A comment in another thread led me to contemplate yet another "how do feel about swinging" question.
The comment was that through swinging this person had become more confident in the world outside swinging .....
So here's the question - do you feel that your life as a swinger, or even just the time spent in this forum, gives you better "skills" with which to cope with every day life?
Communciation skills? Honesty? Sense of humour? Confidence?...
Discuss......
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increased confidence through swinging?
Quote by Rainbows
A comment in another thread led me to contemplate yet another "how do feel about swinging" question.
The comment was that through swinging this person had become more confident in the world outside swinging .....
So here's the question - do you feel that your life as a swinger, or even just the time spent in this forum, gives you better "skills" with which to cope with every day life?
Communciation skills? Honesty? Sense of humour? Confidence?...
Discuss......
Yep .. wholeheartedly ... i have a huge body confidence issue .... and really bad paranoia. People on here have accepted me and I've had some wonderful comments and they don't care about how I look, instead (and a lot without realising) build me up and have given me so much confidence..... how could I have put my pictures up if I didn't have that confidence?
They have shown me that's it's okay to swear, tell dirty jokes, curse and rant. They've also shown me that there is still a lot of love about ... especially during our recent crisis.
I have trust issues with men generally and there are a good few on here, that despite not meeting them at any great depth, I feel very comfortable with ... don't get me wrong, I'd still panic if alone with them but I can have a giggle and be myself and not get dragged down by them.
Hope that answers your question ....
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I have trust issues with men generally and there are a good few on here, that despite meeting them at any great depth, I feel vry comfortable with ... don't get me wrong, I'd still panic if alone with them but I can have a giggle and be myself and not get dragged down by them.
Hope that answers your question ....
I also have trust issues with men - and I know what you mean. Okay - so I'm new this world (not completely new though
), but even in the short time I have been here I have found my confidence increase. I was speaking to someone ont he phone yesterday and they said "I thought you said you were shy" and I thought -bloody hell - you're right - here I am yacking on ten to the dozen!!AND.....today I received a text from a friend telling me that a mate of hers really fancies me 'cos I'm so confident and outgoing etc etc. Which I'm not really..
I BLAME you lot!!! :twisted:
I feel that being able to come on here and chat and laugh with like minded people of all different ages sexes etc
the list is tooo long) makes me feel normal about my sexual preferences and anything said on here however strange, kinky, or daft there is somebody who feels or knows where your coming from. 
:roll: which makes me feel comfortable with myself and gives me the confidence to stand up for what I believe in.(and believe me with what I 've been like recently ..well a couple of months ago ...it's a great relief)
I have also had the privlage to meet some of these people and have felt very welcomed by them and consider many to be good friends
:D
and although I don't swing I don't feel like I'am not welcome.........
the list is tooo long) makes me feel normal about my sexual preferences and anything said on here however strange, kinky, or daft there is somebody who feels or knows where your coming from. :roll: which makes me feel comfortable with myself and gives me the confidence to stand up for what I believe in.(and believe me with what I 've been like recently ..well a couple of months ago ...it's a great relief)I have also had the privlage to meet some of these people and have felt very welcomed by them and consider many to be good friends
:Dand although I don't swing I don't feel like I'am not welcome.........
As I dont, perhaps another side to look at is talking. I suppose the ultimate trust in a woman is to allow a man to share her intimately, and to get that close is something special. I have had the odd relationship, but personally I prefer to KNOW the person more. It feels to me like I am liked and respected, which is I suppose odd to get from a man, but I think many men feel this way. The old thought of any port in a storm, is about as true as the old thought of swinger being slappers. I find nearly all the women on here to be so much more than that, and I respect their input more than I get in my normal life. I just wish more were as responcible to talk to, and I would feel better in myself esteme. Regardless of the need to have sex, I think it is better to know the person more, from talks, meets or time, unless the quick meets is your thrill, but life offers us all different ways to get our fix? Their is no true right way, it depends really on what YOU need from it?
Orgasminator
For me, the past god knows how long has been a trying time.
Coming on to SH has allowed me to discuss, debate and take part in activities that i enjoy with people who have very similar minds to me. This has allowed me to explore and expand my previously limited(by situation) horizons.
(still calming down from another thread)
Coming on to SH has allowed me to discuss, debate and take part in activities that i enjoy with people who have very similar minds to me. This has allowed me to explore and expand my previously limited(by situation) horizons.
(still calming down from another thread)
Orgasminator
is that why your not looking at the camera in your avatar then?
Sex God
rainbows
well, i don't know if it's through swinging per se but yes i have become much more confident socially, emotionally, and sexually too to a very great extent, during my time here. not gonna go into detail, but yes, it's true of many i think.
n x x x ;)
well, i don't know if it's through swinging per se but yes i have become much more confident socially, emotionally, and sexually too to a very great extent, during my time here. not gonna go into detail, but yes, it's true of many i think.
n x x x ;)
Personally for me, i think i have gain a hell of a lot of confidence. fair enought i'm still dead shy, but there are thinks i am doing i would never of though it was possible of me (like turning up at a party in lincs, where i knew no body. but every one made me feel welcome and it does have an impact.
cause i am quiet a shy person i've always be self concince when it comes to "pulling" woamn (excuss the term). but when i'm in the chatroom and the thinks people are saying about me, it buts me on a real high.
anyway enought of my waffle!
