Blimey,
I must have tapped out loads of replies to people now, and only had one response that went dead too. I've been trying to get on to the scene on and off for ages (back when Dirty David didn't charge etc.), but I've kept trying on the basis that I'm only going to be one of hundreds replying to an ad.
I'm now beginning to wonder whether it's either that I'm doing something horrendously wrong (no, I don't do one-liners, I am quite literate), or that when I respond I am actually one of thousands!
I'd like to hear from the regulars on here as to how many replies you actually do receive for a typical ad in the 'Woman seeks man' or 'Couple seeks man' categories.
Thanks all! :-)
Tim
P.S. Tried dogging too, but the nearest I got was stumbling into a gay gang-bang. hmmm....
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Perseverance is the key, it has to be....
Hi soton_chap, you have already left a very nice comment about our pix, "thank you", but you would be surprised at the fact that Linda and I struggle, not often, but we do struggle to get a guy to join us.
We do sometimes ask at the last minute or when they least expect it, i.e, when they don't know when Linda is about to feel really horny
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So you guys, don't get carried away with the fact that you have problems getting a chance to meet someone, we do too.
Have fun, Mark and Linda
We do sometimes ask at the last minute or when they least expect it, i.e, when they don't know when Linda is about to feel really horny
.So you guys, don't get carried away with the fact that you have problems getting a chance to meet someone, we do too.
Have fun, Mark and Linda
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I'm now beginning to wonder whether it's either that I'm doing something horrendously wrong (no, I don't do one-liners, I am quite literate), or that when I respond I am actually one of thousands!
Have you any typical examples of your emails - may be something glaringly obvious. No expert but happy to have a look at an example if you like. I am sure if you post one on here you may get some feedback.
Love Wilma
x x x x x x
Here you go, an example. On looking at it again, perhaps I am a bit vague. Also, bear in mind that Jue requested details of how things would go if we met up, I'm not just being overly-forward.
All comments (constructive anyway) gratefully appreciated.
Dear Jue,
I'm an attached male based in Southampton, but I constantly travel across Dorset as part of my work. I'd love to meet up with you one day and see if we click.
If you'd like to meet in a public and neutral place to start with, like a bar, then we could start there. If we get on, then we'll perhaps start to explore each others bodies right there, just to feel a touch and get us even more excited. I'd love to feel your breasts and really caress them, but not too soon (and not when people are watching ;) ).
If it's possible in the bar that we choose, after we've worked ourselves up madly by holding back, we could both sneak into the Ladies and then you could get a full sample of what to expect if we decide to make it a regular thing.
I like to be sexually adventurous (I'm attached myself and stuck in a sexual rut at the moment too), and I'd love to go wild with excitement trying new things out with you.
I've attached my photos, as requested, give me a call this week on (xxxxx) xxxxxx and we'll see about giving each other an early Christmas present!
Tim x
P.S. The phone number is my work mobile, so if I sound a bit formal when I pick up, don't be put off!
All comments (constructive anyway) gratefully appreciated.
Dear Jue,
I'm an attached male based in Southampton, but I constantly travel across Dorset as part of my work. I'd love to meet up with you one day and see if we click.
If you'd like to meet in a public and neutral place to start with, like a bar, then we could start there. If we get on, then we'll perhaps start to explore each others bodies right there, just to feel a touch and get us even more excited. I'd love to feel your breasts and really caress them, but not too soon (and not when people are watching ;) ).
If it's possible in the bar that we choose, after we've worked ourselves up madly by holding back, we could both sneak into the Ladies and then you could get a full sample of what to expect if we decide to make it a regular thing.
I like to be sexually adventurous (I'm attached myself and stuck in a sexual rut at the moment too), and I'd love to go wild with excitement trying new things out with you.
I've attached my photos, as requested, give me a call this week on (xxxxx) xxxxxx and we'll see about giving each other an early Christmas present!
Tim x
P.S. The phone number is my work mobile, so if I sound a bit formal when I pick up, don't be put off!
Sex God
I can tell you where I think you're going wrong - all that about exploring each others bodies, caressing, touching breast etc... very off-putting, it just sounds so cheesy. Personally, I wouldn't reply to anyone who wrote like that. If it was an on-going convesation and the guy started writing stuff like that, there's no way I would meet him. Just my bit really, others might like it, but I know it just gives me grumpy thoughts 
Thats very true, take it steady, one minute you are asking her to meet you in a public place to get to know each other and in a flash, you are mentally jumping all over each other.
