Ideas For Tomorrow Please!!!

24 Mar 2006

For a long time now i have battling through the courts to get access to my 3 daughters since my partner broke up with me.
Every day without my kids has been an absolute nightmare, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, lost 3 stones in weight etc etc.
Anyway, the good news is that i finally get to see them for the first time this year tomorrow afternoon.
I have to travel over 100 miles to Hereford to see them and i only get two hours with them
for now.
I know two hours will fly by but if anyone has any ideas as to how i can keep them
occupied for that ammount of time in a town i know nothing about i would appreciate it!
The thought of sitting in a mcdonalds for 2 hours drives me nuts!

24 Mar 2006

Never been there, but have a browse of this:

Hope it goes well, Trapper.

24 Mar 2006

Cheers Mike

24 Mar 2006

Quote by Trapper
For a long time now i have battling through the courts to get access to my 3 daughters since my partner broke up with me.
Every day without my kids has been an absolute nightmare, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, lost 3 stones in weight etc etc.
Anyway, the good news is that i finally get to see them for the first time this year tomorrow afternoon.
I have to travel over 100 miles to Hereford to see them and i only get two hours with them
for now.
I know two hours will fly by but if anyone has any ideas as to how i can keep them
occupied for that ammount of time in a town i know nothing about i would appreciate it!
The thought of sitting in a mcdonalds for 2 hours drives me nuts!

Yeah hope it goes well and sympathies on your ordeal.
A close male friend of mine has just - against all the odds - secured joint residency with his soon to be ex-wife and the kids. He's a great and devoted dad, she's a self confessed crap mum but there we are, the system is terribly unfair to those men who want to be active parents. At many stages through this long and hugely costly process he's been at his wits end and wondering if he could carry on. When I relate your words to him this weekend he'll know his fight was worth it and if he ever had any doubts about the difficulty of gaining access to kids from an embittered ex-wife, he won't now.
Good luck and hope you get to see more of them in the future !

24 Mar 2006

Thank you, it has been a very hard battle mentally, i amazed i have got through the ordeal, i must be a stronger person than i thought i was.
Most of the time i find myself just pacing up and down the living room like a tiger in a cage.
The stupid thoughts that go through your head at times like these dont help.
Fortunately for me my friends around me have been absolute rocks and that has helped me tremendously.
Every minute that has passed this week feels like an hour.
I feel like a kid on xmas eve!!

24 Mar 2006

im really pleased for you trapper
trust me i do know how you feel on this subject many years ago i went through the same with my ex-wife so i can sympathise with your plight.
obviousley not knowing the ages makes it difficult for suggestions you could always take them see a film, bowling and a burger.
i always found the best thing to do was to ask them what they wanted
hope this helps wink

mr and mrs dpg xxxx

24 Mar 2006

im really pleased for you trapper
trust me i do know how you feel on this subject many years ago i went through the same with my ex-wife so i can sympathise with your plight.
obviousley not knowing the ages makes it difficult for suggestions you could always take them see a film, bowling and a burger.
i always found the best thing to do was to ask them what they wanted
hope this helps wink

Thanks, i decided against the cinema as this is my first time i get to talk to them properly and i cant do that in a cinema.
The ages are 9,5 and 3.
I'll be exhausted when i get home.

24 Mar 2006

Read your message mike48, appreciate it mate!

24 Mar 2006

Trapper, I hope whatever you find to do with them, you'll enjoy your time together. Some women forget or don't want to know, the upset and hurt that separation from children causes fathers. I'm so glad to hear you've made this breakthrough and good luck! kiss

24 Mar 2006

Thanks Sassy, i've been on tender hooks all day waiting for a text message saying she has changed her mind!
Fortunatelythat hasn't happened.

24 Mar 2006

Hi Trapper,
great news and best of luck.
I don't have kids, but my parents split when I was quite young.
Unlike you my dad didn't give a stuff and never visited, no cards, nothing, and believe me it hurt.
So just remember what you are going through maybe tough at the moment, but well worth it in the long run, not just for you, but especially your kids.
Have a great day.

24 Mar 2006

Thanks Bazza, nice one!

24 Mar 2006

ok , first of all i dont know how you feel , i simply cant imagine what you have been through, i miss the two of my children that dont live here so much and i see them every week !
your a tough guy, for sure, to be able to deal with this, good luck ..........
ok its just a suggestion but go to the local corner shop buy three loaves of sliced bread and find a duckpond , feed the ducks , all children love it , even the little ones , you will be in an environment where you can communicate with them, and share the fun , weather permitting , i sincerley hope that this is the first of very many more visits to come Trapper, take a golfing umbrella just in case though
staggy
and i wasnt going to post today!

