The question that I would like to ask is can a happly married man who like to swing but wife does not. Can he find couples to play with if he is straight with them and tells them that he is married ? I repeat that I am happly married and would never leave wife but we have different sex drive. This is main due to pills taken for depression cause by birth of son now 7. Finding a couple is hard when you are a single male, so I welcolm opinions and advice.
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Sex God
the short answer is "yes you can!"
some people actually prefer married men, cos they think there's less likelihood of an emotional attachement? and some of us wouldn't presume to judge your own personal decisions? ;)
but . . .
be prepared to be torn to pieces in this very thread eh? ;)
lots of people hate it with a passion, and they will so tell you so! ;)
neil x x x ;)
some people actually prefer married men, cos they think there's less likelihood of an emotional attachement? and some of us wouldn't presume to judge your own personal decisions? ;)
but . . .
be prepared to be torn to pieces in this very thread eh? ;)
lots of people hate it with a passion, and they will so tell you so! ;)
neil x x x ;)
Sex God
People will like it or dislike it and you will probably find someone prepared to meet you. However, we don't need to know your excuses for playing away. They are just how YOU justify it.
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
thanks neil I know that there are a lot of people that will have bad things to say but I feel that that is their problem
Thanks for you good one and none prejudging one
And you have just prejudged all those people who you know will disagree or post something you don't want to hear.
Sex God
Does your wife know and is she happy with it?
Sex God
Snap!!
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Quote by westerross
Snap!!
And again
Casanova
I love these sort of threads. A guy's preceived acceptability in the swinging scene seems to be dependant upon his marital status, and whether or not his wife approves...OK...
I wonder how this thread would have gone if a married woman, whose husband had lost his sex drive, wanted to swing alone, or even explore her bisexuality. I wonder if she would have had a mailbox full of "helpful" PM's or whether she would encounter the same prejudices as a man?
No, actually, I don't think there is anything to wonder about at all, on second thoughts... :shock:
I wonder how this thread would have gone if a married woman, whose husband had lost his sex drive, wanted to swing alone, or even explore her bisexuality. I wonder if she would have had a mailbox full of "helpful" PM's or whether she would encounter the same prejudices as a man?
No, actually, I don't think there is anything to wonder about at all, on second thoughts... :shock:
Sex God
Quote by partyman
I love these sort of threads. A guy's preceived acceptability in the swinging scene seems to be dependant upon his marital status, and whether or not his wife approves...OK...
I wonder how this thread would have gone if a married woman, whose husband had lost his sex drive, wanted to swing alone, or even explore her bisexuality. I wonder if she would have had a mailbox full of "helpful" PM's or whether she would encounter the same prejudices as a man?
No, actually, I don't think there is anything to wonder about at all, on second thoughts... :shock:
I would have said the same. had it been a married woman asking. Obviously I can't answer for the other people on the thread though. We have turned down married women as well as married men who are playing without their partner's knowledge or consent.
Sex God
not gonna reply to posts that might personalise my argument . . . ((( starmanxx this has nowt to do with you personally, or your intentions? it's general comment! ;) )))
a married man joins the site, is open, declares his marital status, yadda yadda ya . . .
any number of people express their opinion saying basically he ain't welcome in the swinging community ((( which is . . . .erm . . . i would have said bollox, but that might offend, so i'll say it's not exactly true? )))
married man then thinks "well clearly, if you don't wanna swing with me, well i wasn't looking for you anyways, but . . .
now i've seen what it's like, maybe i'll pretend to be single and start again . . . ."
people are then deluded into thinking "well maybe i quite like this guy, being single and what have you?"
then they invest themselves in a relationship that is going nowhere, cos the guys married, and bugger me if they don't have a hell of a fall in the offing, that is ultimately really bloody damaging!?
if you don't wanna play with married men, don't play with 'em, but don't encourage deceit by your absolute condemnation?
we ignore people that don't appeal to us all the time ((( though occasionally we royally rip the piss! ))) so why can't people ignore married men if they don't appeal?
they're not asking for your attention are they? they're asking for those that don't have a problem with it?
neil x x x ;)
a married man joins the site, is open, declares his marital status, yadda yadda ya . . .
any number of people express their opinion saying basically he ain't welcome in the swinging community ((( which is . . . .erm . . . i would have said bollox, but that might offend, so i'll say it's not exactly true? )))
married man then thinks "well clearly, if you don't wanna swing with me, well i wasn't looking for you anyways, but . . .
now i've seen what it's like, maybe i'll pretend to be single and start again . . . ."
people are then deluded into thinking "well maybe i quite like this guy, being single and what have you?"
then they invest themselves in a relationship that is going nowhere, cos the guys married, and bugger me if they don't have a hell of a fall in the offing, that is ultimately really bloody damaging!?
if you don't wanna play with married men, don't play with 'em, but don't encourage deceit by your absolute condemnation?
we ignore people that don't appeal to us all the time ((( though occasionally we royally rip the piss! ))) so why can't people ignore married men if they don't appeal?
they're not asking for your attention are they? they're asking for those that don't have a problem with it?neil x x x ;)
Quote by partyman
I wonder how this thread would have gone if a married woman, whose husband had lost his sex drive, wanted to swing alone, or even explore her bisexuality. I wonder if she would have had a mailbox full of "helpful" PM's or whether she would encounter the same prejudices as a man?
