Is carrying a condom moral...

17 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers

i thought you are the teacher

OK, I bow down to your superior intellect. Ask the question in clear English and maybe people won't be confused.
i dont understand your question
There wasn't one.

17 Jun 2008

this is my last line on the forum,have always enjoyed it because of the challenge but i think its getting out of hand
bye everyone its not worth the trouble

17 Jun 2008

(to help those who are having a problem understanding the question ill give you a little illustration...
as a swinger in this case you and your partner,have protected sex with other couples ,then you suddenly find out your partner secretly has another pack already opened but different brand from the one you normally use,..how would you feel.....)
same answer mistrust

17 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
this is my last line on the forum,have always enjoyed it because of the challenge but i think its getting out of hand
bye everyone its not worth the trouble

Aww come on, Im sure even you can flounce better than that lol

Im dead disappointed now rolleyes

17 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
Phuckers, do you mean the unprotected sex is between the couple, who have consentual protected sex with others?

am afraid i will not spend another minute explaining myself,long term forumist like you should encourage constructive discussion not persistantly asking silly questions....
Phuckers, you are blatently having a go at both Freckledbird and Winchy, how about you leave your sniping to one side and answer their questions? You are always having a go at them.
And there's no need for the "I'm leaving" card, just answer the questions to the questions you've started! you've confused people that's all!
rotflmao

17 Jun 2008

don't think i reply right to this .what i meant was the post would read to me as
mistrust . this is why i don't repley to post much redface

i much better at explain my self face to face

17 Jun 2008

Morals?
lp

17 Jun 2008

If i found my partner had a stash of condoms i didn't know about i'd be livid and so upset. We have a place in our house for condoms that we then take from when we go out to play. As we never play as singles to find some would be devastating. Suspicion is ugly but then i for one hold within me a massive green - eyed monster.
Hope you reconsider Phuckers, to lose you from forum would be sad :sad: You have no need as I see it to justify yourself. post away.
I think the initial question was easy enough to understand and it got bent out of shape. What a bloody surprise.
Oh and if you ever fancy coming down Bristol/Gloucester way Phuckers, maybe come and meet some of the Bristol room posse when we're out and about have a drink and a laugh. Think about it you ain't far away....

18 Jun 2008

Quote by Whipsnspurs
i really don't see how phuckers question could have been misunderstood. he has said that as a couple they practice unprotected sex, as swingers they practice protected sex, they share the same box of condoms but then one of them found a box that was part used and the finder didn't know about them before hand. therefore if you were in the same situation what would you think/feel/do?
don't see what's hard to understand about that really.
again, down to trust and asking the partner about it.
whips

He's single. Someone didn't understand the question because of how it was worded initially. He then sought to illustrate it but the illustration didn't help, really. People have become confused and wanted clarification of the actual question that Phuckers wanted answering. dunno

18 Jun 2008

Quote by Whipsnspurs
i really don't see how phuckers question could have been misunderstood.

You'd be surprised how some people can seem to misunderstand some other people's written word. It all seemed straightforward to me but maybe I'm just a good reader. confused

18 Jun 2008

You'd be surprised how some people can seem to misunderstand some other people's written word. It all seemed straightforward to me but maybe I'm just a good reader.
Well said I have noticed that certain people on these boards seem to specialise in nit picking rather than dealing with the question.
Says all you need to know about them I guess.
In answer to the question i would be supicious and would want to get it out in the open.

18 Jun 2008

I thought I knew what the op was asking, and politely asked for clarification for the people who didn't, and got this in return:

Quote by Phuckers
Phuckers, do you mean the unprotected sex is between the couple, who have consentual protected sex with others?

am afraid i will not spend another minute explaining myself,long term forumist like you should encourage constructive discussion not persistantly asking silly questions....
So if that's the reaction I get for trying to help, Phuck it. rolleyes

18 Jun 2008

Quote by winchwench
I thought I knew what the op was asking, and politely asked for clarification for the people who didn't, and got this in return:
Phuckers, do you mean the unprotected sex is between the couple, who have consentual protected sex with others?

am afraid i will not spend another minute explaining myself,long term forumist like you should encourage constructive discussion not persistantly asking silly questions....
So if that's the reaction I get for trying to help, Phuck it. rolleyes

(tongue in cheek) Yes but that's not asking a sensible question winchy... that's nitpicking, apparently
and to your question you got a very sensible answer
:roll:

18 Jun 2008

i hope phuckers returns.. i think im seeing this different to many of the posters on this thread..not different to many that dont post on these forums anymore though
staggy

18 Jun 2008

classic aint it

18 Jun 2008

I've read all the replies to this thread but I don't think the answer you get here, would be the same in the vanilla world.
We talk about condoms all the time, many of us carry condoms so it is no big deal. Many of us wouldn't be surprised to find a partner carrying condoms.
However ask someone outside of swinging and I think the answers might be completely different confused

18 Jun 2008

One of the more convenient things about being someone who no-one is in a rush to shag is the fact that we don't have to carry condoms. It's bad enough with car keys, phones, wallet... etc without having to worry about carrying some rubber objects that stay in your wallet so long that they leave an impression on the leather.
Do you know? I never realised there was an upside to being unshaggable! rolleyes

18 Jun 2008

Quote by Lost
I think the initial question was easy enough to understand and it got bent out of shape. What a bloody surprise.

