Hi all.
During our first visit to a club last week we got talking to a couple who were telling us about some meets they had in the last few weeks and went on to say "we lower our standards when looking for people to swing with". Whilst we completely respect their choices and understand their reason for this but we don't agree with the comment. For us to have fun with a male, female or couple we need to find them almost as attractive as we would if we were looking to date them and this includes the same sort of personalities we like as well as physical appearance. What's everyone's opinion on this?
J & M
We don't lower our standards, but some people wether in clubs or through swinging sites who have contacted us, are punching well above their weight...these people seem to think that because we are swingers we will play with just about anyone, if it isn't going to happen in the vanilla world it sure isn't going to happen in the swinging world.
We have both lowered ours massively at one point or another. I suppose if your goal is a swap then there is always some compromise, and if you are out just for a simple shag then what difference do your standards make exactly?
If you are looking for soulmates then fine, if you are looking for short/long term swing partners then fine. If however you are simply looking to get your hole filled or to empty your balls then the whole standards thing is a load of rubbish.
Afterall driving a Mclaren F1 around the race circuit demands a whole different standard to smashing some old banger around the dirt track.
I wouldn't exactly say I look for different things in a swinging partner than someone I would consider seeing more long term. But I would want things in a long term partner that I would not necessary need in a swinger partner. For example, I would need a long term partner to be able to support me emotionally; pick me up when I'm down, and also tell me when I'm being a bit over the top. But I wouldn't need this in a swinging partner.
But like others have said, swinger, or long term partner, physical appearance is not the biggest factor. For me intelligence, creatively and an ability to use language well are a massive turn on. I have knocked back several 'hot' guys because they simply cant string a sentence together.
Would you look for a long term partner on a swinging site though?
A long-term swinging partner is different to a long-term partner surely.
My standards tend to be directly inversely proportional to how horny I am!! :twisted:
Anyone who wants meet me, has to lower themselves :sad:
Im only four foot, eleven and a half inches tall, so very low for most people :sad:
I've lowered my standards and also been above my league. Mostly with meets where I have relied on photos (ie. no cam session first). But I wouldn't change anything as all experiences are part of life.
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I think lowering your standards in this context is when you think/percieve you've shagged someone other people might raise an eyebrow to or say "you went there with him/her?!"
Your standards are always met (wherever that may be on the scale) if you're willing to shag someone, otherwise I don't think it would be a comfortable experience for you..