i was sat thinking that ive only ever been out on a few "dates" in my lifetime. Ive met people while out and kinda fallen into a loose relationship or met via swinging.
this got me to thinking has being a gentleman disapeared ??
im a independent woman and i am happy to pay my way, thats not what im talking about but.. let me define what i mean here using the word gentleman...
they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc.
so men, is it that when you meet a woman via swinging you feel they dont deserve the curtosey of having a door opened, or that you think they would be offended if you did this?
do you act differently when socially meeting re swinging than if you were on a date?
women, is it just the guys im meeting or am i being old fashioned expecting this?
would you be offended if a man opened a door for you?
and slight side track , but am i the only one to feel moloncholy about the days when men wore shirts and ties and aftershave? i go out these days and no one seems to dress up to go out anymore?
maybe im just getting old
xx fem xx
sorry for the spelling mistakes
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As regards dressing to go out .......Jeans have got a lot to answer for.
Regarding gentlemanly conduct. I think men think about such courtesy less nowadays. I know I do. When i think about it I like to do these things such as opening doors and the chair thingy. if i'm honest, the door thing I sort of do for most people man or woman child or dog. The chair thingy
oops: not often i admit. Shame really i don't know why but i do think its a loss. Social politeness feels like it was once natural but now something that has to be thought of.
Regarding gentlemanly conduct. I think men think about such courtesy less nowadays. I know I do. When i think about it I like to do these things such as opening doors and the chair thingy. if i'm honest, the door thing I sort of do for most people man or woman child or dog. The chair thingy
oops: not often i admit. Shame really i don't know why but i do think its a loss. Social politeness feels like it was once natural but now something that has to be thought of. Quote by fem_4_taboo
they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc.
so men, is it that when you meet a woman via swinging you feel they dont deserve the curtosey of having a door opened, or that you think they would be offended if you did this? do you act differently when socially meeting re swinging than if you were on a date?
If you were meeting me, you'd get all of that. I'd be paying you compliments relentlessly all night, I'd lend you my umbrella if we were outside in the rain, and I can dance. Ballroom, salsa, and my own special brand of slick moves.
That said, by the time I've travelled to Cornwall I'd probably be smelling a bit ripe.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
is it just the guys im meeting
Yes :-p
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And I'd always want to make sure the lady got home safely, unless she was really determined to go her own way.
It depends what circles you move in. It still goes on, but it needs both the gentleman and the lady who knows how to reciprocate the behaviour.
If a guy puts himself out and is rewarded with a 'okay, but I didn't ask you to do that!'. He is often put off being a gent.
So for the game to work both sides need to do the right thing in the protocol. Its nice to see it done well, but dissapointing if it is not.
If a guy puts himself out and is rewarded with a 'okay, but I didn't ask you to do that!'. He is often put off being a gent.
So for the game to work both sides need to do the right thing in the protocol. Its nice to see it done well, but dissapointing if it is not.
Sex God
i like a jentleman to do jentlemanly things (not on about paying) but dont find so many about
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Quote by flower411
I`ll always turn up clean, I`ll almost certainly NOT be dressed as you might expect :shock:
Thats sounds interesting
Go on then, give us a clue
Sex God
Quote by benrums0n
Manners are evrything and cost nothing.
Christ how many time during cunnilingus have i swallowed that little ball of tissue to save hurt feelings.
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Warming the Bed
I do it once in a while, not everytime I must say.
maybe I should try and do it more often
maybe I should try and do it more often
Sex God
Quote by Elephanthome
I do it once in a while, not everytime I must say.
maybe I should try and do it more often
Whats that then? you swallow little balls of tissue??
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Quote by Missy
Manners are evrything and cost nothing.
Christ how many time during cunnilingus have i swallowed that little ball of tissue to save hurt feelings.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:omg!! :rotflmao: no no no no no no
Missy - suddenly a born again Izal girl
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Sex God
Quote by flower411
.... and boots
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I dont know about others but i belive that manners maketh the man!
and i love to pay anybody that is willing to spend time in my company the respect they deserve this meens I pen doors pull out seats and take the weight on my elbows
as for the way i smell thats to do with personal respect and hygine!
anyone who doesnt care about theirs aint geting anywhere near me!!!
and I'M sure that most othrs feel the same way its such a quick andeasy way to decide if you want to go futher ! if they smell bad NO WAY!!!!!!
so dont decry the loss of manners and ladies/gentlemen use it as a quick and easy filter!!!!!
and i love to pay anybody that is willing to spend time in my company the respect they deserve this meens I pen doors pull out seats and take the weight on my elbows
as for the way i smell thats to do with personal respect and hygine!
anyone who doesnt care about theirs aint geting anywhere near me!!!
and I'M sure that most othrs feel the same way its such a quick andeasy way to decide if you want to go futher ! if they smell bad NO WAY!!!!!!
so dont decry the loss of manners and ladies/gentlemen use it as a quick and easy filter!!!!!
First time I took mrs f out ...the owner of the "gastro pub" was making out he was me best friend cos i`d mentioned a wine that he didn`t have should be served with the fois gras that he did have!!
To me ...that`s stuff that only a gentleman or a cad can carry off !!
Or somebody that watches too much TV!
