G'Day forum folk,
Whilst I have absolutely no axe to grind whatsoever, embracing nearly all parts of the sexual spectrum, I wonder if anyone else has noticed that the number of Bi or Bi curious ladies on SH appears to be getting bigger.
In the couple of years since I've been visiting, I've noticed a substancial increase in Bi Fem numbers. My interest in this issue is quite simply why?
Is it that more Bi fems feel more comfortable to disclose their preferrences. Alternatively, is it that there are now more Bifems about, or is it that us fella are going wrong somewhere along the line,forcing girls to experiment and try other avenues to pleasure? If that is the case, where are we going wrong?
Come ladies! This is your opportunity to put us lads straight on a few things and satisfy my curiosity as well.
I look forward to beginning an interesting, informative and I dare say lively at times, debate.
Snowhawk
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Hi Snowhawk 
As one of the ladies in question ( and how glad am I the numbers are on the increase :twisted: ) I think it's because it's not so easy to go to meet bi fems outside the swinging world unless you frequent gay bars, which I don't. Swingers, in general, are open minded about sex and sexual orientations whereas it would''t be so easy for me to nip down to the local and shout 'any fems fancy a shag?'. Here, on the other hand, shout that in the Cafe or LMU and you'd be in the firing line of a stampede ( hopefully
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It was the perfect place for me to come to get advice, chat to like minded bi fems, meet up and have fun exploring my sexuality without any fear of recrimination from the vanilla world. I don't think it's anything to do with men getting it wrong but for me, I could go anywhere to get a bloke if I wanted one but only this sort of site for bi fems.
As one of the ladies in question ( and how glad am I the numbers are on the increase :twisted: ) I think it's because it's not so easy to go to meet bi fems outside the swinging world unless you frequent gay bars, which I don't. Swingers, in general, are open minded about sex and sexual orientations whereas it would''t be so easy for me to nip down to the local and shout 'any fems fancy a shag?'. Here, on the other hand, shout that in the Cafe or LMU and you'd be in the firing line of a stampede ( hopefully
) It was the perfect place for me to come to get advice, chat to like minded bi fems, meet up and have fun exploring my sexuality without any fear of recrimination from the vanilla world. I don't think it's anything to do with men getting it wrong but for me, I could go anywhere to get a bloke if I wanted one but only this sort of site for bi fems.
In our experience of the club scene I would estimate at least 90% of the women who play at clubs are bi to some extent. We have yet to come across a confirmed case of the "bi for hubby" syndrome and the women usually take the initiative in playing with other women. These figures may be very different to those on an internet forum where it is quite likely that a fairly large number of people are either not who they say they are, or don't do what they say they do.
Funnily enough I was having this discussion the other night with folk from here...
I attribute it to the 2 things - (1) the increase of sheer number of people registered on this site since it went commercial and with that, those people then finding themselves in a place where its ok to be open about bisexuality...... and (2) on the negative side, with that increase comes the misconception that 'swinging' puts some form of pressure on a fem to say she's bi because its misinterpreted as the accepted thing to 'be', whether you are or arnt really.
I attribute it to the 2 things - (1) the increase of sheer number of people registered on this site since it went commercial and with that, those people then finding themselves in a place where its ok to be open about bisexuality...... and (2) on the negative side, with that increase comes the misconception that 'swinging' puts some form of pressure on a fem to say she's bi because its misinterpreted as the accepted thing to 'be', whether you are or arnt really.
Well said DF ( good to see Rotty back hunni )
I find one or two couples I've met where the wife seems to be going along with the whole bi fem thing just because hubby has this fantasy about FFM 3somes. I know that's not the case for the majority but it certainly does happen which is a shame as it means the whole enjoyment is for HIS benefit and not for both of them.
)I find one or two couples I've met where the wife seems to be going along with the whole bi fem thing just because hubby has this fantasy about FFM 3somes. I know that's not the case for the majority but it certainly does happen which is a shame as it means the whole enjoyment is for HIS benefit and not for both of them.
I will slant this from a bi-female angle as that's how the question was posed.
I think that it could also be that the term bisexual covers a lot more 'areas' than is used to and is now more flexible. I have noticed that when a woman says she is 'bisexual' you can no longer be sure that she actually enjoys sex with other women, because she may only be happy just to kiss other women, or be in an MFF threesome with little contact, allow women to touch her and give nothing in return etc etc.
Back in my yoof I found that words like bisexual/gay etc were literal terms, but I think the lines of sexuality are becoming more blurred all the time.
I think that it could also be that the term bisexual covers a lot more 'areas' than is used to and is now more flexible. I have noticed that when a woman says she is 'bisexual' you can no longer be sure that she actually enjoys sex with other women, because she may only be happy just to kiss other women, or be in an MFF threesome with little contact, allow women to touch her and give nothing in return etc etc.
Back in my yoof I found that words like bisexual/gay etc were literal terms, but I think the lines of sexuality are becoming more blurred all the time.