JGL
cause i am quiet a shy person i've always be self concince when it comes to "pulling" woamn (excuss the term). but when i'm in the chatroom and the thinks people are saying about me, it buts me on a real high.
anyway enought of my waffle!
JGL
It's made a BIG difference to my confidence. All the time I was married, I never thought I was attractive to guys. When I started swinging, AND pulling guys by the score, it made me 'glow' confidence. :twisted:
Plus...
I'm no longer the slightest bit bashful about getting my kit off. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Plus...
I'm no longer the slightest bit bashful about getting my kit off. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sexlightened
For us the lifestyle has certainly given us more confidence in ourselves, and our sexuality, which hopefully will continue to grow. Makes me laugh when my friends and work colleagues tell me how much I have changed through the year and question why. Can’t bring myself to tell them the real reason behind that change though so still some way to go
Sussex2
Sussex2
since i started swinging, and meeting new people, my confidence has been boosted 100%, so many swingers are non-judgemental, and dont always go by appearances, speaking to most on here, i have had a fantastic response, and found people very open, and this in turn makes me more open to others...all i can say is thanks
I have always been confident in a crowd of people and I can walk into a pub etc on my own no problem and enjoy myself, but having attended an all boys school years ago my confidence in chatting to women alone was probably best described as 'on the floor' - walking up to a woman I didn't know and 'chatting her up' was a strict no-no for me, I simply couldn't do it and I shudder to think of the many beautiful women I could have had relationships with that never happened simply because I didn't have the bottle to approach them.
Now however, I find myself in contact with women, whether it is for a sexual dalliance or not, and talking with complete confidence. My friends have commented on it when out and about and I have had several dates since joining SH - but not with people from SH - and enjoyed them immensely as I can now talk openly and freely about myself and let them make their own judgements as to whether they wish to see me again - and not be upset or start looking inwardly again for things that may be wrong with me if they decide that I am not for them. I guess relationships are a bit like shopping for new clothes - we try a few on before we find one that fits.
I'm not saying that I've never had a girlfriend - quite to the contrary in fact and I have been married - but women were always an enigma to me and I simply didn't know how to connect with them.
Since joining SH and getting involved with people of both sexes, plus chatting daily in the chat room I find myself superimposing that confidence in my day to day routine so yes, my answer would be swinging has improved my confidence 1000-fold.
One final thought - Calista... ur a very sexy lass and you can come and hold your body against me anytime .... and Fiona, fake or real - they're as cute as hell! 
Tks.
Now however, I find myself in contact with women, whether it is for a sexual dalliance or not, and talking with complete confidence. My friends have commented on it when out and about and I have had several dates since joining SH - but not with people from SH - and enjoyed them immensely as I can now talk openly and freely about myself and let them make their own judgements as to whether they wish to see me again - and not be upset or start looking inwardly again for things that may be wrong with me if they decide that I am not for them. I guess relationships are a bit like shopping for new clothes - we try a few on before we find one that fits.
I'm not saying that I've never had a girlfriend - quite to the contrary in fact and I have been married - but women were always an enigma to me and I simply didn't know how to connect with them.
Since joining SH and getting involved with people of both sexes, plus chatting daily in the chat room I find myself superimposing that confidence in my day to day routine so yes, my answer would be swinging has improved my confidence 1000-fold.
One final thought - Calista... ur a very sexy lass and you can come and hold your body against me anytime
.... and Fiona, fake or real - they're as cute as hell! Tks.
I have found a new sense of liberation and confidence in some ways. It is fantastic and amazes me the amount of positive attention I have had. I am a big lass and hated looking at myself in the mirror but recently I have had so many compliments about my face, my body, my personality even!! I have been called gorgeous, pretty, sexy, princess, intriguing (loved that one!) I have never known it before! I have had people looking at me and not reeling back in repulsion, men AND women and even after only a couple of experiences I am feeling great!
I now realise that it really is ok to have sexual feelings even though I'm not Page 3 material and that there are people who are more than willing to 'help me out' with them. No longer do I have to dread being the sad mate left in the corner of a cruddy nightclub while my attractive mates get fixed up! Now it is ME who is the sexy attractive one who can have any man in the room, or maybe even a couple of them, and a woman too!!!
I have a lot to thank my philandering ex husband for, I would never have known what I was missing if I was still stuck with him!
I now realise that it really is ok to have sexual feelings even though I'm not Page 3 material and that there are people who are more than willing to 'help me out' with them. No longer do I have to dread being the sad mate left in the corner of a cruddy nightclub while my attractive mates get fixed up! Now it is ME who is the sexy attractive one who can have any man in the room, or maybe even a couple of them, and a woman too!!!
I have a lot to thank my philandering ex husband for, I would never have known what I was missing if I was still stuck with him!
Sex God
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yes and many other reasons
Is it because you are an EWOK disguised as a woman with a pair of fake boobs on??!!!!
(come on, they're too nice to be real, aren't they??!!)
Oooh - wouldn't mind finding out :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Ahem
Rainbows~
You & me both (even though they're real)! :smitten: Think Fi would be willing to share with all three of us?! ;)
~Reese!
* NOTE: We have to include Vix, of course, as I couldn't imagine fulfilling one of my ultimate fantasies without her being involved.
