Munch attendees?

11 Feb 2005

This particular question has come from a recent exchange of words.
Just wondered what people's reaction would be if a gay couple turned up at a munch?
Would anyone be put off if a gay couple put themselves on the guest list?
We all know that munches are social and non-threatening events. I'm inclined to think that if a lesbian couple attended a munch, there would be many couples who would stand and chat with them (either just being friendly or trying to 'pull' them). Just made me wonder if the same people would be as inclined to chat with a male gay couple?
I know we'd chat to either, just as we would with anyone else there.
Please don't anyone be offended by this, it really is a genuine question and not meant to be divisive in any way. If you'd rather not post in the forum but want to say something then pm me by all means, it will stay in pm.
Bev
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11 Feb 2005

Quote by freckledbird
This particular question has come from a recent exchange of words.
Just wondered what people's reaction would be if a gay couple turned up at a munch?
Would anyone be put off if a gay couple put themselves on the guest list?
We all know that munches are social and non-threatening events. I'm inclined to think that if a lesbian couple attended a munch, there would be many couples who would stand and chat with them (either just being friendly or trying to 'pull' them). Just made me wonder if the same people would be as inclined to chat with a male gay couple?
I know we'd chat to either, just as we would with anyone else there.
Please don't anyone be offended by this, it really is a genuine question and not meant to be divisive in any way. If you'd rather not post in the forum but want to say something then pm me by all means, it will stay in pm.
Bev
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If it was a couple who were known in the chat room or forum then I see no reason at all for them not attending. Being a gay male of female couple would certainly not put me off talking to them.
C

11 Feb 2005

Munches should be the perfect opertunity for like minded people to meet in a non threatening environment. Gay couples can swing. Might even make the perfect partners for couples with a bi male, bi single males etc. So no, i'd have no problem with it. All adds to the rich tapestry so to speak

11 Feb 2005

Quote by freckledbird
This particular question has come from a recent exchange of words.
Just wondered what people's reaction would be if a gay couple turned up at a munch?
Would anyone be put off if a gay couple put themselves on the guest list?
We all know that munches are social and non-threatening events. I'm inclined to think that if a lesbian couple attended a munch, there would be many couples who would stand and chat with them (either just being friendly or trying to 'pull' them). Just made me wonder if the same people would be as inclined to chat with a male gay couple?
I know we'd chat to either, just as we would with anyone else there.
Please don't anyone be offended by this, it really is a genuine question and not meant to be divisive in any way. If you'd rather not post in the forum but want to say something then pm me by all means, it will stay in pm.
Bev
xx

Hey
I dont believe it would bother me at all if a gay couple were to attend a minch I was at. I would chat to them without hesitation. Just because they are gay it doesnt mean they need to be treated like lepers!!!
Vicky xx

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Scandal
To be honest Bev, I think it's a fairly daft question.

Och, you shut up :mrgreen:

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Scandal
To be honest Bev, I think it's a fairly daft question.

Sorry Scandal, I know that it would appear to be a daft question given the definition of a munch, but it's a question that I've been asked. Obviously the person who asked me wasn't sure of the reaction, having seen the chat in this forum and as such, I do think it's a valid question.
Bev
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11 Feb 2005

I personally see no reason a gay couple should not attend a Munch, I will quite happily chat to anyone and certainly don't only chat to people who might be interested in me sexually.
This site is in general very accepting of all variations of sexuality and as a Munch is vanilla event I don't see why they shouldn't be just as welcome as anyone else. We have people come to munches who declare openly that they are not looking to swing and they are made welcome.
The only requirement I would think is that they are regulars either in here or the chat room.
Roger the Dragon.
P.S. - We already have quite a few Bisexual men who attend so if people were offended by two blokes snogging I think we would already know about it.

11 Feb 2005

People are people regardless of orientation.
I will speak with folk at a munch that I don't fancy and wouldn't play with. I see no problem at munches at all as they are just a big party. dunno

Maybe I'm just naive.
If someone had a chip on their shoulder or didn't want to speak to me then it's their loss. I'm not missing out on anything.
I don't see the problem with gay people being at a munch as it is classed as a vanilla social event. It's not like they'd be down anyone and everyone's pants is it!? rolleyes

Anyone who gets overly gropy at a munch without asking is heading for trouble regardles of gender or sexuallity.

