Strapons are expensive, there are cheaper ones but they are hopeless, just a normal dildo with a bit of elastic attached. A decent one has a harness and is modular so that you change the business end, this is my favourite attachment, it looks and feels very real and has the same "give". The only thing it does not do is quit!
It is worth getting one with a hole in the harness so that a man can wear it too and double up his potential!
"Come here bad boy, time you were taught a lesson!"
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Is it true that women fantasise about non consensual sex?
Sex God
I think I have just died and gone to heaven Sal!
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Strapons are expensive, there are cheaper ones but they are hopeless, just a normal dildo with a bit of elastic attached. A decent one has a harness and is modular so that you change the business end, this is my favourite attachment, it looks and feels very real and has the same "give". The only thing it does not do is quit!
It is worth getting one with a hole in the harness so that a man can wear it too and double up his potential!
"Come here bad boy, time you were taught a lesson!"
Gordon Bennett! You are a big boy. I mean girl. I mean whatever. You know I'll go to sleep tonight with that thing on my mind, don't you? ;-)
Something I've always been curious about: do you, as a woman, get any physical pleasure from using the strapon? I can see that there's plenty of psychological pleasure of all sorts, but does the strapon give any physical stimulation?
Mr Licks
God yes! You do get pleasure, apart from the delicious sensation of being in charge and knowing you are penetrating someone the thing presses up against your clit and rubs it in a fantastic way. It does raise one puzzling question though which the other half never seems able to answer: Just how the hell do you guys manage with all that wobbling about in front?
Works on girls too Little Gem, my days are a bit boring at the moment if anyone in the Barnsley/Wakefield area wants to discuss the finer points of who is taking charge.
Sex God
Oh I am so glad there are no mods around right now! I'm loving those pics! 
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Maybe you will have to teach me Sal! ;) :rascal:
:love:Maybe you will have to teach me Sal! ;) :rascal:
I hate that shelf, he has been promising for two years now to replace it! Thanks for reminding me, he has been a bad boy again.
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God yes! You do get pleasure, apart from the delicious sensation of being in charge and knowing you are penetrating someone the thing presses up against your clit and rubs it in a fantastic way.
In that case, maybe I'll take up my GF's suggestion of getting one after all, if she's going to get off on it too. How much did your beastie set you back?
It does raise one puzzling question though which the other half never seems able to answer: Just how the hell do you guys manage with all that wobbling about in front?
Ah, well most of us blokes don't have "all that" in front. Blokes equipped to the dimensions of that monster are definitely in a minority. I certainly have no problems with my measly 7" wobbling about
Thanks for the pix, Sal - they've got my imagination working... ;-)
Mr Licks
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I suppose that ,if you are with someone that you TRUST totally then a lot of fantasies that are not usually thought feasible,are possible. the operative word is TRUST!
But it becomes a paradox because if you trust someone and have discussed it then it's not , it's just a roleplay of . It's one of those fantasies where you can play it out with a partner you trust and enjoy it immensely, but were you actually without giving any kind of consent then it would be horrible, and there would be all kinds of negative feelings associated. One of my biggest worries is that if I ever was by someone I knew that I'd feel guilty and confused if there was any element of enjoyment on my part.
Mr Lickingham, it was bought for me, I admired it when used on me by another woman and she took my husband out the next day to shop for one, I gather they had a wonderful time discussing the various implements with the staff whom hubbie described as "Helpful, knowledgable and sexy".
It cost £80 and came from Pulse and Cocktails, they have a website , I have not been but hubbie has promised me a shopping trip for my birthday to the one in Sheffield, the closest to us.
On a serious note you do not have to penetrate a man with it to have fun, a woman can exercise her dom fantasy and get hubbie to explore some of his oral fantasies by having him kneel and lick chocalate off it (Maple syrup is nice and messy too), it also makes a nice rubber cosh to spank with. Best of all as I mentioned earlier a man can wear it and it leaves his own equipment available, even if not into anal the sensation of having two pricks sliding up into your pussy is something every woman should be treated too at least once in her life!
For girl girl fun it is great because it leaves both hands free, and for some strange reason I find it gets any male spectators total attention while being used that way.
It cost £80 and came from Pulse and Cocktails, they have a website , I have not been but hubbie has promised me a shopping trip for my birthday to the one in Sheffield, the closest to us.
On a serious note you do not have to penetrate a man with it to have fun, a woman can exercise her dom fantasy and get hubbie to explore some of his oral fantasies by having him kneel and lick chocalate off it (Maple syrup is nice and messy too), it also makes a nice rubber cosh to spank with. Best of all as I mentioned earlier a man can wear it and it leaves his own equipment available, even if not into anal the sensation of having two pricks sliding up into your pussy is something every woman should be treated too at least once in her life!