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Hi Snowhawk
As one of the ladies in question ( and how glad am I the numbers are on the increase :twisted: ) I think it's because it's not so easy to go to meet bi fems outside the swinging world unless you frequent gay bars, which I don't. Swingers, in general, are open minded about sex and sexual orientations whereas it would''t be so easy for me to nip down to the local and shout 'any fems fancy a shag?'. Here, on the other hand, shout that in the Cafe or LMU and you'd be in the firing line of a stampede ( hopefully
It was the perfect place for me to come to get advice, chat to like minded bi fems, meet up and have fun exploring my sexuality without any fear of recrimination from the vanilla world. I don't think it's anything to do with men getting it wrong but for me, I could go anywhere to get a bloke if I wanted one but only this sort of site for bi fems.
Well whilst I doubt think we've actually chatted here or in the chatroom I for one am glad you do and thanks for the answer
snowhawk
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I will slant this from a bi-female angle as that's how the question was posed.
I think that it could also be that the term bisexual covers a lot more 'areas' than is used to and is now more flexible. I have noticed that when a woman says she is 'bisexual' you can no longer be sure that she actually enjoys sex with other women, because she may only be happy just to kiss other women, or be in an MFF threesome with little contact, allow women to touch her and give nothing in return etc etc.
Back in my yoof I found that words like bisexual/gay etc were literal terms, but I think the lines of sexuality are becoming more blurred all the time.
V. Good points thanks.
Snowhawk
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When I was a teenager I had some intimacy with a couple of other females and I really liked it,but never thought I was Bi.
Increasingly over the years I have found myself thinking about these experiences and wondering about my sexuality.I have been dissillusioned with some men(well all the ones I have had contact with anyway
) but I'm not sure that there is a correlation between the two things.
I still find lots of men attractive and sexy but also finding more women atrractive and sexy.
maybe i'm confused,anyway this site is somewhere i can feel more comfortable finding out,and there is no man pushing me into this
Increasingly over the years I have found myself thinking about these experiences and wondering about my sexuality.I have been dissillusioned with some men(well all the ones I have had contact with anyway
) but I'm not sure that there is a correlation between the two things.I still find lots of men attractive and sexy but also finding more women atrractive and sexy.
maybe i'm confused,anyway this site is somewhere i can feel more comfortable finding out,and there is no man pushing me into this
While I have to agree that in many ways I am more than pleased that there seems to be more bi-fems coming forward, I can't help but wonder a couple of things......
I found it more than a little annoying when for some reason it became the 'in' thing to be bisexual - almost like yet another fashion statement. I had people raising eyebrows and pretty much questioning my sexuality as something of a 'fad' and wondering if I was going along with the trend. Fact is, I came out to both my husband and closest friends long before it became fashionable to do so.
While it has been mentioned that people haven't come across the "I'm really only doing this to please my husband", I'm afraid to confirm that this does actually take place - we're either very unlucky or we attract those types like a magnet. We've been left more than a little peeved when it's been blatantly obvious that the woman is not comfortable with the scenerio. I say peeved, more upset that we feel we've 'pushed' someone into something they didn't want to do.
I must admit sites like this one have made finding bi-females a whole lot easier, and I for one am more than pleased we have facilities like this. Having experienced the whole gay bar scene, it's certainly not the easiest place to pick someone up. Bisexual people are certainly not looked upon favourably, and I've been sneered at and called "greedy" on more than one occasion, made even worse when they see the wedding ring on my finger and question my motives for being there. Having said that, I have many friends in the gay community and love 'em all to bits!
I found it more than a little annoying when for some reason it became the 'in' thing to be bisexual - almost like yet another fashion statement. I had people raising eyebrows and pretty much questioning my sexuality as something of a 'fad' and wondering if I was going along with the trend. Fact is, I came out to both my husband and closest friends long before it became fashionable to do so.
While it has been mentioned that people haven't come across the "I'm really only doing this to please my husband", I'm afraid to confirm that this does actually take place - we're either very unlucky or we attract those types like a magnet. We've been left more than a little peeved when it's been blatantly obvious that the woman is not comfortable with the scenerio. I say peeved, more upset that we feel we've 'pushed' someone into something they didn't want to do.
I must admit sites like this one have made finding bi-females a whole lot easier, and I for one am more than pleased we have facilities like this. Having experienced the whole gay bar scene, it's certainly not the easiest place to pick someone up. Bisexual people are certainly not looked upon favourably, and I've been sneered at and called "greedy" on more than one occasion, made even worse when they see the wedding ring on my finger and question my motives for being there. Having said that, I have many friends in the gay community and love 'em all to bits!
Sex God
tick box that says sexual........ suits me better than bi sexual straight homosexual and so on.........someone i think kiss describes her self as pan sexual, maybe , and i havent checked , is the definition we need
wrats
not enough boxes , need more boxes , give the people the boxes to tick and they will be happier lol
wrats
not enough boxes , need more boxes , give the people the boxes to tick and they will be happier lol
I cannot speak for anyone else but from my perspective women are just curious creatures by nature and less inhibited to act on it.
