I have to admit if someone mails me who is way off from what my profile says I am looking for I rarely respond, as to be honest I don't understand why they bothered in the first place. If someone is purely paying me a compliment and acknowledges they are not expecting any more then I will say thank you.
However, I have noticed increasingly when I have sent messages back, just saying thanks for your message but sorry not for me. I'm getting really really nice messages back thanking me for at least responding.
Are people on here really not bothering to at least acknowledge interest? Surely if someone has made an effort to email you and show interest the least you can do is acknowledge it?
If this is typical, no wonder so many guys cutnpaste which is one of my pet hates.
So... the question is. Do you reply even when you are not really interested and if not always, which times do you choose not to?
I reply most times. Sometimes just a Hi. I never, not so far anyway responded to a wink. First time for everything, as they say around here!
Sometimes I just ache for the return message. Sometimes we get personal, sometimes I hope to get personal.
On the whole PMs are for saying things to special people, that I just would not say on the open forum.
Travis
PS Having read your profile, there is a wink on it's way to you, I know you like them.
It's certainly nice when you get a reply. Well...so long as it's not a horrible one.
I recently sent a pm to someone who put some nice quotes on the "Quote" thread and I said how much I liked them. Just simply that and it was nice to get a reply. Replies can be quite uplifting because someone is taking the trouble to get back to you.
I always reply to anyone that pays a compliment about the profile, pictures or videos. I just think it is curtesy, winks are a whole different thing I never know how to respond to those so don't tend to, as like many of us I prefer a more personal message....
Sam x
I think my settings are set to not accept winks. Least some blurb comes up saying something like that so I don't have to deal with them.
I think it would be good also if there was a 'thanks but no thanks' button you could click. It would save time and show that you have made an effort to respond.
Venus, female members here have posted in the past about brief "thanks but no thanks" responses they have sent being seen by some pushy guys as an invitation to start a dialogue about "why not", when it isn't welcome. That can understandably put them off replying at all.
Also, some females have posted about getting several hundred replies to an ad, and the sheer impossibility of having the time to respond even briefly to them all.
K I can understand that when you have an advert up that you get too many to answer to, funnily enough this does happen to me being a single female my in box is rather full too.
What I mean is the normal daily messages that come along and surely if you have replied once and someone then decides to make it an 'invite' you don't have to feel obliged to reply to any further ones.
If you answered every mail from every male who has not bothered to fill in their profile or put pics on there or read your profile or your ad you would have no time for real swinging.
Hands up to being one that doesn't reply to all mail.
If I receive just a general email then I will reply and get a bit of banter going.
If I get an email asking for a meet then I don't respond, as it's clearly stated on my profile that I am not looking to meet anyone. This shows me that the sender has not fully read my profile and isn't particularly interested in what I have to say - so why waste my time in replying?
1 in 10, is about my average, but I will say Ive never had anything nasty back in reply, what I find difficult is remembering who youve mailed in the past, as Im pretty sure,Ive mailed people on more than one occasion.
But you've got to keep trying!!
since ive been here ive had at least 50 messages that have been ignored.
a reply saying thanks but no thanks at least makes me think you are a decent human.
half the time now i cant even be bothered to put any effort into them, id rather just compliment someone or crack a joke!
Im guilty of copy and paste, but I dont see the problen with that, that mail suits most adverts, why is it considered not good?
For guys I think it is the question of odds. We outnumber everyone else and so few are looking for single males in return. You can put your best effort and lots of time in to make contact, describe yourself etc and it comes to nothing so many times that it becomes tempting to find short cuts and also to spread your net a little wider.
Once you make contact of any sort there is a thread of conversation and it is easier to focus on the thread and communicate. I hate one line chat ups but the point is they get the ball rolling or not without putting hours into a gamble?
I think it is also a way of making friends if not lovers
Shay
i always try and message back its just rude not too xxx
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