Doesn't matter to me if they are male or female or there reasons for swinging if they are honest with their partner.
As Ian said, swinging is all about consent and choices. A single swinging without their partners consent, in my book, is not swinging.
That comes from someone that is a couple but could swing alone if we decided.
Sex God
Agreed Neil, but Starman asked for opinions and comments.... he will get them 
Some will say yes, at least he's being honest about his intentions on here. Some will disagree. Some will be prejudiced. But there will be some people who will meet with married men or women. Fair enough, my only comment is that they (the married people playing away) feel as though they have to come up with excuses to justify doing it.
Some will say yes, at least he's being honest about his intentions on here. Some will disagree. Some will be prejudiced. But there will be some people who will meet with married men or women. Fair enough, my only comment is that they (the married people playing away) feel as though they have to come up with excuses to justify doing it.
Quote by neilinleeds
not gonna reply to posts that might personalise my argument . . . ((( starmanxx this has nowt to do with you personally, or your intentions? it's general comment! ;) )))
a married man joins the site, is open, declares his marital status, yadda yadda ya . . .
any number of people express their opinion saying basically he ain't welcome in the swinging community ((( which is . . . .erm . . . i would have said bollox, but that might offend, so i'll say it's not exactly true? )))
married man then thinks "well clearly, if you don't wanna swing with me, well i wasn't looking for you anyways, but . . .
now i've seen what it's like, maybe i'll pretend to be single and start again . . . ."
people are then deluded into thinking "well maybe i quite like this guy, being single and what have you?"
then they invest themselves in a relationship that is going nowhere, cos the guys married, and bugger me if they don't have a hell of a fall in the offing, that is ultimately really bloody damaging!?
if you don't wanna play with married men, don't play with 'em, but don't encourage deceit by your absolute condemnation?
we ignore people that don't appeal to us all the time ((( though occasionally we royally rip the piss! ))) so why can't people ignore married men if they don't appeal?
neil x x x ;)
You think too much!
Casanova
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Doesn't matter to me if they are male or female or there reasons for swinging if they are honest with their partner
Well that's fair enough. Assuming that starmanxx is being as honest with his partner as he is with the rest of us, how is he to be given the benefit of the doubt? Does he have to carry a signed letter of consent from his wife whenever he goes to meet someone?
Quote by partyman
Doesn't matter to me if they are male or female or there reasons for swinging if they are honest with their partner
Well that's fair enough. Assuming that starmanxx is being as honest with his partner as he is with the rest of us, how is he to be given the benefit of the doubt? Does he have to carry a signed letter of consent from his wife whenever he goes to meet someone?
I do!
Steve has my permission to meet alone partyman... If anyone wants to talk to me to confirm this then they can.... I know that this is the case with several other guys on this site that also have permission to meet alone...
I am with Dawn and Ian on this one I am afraid... If you dont have your partners permission then it's not swinging...
Shireen
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I am with Dawn and Ian on this one I am afraid... If you dont have your partners permission then it's not swinging...
Shireen
xxx
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
The question that I would like to ask is can a happly married man who like to swing but wife does not. Can he find couples to play with if he is straight with them and tells them that he is married ? I repeat that I am happly married and would never leave wife but we have different sex drive. This is main due to pills taken for depression cause by birth of son now 7. Finding a couple is hard when you are a single male, so I welcolm opinions and advice.
apparantly, yes
Quote by partyman
Doesn't matter to me if they are male or female or there reasons for swinging if they are honest with their partner
Well that's fair enough. Assuming that starmanxx is being as honest with his partner as he is with the rest of us, how is he to be given the benefit of the doubt? Does he have to carry a signed letter of consent from his wife whenever he goes to meet someone?
Yes, it's called the swinging consent card and all male solo swingers are issued one.
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
Doesn't matter to me if they are male or female or there reasons for swinging if they are honest with their partner
Well that's fair enough. Assuming that starmanxx is being as honest with his partner as he is with the rest of us, how is he to be given the benefit of the doubt? Does he have to carry a signed letter of consent from his wife whenever he goes to meet someone?
I do!
no, it's not a letter of consent. it says 'please do not return'
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Quote by Happy Cats
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neil x x x ;)
You think too much!
ha! come out and argue with me you pussy!
:sparring:((( did ya get it? happy cats? pussy? no? ok, i'll fetch me coat!
)))neil x x x :P
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Quote by Shireen_Mids
I am with Dawn and Ian on this one I am afraid... If you dont have your partners permission then it's not swinging...
I'm with you on that as well, and in an ideal world we will all be issued with swinging passports that can be inspected by whoever to see who has permission to do what...
...but...
,,,in real life situations, guys who get bitten first time will lie through their teeth to avoid complicated explinations (as mentioned by Neil), so couples will inadvertantly swing with married men whether they know it or not...and no-one will care two hoots about the marital status (let alone domestic permissions) of a fortuitous (possibly bi) single female that they happen to get on well with. What's the betting that where sex with a female is on offer, what you don't know won't huirt you?
It'a not the principle of what constitutes swinging that is at stake here, it's what I bet is the dual standards faced by men compared to women.
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