I am in the classic situation whereby my husband is happy to introduce other women to our sex lives but not at present happy to introduce another man or couple. He hasn't ruled it out though...
This attitude seems to be fairly common as men perhaps feel less threatened with the female involvment than if another man is there. I suspect there are a lot of women out there who would perhaps like to have another man involved as well as a woman but are either too nervous to ask or know their male partners could not handle it. It's harder for a man to say he is bi-curious than it is for a woman but I bet they are out there....
Apologies if I have rambled!
I am in the classic situation whereby my husband is happy to introduce other women to our sex lives but not at present happy to introduce another man or couple. He hasn't ruled it out though...
This attitude seems to be fairly common as men perhaps feel less threatened with the female involvment than if another man is there. I suspect there are a lot of women out there who would perhaps like to have another man involved as well as a woman but are either too nervous to ask or know their male partners could not handle it. It's harder for a man to say he is bi-curious than it is for a woman but I bet they are out there....
Apologies if I have rambled!
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we've noticed that too snowhawk.. but then when chatting to them we find that the bifem thing is not on anyway (not that it's our bag in any event). Could it be that the male of the species is placing the advert and expressing his preferences rather than hers
LOL.. we've been discussing this in another thread, mayb you have come across the 'bi with the right person' syndrome! Either way, a woman is either bi or she is not, simple as and I think it is so unfair to advertise as being so when there is no intention of ever playing as such. I was bi-curious, then had my first experience, now I class myself as full bi and welcome any fun in that department, but can understand other points of view also.
Yes you could be right, it could well be wishful thinking on the man's behalf. Who knows. :dunno:
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While I have to agree that in many ways I am more than pleased that there seems to be more bi-fems coming forward, I can't help but wonder a couple of things......
I found it more than a little annoying when for some reason it became the 'in' thing to be bisexual - almost like yet another fashion statement. I had people raising eyebrows and pretty much questioning my sexuality as something of a 'fad' and wondering if I was going along with the trend. Fact is, I came out to both my husband and closest friends long before it became fashionable to do so.
While it has been mentioned that people haven't come across the "I'm really only doing this to please my husband", I'm afraid to confirm that this does actually take place - we're either very unlucky or we attract those types like a magnet. We've been left more than a little peeved when it's been blatantly obvious that the woman is not comfortable with the scenerio. I say peeved, more upset that we feel we've 'pushed' someone into something they didn't want to do.
I must admit sites like this one have made finding bi-females a whole lot easier, and I for one am more than pleased we have facilities like this. Having experienced the whole gay bar scene, it's certainly not the easiest place to pick someone up. Bisexual people are certainly not looked upon favourably, and I've been sneered at and called "greedy" on more than one occasion, made even worse when they see the wedding ring on my finger and question my motives for being there. Having said that, I have many friends in the gay community and love 'em all to bits!
How utterly shocking that you are called 'greedy' for simply enjoying your sex life with both men and women! :shock: I too have been there with the lady not actually enjoying the bi thing and it was (in our opinion) simply for their husband they were doing it for. It is a horrible feeling and it sort of makes you feel a bit perverse when you are trying to play with them and they are simply hating it. Honest is totally the best policy.
Interesting question! How about an (uninteresting) answer....however good ones relationship and how you perform with each other...is there always a feeling of could I have a better experience if...ladies like to be stimulated at more than one point simultaneously. Become adept at Twister or indulge in necessarily bisexual activities! For two men and one woman the men have to be bi to a degree to tolerate and the same would apply to two women etc. Simply I supose you could have a Jag, see a Ferrari and think I wouldnt mind a go in that,but you wouldnt buy one!
I too have come across the "bi for Hubby" scenario- which to be brutally honest was why I first tried it.
Bisexuality (female) has become trendy- unfortunately- possibly as there are so few ways left to shock these days. Picture this- young girls out clubbing who want to be the center of attention have just about reached a limit as far as dressing outrageously goes, one can only expose so much flesh without being arrested! Next step- act outrageously, snog/grope/bump n grind with loads of guys you dont know. Exhausted that, whats next? Kissing/groping your girl mates is the next step sure to gain attention.
I think this has started to filter into society and become fashionable- which is a real shit as I hate following the crowd!
Bisexuality (female) has become trendy- unfortunately- possibly as there are so few ways left to shock these days. Picture this- young girls out clubbing who want to be the center of attention have just about reached a limit as far as dressing outrageously goes, one can only expose so much flesh without being arrested! Next step- act outrageously, snog/grope/bump n grind with loads of guys you dont know. Exhausted that, whats next? Kissing/groping your girl mates is the next step sure to gain attention.
I think this has started to filter into society and become fashionable- which is a real shit as I hate following the crowd!
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Genuine bi fems are not as common as the ads make out.
This has been my experience with the photo adverts section also.
That's the nature of the internet.
True, but I am sure I would find a similar situation at clubs sometimes.
Not at any club we've been to.
Maybe you just didn't notice? :lol:
