Does (body) size matter??

27 Jul 2006

Quote by Darkfire
Personally i think body size does matter to most people, being of a larger build myself i used the bbw chat room a lot and have found that most guys go in there cause they think its a easy shag room, cause somehow bigger women are desparate and will agree to meet easier, personally i think very few of them actually like bigger ladies its just a case of 'any holes a goal' i have come to the dessision for two reasons:
Firstly cause of the way the gusy attention turn when a slim woman goes in the bbw room and goes on cam, i have seen such comments as 'its about time we see a decent body in here' and 'wow lovely u really put the other women to shame' and these are from guys who go in the bbw room at least semi regular and claim to like bigger women when they after a shag!!
And secondly cause of the abuse you get if you do dare actually turn a guy down in there, i have had guys say thing like 'what your turning me down who the hell do you think you are?!!' and well your just a fat cow anyway i can do muc better than you' and i get such comments on a regular basis.
But i do find comfort in knowing that even tho i may be fat and ugly i wouldn't shag someone a didn't find attractive just for the sake of having a shag so make you wonder who the real desparate ones are

NN i feckin luv you I do kiss

tell it like it is Gal :thumbup:
What?? You basing yer judgements on the reactions of wank-merchants in the chatroom?? I cannot imagine two smart cookies doing that!! Tell me I'm wrong! There are some of us with a brain ya know!! smile

27 Jul 2006

Just my two penne'th worth.
I may be getting a bit deep here so feel free to kick me up the arse biggrin

I find all women attractive because they are the bearer's of life and alway's deserve our respect for that.

27 Jul 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i think body size does matter to most people, being of a larger build myself i used the bbw chat room a lot and have found that most guys go in there cause they think its a easy shag room, cause somehow bigger women are desparate and will agree to meet easier, personally i think very few of them actually like bigger ladies its just a case of 'any holes a goal' i have come to the dessision for two reasons:
Firstly cause of the way the gusy attention turn when a slim woman goes in the bbw room and goes on cam, i have seen such comments as 'its about time we see a decent body in here' and 'wow lovely u really put the other women to shame' and these are from guys who go in the bbw room at least semi regular and claim to like bigger women when they after a shag!!
And secondly cause of the abuse you get if you do dare actually turn a guy down in there, i have had guys say thing like 'what your turning me down who the hell do you think you are?!!' and well your just a fat cow anyway i can do muc better than you' and i get such comments on a regular basis.
But i do find comfort in knowing that even tho i may be fat and ugly i wouldn't shag someone a didn't find attractive just for the sake of having a shag so make you wonder who the real desparate ones are

I must apologise for being new here (hopefully I won't say anything to offend), but your experiences caught my eye.
In my opinion, those sort of comments that you received are truly awful - whoever said that to you obviously doesn't know how to treat a lady properly and doesn't care how others are feeling because they are too busy wrapped up in their own little worlds to notice. I am quite sure that you wouldn't be missing out on anything!
Quite honestly they don't deserve to meet anyone at all - they should instead step aside and let the more courteous and well-mannered chaps have a go and try to charm the lovely ladies in there kiss

27 Jul 2006

Quote by Missy
I have a problem with calling people "skinnies" in an almost insulting way. It's trying to create a complex, and as bad as calling people "fatties" in the same context. If a skinny person came into this thread and started on about 'fatties', then there would be hell to pay, more than likely resulting in a ban ....... after all, it ain't PC to insult the larger frame, the smaller frame, it seems to be a free for all

i've been watching this thread carefully as i think it brings up some interesting points...........at the end of the day i think we all have to agree that we all like different pysical attributes in a person .......whether its to do with weight, height, looks or personality.......
the reason i've quote missy is because (not only does she always talk sense) but because when i was younger i was very skiny (7st and 5'9 :? ) and reguarly had comments made towards me about being too skinny etc........i might add that the direct comments we're mostly made by females........an whilst i'm not claiming that i wasnt too thin.......the coments were often made in a malicious way......and in a way that made me feel self concious about my body.......
saying that i've now put on (quite a lot of) weight for me........and often feel overweight......and envy the women on here who are bbw and so confident with it when i'm sat here whinging cos i'm a few pounds over weight and feeling less confident for it......
i dont know if i'm making any sense here or if it adds anything to this thread..........but i guess i just saying that i'm jealous of larger women who are happy with their bodies as i know whilst i'm slim i probably never will be really happy with mine........
so good on everyone........whatever size who is happy with their body and loves to use it in the best way they can........ lol