But it obviously wasnt otherwise we would have all understood without having to ask.
Myabe its just me being thick but I still dont get it banghead

And to be fair, phuckers did get a little confused himself at one point so if he wasnt sure how am I supposed to be?

18 Jun 2008

Quote by helnheaven

I think the initial question was easy enough to understand and it got bent out of shape. What a bloody surprise.

But it obviously wasnt otherwise we would have all understood without having to ask.
Myabe its just me being thick but I still dont get it banghead

And to be fair, phuckers did get a little confused himself at one point so if he wasnt sure how am I supposed to be?
I for one thought it was an easy enough and interesting topic for discussion phuckers was putting up, regardless of his profile status. It was a perfectly reasonable hypothetical question.
I will go on to say that I think that phuckers must of felt chased into trying to justify what he posted when there was no need for him to do so. He has had his bollocks well and truly crushed into the carpet on more than one occasion and unfortunately rather than just leave it be he responds to posts, ostensibly and from my perspective anyway, that seem to be 'drawing him on'
I feel that this happens to mostly new posters and I don't know why. It does come across that there is a bandwagon that forum jump on at times. Where one post asks for clarity why then is it followed up by numerous others lining up behind the enquirer.
Sometimes it does bring me to imagine a circle of people around a playground fight.
Make of this what you will, it is not meant to be inflammatory just explanatory. I put it as best I could at the time

18 Jun 2008

I understood.... and im just a simple person
couldn't reply, as I have no morals
lp

18 Jun 2008

Quote by Lost

I think the initial question was easy enough to understand and it got bent out of shape. What a bloody surprise.

But it obviously wasnt otherwise we would have all understood without having to ask.
Myabe its just me being thick but I still dont get it banghead

And to be fair, phuckers did get a little confused himself at one point so if he wasnt sure how am I supposed to be?
I for one thought it was an easy enough and interesting topic for discussion phuckers was putting up, regardless of his profile status. It was a perfectly reasonable hypothetical question.
I will go on to say that I think that phuckers must of felt chased into trying to justify what he posted when there was no need for him to do so. He has had his bollocks well and truly crushed into the carpet on more than one occasion and unfortunately rather than just leave it be he responds to posts, ostensibly and from my perspective anyway, that seem to be 'drawing him on'
I feel that this happens to mostly new posters and I don't know why. It does come across that there is a bandwagon that forum jump on at times. Where one post asks for clarity why then is it followed up by numerous others lining up behind the enquirer.
Sometimes it does bring me to imagine a circle of people around a playground fight.
Make of this what you will, it is not meant to be inflammatory just explanatory. I put it as best I could at the time
I wasnt the only one not to understand and to me his status did not enter into it.
Im sure Phuckers is big enough and ugly enough to fight his own corner, if indeed he needs to.
I feel that people asked in a reasonable way, what he actually meant and it was indeed Phuckers himself who ended up as confused as I was and couldnt explain and did the 'Flounce'.
Anyway, Ive said what I think I wont be coming back to this thread, whats done is done. Im sure Phuckers will be back in no time at all

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Lost
I will go on to say that I think that phuckers must of felt chased into trying to justify what he posted when there was no need for him to do so. He has had his bollocks well and truly crushed into the carpet on more than one occasion and unfortunately rather than just leave it be he responds to posts, ostensibly and from my perspective anyway, that seem to be 'drawing him on'
I feel that this happens to mostly new posters and I don't know why. It does come across that there is a bandwagon that forum jump on at times. Where one post asks for clarity why then is it followed up by numerous others lining up behind the enquirer.

I have to disagree Lost, even the most established posters can be attacked from time to time.
I've said it before, if anyone posts anything in here and it's controversial they should expect a degree of questioning or a heated debate. It doesn't always happen, but when it does I don't see it as personal I see it as normal.
I quite like Phuckers' input into the Forum but it has to be said he sometimes posts some whacky things without being able to back himself up or explain. He's already been told in previous threads of his he should be prepared to take as well as give, he acknowledged that himself.
You make it sound as though he's being bullied (my opinion), but he's not, this thread has an abundance of questions for him but in reality he couldn't really answer them.
I think it's great how you advocate for new people but on this occasion I'll have to agree to disagree with you wink