Sex God
Quote by fem_4_taboo
i was sat thinking that ive only ever been out on a few "dates" in my lifetime. Ive met people while out and kinda fallen into a loose relationship or met via swinging.
this got me to thinking has being a gentleman disapeared ??
im a independent woman and i am happy to pay my way, thats not what im talking about but.. let me define what i mean here using the word gentleman...
they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc.
so men, is it that when you meet a woman via swinging you feel they dont deserve the curtosey of having a door opened, or that you think they would be offended if you did this?
do you act differently when socially meeting re swinging than if you were on a date?
women, is it just the guys im meeting or am i being old fashioned expecting this?
would you be offended if a man opened a door for you?
and slight side track , but am i the only one to feel moloncholy about the days when men wore shirts and ties and aftershave? i go out these days and no one seems to dress up to go out anymore?
maybe im just getting old
xx fem xx
sorry for the spelling mistakes
I agree with all the above.
As for me well I tend towards being very gentlemanly, in an old fashioned way, it's just the way I am. The downside however is that I have had a mouthfull from women who accuse me of being chauvinist, and want to be 'their own woman'. This now makes be a little cautious, but I still believe in the old fashioned manners.
ops: :oops: Compliments & holding doors open seem natural to me although some may find this odd: I'm not a doormat.
The last time I wore a suit to go out socially I was ridiculed (by a woman) for being uptight; I wore it because I felt good in it & told her so.
Times and behaviours have changed but I prefer to act courteously so that I am treated couteously in social and swinging situations.
The last time I wore a suit to go out socially I was ridiculed (by a woman) for being uptight; I wore it because I felt good in it & told her so.
Times and behaviours have changed but I prefer to act courteously so that I am treated couteously in social and swinging situations.
Mod
I try to have manners at all times. Remember once that I got a bollocking for telling someone to walk on the road to make me look taller tho
Didn't work tho cos the pavement wasn't that high
Didn't work tho cos the pavement wasn't that high
Sex God
Quote by Sgt Bilko
I love pulling chairs out for the Ladies - it is so funny when you whip it away and they fall on the floor!!
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Sex God
I love a man to look nice and smell nice. It shows you are worth making an effort for. 
I always remember this...
A male and a female are approaching the same door. The male quickens his step so he gets there first and opens the door for the female.
She says "I hope you're not doing that because I'm a woman". He says "no ma'am, I'm doing it because I'm a gentleman"
The age of chivalry is deffo not dead!
A male and a female are approaching the same door. The male quickens his step so he gets there first and opens the door for the female.
She says "I hope you're not doing that because I'm a woman". He says "no ma'am, I'm doing it because I'm a gentleman"
The age of chivalry is deffo not dead!
Quote by fem_4_taboo
i was sat thinking that ive only ever been out on a few "dates" in my lifetime. Ive met people while out and kinda fallen into a loose relationship or met via swinging.
this got me to thinking has being a gentleman disapeared ??
im a independent woman and i am happy to pay my way, thats not what im talking about but.. let me define what i mean here using the word gentleman...
they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc.
so men, is it that when you meet a woman via swinging you feel they dont deserve the curtosey of having a door opened, or that you think they would be offended if you did this?
do you act differently when socially meeting re swinging than if you were on a date?
women, is it just the guys im meeting or am i being old fashioned expecting this?
would you be offended if a man opened a door for you?
and slight side track , but am i the only one to feel moloncholy about the days when men wore shirts and ties and aftershave? i go out these days and no one seems to dress up to go out anymore?
maybe im just getting old
xx fem xx
sorry for the spelling mistakes
I am a Lady with a capital "L" and I expect my male dates to be Gentlemen. If I was "an independent woman" I don't think it would be fair to demand anything more than an "independent man". Quid pro quo and all that!
Slurpy xx
I always open doors for ladies.
I always dress smart.
I always smell clean and fresh.
I always treat ladies as ladies.
I feel that when you first go out with a lady the man should pay, once you settle into a relationship I think it is fair for the lady and gent to go dutch.
I went out last week for my birthday and a lady friend INSISTED on paying for everything, I must admit I felt uncomfortable with this and made her promise that on her birthday she would let ME pay for everything.
I always dress smart.
I always smell clean and fresh.
I always treat ladies as ladies.
I feel that when you first go out with a lady the man should pay, once you settle into a relationship I think it is fair for the lady and gent to go dutch.
I went out last week for my birthday and a lady friend INSISTED on paying for everything, I must admit I felt uncomfortable with this and made her promise that on her birthday she would let ME pay for everything.
The Post said:-
"they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc." maybe im just getting old
xx fem xx
I dread having to open a door / car door for a lady - my mother always made me do it for her when I was a child and it really damaged me.
Plim :shock:
"they would turn up on time, dressed and smelling nice, open doors for the lady, car dors , seats out etc." maybe im just getting old
xx fem xx
I dread having to open a door / car door for a lady - my mother always made me do it for her when I was a child and it really damaged me.
Plim :shock:
Quote by helnheaven
Manners are evrything and cost nothing.
Christ how many time during cunnilingus have i swallowed that little ball of tissue to save hurt feelings.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:Good job there wasnt a postage stamp stuck to it! Cos us women always keep a spare tissue in bottom of our handbags along with all the other rubbish floating about
:lol: i think gentlemen are a dying breed, but there are still a few out there. i like to think i was one. when it comes to meeting people in and outside the swinging enviorment, ive tried to act as a gent, as i feel this is the only way to be.. and when it comes to datign, i am kind of old fashioned... i do hold the doors open. if i'm sharing a bottle of wine, i'll make sure it is i that tops up the glass.. etc.
next time i'm down that way visiting family, i'll have to take you out and be your Gent for the evening. you'll have to pick the venue, as i only know of about 3 places, and there all in Bodmin.
next time i'm down that way visiting family, i'll have to take you out and be your Gent for the evening. you'll have to pick the venue, as i only know of about 3 places, and there all in Bodmin.