11 Feb 2005

Depends...would I be allowed to snog them?! :twisted:
Seriously, I would welcome a gay couple at any party or social event. Our little community here is all about diversity; and, at an event like a munch, you get the rare opportunity to experience that diversity face-to-face. I wouldn't perceive them any differently than anyone else.
If we're talking about private meets (i.e. "with intent"), however, that might be a slightly different story. I tend to be jaded against anyone who isn't even remotely bi-curious, whether they be male or female, so meeting up with a 100% gay couple would be as unlikely for Vix & me as meeting with one that's 100% straight.
~Reese! surprised

11 Feb 2005

Well, no-one seems to have problems talking to the bi male members of SH, so why not the gay ones too. I doubt a gay male couple would be given a second thought really, all part of the crowd here cool

8-) 8-)

11 Feb 2005

When I read your question I was in the same camp as Scandal, my initial thought was .......eh?.....what?......how does someones sexuality make two bob's worth of difference. I guess from what you say and because you have asked the question, the subject has been raised by others but I still gotta stick with........eh?.......what?

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Scandal
If anyone here has a problem with a gay couple attending a munch I think they seriously have to ask themselves do they think they are in the right place.

What he said. :thumbup:
~Reese! surprised

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Scandal
To be honest Bev, I think it's a fairly daft question.

Sorry Scandal, I know that it would appear to be a daft question given the definition of a munch, but it's a question that I've been asked. Obviously the person who asked me wasn't sure of the reaction, having seen the chat in this forum and as such, I do think it's a valid question.
Bev
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Maybe I'm assuming too much of people here then Bev.
If anyone here has a problem with a gay couple attending a munch I think they seriously have to ask themselves do they think they are in the right place.
Hope that clears it up.
I agree
Bev
xx

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Scandal
Maybe I'm assuming too much of people here then Bev.
If anyone here has a problem with a gay couple attending a munch I think they seriously have to ask themselves do they think they are in the right place.
Hope that clears it up.

Scandal! Soooooo well said! It is a munch afterall! All active users of the site welcome!
silly

assionkiss:
Gem. x

11 Feb 2005

Quote by freckledbird
To be honest Bev, I think it's a fairly daft question.

Sorry Scandal, I know that it would appear to be a daft question given the definition of a munch, but it's a question that I've been asked. Obviously the person who asked me wasn't sure of the reaction, having seen the chat in this forum and as such, I do think it's a valid question.
Bev
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Afraid you've lost me on this one, Bev. From what you've said, it would appear that you have picked up anti-gay feelings from the forum. That's never come across to me, ever.
When Judy wanted to come to the very first Munch, she posed the question as to whether she could come in character. No-one objected and no-one complained at the Munch. and it takes a lot more bottle to come as she did, than to come as a gay guy dressed normally. (more because her blouse clashed with her skirt, if I remember correctly lol

!)
Mal

11 Feb 2005

Afraid you've lost me on this one, Bev. From what you've said, it would appear that you have picked up anti-gay feelings from the forum. That's never come across to me, ever.

No, I've never picked up any anti-gay feelings either Mal. I suppose I'm trying to get people to confirm what I've said in pm to someone about them attending munches, that's all. They are relative newbies and will no doubt pick up on the accepting nature of people on here, but I was asked the question and thought it might be pertinent to put it on here. Didn't mean to offend anyone.
Bev
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11 Feb 2005

Quote by steveg_NW
As for a munch......................A munch is regarded as non-exclusive as far as gender, colour or creed are concerned. Once you start putting exclusions on the people invited it is regarded as being a private party not a munch. We don't have any problems with people advertising private parties at all, there are plenty of them organised in the forums all the time. We accept that there may be limitations on numbers etc at a munch but the basic principle is that they are non-exclusive for the regular site users.

I found this in another thread (hope steve doesn't mind me quoting it here) I thought it was very clear and very relevant to the question you posed Bev.

11 Feb 2005

Quote by little gem
People are people regardless of orientation.
I will speak with folk at a munch that I don't fancy and wouldn't play with. I see no problem at munches at all as they are just a big party. Maybe I'm just naive.
If someone had a chip on their shoulder or didn't want to speak to me then it's their loss. I'm not missing out on anything.
I don't see the problem with gay people being at a munch as it is classed as a vanilla social event. It's not like they'd be down anyone and everyone's pants is it!? Anyone who gets overly gropy at a munch without asking is heading for trouble regardles of gender or sexuallity.