27 Jul 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
And secondly cause of the abuse you get if you do dare actually turn a guy down in there, i have had guys say thing like 'what your turning me down who the hell do you think you are?!!' and well your just a fat cow anyway...

and the reply being " but let's not forget who is the sad loser who got turned down by the desperate fat cow? hhmmm?"
Does size matter to me ... yes.
Being a big-bird (and I don't mean covered in yellow feathers) I like the middle range in male frames. It is more practicality than anything else... too big in the barrel and there goes a number of my favourite positions - too thin and I will fear snapping the fecker in half (or have trouble keeping him on the bed once the tempo picks up).
Would I like to be a smaller size myself - yes. Again for practical reasons... buying naughty undies wouldn't mean scouring ebay and other internet haunts.
Does my size worry me when it comes to swinging - feck no! If I had any doubts... 20 minutes at the club would soon dispel them... especially in pvc wink

27 Jul 2006

Quote by essex34m
there is a lorraine kelly appreciation society, i havent seen one for victoria beckham......

Lorraine Kelly? Now theres a woman, right up there with Ferne Britton

27 Jul 2006

Body size does not matter to me, although I know it does to some. To be honest I prefer someone with a bit of weight rather than very slim.
I find attractiveness in all types of people though, as I always go for personality first - the looks come second.

27 Jul 2006

Body size does not matter to me, although I know it does to some. To be honest I prefer someone with a bit of weight rather than very slim.
I find attractiveness in all types of people though, as I always go for personality first - the looks come a way down the list.

27 Jul 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
It's a well known fact that men prefer the more ample figure as the ladies in question tend to have more confidence and are comfortable with their own sexuality and attractiveness. A recent poll showed that ladies like 'Big Butt' Beyonce, Charlotte Church, Colleen Whatsherface et al came out with lots more votes than stick insects such as Victoria 'I need another lettuce leaf' Beckham and Keira Knightley.

There's a difference between being young and chubby a bit, and being fifty-something Mr. or Mrs. Burger-King. When you're young it all hangs together rather nicely, and the more there is the more fun there is, it's only later that, if not held in check, early tendencies can lead to trousers being ordered from the Bell Tent Company. It's better to fight the battle early and keep in your trim, try not to be what your body isn't naturally, try not to let being "big boned" become and excuse for unrestrained indulgence.
I saw a lady once, in Washington Airport, pulling herself up the stairs, she was perhaps 25 or 30 and where they found the uniform trousers God only knows.
I'm no slim dago with 9" hips, I am perhaps a stone and a half overweight, but I know when the waistline gets beyond a joke and I deal with it. I just like to keep within "normal" boundaries. I'd LIKE to be slim but for my health I don't want to be fat. And fat IS NOT the same as being generously proportioned. Fat is fat!

28 Jul 2006

Quote by westerross
i used the bbw chat room a lot and have found that most guys go in there cause they think its a easy shag room, cause somehow bigger women are desparate and will agree to meet easier, personally i think very few of them actually like bigger ladies its just a case of 'any holes a goal' ...
i wouldn't shag someone a didn't find attractive just for the sake of having a shag so make you wonder who the real desparate ones are

NN i feckin luv you I do kiss

tell it like it is Gal :thumbup:
What?? You basing yer judgements on the reactions of wank-merchants in the chatroom?? I cannot imagine two smart cookies doing that!! Tell me I'm wrong! There are some of us with a brain ya know!! smile

Its not justwank merchants in the chatroom Choon, and unfortunately it is my oppinion that *some* BBWs are easy targets for the every holes a goal club - because like everyone else, perhaps more so because of self-image and self-esteem issues, there is an innate need to feeldesirable, sexy, confident and wanted. I've seen it so many times it makes me sick.