Dont mention anything about bodies and all that bull, cause thats all it is until you actually get down to it, keep it chatty, she will appreciate that more my friend.
Seems to us, and we have written a few that you are putting a little too much in there to start with.
Have fun, Mark and Linda.................pending?
Dont mention anything about bodies and all that bull, cause thats all it is until you actually get down to it, keep it chatty, she will appreciate that more my friend.
Seems to us, and we have written a few that you are putting a little too much in there to start with.
Have fun, Mark and Linda.................pending?
I totally agree!
Cheeeeeessssyyyy!
Wilma gets emails and PM's off lots of guys. She always tells em if they are a single male she will not meet them bwecause we only swing as a couple. But she is always willing to chat and have a laugh and become friends with people. As soon as they change the tones of the emails to talk about sex she stops talking to them - usually the third email! Those that just treat her as a friend will probably stay friends and she would love to meet some of them in a social environment at some time.
The other thing that comes across from the mail is that you are someone cheating on a relationship. If that is not the case and you do this with the consent of your partner then make it clear. If it is not with her consent and you are cheating then I am afraid many people will not respond to you. Whenever someone contacts us and says they wish they could get their partner interested we always decline. To us, we swing to strengthen our open relationship and have no secrets. The thought of wrecking someone elses relationship because of secrecy and deceit just makes it a complete no no!
Again, only personal thoughts. Many may disagree!
Regards
Fred
Cheeeeeessssyyyy!
Wilma gets emails and PM's off lots of guys. She always tells em if they are a single male she will not meet them bwecause we only swing as a couple. But she is always willing to chat and have a laugh and become friends with people. As soon as they change the tones of the emails to talk about sex she stops talking to them - usually the third email! Those that just treat her as a friend will probably stay friends and she would love to meet some of them in a social environment at some time.
The other thing that comes across from the mail is that you are someone cheating on a relationship. If that is not the case and you do this with the consent of your partner then make it clear. If it is not with her consent and you are cheating then I am afraid many people will not respond to you. Whenever someone contacts us and says they wish they could get their partner interested we always decline. To us, we swing to strengthen our open relationship and have no secrets. The thought of wrecking someone elses relationship because of secrecy and deceit just makes it a complete no no!
Again, only personal thoughts. Many may disagree!
Regards
Fred
Listen to uncle incredible gems of wisdom there and I still get the most outragous horn looking at lindas pics.*sighs happily*
I have a meet this afternoon,my first since joining this group and i've only been here about two advice is don't put on airs and graces...be who you are and hopefuly that should be attractive enough.
I left a simple enough message just saying I found the prospect of meeting this guys gorgeous wife incredibly erotic,and if it wasn't too much trouble would he like to get in touch and i'd give him all the info about me he needed...............it was enough.
I have a meet this afternoon,my first since joining this group and i've only been here about two advice is don't put on airs and graces...be who you are and hopefuly that should be attractive enough.
I left a simple enough message just saying I found the prospect of meeting this guys gorgeous wife incredibly erotic,and if it wasn't too much trouble would he like to get in touch and i'd give him all the info about me he needed...............it was enough.
Sex God
Soton-chap - I think you have your answer! I'm glad it's not just me that finds certain types of replies cheesy! The moral of the story is - be yourself, but leave out the cheese 
as a relative newbie myself, I found this whole subject very interesting.
I have posted a couple of ads myself and found either no replies or a couple of bi-curious.
I have been lucky with a couple of meets, I joined a few months ago and have alot to thank mark and his site for.
But what I find more worthwhile is that I have also made friends too.
There are too many people, to put it bluntly, "out for a shag". Although I love this too, I love to find out about people and chat for a while first, understand what they are there for, other interests.
It also gives you something to talk about afterwards whilst having a fag. **joke**
At least you are trying and are not doing the old one liners routine.
good luck to you
I have posted a couple of ads myself and found either no replies or a couple of bi-curious.
I have been lucky with a couple of meets, I joined a few months ago and have alot to thank mark and his site for.
But what I find more worthwhile is that I have also made friends too.
There are too many people, to put it bluntly, "out for a shag". Although I love this too, I love to find out about people and chat for a while first, understand what they are there for, other interests.
It also gives you something to talk about afterwards whilst having a fag. **joke**
At least you are trying and are not doing the old one liners routine.
good luck to you
