Manners/politeness in pms

Quote by dekntan
Not here to rant about anyone, name n shame or moan etc just more to get peoples opinions on the matter before i get lynched!!!!! :rotflmao:
Before i start just to note i rarely send pms dek does most of the pms and he has the patience to sit and look through the gallery and photo ads i much prefer to get to no people in chat etc :D and hardly look at profiles unless someone says so n so has nice pics or something along those lines well we all gotta perv at some point aint we
So the other night dek sits and trawls through the gallery and photo ads sends a few pms we gets a reply the nxt day not the regular "no thanks" or "not interested sorry" "thanks for your interest but your not for us" etc...... but basically saying your way to fat hes way to old........ (not quoted)
ahem thanks for pointing out the obvious :D :D :D
a no reply or no thanks would of done but noo just to make sure we gets the message :shock:
Has manners and politeness gone out of the window or am i just jumping on a high horse ????????????? :D
this is why i dont send pms often :x :x

Quote by HJ47
Wow -- you peeps get answers to your mail !!!!
I get about 1 reply for every 75 sent -- but at least now I know why my pleas to Anais have gone unanswered lol

ere av sent u sum messages ,and can send pics lol ,cant c y u aint replied av cum 2 conclusion u r a timewaster or a cockteaser.

thanks for the reply,yeh this issa gettin entertaining 1 .i av tried downloading pics to my profile but they wont download mpeg for sum reason .and if u r boasting u av got pics on u r profile then y not show u r face ? is it because it matches u r arse?actually if it does then i wont complain as u av gotta gorgeous arse even mo so u into anal sex as well lol ,defo a true blooded woman or just another COCKTEASER , i if u r so genuine then message me u r e-mail addy n i'll defo send sum 4 insulting my intelligence ,r u granted authority to use academic initials after u r signature?U keep thinkin u r shit dont smell lol n un day sumun will make u eat it n then u'll just realise it smells like everyun elses! havva nice day!

Quote by H-x
These mails were from a while ago, I saved them mainly to remind myself of the guy's name incase I bumped into him in the chat room, and because they were so bad they were funny.

ere av sent u sum messages ,and can send pics lol ,cant c y u aint replied av cum 2 conclusion u r a timewaster or a cockteaser.

thanks for the reply,yeh this issa gettin entertaining 1 .i av tried downloading pics to my profile but they wont download mpeg for sum reason .and if u r boasting u av got pics on u r profile then y not show u r face ? is it because it matches u r arse?actually if it does then i wont complain as u av gotta gorgeous arse even mo so u into anal sex as well lol ,defo a true blooded woman or just another COCKTEASER , i if u r so genuine then message me u r e-mail addy n i'll defo send sum 4 insulting my intelligence ,r u granted authority to use academic initials after u r signature?U keep thinkin u r shit dont smell lol n un day sumun will make u eat it n then u'll just realise it smells like everyun elses! havva nice day!

Quote by H-x
These mails were from a while ago, I saved them mainly to remind myself of the guy's name incase I bumped into him in the chat room, and because they were so bad they were funny.

ere av sent u sum messages ,and can send pics lol ,cant c y u aint replied av cum 2 conclusion u r a timewaster or a cockteaser.

thanks for the reply,yeh this issa gettin entertaining 1 .i av tried downloading pics to my profile but they wont download mpeg for sum reason .and if u r boasting u av got pics on u r profile then y not show u r face ? is it because it matches u r arse?actually if it does then i wont complain as u av gotta gorgeous arse even mo so u into anal sex as well lol ,defo a true blooded woman or just another COCKTEASER , i if u r so genuine then message me u r e-mail addy n i'll defo send sum 4 insulting my intelligence ,r u granted authority to use academic initials after u r signature?U keep thinkin u r shit dont smell lol n un day sumun will make u eat it n then u'll just realise it smells like everyun elses! havva nice day!

Quote by Samandken
If good sex is in any way dependant on personality, some of these people must be as exciting in bed as a cardboard cutout. I think some of these clowns think of swinging as a wham bam affair and fail to realise the depth and breadth of interesting people in this scene and in failing to act with respect for everyone else miss out on the opportunity to interact with some wonderful people (not to mention not having any sex). Ah well, their loss ...

Quote by Mr-Powers
Not here to rant about anyone, name n shame or moan etc just more to get peoples opinions on the matter before i get lynched!!!!! :rotflmao:
Before i start just to note i rarely send pms dek does most of the pms and he has the patience to sit and look through the gallery and photo ads i much prefer to get to no people in chat etc :D and hardly look at profiles unless someone says so n so has nice pics or something along those lines well we all gotta perv at some point aint we
So the other night dek sits and trawls through the gallery and photo ads sends a few pms we gets a reply the nxt day not the regular "no thanks" or "not interested sorry" "thanks for your interest but your not for us" etc...... but basically saying your way to fat hes way to old........ (not quoted)
ahem thanks for pointing out the obvious :D :D :D
a no reply or no thanks would of done but noo just to make sure we gets the message :shock:
Has manners and politeness gone out of the window or am i just jumping on a high horse ????????????? :D
this is why i dont send pms often :x :x

Quote by dekntan
nope mr powers not a mis understanding it was "your to fat and hes to old" :shock:

Quote by swing_fun_cpl
Manners and politeness should ALWAYS be used since they are the oil that smooths the social gears. And let's face it - we are here to have fun, not to be insulted.
But... I am going to say something here that might seems a little controversial, mainly so that I can play Devil's Advocate so we can see both sides of the picture...
When sending rejection messages to people that don't suit me/us as potential swinging playmates, I was always told that in the swinging world all you should need to say is "thanks but no thanks." The reason given for this is that any swingers should understand that the choice of playmate(s) is a very personal choice and all swingers should understand that no matter how gorgeous/good natured they are, there can still be reasons why another swinger would not want to play with them. Also, if the person rejecting them gives them a reason for that rejection, that can cause bad feelings in the one rejected, no matter how good that reason is.
This would be fabulous if it was actually the case! In an ideal world I think we should all be able to just say "thanks but no thanks" and that should be enough. But in the real world, that does not seem to be enough for most people. In my experience, people seem to find it much more rude, and much more frustrating, to not give a reason than to give one. When I have tried to just say "thanks but no thanks" there have been several times when I have been subjected to a great inquisition as to why I wasn't interested in swinging with the person/people - and they never understood or accepted the explanation and it has caused a lot of tension. So I still think it would have been much better if they could have just accepted the "no thanks." But... my point is that they could not. And since the particular incident I am thinking of, I have tried to provide a polite but truthful explanation as to why I/we have no interest in swinging with them, since the majority of people seem to want some kind of explanation.
I suppose in essence what I am trying to say is that I would love for us to live in a world where no explanations are necessary, but in my opinion we don't live in that world. This means that most people will attempt to give explanations for their rejections. So as far as I can see this means one thing - swingers will have to get used to receiving rejections with explanations that they may not like! A thin-skinned swinger is a swinger who is going to get hurt by the things people say - so if you are thin skinned - DON'T SWING or expect to get hurt and toughen up.
Just my opinion, feel free to disagree - I'm not thin-skinned!
Regards,
Russell

Quote by dekntan
aww thanks bbw will add more tomorrow but its been a long day and daytime drinking is :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

Quote by helnheaven
Treat people as you would like to be treated yourself is the philosophy I live by. No excuse for bad manners, PM's or otherwise.