28 Jul 2006

Personally it doesn't matter to me and I know it doesn't matter to a lot of other people. Sure you have to be initially attracted to someone but it's more about personallity and if you get on or not. As long as you are comfortable within yourself and can enjoy yourself for who you are then others will feel the same.
I do admit that I do have my moments to a particular size when I am deep within my thoughts :wanker:

29 Jul 2006

Quote by musketeer
Mr. or Mrs. Burger-Kinig

Quote by musketeer
can lead to trousers being ordered from the Bell Tent Company.

See they are just th kind of comment that i am talking about, why does being over weight mean you sit all day in burger king stuffing your face?
why does it mean you have to order you clothes from a tent shop?
i find such comment very imature from a man of your age and when i looked at your profile i expect it to be one of a young guy!!

Quote by musketeer
I'd LIKE to be slim but for my health I don't want to be fat. And fat IS NOT the same as being generously proportioned. Fat is fat!

oh but this leads us to the question of what is fat?
fat in whos eyes or opinion?
what you may call fat other may not confused

some guys may look at a size 14 and think shes fat while other may look at a size 16/18 and think shes not, i think this is one of the subjects where you could argue all day on the pros and cons at the end of the day so long as your happy sod everyone else people either take you for who you are or look the other way.
As for the health issue, i'm over weight i run around after 3 kids, have a very pysically demanding full time job and a husband whos health is not 100% at the moment and i very much consider myself fit and healthy being over weight does not mean your ready for the knackers yeard you know wink

29 Jul 2006

Quote by Darkfire
i used the bbw chat room a lot and have found that most guys go in there cause they think its a easy shag room, cause somehow bigger women are desparate and will agree to meet easier, personally i think very few of them actually like bigger ladies its just a case of 'any holes a goal' ...
i wouldn't shag someone a didn't find attractive just for the sake of having a shag so make you wonder who the real desparate ones are

NN i feckin luv you I do kiss

tell it like it is Gal :thumbup:
What?? You basing yer judgements on the reactions of wank-merchants in the chatroom?? I cannot imagine two smart cookies doing that!! Tell me I'm wrong! There are some of us with a brain ya know!! smile

Its not justwank merchants in the chatroom Choon, and unfortunately it is my oppinion that *some* BBWs are easy targets for the every holes a goal club - because like everyone else, perhaps more so because of self-image and self-esteem issues, there is an innate need to feeldesirable, sexy, confident and wanted. I've seen it so many times it makes me sick.
:thumbup:
Personally i think you will find that BBWs on here will be harder to meet than other woman for the simple fact that they know most guys see them as a easy lay and do not what to meet the 'any holes a goal' type man so i think you'll find that many are very cautious of who they meet.
I know for a fact that i am far from a easy lay when it comes to meeting people off here, mainly cause i still have my likes and dislikes and no matter what you think of me if i don't fancy you its not going to happen lol

but also for the other reasons i will not meet just for the sack of having a shag and i will not let you meet me for the same reasons if i do not feel someone likes me for who i am then i will not meet, i never have been or doubt i ever will be that desparate for sex :wink:

29 Jul 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Mr. or Mrs. Burger-Kinig

Quote by musketeer
can lead to trousers being ordered from the Bell Tent Company.

See they are just th kind of comment that i am talking about, why does being over weight mean you sit all day in burger king stuffing your face?
why does it mean you have to order you clothes from a tent shop?
i find such comment very imature from a man of your age and when i looked at your profile i expect it to be one of a young guy!!

Quote by musketeer
I'd LIKE to be slim but for my health I don't want to be fat. And fat IS NOT the same as being generously proportioned. Fat is fat!

oh but this leads us to the question of what is fat?
fat in whos eyes or opinion?
what you may call fat other may not confused

some guys may look at a size 14 and think shes fat while other may look at a size 16/18 and think shes not, i think this is one of the subjects where you could argue all day on the pros and cons at the end of the day so long as your happy sod everyone else people either take you for who you are or look the other way.
As for the health issue, i'm over weight i run around after 3 kids, have a very pysically demanding full time job and a husband whos health is not 100% at the moment and i very much consider myself fit and healthy being over weight does not mean your ready for the knackers yeard you know wink

Oh well said NN, everything I was thinking and more.
I dont you, but already luvs ya!!! lol

29 Jul 2006

NN your last two posts above are bloody excellent kiss

29 Jul 2006

Yes size maters, just like personality, charm, interests and so onâ€¦ it is al part of a package.
I recon that most people who are in to large people are not in to slim people and vice versa. Obviously there are people who have no specifications, but I recon they are in the minority. Note that I have no statistics or any hard facts to support this claim... it's just an opinion.
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large. Lac of self-confidence can actually make you ugly.
As a final note, at the end of the day it is personality thatâ€™s the most important attribute.

