I know that everyone has the right to be a member of a chat/swingers site, but is it right that there are men out there who swear they are single but are concealing the fact that there is a wife and kids out there.
It is not wrong if the wife knows what the husband gets up to, and is happy for the husband to play and have fun. But in my considered opinion it is very wrong for a husband to play/swing behind his wifes back.
If these persons are found out is it wrong of me to think they should be outed??
Am in total agreement with RedHot's reply regarding being judgmental on others.
For whatever reason each of us joined this site we are all here for basically the same thing which is to enjoy our lives they way we want to lead it. Would it be right if someone wanted to judge us merely because we have a different view to sexual liberation than they have?
Society is all to quick to put labels on people yet here each are treated as individuals and above all else we can be open with each other about our choice.
As for naming and shaming a married man merely because he's a member of the site and for what ever reason doesn't wish his family to know. Would any of us like to be 'outed' because of our membership on here?
I think not!
It's a very difficult decision to make if ever going to tell vanilla friends in our lives about this side of us. Many would/could not understand our reasons for being here so leaving them in ignorance is often easier for them.
Only one final note personally I do find it a shame when people who join as a couple but then break up they frequently fail to change their membership status back to single.
Have encountered this a couple of times and the person concerned admit they are now a single and will change status shortly yet a couple of months later are still around as a couple.
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ps. being fairly new the forum myself it's often not easy to work out what place to use for a posting. Though suspect the Cafe would have been a better place for this thread yet we all have to start somewhere and no doubt I'll make a few more errr mistakes too. Sure some of the regulars to the forum will help out when I do. :smile:
...and married women.
Lets be up front with each other.
Should we name and shame? NO! We do not have all the facts! It is not our reason to be here. I am here for fun.
I am hunting for fun not victims.
There are lots of married / attached people on here , there here for many reasons.
I'm not married but could be called attached , if i'm asked I dont hide it .. I tell most people before I meet them or during our first meeting. I have reasons why I'm here and if the people i meet care enough to ask why i tell them and I dont think I should be 'outed' because I dont fit what some think is 'right and normal'.
As for the married men that were first mentioned ... they proberly have there reasons too for being here ... I dont have any quarms about meeting married guys , its nice tho if they say they are.
Now i'm going to duck my head and wait for the tar and feathers to be thrown at me !
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I'm a married man on here behind my partners back. Everyone assumes men do it just for a 'bit of extra / on the side' but that isn't always the case. I wont fill you in with all my details, as they are far too personal but please don't tar us all with the same brush x
I agree with most we have met with an nice bloke and yes hes married and his wife dosen't know and that has nothing to do with us.
But (there is always a but) honesty is what counts if the guy is honest at the begining thats fine, when you get guys
A) pretending to be a couple when there single
B) if they are married pretening there wife know (when the wife know nothing) and makeing out they swing as a couple but when you meet up the the wife as had a sudden illness or is shopping for 12hrs in italy or has suddenly had to go to there mother kids are ill etc then i do have a problem with that
Honesty thats what counts Honesty
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