there wouldn't be so many books about it or psycotherapists.
I hope you feel on top soon Awesome. Onwards and upwards and remember your best friend is you.
Corrie xxxxx

13 Sep 2007

It strange how you think your alone, i put my post here cos i was desperate, i still am desperate and am crying most of the time at the mo. I really didnt think i would get any replys, yet the response has been wonderfull. Ive found friends and like minded ppl. The doc has changed my meds Watch this space to see if they work. I just want to say from my heart thankyou for the amazing support you have given been a loner all my life ,(not good at trusting ppl.) Since getting my pc ive found more friends than ever. not just virtual cos ive met most at socials ect. People that treat me like a decent human being that my father always said i wasnt. Without getting too soppy, thankyou for being my friends and being there for me. Much Love And Light To All. Merlleena. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

13 Sep 2007

Quote by Dawnie

Stay off the drugs - they never work sorry, you can only pull yourself out of depression but with the sustained helpa nd support of loved ones and those close to you.

I have to object to that comment, sorry. Drugs do work for many people or doctors wouldn't prescribe them!
Always seek a doctors advice and take what is offered whether that is counselling or medication. Some people need support from those that are not close to them. Admitting your problems to someone you don't know can be easier than admitting it to a close friend.
Never leave depression to get worse, sweeping it under the carprt is no the long term answer.
if you can get through depression with out having to take drugs then fair enough, but if the docs prescrib them, then take them.
if you have a problem with your kidneys. you will be prescribed drugs to counter act the chemical imballance, and depression is just an illness of the brain. so why shouldnt you be precribed drugs in the same way.
depression is always seen as the illness. and shy'd away from many, and an some think its an embarasment to admit to the inless. but if you have any other illness to the body, ie Kidney, liver, Lungs, you wouldn't be ashamed to admit it, and people would give you they worry and empathy.
your body will repair it self in good time, and you wil return to your old self, when its good and ready. but as said in the PM, i'm just a Short message away.