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Lost
I for one thought it was an easy enough and interesting topic for discussion phuckers was putting up, regardless of his profile status. It was a perfectly reasonable hypothetical question.
I will go on to say that I think that phuckers must of felt chased into trying to justify what he posted when there was no need for him to do so. He has had his bollocks well and truly crushed into the carpet on more than one occasion and unfortunately rather than just leave it be he responds to posts, ostensibly and from my perspective anyway, that seem to be 'drawing him on'
I feel that this happens to mostly new posters and I don't know why. It does come across that there is a bandwagon that forum jump on at times. Where one post asks for clarity why then is it followed up by numerous others lining up behind the enquirer.
Sometimes it does bring me to imagine a circle of people around a playground fight.
Make of this what you will, it is not meant to be inflammatory just explanatory. I put it as best I could at the time

While your heart is undoubtedly in the right place I can't agree with much of your thinking on this one. The original post was badly thought out and confusing in my opinion, requiring either assumptions or questions to be able to answer it.
The title was misleading to start with, as the question wasn't about the morality of carrying condoms but about whether one part of a couple who have unprotected sex with each other is wrong to carry condoms that the other half of the couple doesn't know about.
Even if the couple have an agreement that they never play separately, it may just be that the condoms were bought in case an opportunity arose unexpectedly with no intention of cheating. If they have an agreement that they can play separately, either with approval in advance or otherwise, then it's just common sense.
While it's bad manners to make a point of someone's inability to express themselves clearly, when that inability leads to perfectly reasonable questions in clarification it's also bad manners to spit your dummy out and flounce off in a huff. Just my opinion of course.

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
i wont go into details why we use condom,but what would your reaction or view be if you find out that your partner has secretly got a pack of condoms on their possesion while you practice mutual unprotected sex....

well the 24hour tantrum is over!
As i mentioned before i will not waste another second trying to explain the quoted article which i used the simplest english that even an uneducated blithering fool who hasnt seen the inside of a classroom could make out what i meant... got the answers which i was looking for so thanks for all who contributed
however
am astonished by the level at which some individuals would go to blindly support others just to secure their friendship,yes its adviceable to back u friends but this is a forum where we play with words,i personally believe a health or heated debate can occur in a group and people still maintain their friendship
but why would someone try to gag me for talking about couples carrying condoms just because am single,that i dont understand....havent taken anything personal hope you to
well am off to see about a dog,i have a proposal how to minimise all this snapping at each other,which i would kindly beg for your suggestions or refusal'
see you after the portugal v German match
Good evening!
_________________
confrotation is not one of my fetish!

19 Jun 2008

When I go away I often find a pack of condoms have been added to my bag.
...but never a big enough pack.

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
well the 24hour tantrum is over!
As i mentioned before i will not waste another second trying to explain the quoted article which i used the simplest english that even an uneducated blithering fool who hasnt seen the inside of a classroom could make out what i meant... got the answers which i was looking for so thanks for all who contributed
but why would someone try to gag me

I wasnt going to return to this however...
Phuckers, no one has tried to 'gag' you and using insulting remarks such as you have just used is hardly productive is it?
I'm not an uneducated, blithering fool who hasnt seen the inside of a classroom and if you had made yourself clear in the first place and worded your post in a way ALL could understand then none of this would have happened.
I suggest you stop insulting people on this forum and look to your own shortcomings,you are far from perfect and your aggressive manner is serving no purpose.
Enjoy the match

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
however
am astonished by the level at which some individuals would go to blindly support others

Yes, so am I.
Edited to say: not everyone who supports people blindly, sees everything they post. Sometimes 'iffy' posts are removed before 'blind' mates see them.

19 Jun 2008

Quote by flower411

well the 24hour tantrum is over!
As i mentioned before i will not waste another second trying to explain the quoted article which i used the simplest english that even an uneducated blithering fool who hasnt seen the inside of a classroom could make out what i meant... got the answers which i was looking for so thanks for all who contributed
but why would someone try to gag me

I wasnt going to return to this however...
Phuckers, no one has tried to 'gag' you and using insulting remarks such as you have just used is hardly productive is it?
I'm not an uneducated, blithering fool who hasnt seen the inside of a classroom and if you had made yourself clear in the first place and worded your post in a way ALL could understand then none of this would have happened.
I suggest you stop insulting people on this forum and look to your own shortcomings,you are far from perfect and your aggressive manner is serving no purpose.
Enjoy the match
I was going to agree with you helnheaven, but I`m sure I`ll just get insulted for not putting down my own views !!

smackbottom

19 Jun 2008

Quote by flower411
Oh no sorry ...not stupid !! "blithering fool" !!!

Ahem - 'uneducated blithering fool', if you don't mind rolleyes

19 Jun 2008

Quote by Phuckers
however
am astonished by the level at which some individuals would go to blindly support others just to secure their friendship,yes its adviceable to back u friends but this is a forum where we play with words,i personally believe a health or heated debate can occur in a group and people still maintain their friendship

I wish I could be THAT fickle! If I was that desperate I'd bait her with marmite!
I have on many occasions backed people up when I think they deserved to be, and not just the people I'm closer to either. I've also been known to disagree with people I'm fond of/close to.
There's just no pleasing some people. rolleyes

Pizza time, tara wave