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Sex God
Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And...
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Always look on the light side of life (whistle)
If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing
And...
Always look on the bright side of life... (whistle)
Come on!
Always look on the bright side of life... (whistle)
For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow
Forget about your sin - give the audience a grin
Enjoy it - it's your last chance anyhow
So always look on the bright side of death (whistle)
Just before you draw your terminal breath (whistle)
Life's a piece of shit
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughing as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you
And always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the right side of life (whistle)
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Performed by
Monty Python
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And...
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Always look on the light side of life (whistle)
If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing
And...
Always look on the bright side of life... (whistle)
Come on!
Always look on the bright side of life... (whistle)
For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow
Forget about your sin - give the audience a grin
Enjoy it - it's your last chance anyhow
So always look on the bright side of death (whistle)
Just before you draw your terminal breath (whistle)
Life's a piece of shit
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughing as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you
And always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the right side of life (whistle)
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)
Performed by
Monty Python
If were are talking about the 'blues' and not ull-on clinical depression, my answer would be.
If I'm feeling low there will be a reason (usually). So I try to look at the reason and be objective and realistic as to what I can do and what I can be done to resolve it. I'm not one to mope or feel sorry for myself, I usually busy myself writing music or talking to Mrs Kiss. Studying Buddhism is also invaluable to me and often puts things into perspective.
If I'm feeling low there will be a reason (usually). So I try to look at the reason and be objective and realistic as to what I can do and what I can be done to resolve it. I'm not one to mope or feel sorry for myself, I usually busy myself writing music or talking to Mrs Kiss. Studying Buddhism is also invaluable to me and often puts things into perspective.
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How do you cope when you are feeling down? What do you do when it seems the world has turned against you? Do you put on a brave face and become the heart and soul of the party or do you disappear into a deep, dark hole?
Depends...
If it's symptoms of depression, then a visit to the doctor is reccommended. Depression is where the chemicals in your brain go a bit wonky, so v. difficult to "pull yourself out of it" without advice from someone professional who knows how to deal with the problem
If it's feeling down about something - then try to pinpoint the problem. Once you've pinpointed the problem, you can then delve deeper and target the part of the problem that you're feeling most down about. Once you've done that, you can then make a plan of action to resolving it ......... or even just talking about it, that helps a lot
Hope whatever it is ain't too bad, and you get it resolved
Personally - this past week I've been through the mill, and this time I've kinda hidden from people, other than those I'm v. close to...... although have just had my ex pop round - who's normal conversation is about "what's the world bluddy coming to blah blah blah :fuckinghell: " - so having traumatised me with that :shock: he's also made me feel a whole lot better about my situation, and the fact that I ain't got it that bad after all :D
However - the death of my cousin a few months ago, knocked me for six ....... funnily enough, my coping mechanism was to do the life and soul thing. Really force myself into happy surroundings ........ didn't really help much, but it did give me an escape from my 'reality' of the time
Course the next day, feeling like shit still - but for those few hours, although still in it, it did seem like I was looking out of a big hole, rather than straight into it :? Quote by keeno
Do you put on a brave face and become the heart and soul of the party or do you disappear into a deep, dark hole?
Yes to both of those suggestions
Sometimes I cover how I'm feeling by talking loads and hoping no one will notice how I really feel. This usually works but if anyone does workout why I am extra gobby and makes a comment I'd burst into tears
Going quiet is also an option and allows me to work through whats making me down and get out the other side. Thats when friends can sometimes help me, I don't have to talk to them but it is good to be reminded they are there.
Shireen might drop me an email offering support or a shoulder and that can be enough get me to a turning point
Seeing a stupid thread on here can draw me back out of myself, such as talking about how much Steve Mids farts :lol2:
In addition to my last post
What i do is think about the things bothering me too much and chase my tail. It passes with time but it makes things seem worse at the time.
If i can avoid thinking about it i'll try and move away from the problem and go back later. But i just seem to be drawn in to the problem too easilly as i dont like unresolved issues in my head i like things closed.
What i do is think about the things bothering me too much and chase my tail. It passes with time but it makes things seem worse at the time.
If i can avoid thinking about it i'll try and move away from the problem and go back later. But i just seem to be drawn in to the problem too easilly as i dont like unresolved issues in my head i like things closed.
Mrs C had a really bad day at work the other week - one of those days where the PC, printer, coffee machine, other people etc were all ganging up on her (and not in a good way ;-)). She phoned me at 11:30 to tell me she felt so bad she was scared she would burst into tears. Nothing I could say was any comfort to her so I had to back off and leave her to try and cope on her own. :cry:
A couple of hours later she called me to say she'd "cured" herself! She had a bar of chocolate and said it was like a switch had been thrown. She'd started to feel better and almost instantly she moved from desperation to euphoria (no - not that Euphoria
).
We reckon her mood could have been due to a low blood sugar level
A couple of hours later she called me to say she'd "cured" herself! She had a bar of chocolate and said it was like a switch had been thrown. She'd started to feel better and almost instantly she moved from desperation to euphoria (no - not that Euphoria
).We reckon her mood could have been due to a low blood sugar level
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I try to smug it off in here or delve deeper into my pit which is where I am right now. I'm not having a good time at the mo so either I'll be very quiet and just read without posting too much or I'll become more of a forum whore than usual
:cry:
:therethere:
(you know where my pm box is if you need it)
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I try to smug it off in here or delve deeper into my pit which is where I am right now. I'm not having a good time at the mo so either I'll be very quiet and just read without posting too much ..........
:cry:
Without that last bit I could have written that word for word, my post whoring days are over lol.
Been a long week this week .. the death of a Manager, the attempted murder of another colleague, I miss Morbius dreadfully as we seem to see very little of each other lately, change of weather, it all adds up and makes me feel less and less like facing the world.
