Hi guys,
i wondered what your thoughts are on this. Last night me and my husband played with another couple at a club. Everything seemed fine until the womans husband told me that his condom had split inside me and he came inside me. I was horrified. I know that this can happen, but i just had not thought of it happening to me for some reason. The damage was done and it was no-ones fault i know. Next morning i got the after-pill which cost me 25 pounds from the chemist( not cheap either). This has put me off swinging a bit to be honest. Not sure if i should go to the GUM clinic aswell? Has this happened to any of you? What would you have done differently? Do you think that this is a common thing to happen whilst swinging?
Thanks
Pheline
I would definately go to a GUM clinic too to put your mind at rest hun, and also to make sure that everythings ok before you begin to have sex with your hubby again.
Sorry that this has happened hun, not much I can say really, but hope all works out ok.
This has happened to us..
We know one couple who the fem has a Latex allergy.. (anyone who has played with those latex free condoms may know what i'm saying here)
They can and have split and yes its a worry. Part of all this is a risk no matter what precautions we take.. The fact the guy was using a condom to start with is a good indicator maybe that he uses regularly so I would not overly worry.. Maybe a check up at your local clinic.. (Free and annon) may just help your fears.
One of the main reasons we don't play in clubs is the very reason you stated.. We prefer to get to know people better, helps us justify our fears anyway.. Not judging just personal preferences!
No one ever said swinging was cheap...
Mike xx
Not sure wether its a common thing in swinging but condoms have been known to split.
I think you did the right thing in getting the 'morning after' pill and as Mrs B has sugggested get yourself checked out.
Just a thought, have you thought about using a female condom aswell, double protection?
accidents can and will happen at least you have done the best thing and yes get urself to a clinic just to be on the safe side
Tan x
It's worth a timely reminder too- don't forget that anything oily quickly destroys condoms.
How easy would it be to give someone a covered BJ, then go straight onto penetration......without realising that your lipstick has been destroying the condom:!:
i had a bit of a scare a while ago but i went to my doctors surgery and saw the nurse practisioner (cant spell)
i had phoned the GU clinic for advice but prefered to see the nurse
luckily i was ok and had no problems but best to get sorted out
My local GUM clinic is at the hospital. It's free, quick and anonymous!
I'd get checked out if I were you - just in case!
They`ll take swabs and also take a blood sample. They`ll test for chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, trichomonas and HIV and the results should all be back within 3 weeks. They also do an inspection for warts although I`m not sure how long they take to show up if your exposure has been very recent.
The GUM nurses are VERY understanding, they know all about the swinging scene and they dont judge can opt for different ways for them to let you know the results i.e. phone, text, make it very easy and are very discreet.
It`s best to be sure and get yourself checked.
as someone that does not insist on condoms i obviously have regular checks and there has never been a hint of anything wrong i think if you are with a couple thet are also aware of the risks and get checked also i am not saying dont get checked for your own peace of mind but dont be too overly worried
for the most part the advice is excellent on here, however one comment made my jaw drop.
all ill say is you can turn back the clock re pregnancies well done for wearing a condom in the first place.
i dont use birth control other than condoms dek has had the snip so there is definately no need with him if a condom split i would get the morning after pill
Get yourself checked out, if anything it'll put your mind at ease.
Luckily for me i don't have to worry about pregnancy scares due to having been sterilised after my last child.
However if i wasn't, i would be using some other form of birth control rather than just relying on condoms, i see a few here rely solely on condoms, sorry i couldn't, like this post as an example, condoms do and can split/fail, what would worry me is what if it wasn't noticed? or do you take a morning after pill every time you swing?
well on the packets of condoms, I have one in front of me just to make sure...It says that condoms are 98% effective with PERFECT use.... however the failure rate can be anywhere up to 15%
A female condom is actually slightly worse.... 95% effective with perfect use.... failure rate anywhere up to 20%
Diaphragms, caps, shields and sponges are all worse than that........
now are any of you guys surprised???.......
so back to the male condom..approx 1 in 50 you are going to have problems with regardless.. e.g Splitting.....
I have had it happen to me, so soon as I felt something was wrong (and yes you can feel when it has split) I stopped straight away.......
. And i think for the future will only use our own condoms, at least i know if they are latex free and how old they are, as they are supposed to get brittle if kept too long in hot conditons. Will go to clinic this week. I could have got the pill for free from my GP but to be honest, she knows us really well and i would have felt embarrased to tell her what has happened.
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It was an accident and as i said before i did not blame anyone. I do though really wonder if every woman who swings uses some form of birthcontrol to prevent pregnancy. A condom is a must for me to prevent sexual transmitted diseases of cause. My husband had the snip, therefore i am not worried about the risk of a unwanted pregnancy from him. I maybe naive so please help me along here 
does every woman engaging in the swinging scene use birthcontrol incase a condom spilts? Feel very naive now.