29 Jul 2006

Quote by bsubverted
Yes size maters, just like personality, charm, interests and so onâ€¦ it is al part of a package.
I recon that most people who are in to large people are not in to slim people and vice versa. Obviously there are people who have no specifications, but I recon they are in the minority. Note that I have no statistics or any hard facts to support this claim... it's just an opinion.
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large. Lac of self-confidence can actually make you ugly.
<quote>As a final note, at the end of the day it is personality thatâ€™s the most important attribute.

Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large. Lac of self-confidence can actually make you ugly.
Well in that case Id better get a bag over mi head.....and quick!!!! : confused

29 Jul 2006

Quote by helnheaven
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:

29 Jul 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:
As someone with little or no confidence, according to that post, I must look like Ive being beaten several times over with the ugly stick! :cry:
Bag now over head and tied securely

29 Jul 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:
yep. agree.
as long as you feel confident expressing yourself sexually whichever way you desire whatever size you may be, that is all that matters.
i am much more confident sexually than i was when i was much thinner many moons ago but you kow i stil have my moments, not quite as bad as shagging in the dark through a hole in the sheet but you know sometimes i do require soft lighting.
i also know mates who have stonking bodies but don't think it. Mind you i know some right munters who thaink they are gorgeous too.....
confused

sorry

29 Jul 2006

NN i couldnt have put it all better,
i along with you have been in the bbw room and when the cam is on sometimes get the " fem your beautiful what you doing in this room" what exactly that meens i dont know???
same as when i tell a guy im chatting to if were considering meeting that im far from slim etc , they say ive seen ya pics dont put yourself down!!!!! hello i wasnt i was just saying what i look like, im not offended if im not someones type but im not putting myself down.
if the guys are in the bbw room does that not meen they like bbw? therefore why would they say i shouldnt be in there? i am bbw im not ashamed to say that along with the fact im blonde etc .
but to go into the bbw room and for people to say that then surely they are saying bbw are un sexy?
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????
like i said NN said it so much better.

29 Jul 2006

Quote by fem_4_taboo
NN i couldnt have put it all better,
i along with you have been in the bbw room and when the cam is on sometimes get the " fem your beautiful what you doing in this room" what exactly that meens i dont know???
same as when i tell a guy im chatting to if were considering meeting that im far from slim etc , they say ive seen ya pics dont put yourself down!!!!! hello i wasnt i was just saying what i look like, im not offended if im not someones type but im not putting myself down.
if the guys are in the bbw room does that not meen they like bbw? therefore why would they say i shouldnt be in there? i am bbw im not ashamed to say that along with the fact im blonde etc .
but to go into the bbw room and for people to say that then surely they are saying bbw are un sexy?
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????
like i said NN said it so much better.

i think youve both said it fantastically, i can empathise with and understand both of you kiss

29 Jul 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
NN i couldnt have put it all better,
i along with you have been in the bbw room and when the cam is on sometimes get the " fem your beautiful what you doing in this room" what exactly that meens i dont know???
same as when i tell a guy im chatting to if were considering meeting that im far from slim etc , they say ive seen ya pics dont put yourself down!!!!! hello i wasnt i was just saying what i look like, im not offended if im not someones type but im not putting myself down.
if the guys are in the bbw room does that not meen they like bbw? therefore why would they say i shouldnt be in there? i am bbw im not ashamed to say that along with the fact im blonde etc .
but to go into the bbw room and for people to say that then surely they are saying bbw are un sexy?
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????
like i said NN said it so much better.

i think youve both said it fantastically, i can empathise with and understand both of you kiss

:thumbup:
Stormwalker a BUB!