Sorry Gem I'll get Countess to put me an a much shorter leash next Munch. wink

Quote by Scandal
Maybe I'm assuming too much of people here then Bev.
If anyone here has a problem with a gay couple attending a munch I think they seriously have to ask themselves do they think they are in the right place.
Hope that clears it up.

I think the two above quotes say it all for me. As long as they respect everyones personal limits (unlike I did and mistakenly groped a member I didn't actually know surprised

ops: although she didn't seem to mind :twisted: ) then there's no cause for problems at all.

11 Feb 2005

Thanks Gem
Bev
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11 Feb 2005

Quote by easy
I think the two above quotes say it all for me. As long as they respect everyones personal limits (unlike I did and mistakenly groped a member I didn't actually know although she didn't seem to mind :twisted: ) then there's no cause for problems at all.

Oh I remember that lol

Your face was a picture rotflmao

My answer to the question at the beginning of the thread is.........I don't give a shit what someones sexuality is dunno

Dawn :silly:

11 Feb 2005

It wouldn't bother me the slightest!

11 Feb 2005

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if they were to attend a munch but I would have to put a caveat...............
Munches are social meets that are held in public places and as such any openly gay behaviour that wouldn't normally be accepted in that public place probably wouldn't be accepted on a munch night either. The people attending a munch might be open minded but it doesn't necessarily follow that everyone there will be. Whilst we all have different ideas about what acceptable behaviour should be in public places many landlords and their staff will decide that two guys openly snogging away in the middle of their pub is beyond acceptance and I doubt the guys would be staying very long.
I'm not saying they would act that way, just that if they did I can imagine the response.
Steve

11 Feb 2005

gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, straight, those are basically just tags to show our sexual prefernses, its the person wearing the tag, or rather their personality in the first instance which is of interest to me. If they are known by some, are members here ( we do have a big collection of men wanting to meet men photo adds after all so some must be members ) then whats the problem.
I saytreat them the same way you would want treating, with friendship and respect until such timeif ever as their conduct deserves them to lose said respect

11 Feb 2005

Quote by steveg_nw
Whilst we all have different ideas about what acceptable behaviour should be in public places many landlords and their staff will decide that two guys openly snogging away in the middle of their pub is beyond acceptance and I doubt the guys would be staying very long.

When I was snogging Jon at the hotel bar after the Notts Much, the staff reaction was quite different: Rather than paying attention to their pouring, they were staring at us - and I ended up with nearly half a litre of white wine in my glass! lol

~Reese!

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Reese
When I was snogging Jon at the hotel bar after the Notts Much, the staff reaction was quite different: Rather than paying attention to their pouring, they were staring at us - and I ended up with nearly half a litre of white wine in my glass!
~Reese!

:rotflmao:

Excellent idea! - will remember that trick in the pub tonight :bounce: :bounce:

11 Feb 2005

Quote by KcKat

When I was snogging Jon at the hotel bar after the Notts Much, the staff reaction was quite different: Rather than paying attention to their pouring, they were staring at us - and I ended up with nearly half a litre of white wine in my glass!
~Reese!

:rotflmao:

Excellent idea! - will remember that trick in the pub tonight :bounce: :bounce:
Oh yes, can we all join in?
In answer to Bev, yes they should come to a munch, and yes I would talk to them.

11 Feb 2005

Well I for one would find it disgusting!! I mean - "GAYS" ffs. Next you'll be allowing Lesbians in!!! Geez man - have you people got no respect!!???
wink

Aaah Bev - tell them not to be so silly. We'd love to have them at a Munch kiss

Well - i would anyway!

11 Feb 2005

Reese - What are you blaming me for now?!! rolleyes

Ooo - and can everyone please keep it down today. I have a hangover! confused

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Rainbows
Reese - What are you blaming me for now?!!

See here. Just seemed like a good idea at the time. :P
~Reese! surprised

11 Feb 2005

Slap my thigh and call me Mr Thickie but I'm still trying to think of a possible problem that 2 gay men at a munch could create.
Unless, of course, the person who has the problem with it is unsure of their own sexuality.
Then there's always the issue of them eating all the vol-au-vents but that's my own problem and I can live with it.