For girl girl fun it is great because it leaves both hands free, and for some strange reason I find it gets any male spectators total attention while being used that way.
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It cost £80 and came from Pulse and Cocktails, they have a website , I have not been but hubbie has promised me a shopping trip for my birthday to the one in Sheffield, the closest to us.
Thanks for the tip, Sal - I'll check it out, and 80 quid's not too much. Hell, if my GF doesn't fancy it, I can always strap it to a chair and do myself with it. There used to be a website of a guy who did exactly that, although I think it's gone west now, and amazingly he used to come without touching his dick, just through the anal stimulation alone.
Best of all as I mentioned earlier a man can wear it and it leaves his own equipment available, even if not into anal the sensation of having two pricks sliding up into your pussy is something every woman should be treated too at least once in her life!
I think I could see how that works in practice. Interesting, a bloke could DP (vag & anal) a woman just by himself if positioned correctly. Gives me ideas, for sure...
For girl girl fun it is great because it leaves both hands free, and for some strange reason I find it gets any male spectators total attention while being used that way.
Oh, I can see that that would be one hell of a draw - a woman shagging another woman and letting her fingers do the walking. Oh yes :twisted:
Mr Licks
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Oh yes! I go for both of those things. Hell, I'm a great believer in women on top, because a) I don't have to do much work, b) she's in control of her own pleasure, c) missionary makes me look like a hippo, and d) I get to have a good old fiddle.
If they've got long hair and you're both strongly emotionally connected I just love being underneath it and it brushing my face, you get a a "tent"-like effect where it's just the two of you and nothing else. Oh and the eye-to-eye thing - same as being the one on top of course; that you have free hands to play wherever you like from tits to bum to teasing/stroking elsewhere... She can sit up for a bit too as a change for a different penetration angle/view...
(yes, there's a slight hair fetish thing there).
Sorry, slight hijacking/detour.. Back to strap-ons...
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Hi everyone
It has been something that I have been thinking about after reading an article in a men's magazine. It said that a large majority of women fantasise about non-consensual sex. Is this true and what do you fantasise about?
Trust me I am no weirdo and just want to put an argument to rest that is all.
I look forward to hearing from you all
regards
Paul
Hmmmm seems contradiction in terms to me.
If you fantasise about non consentual sex you must want it therefore it's actually consentual !
Appropriate fantasies should be played out with agreement
how did this one come to pop back up again , after all this time?
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys. It is writen around womens completed questionaires on the subject and it would seem to prove that many of us do have latent and similar fantasys. Im sure we are all adult enough to realise that there is a world of difference between reality and fantasy, some will want to explore these boundaries, others wont.
Also the debate about what is and isnt coinsensual is so similar to the the one about who has the real power in a sub / dom realtionship, initally it would appear that the dom has but if the scenario is done correclty the dom will know what the sub consents too and wont overstep the mark, therfore giving the power back !!
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys. It is writen around womens completed questionaires on the subject and it would seem to prove that many of us do have latent and similar fantasys. Im sure we are all adult enough to realise that there is a world of difference between reality and fantasy, some will want to explore these boundaries, others wont.
Also the debate about what is and isnt coinsensual is so similar to the the one about who has the real power in a sub / dom realtionship, initally it would appear that the dom has but if the scenario is done correclty the dom will know what the sub consents too and wont overstep the mark, therfore giving the power back !!
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how did this one come to pop back up again , after all this time?
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys.
I've got that book somewhere, bought it ages ago but never got around to reading it, is it any good?
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how did this one come to pop back up again , after all this time?
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys.
I've got that book somewhere, bought it ages ago but never got around to reading it, is it any good?
Good late night reading when you dont want anything too demanding.
Some of the stories are very stereotypical but others are more interesting!!
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how did this one come to pop back up again , after all this time?
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys.
I've got that book somewhere, bought it ages ago but never got around to reading it, is it any good?
Good late night reading when you dont want anything too demanding.
Some of the stories are very stereotypical but others are more interesting!!
Thanks foxy.
Quote by Edin BBW
how did this one come to pop back up again , after all this time?
Coincidentally im just reading a Black Lace Book about womens sexual fantasys.
I've got that book somewhere, bought it ages ago but never got around to reading it, is it any good?
Good late night reading when you dont want anything too demanding.
Some of the stories are very stereotypical but others are more interesting!!
Thanks foxy.
I have that book to! I bought it just rencently. As you said foxylady 123 some stories are standard stuff but other make interesting reading!! I also have some other Black Lace books as love te read erotic stories.