Cx
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Shireen might drop me an email offering support or a shoulder and that can be enough get me to a turning point
:kiss:
Seeing a stupid thread on here can draw me back out of myself, such as talking about how much Steve Mids farts :lol2:
Nowt like a good farting thread to put a smile on your face is there?? :giggle:
For me if I am just a little blue (not full on depressed) then I am normally both. The cheery life and soul person in public but as soon as I get home I look for the black hole...
Sassy :kiss:
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What do you do when it seems the world has turned against you?
I'm amazed that so many people feel that they suffer from depression and I don't want to belittle how anyone feels.
Are people clinically depressed or just a bit pissed off?
Is it a combination of being tired, stressed at work, worried about money or kids or relatives health? If it is I'd say that's reasonably healthy but does any of that count as depression and the black hole feeling?
Do people talk themselves into thinking they are actually clinically depressed when really they are just going through the"that's life in the big city" rigours of everyday life?
I've never been in any kind of black hole but I have a very close friend who has a very serious problem with this kind of thing. There is a an aeon of difference between clinical depression and general "fucked -offness" and I meet far too many people who confuse the two and talk themselves into a state whereby they convince themselves they have no control over their subjective thoughts.
My best mate has lived through Bipolar ( and come out the other side intact ) and I know the difference between depression and 'just going through a bad patch'. All the combinations of bereavement, money worries, work, stress, relationships etc etc can help tip a person into the depression bracket and start the whole process, of which there are many types and levels.
I'm going though a bad patch right now. I didn't say I WAS depressed but my situation is not likely to be improved by the power of positive thought alone and the answer to it doesn't lie in the 'pull yourself together' category.
People get down, fucked off, upset and depressed for a variety of reasons. Likewise their reaction and ability to overcome their problems varies just as much.
Sex God
Quote by keeno
How do you cope when you are feeling down? What do you do when it seems the world has turned against you? Do you put on a brave face and become the heart and soul of the party or do you disappear into a deep, dark hole?
Depends on the situation itse;f but in short, "Neither", ... certainly not the latter ...
Quote by Sassy-Seren
People get down, fucked off, upset and depressed for a variety of reasons. Likewise their reaction and ability to overcome their problems varies just as much.
They do, and sometimes a combination of seemingly 'trivial' things can be enough to push someone over the edge.
If anyone is down or depressed it can be very hard to 'pull yourself together', and even if people seem fine on the surface, they may be going through agony inside.
This is very hard for me to talk about, but I'm going to, because I think it's important.
5 years ago I had a kid brother. He wasn't just my brother, he was my best friend. He was smart, funny, kind, everything you would want someone to be. He had a fabulous job, a fantastic car, a great home and a really bright future ahead of him. He had moved out to the States, and every week would ring me telling me what a great time he was having. He rang me just after midnight on New Years Day 2001 to wish me a Happy New Year. 10 days later he was dead, he'd killed himself. He was 31 years old.
He didn't leave a note, but talking to his work colleagues in the States later we found out he'd recently suffered a combination of 'small' problems. Taken in isolation none of them would have seemed anything to most people, but my brother had always been the 'successful' one, the 'one most likely to', and he just wasn't used to dealing with difficulties. I guess that combination just took him to the edge and the only way out he could see was to end it all.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is that if someone you know is down or depressed, maybe they need a bit more than just being told to 'snap out of it'. I wish my brother had talked to me about his problems instead of bottling them up inside. I might still have him around then.
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As the original post didn’t mention depression, I thought we were talking about general pissed offish-ness, in two steps forwards three steps back kind of way.
You're right, I'm sorry if I went off on a tangent.
If you want me I'll be in my hole
Can I come in your hole too Sassy?
What? :dunno:
Sex God
Quote by Kiss
If I'm feeling low there will be a reason (usually). So I try to look at the reason and be objective and realistic as to what I can do and what I can be done to resolve it.
that's pretty much what I try to do........the important bit that I have realised is recognising whether there is anything I can do to resolve the situation and learning that if a situation is out of my hands to put it to the back of my mind until I am in a position to do some thing about it......rather than just worrying about it and therefore making myself feel worse......
my job is quite stressfull at the best of times.........but I've learnt that as long as I leave work knowing that I have done everything within my power to sort something out and that an external force controls the next step, I am able to forget about it untill the next day and therefore stop myself from getting myself down about something I can't control........I try to live the rest of my life like this too.........I guess for me it's a case of asking myself 'can I do anything about this situation?' if the answer is 'yes' I try to act on what I can do but, if the answer is 'no' I put it out of my mind until I can do something about it..........
Sexlightened
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I'm not having a good time at the mo
:cry:
:therethere:
havent read a;ll the letters but please dont knock depression. Im trying each day to battle it because of a marriage break up and each day is gettinig worse for me. THere is no way out of the hole sometimes and usually no one to help u bcos everyone has there own life to deal with. I overdosed last Weds but failed to get there to kill the pain, so woke up next day to face another day.
FED UP with day to day life and DEPRESSION are 2 differents things believe me.
BJME
FED UP with day to day life and DEPRESSION are 2 differents things believe me.
BJME
Quote by BJME
havent read a;ll the letters but please dont knock depression. Im trying each day to battle it because of a marriage break up and each day is gettinig worse for me. THere is no way out of the hole sometimes and usually no one to help u bcos everyone has there own life to deal with. I overdosed last Weds but failed to get there to kill the pain, so woke up next day to face another day.
FED UP with day to day life and DEPRESSION are 2 differents things believe me.
BJME
You need to go and see your Doctor now, today..call talk to someone and get it sorted..
Pm me if you need to , but get talking to someone anyone and do it now !!!!!!!!!!
