we were stunned to see in a group the other night a thread " saying are there any real swingers in here",well we are cany new to the scene still newbies but have met quiete a few couples and bifems had some fun and really enjoyed our a few people replied saying there ,i replied to his question ,any way next we get a reply saying soft swingers are not really swingers,real swingers go all the way"eh whats all that about"next one up was , soft swingers= "s it the man who wont let the fem go all the way because he is insecure" ,when i replied to that all i got was "i have been in the game 18 months a concideral amount of time more than you " ok fine thats twice as long as us, no probs there,but we dont go out clubs or meets every week , as every body else we have life to get on with ie-- kids family, his attitude was really just turning a debate in to arguments any thing i said , to cut a long story short it was ,if ya dont go full swing you are not a full swinger. scanning around the adds i have seen loads of people who have adds saying full swop but soft is fine, we are a couple who has a really gsoh specially me the male who our lass says i am nuts lol,but have been to a munch n/e ,and a teeside meet ,yes we were a little quiet ,we were still feeling our way into the scene knowing what we wanted( which started as talking about it as we were having fun) then talked more thinking shall we try it ,booked up for a well known b/b swing hotel drove down shitting all the way lol ,and had a really great time which had us buzzing for with couples and bi fems who knew our bouderys ,if we are to go further in the scene we think thats up to us and us only , so just wana get peeps views full /soft whats the big devide
I don't think it has anything to do with how long you have been on the scene or how hardened a swinger you are, it is all a matter of preference in the end. Nothing is wrong, as long as everyone is agreed and enjoys themselves.
Some people would never go any further than soft swap, others will go 'all the way' and have gang bangs, orgies and the like, it just depends on what you like to do.
Swinging is swinging no matter how far you go.....it's all about how far you respect other peoples boundaries........just cause one person says we go all the way doesn't make them full swingers thats stupid would that make people who only soft swap "half swingers".......its all about sharing with other people no matter what you do.
northeastcoupleuk hard to believe whoever wrote what you quote is representative of the big posters on this site. you've every right to feel :crazy:
swinging is as swinging does! :rascal:
Full Swing / Soft Swing really makes no difference to whether you are a swinger or not. Everyone has their own boundaries, a lot of fun can be had with activities that would be defined as "Soft swing". Also even if you are a swinger who is happy with Full Swap that does not mean you want that in every situation or with everyone you meet.
The main thing is to be sure of your own boundaries and the boundaries of everyone else involved and be up front about your expectations of any meeting.
Roger the Dragon.
i got to agree with everyone else honey, the degree of swing is up to the individual's concerned, there aint no laid down rules and regulations... just a tender kiss with another guy and with hubby's permission can be swing, if hubby's getting his rocks on over it, same for the wife seeing hubby snogg some bird with wet pants over it... you don't have to roar about naked shagging like bunnies with any guy or gal in the room to be a swinger... and take this from a gal who's been at it for 24 years honey, i should bloody know by now what's what.
i think this guy or whatever who wrote you is a freekin chancer, probably never shagged anything but his hand in his life.
I agree with most of the other posts, have been in situations were nothing more happens than a imitate kiss & cuddle to a full blown orgy,everyone has there own ideas and limits and rightly so,what works one time might not work or be wanted the next time even with the same people.
We could always have 2 groups; one for soft swingers and one for hard swingers, and then hopefully everybody would know wear everybody stood
I think
But shorly there are those that are in the mood to flirt and those that are in the mood to shag, ever one has difnant mood swings, of course the company we keep makes a big difference
And of course with out further a dowt; there are those with the only intension to tease, as Kristof said ….. Ignore the buggers, they soon give up when nobody want to play any more
no the post was not are there any reals swingers in here the post was are there any real full swingers in here ie real meaning not single men posing to be a couple full meaning full swap and swingers well if u dont know what that means u shouldent be here what u failed to do is read the add corectly it was replied to by 4 cples who understood it and 3 replies in responce to u and 2 replies from other couples staing they saw nothing wrong with it the thread was removed from your group wen it was plain to see u had overreacted and misread what was posted
well i do not beleve u have taken this thread from where it was made in your group on msn ( yes it was us that made the thread ) it was not in any way worded as u have put it on here and we did not at any point condem soft swingers we did try to poin this out to u in the third post i ( the mrs nolonger wanted part in the following debate as she just laughed and quote " ffs cant he read what we have put ?"made after being assaulted over the forum i asked why it was that u considered ureslf a soft swinger ??? u do have sex with a fem but ur wife dosnt with the m ( that is entirley ur choice and not for one minite are we critisising this ) and yes we did ask why this was ( reasonable question we assumed ) yes we did say was it because the m was insecure or if the fem just didnt want to ( i see u missed half of my quote ) we dont go out to clubs every week ( although at times we have ) yes we do go dogging occasionaly and dont defend it thats our right to do if we wish ( i wish ud have posted that somwere we could have saved ur comments about it ) and as for the part about full swinger well if u dont full swing ur not a full swinger this dosent mean u dont belong in the swinging comunity if ur just a soft swinger we have posted similar add on here and never ever receved such a comment as u did to us we dont wish for this to become another argument for u to continually misinterptit what we advertised for and what was said in no way did ither of us condem or judge u as soft swingers we even wrote an appology if u interprited it this way to with we got another post slagging us off yet again nither of us appreciate u publicly adressing us by our real names on ur forun ( we have this saved if anyone wishes to see all of the forum posts dispite it being removed for your group )or misinforming pple of what was actually written by ither of us . but what we actually would like is of ru to carry on enjouying ur swinging however it may be and were glad to hre u have found ur place in the scene in the scene
Am wondering what kind of Swinger you are if you nod off whilst the rest of the room turns into a suck and fuck fest?
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obviously i'm well off the mark? ;)
Lo Lorrilove you made it then, I told you you'd soon find something of interest here didn't I, welcome sweet lady. I see you've almost got your tits out already :twisted:
Who can at least hold an articulate conversation, don't run around judging others, love this site, love a lot of the people on it, and adore going to munches...
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