29 Jul 2006

Quote by fem_4_taboo
NN i couldnt have put it all better,
i along with you have been in the bbw room and when the cam is on sometimes get the " fem your beautiful what you doing in this room" what exactly that meens i dont know???
same as when i tell a guy im chatting to if were considering meeting that im far from slim etc , they say ive seen ya pics dont put yourself down!!!!! hello i wasnt i was just saying what i look like, im not offended if im not someones type but im not putting myself down.
if the guys are in the bbw room does that not meen they like bbw? therefore why would they say i shouldnt be in there? i am bbw im not ashamed to say that along with the fact im blonde etc .
but to go into the bbw room and for people to say that then surely they are saying bbw are un sexy?
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????
like i said NN said it so much better.

PMSL
I know what you mean i have many time been told i shouldn't be 'hiding' in the BBW room and thats i'm not even fat, why do men think the way to pull a bbw is to tell them they not fat lol

And i have also been told 'not to put myself down' when i have told told guys i am fat, i think like you fem, telling someone i'm of a larger build is not putting myself down its being honest, i am big so why would i say other wise?
On that note i was just wondering something......fancy a shag fem :lol2:

29 Jul 2006

Quote by helnheaven
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:
As someone with little or no confidence, according to that post, I must look like Ive being beaten several times over with the ugly stick! :cry:
Bag now over head and tied securely
No way! What I was :thumbup: to was the fact that somebody could be so not my usual 'type' but something about their character of confidence really turns you on. Arrogance is a massive turn-off IMHO.
Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
kiss

29 Jul 2006

Only if yer tom thumb lol

29 Jul 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
Somebody mentioned confidenceâ€¦ and yes I think that is a very important factor no mater if you are thin or large.

:thumbup:
As someone with little or no confidence, according to that post, I must look like Ive being beaten several times over with the ugly stick! :cry:
Bag now over head and tied securely
No way! What I was :thumbup: to was the fact that somebody could be so not my usual 'type' but something about their character of confidence really turns you on. Arrogance is a massive turn-off IMHO.:
Kiss_Me.....I was referring to bsubverted's post where he said about a lack of confidence could actually make a person ugly, not your post.
There is a slight misunderstanding I think. Please bear with me Im sorta newish to posting and havent quite got the hang of quoting yet sorry if I misled you with my other post x
Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
:kiss

29 Jul 2006

Doh......see ive done it again!! redface

29 Jul 2006

Quote by naughtynymphos1
NN i couldnt have put it all better,
i along with you have been in the bbw room and when the cam is on sometimes get the " fem your beautiful what you doing in this room" what exactly that meens i dont know???
same as when i tell a guy im chatting to if were considering meeting that im far from slim etc , they say ive seen ya pics dont put yourself down!!!!! hello i wasnt i was just saying what i look like, im not offended if im not someones type but im not putting myself down.
if the guys are in the bbw room does that not meen they like bbw? therefore why would they say i shouldnt be in there? i am bbw im not ashamed to say that along with the fact im blonde etc .
but to go into the bbw room and for people to say that then surely they are saying bbw are un sexy?
also im fed up with being told i have no place in the bbw room unless you are over a size 22 or something. im actually bi so can i not be in there as a admiror of bbw in my own right????
like i said NN said it so much better.

PMSL
I know what you mean i have many time been told i shouldn't be 'hiding' in the BBW room and thats i'm not even fat, why do men think the way to pull a bbw is to tell them they not fat lol

And i have also been told 'not to put myself down' when i have told told guys i am fat, i think like you fem, telling someone i'm of a larger build is not putting myself down its being honest, i am big so why would i say other wise?
On that note i was just wondering something......fancy a shag fem :lol2:
blimming heck NN thought youd never ask, yeahay and they say stalikng doesnt pay off lol
xxxx lou xxx

29 Jul 2006

Quote by helnheaven
Confidence comes in lots of different forms. It can be subtle and also something that only comes accross when you know somebody well. You don;t have to be the life and soul of the party to be comfortable in your own skin.
:helnheaven

a good point...
Something to consider: Extraverts are often mistaken for having confidence because of their outward nature... however that is not necessarily a sign of confidence...
oh and I donâ€™t think that everyone is confident 24/7... I think a confident person is someone who constantly fights to rise above self doubt... and wins more often the not