I am 32. I never cared about having a "cool" car when I was younger much less now. I always wanted to be judged by my abilities and still do.
Young people in 2005 are brainwashed with the need to be "cool" more so than any generation before. It takes a strong will and good role models to resist it.
I have read the thread and posted in it. He is behaving pretty much like anyone his age.
I don't see why everyone is reacting in such an extreme way to him.
But of the first 18 posts which might have been described as taking the piss (although varying greatly in levels of piss-taking, from the very mild to the bitter), eight were from females, and ten from males....
On the broader aspect of your question, I don't feel threatened at all - I actually didn't get the reference about the car, I ignore all references to cars anyway, as I don't drive.
I would be perfectly happy to give anyone of any age advice in how to pitch their initial approach in here, and have in the past done so, though usually on here in public rather than via PM. Reactions vary from the embarrassed and suitably enhumbled, to the brash and arrogant. References to Roger's advice for single guys post, and Marcuso's ditto are often made - whether guys get much out of them we really cannot tell. Yes, some go too far in their sarcasm, and it makes me feel uncomfortable, as it obviously does you as well Rainbows, but no one person in here can control what reaction people get - I have also seen reasonable posts from women and couples get a bit of an obtuse reaction from others in here, for example Zanahoria, and then disappear in confusion, so it's not only the single guys who suffer from this.
Mike.
Most guys will put up some kind of competitive show if needed. So my first reaction was, he's young, he's confident, he's got stuff, he'd probably pull the woman between our ages if she was age inclined. But its only a threat to the bad loser.
I don't think the older guys have anything to be worried about.....what they may lack in stamina they make up in experience and maturity!
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It would be easy to overlook the point here. Most guys will say there is no threat or challenge. That is part of the defense mechanism at work. And that is just what I have done.
Guys do go through an initial period of sensitivity and there is some establishing of respect and what they will accept from each other. So in that sense it is a challenge to deal with a younger man who demands more attention.
A young fit and feisty guy can be intimidating and he may push the limits. This can be worrying and force one to make decisions or draw conclusions. But there is a long term way around these issues.
In the normal course of life you would not be faced with a real nasty piece of work. I used to work with ex-offenders, so it is unlikely that one would ever meet the real hard cases.
I really don't consider myself "in competition" with any other males here (or females, come to that). The regulars and semi-regulars get to know each other in here to certain levels, the occasionals and the one-post chancers also come in, and make choices accordingly about who if anyone they are going to take an interest in, for whatever purpose. I'm not sure that a competitive attitude increases one's chances - aren't as many people turned off by such an attitude as turned on by it?
mike.
This is probably related more to life in general for me, than here specifically. I don't feel a threat from the younger guys at all because for the most part, I tread a different path and fish a different pond. My ambitions and needs are different so the likelyhood of my goals being thwarted by someone younger isnt that great. This doesn't mean that at times I don't envy their youth and miss mine, but if anything I am a realist, time creeps on, I move on, someone moves in. I would love to do the last twenty years again cos I've had some giggles, but it aint gonna happen. All I can do is offer what I know to the younger guy if he wants it and in the meantime push on with the next lump of life which might not be as hectic, but wont be short of fun, it just might be in a different form.
I have to admit that I am not a txt user. But it is a fast growing language and it would be foolish to completely ignore it. It may be that in a few years it will be recognised by the Oxford English Dictionary. So guys like the man being examined use this language as an everyday tool. Remember today's youth will be managing your pensions in years to come!
Having never actually been considered 'cool', except maybe for a brief stint in nursery, where I was the first one out of nappies (score!)
I really don't feel threatened. Although I did nearly pee myself at the thought of someone using text speak online. Do people really do that? And not just to try to be funny?
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Ken
I don't feel threatened at all. As for the young poster mentioned, or any others like him, I don't think there's need for any of the older males to let him know how to excersise forum etiquete.
The best thing to do is let him make mistakes and he will learn. After all we've all learnt from our mistakes.
OK, so I'm not a bloke. Or single. But....
When I was a regular (Godlike) user on a very vanilla forum, I used to get threatened by interloping, new females. Did not matter their age, really. Just I was one of a tiny minority of women in there and I was a 'superstar'.
Honestly, I really did feel that they were pissing on my tree and I was totally arsey about it. I would be bitchy and abusive, all in the name of "humour". Anyone who did not get my 'joke' was then derided as someone with no SoH by me and my cronies.
Then I got to talking to one such noob and she was in tears because of how I treated her. Suddenly realising that there posts are typed by actual people with feelings and whathaveyou made me take a step back and re-evaluate things.
Oh and by the way - as a married, single bloke I don't feel threatened by anyone of any age - unless it's a vindictive 8 year old with an IQ of 175.
You're either a pillock - in which case you won't last (unless you've got a thick skin like me) or you ain't in which case you will. I like people who aren't pillocks - simple as that.
24 years old. Bliss it was that dawn to be alive and to discover Swinging Heaven. Or something.
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