Carol
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes
Fantasy number 1 !!!!
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Fantasy number 1 !!!!
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personally i don't believe anyone's fantasy is to be , having fantasies about a bit of rough sex down a ally way with a rugged stranger is not , i don't supposed in any of these fantasies u women claim to have u have a knife pulled out on you are beaten up? that u are left to die somewhere or taken to hospital etc cause lets face it thats what is it'st not a case of him saying.... can i have sex with u? and u saying .....ohhh take me big boy i know i shouldn't but!!!! nobody really fantasises about being its just the thought of being over powered by a good looking stranger that turns us on! and i think that putting the name to these fantasies is a insult to the women who really go thro this, ok rant over u can have ya thread back lol
Sex God
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personally i don't believe anyone's fantasy is to be , having fantasies about a bit of rough sex down a ally way with a rugged stranger is not , i don't supposed in any of these fantasies u women claim to have u have a knife pulled out on you are beaten up? that u are left to die somewhere or taken to hospital etc cause lets face it thats what is it'st not a case of him saying.... can i have sex with u? and u saying .....ohhh take me big boy i know i shouldn't but!!!! nobody really fantasises about being its just the thought of being over powered by a good looking stranger that turns us on! and i think that putting the name to these fantasies is a insult to the women who really go thro this, ok rant over u can have ya thread back lol
I agree Alison, I can't imagine anyone fantasising about as we hear it reported in the news. To fantasise about the violent side of (possibly even death) seems a bit disturbed. My opinion, anyway.
Theres a fine line between non consentual and the sort of fantasy bondage /blindfolded/
pretend your a stranger in my bedroom thing
theres a lady from on here ( who shall remain nameless ) whos thing is along the softer side of the above ..now that makes sense to me
on the other side of the tracks worries me that soemone could find something traumatic potentially gratifying
pretend your a stranger in my bedroom thing
theres a lady from on here ( who shall remain nameless ) whos thing is along the softer side of the above ..now that makes sense to me
on the other side of the tracks worries me that soemone could find something traumatic potentially gratifying
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personally i don't believe anyone's fantasy is to be , having fantasies about a bit of rough sex down a ally way with a rugged stranger is not , i don't supposed in any of these fantasies u women claim to have u have a knife pulled out on you are beaten up? that u are left to die somewhere or taken to hospital etc cause lets face it thats what is it'st not a case of him saying.... can i have sex with u? and u saying .....ohhh take me big boy i know i shouldn't but!!!! nobody really fantasises about being its just the thought of being over powered by a good looking stranger that turns us on! and i think that putting the name to these fantasies is a insult to the women who really go thro this, ok rant over u can have ya thread back lol
I agree Alison, I can't imagine anyone fantasising about as we hear it reported in the news. To fantasise about the violent side of (possibly even death) seems a bit disturbed. My opinion, anyway.
People fantasise about all sorts of dark things that might seem disturbed and unacceptable to others... I remember seeing a programme about a Dominatrix who had an elderly Jewish holocaust survivor client who liked her to dress up as an SS guard etc etc. It might seem distasteful to us, but it was obviously his way of dealing with something. Healthier than drinking a bottle of whisky a night or similar IMO.
Consensual sexual play is a pretty safe place to explore your psyche, as long as its done carefully.
Pretty much every girl I've had a relationship with has had this sort of fantasy (the one, not the SS one), and really enjoyed it once they're with someone that they communicate with well and trust enough.
Sex God
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Pretty much every girl I've had a relationship with has had this sort of fantasy (the one, not the SS one), and really enjoyed it once they're with someone that they communicate with well and trust enough.
Isn't that the point? Most women who are don't get the option to know or trust their - he's doing it against her will and thereby abusing any trust (ifshe knows him). If it's a fantasy/role-play, wouldn't there be a 'safe' word that lets the ' ' know when he's gone too far? I doubt that exists in a real life situation.
It's a fantasy - it doesn't have to be 100% authentic! And as several people have already said, just because you fantasise or enjoy role-playing something, it in no way means you'd actually want it to happen in real life.
Regarding "safe words", they can be a contentious issue, and they're certainly not 100% reliable. My previous girlfriend got so wrapped up in whatever sub fantasy she was playing in that she wouldn't have been together enough to safeword even if she'd wanted to.
Regarding "safe words", they can be a contentious issue, and they're certainly not 100% reliable. My previous girlfriend got so wrapped up in whatever sub fantasy she was playing in that she wouldn't have been together enough to safeword even if she'd wanted to.
Sex God
Apologies if I offended anyone by using the word 'disturbed', maybe it was a poor choice of word but I do think it's a bit worrying that someone would fantasise about . Sorry, just my opinion.
