Brucie makes a fair point.
Bloke says what I woulda said.
Brucie then takes the same stance as me.
Just thought Id confirm I was paying attention.
No way would I risk bareback sex with someone of whom all I know is she likes a lot of cock!
BG, never good but always careful!!!
I agree with that too Brucie but the downside is a bit too big for me to want to take even that slight risk.
Don't bareback - use condoms there isn't an excuse good enough not too!
hi there
ive always used condoms and always will
once ive seen a post off a guy or a cpl or single fem saying they will do bareback i stay well clear of them to
keep covered and lets all stay safe
jo x
dont understand you brucie
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i choose to use them as i wanna be SAFE
and lee always uses condoms to
thnaks jo
do you ride your bike in shorts and t shirt brucie?
I received my all clear test two weeks ago but since then its actually put me off sex all together,..Brucie are you advocating for condom or not,i dont seem to understand the point of your thread
I think that if you are sufficiently ignorant about the risks to yourself and your other multiple (should you be so lucky) partners to engage in wanton unprotected sex, that you are proving yourself to be an unworthy and flagrantly disrespectful playing partner.
I even find the term 'bareback' disrespectful and incredibly unsexy. I understand that there are differnt criterion for each person choosing to live this lifestyle but personally, I find the concept that individuals would autonomously choose 'sensation over safety' to be rather incongruous with the precepts of this lifestyle as I see it.
It's simply, for me, a matter of common sense, even if you're told that the person is 'clean'... how mnay people on this site actually go and get screened more than once a decade?
We can all be carrying something without knowledge, including the flu!! Surely it's much nicer and simpler, and more importanly more intelligent and considerate to just slip on a condom so that all of your partners can play in the knowledge that they are at least 99% protected from the contaminants of your previous encounters.
I don't want to sound like I'm on my soapbox (which is foaming nicely) but I do think that this is about respect, for the self and for others rather than a matter of preference.
I don't sleep with established and screened partners without condoms so why would I give a stranger this preferential treatment?
I don't think there is a need or a place for unprotected sex in this world. Giving yourself up to being open sexually with strangers is a minefield of risk, insecurity and hopefully comaradery - why intrude on what is a tricky balance by offering such a lack of respect as to suggest that your back might be bare, and seriously what on earth does your back have to do with your cock in this instance?
Rambling amber....
The only times I've not used a condom is when in a long term relationship and that's when I hang up my swinging boots too. I still get checked regularly though and insist on the guy wearing a condom when I am swinging
Because its been around for such a while people have had time to develop some very evasive discussions about safe sex. Its almost become something that we dare not admit to; but yet everyone seems to be guilty of, or something mixed up like that.
the point is if you feel concerned about your health why are you taking what you consider to be a dangerous risk by being involved in or on the fringes of; sexual social groups? If your health is safe then your reputation may not be. What's the more likely to attract new partners, your reputation surely?
If one is supposedly practising safe sex why do people say they have regular check ups. 'just in case'. Just in case of what? You don't need one do you?
So all this sounds so well intentioned but yet somehow hints that all is not quite as correct as one is supposed to believe.
Whilst people talk the theory its not long after the first obligatory use of the condom that sex ensues without either partner checking each others' health issues.
making all the efforts to practise safe sex redundant.
So where does it all lose its discipline?
So does this mean that younger people are becoming desensitised to the dangers of HIV? Hopefully it's just you Brucie, safe sex and condoms are probably all that have stopped an AIDS epidemic wiping out billions of people worldwide.
I remember how scared we all were in the 80's when the press really started warning of the dangers, we didn't know everything but we were right to be worried, and careful too.
To be honest, it doesn't come down to statistics or facts for or against for me, just personal choice really. And I choose to use condoms for penetrative sex, always have and always will - aside from in monogamous relationships where we've both been tested.
It's a simple case of risk management in my head. If I have information or knowledge or something to protect me, I use it to my advantage...same as gingerjo said, if I see someone mouthing off about unprotected sex in Chat etc I make a conscious note to avoid them.. and have done!
As far as oral sex goes.. no, I don't use condoms. If I suck cock, I want cock in my mouth and not rubber.. even the flavoured ones taste like orange, chocolate and mint rubber...ewwww. As far as I’m aware and based on information I’ve got from GUM doctors, the HIV virus is actually a fairly weak one and saliva can and will kill it, let alone stomach acid! Also, if you have them, sores in your mouth bleed out, not in, so based on that knowledge it's a personal choice and a risk I'm prepared to take.
Would I have protected, penetrative sex with someone I knew was HIV+? No, I wouldn’t. Again, I’ll use knowledge I have to make an informed, personal decision and limit risk. It would also limit what I was prepared to do with them (aside from fucking) as I like rimming etc too and I’d just be too conscious of things ..if that makes sense.
Anyways, I guess what I’m waffling on about and trying to say is that I don’t care what the ‘statistics’ say.. for and against, I’ll make my own decisions. Sunbeds give you cancer allegedly... but I still jump on one of them now and then but as far as condoms go.. always.
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