24 Mar 2006

What a bloody good idea, im sure my budget can stretch to a few loaves of bread.
Got to find a duck pond first though as i don't know the area at all.
Think it's forecast rain all weekend, might need that brolly.
Thanks Staggy. biggrin

24 Mar 2006

glad you won your battle trapper. it pisses me off how the role of father is undervalued nowadays. i dont know hereford at all but i hope you have a good time and its not too hard for you to say goodbye when visiting time is up. keep your chin up dude.

24 Mar 2006

Well done.........both my daughters are very very precious to me and always will be..xx
What ever you do...take a camera (even a throw away one...cheap) and take some piccies you and the kids can look back on and have a laugh with.
Good luck me old china..... wink

CC......

24 Mar 2006

Quote by Trapper
What a bloody good idea, im sure my budget can stretch to a few loaves of bread.
Got to find a duck pond first though as i don't know the area at all.
Think it's forecast rain all weekend, might need that brolly.
Thanks Staggy.

ok a couple of tips , ponds are better than reservoirs , usually shallower at the edge, canals and rivers can be hard work with a toddler you will spend more time watching she doesnt fall in than the quality time you should be having , have an in car picnic if the weather is rubbish,
take the camera , get lots of pics then send them some of their day, dont try and over do things just aim to make it a pleasant experience for all, i really mean it, good luck
staggy

24 Mar 2006

Thanks easy, thanks Cheeky.
Got me a tesco's throw away camera and taking my digicam also
for good measure.
Hopefully in the near future i can actually have them for weekends
from time to time.

24 Mar 2006

Thanks Staggy, unfortunately, cant have a car picnic, she took the car aswell sad

I've got my bag packed and sitting here watching the clock lol.
Just hope my train isn't late!

24 Mar 2006

Cheers Mike, i am dreading the parting to be honest, my middle daughter has always been
very emotional and fragile, she will be the worst tomorrow....or will it be me!!

24 Mar 2006

i swear if i had the day off tomorrow id drive you in the staggy wagon myself
have a great day
staggy n rose

24 Mar 2006

Thanks Staggy, i'll be okay, i quite like trains anyway.
Only take 2 and a half hours, so not too bad.
Gives me time to compose myself.

24 Mar 2006

xxx

24 Mar 2006

Thanks for your advice and ideas Jane, i've taken them on board.
It will all be over before i know it, 2 hours is nothing but it's better than
what i have now.
Might have a little trouble sleeping tonight so i think i will have a few ales,
medicinal purposes of course!

24 Mar 2006

Thanks for that wd40!

24 Mar 2006

Quote by Trapper
For a long time now i have battling through the courts to get access to my 3 daughters since my partner broke up with me.
Every day without my kids has been an absolute nightmare, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, lost 3 stones in weight etc etc.
Anyway, the good news is that i finally get to see them for the first time this year tomorrow afternoon.
I have to travel over 100 miles to Hereford to see them and i only get two hours with them
for now.
I know two hours will fly by but if anyone has any ideas as to how i can keep them
occupied for that ammount of time in a town i know nothing about i would appreciate it!
The thought of sitting in a mcdonalds for 2 hours drives me nuts!

Blinking heck, I take my hat off to you mate.
I have had this with my X as well I arrived home one night and everyone was gone, it took 4 months of worrying before I even found out where my daughter was living.
Then another 6 months of torture not being alowed to see her.
I know what you mean about those thoughts, just try and keep them away tempting as they all seem. Hope it works out for you in the end .
Things I have done
-Get them to take their bikes out (if they have them) and go for a long walk in the park with them, always a favourite, need to be prepared to carry the bike back tho.
- Go for a picnic in the park, throw a sheet and some grub into a bag if you want to get exotic bring a tent as well.
- Shopping centers with food areas are good as you can go to some shops they like and then chill out in the food court, some have slides and kids play stuff as well.
- Then there are places like play barn or kids zone and such like which have like climing frames, slides and such ( even adults can climb in them) I would say this is probably your best bet as it is indoors and you can run around with them if you want or just sit back and watch them .
Alternatively could always bring then back to your house and let them play there, just need some paper pens, a computer connected to cbbc website ect...
Hope thats of some help
Either way hope you can relax and enjoy your day.

24 Mar 2006

hiya Alex, thanks for that.
The stress you go through is outta this world, you could never put it into words for someone.
How my friends have put up with me being down and moping about i'll never know.
But out of something bad always comes something good as they say.
Hopefully after tomorrow and can start to get my life back!

24 Mar 2006

whatever u do......don`t 4get the camera!!!!!!!!!!!!!

24 Mar 2006

thanks two's, my bag is packed, camera an all!

24 Mar 2006

just seen your edited post Alex, cant bring them back to my house, not allowed as yet and any way i live 3 hours away and i only have 2 hours with them sad

Are you sure?