I am new to this site and interested in the content, however when I have popped into the chat room I am generally ignored by the users. I am polite, honest and don't hassle peeps in any way.
In my opinion it does not take much to say morning etc. and have a friendly chat, yes I am an attached male who wants more outside the relationship, hence being on here. I understand why peeps don't want to do stuff with the likes of me but that don't stop general chat on the subject area.
Does this site not welcome new peeps, beginners?
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Master of Sex
dont let the chat room snobs put you off this site :shock:
stick with it 99.9% of people on the forum are polite and understanding
if your not elite enuff you no chance in the chatroom
stick with it 99.9% of people on the forum are polite and understanding
if your not elite enuff you no chance in the chatroom
Quote by satin
dont let the chat room snobs put you off this site :shock:
stick with it 99.9% of people on the forum are polite and understanding
if your not elite enuff you no chance in the chatroom
I take it from that, most of the down to earth people use the forum then. Sorry to go off on one though, it's just that am bored at work etc. etc..
Ta for your replies.
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I don't suppose you were signed in as Jack_Dee were you?:
Should have been signed in as Ignor Me!!!! nope alas not..
Then welcome!!! It can be a bit clique'y in there at times - but lots of genuine and nice folk abound - both in the Chatroom and on the Forum. Just jump on in... ;)
ops: :oops: Hiya Nunnian,
Welcome to the site.
It would not be fair to say that the people in the chat room were any less polite or more cliquey than on the forums. It is simply a different type of environment. Very busy, very fast moving. They were not being rude - they were simply using the chatroom the way they wanted to, and not the way you wanted them to.
If you are looking to explore the concept of swinging to see if it is the type of thing you would be interested in, then you would be much better doing it in here. Once you get to know a few people, you will find they say hello when you go in the chatroom.
lhk
Kat
Welcome to the site.
It would not be fair to say that the people in the chat room were any less polite or more cliquey than on the forums. It is simply a different type of environment. Very busy, very fast moving. They were not being rude - they were simply using the chatroom the way they wanted to, and not the way you wanted them to.
If you are looking to explore the concept of swinging to see if it is the type of thing you would be interested in, then you would be much better doing it in here. Once you get to know a few people, you will find they say hello when you go in the chatroom.
lhk
Kat
Sex God
dont let the chat room snobs put you off this site
Satin, we're not all snobs hun :cry:
Nunnian you will no doubt have noticed how many single males use the chatroom. That being the case, and with so many couples/single fems (
) in there, it can be very difficult and would be extremely boring if all people did was say hello xxx to everyone who came into the chatroom. You will also have noticed just how fast the chat disappears off screen. Many people simply can't keep up with everything that's said, even in conversations they are having, let alone starting a chat with everyone else who comes in.
The reason it may seem 'cliquey' to some people (and yes, it does sometimes) is that conversations have been started already by the time they enter the chatroom and the newcomers simply haven't any idea what's already been said or sometimes even the subject of the conversation.
There are usually at least 3 or 4 single males who are complaining that nobody is talking to them - why not strike up a conversation with one of them if you want a chat on the 'general subject area'. Many people don't want to play with married men or women who are playing away from home with or without their partner's knowledge or consent, so you may well find yourself even lower in the 'hierarchy' than the 'real' single males in chat.
Having said all that, I'm sure that there are also many people out there who would play with married men, and I know there are some couples and single females who are only looking for single males. If you want to get on in the chatroom, don't just sit there and complain about the fact that nobody's talking to you or moan about the lack of interest in single males. Either jump in and chat or try to look at people's ads and ask if you can pm. You never know, someone might say yes!
Bev
xx
Hiya nunnia & :welcome: to SH,
I have been using the site about a year ...
My first perception of the chatroom was cliquey..But found once you get to know folks and them you it's not so bad.. Personally I use the forum more now..there all
in here..
But all in all it is a great site.. Just persevere and I'm sure you make many friends in the chatroom and forum
Lucy xxxx
I have been using the site about a year ...
My first perception of the chatroom was cliquey..But found once you get to know folks and them you it's not so bad.. Personally I use the forum more now..there all
in here..But all in all it is a great site.. Just persevere and I'm sure you make many friends in the chatroom and forum
Lucy xxxx
Orgasminator
Don,t take it personally nunnian it,s like that for a lot of people, the majority of people in the chatroom meet up regular so they just chat to each other 
i,ve been in there from time to time and was either pestered by immature guy,s or sometimes once everyone had said hello to me i was then ignored and had to make my own converstion,thats why i spend more time here now 
i,ve even had a good chuckle to myself at some of the posts we got into the scene more by going along to the nearest munch , and really enjoyed it...good luck don,t give up
Ann & Baz
i,ve been in there from time to time and was either pestered by immature guy,s or sometimes once everyone had said hello to me i was then ignored and had to make my own converstion,thats why i spend more time here now i,ve even had a good chuckle to myself at some of the posts we got into the scene more by going along to the nearest munch , and really enjoyed it...good luck don,t give upAnn & Baz
Thank you all, I agree the chat is fast in there and yep I have noticed the idiotic single men in there. To me they came across as the types who were sitting at Uni with their mates having a grin..
But anyway, this thread was just meant for an insight into the feeling by others about the chat room. Obviously they are mixed and I can relate and understand all.
As far as the single man part goes, I would have thought that going with a lad/lass doing it behind a partners back would be much easier to cope with as you would not have to worry about them falling for you all stalking you..
But anyway, this thread was just meant for an insight into the feeling by others about the chat room. Obviously they are mixed and I can relate and understand all.
As far as the single man part goes, I would have thought that going with a lad/lass doing it behind a partners back would be much easier to cope with as you would not have to worry about them falling for you all stalking you..
Quote by VenusnMars
No, you`d only need worry about the partner and the 4x2 they stalk you with when they find out! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Venusxxx
Very true..... but in a perfect world the partner would realise that something is a miss to force the other half to do it on their own!!! but again valid point.
I often found chat rooms very much like goign to a party where everybody knoes eachother and you stand hanging around on your own trying to chat to someone... or even trying to make eye contact and everyone ignores you.
I haven't tried the chatroom here cos I'm still new but probably will, one day when I get courageous enough
hopefully by then I will have made friends here whom I can say hi over there
I haven't tried the chatroom here cos I'm still new but probably will, one day when I get courageous enough
hopefully by then I will have made friends here whom I can say hi over there Sex God
As far as the single man part goes, I would have thought that going with a lad/lass doing it behind a partners back would be much easier to cope with as you would not have to worry about them falling for you all stalking you..
1. Swingers are not all stalkers and I'm sure that many single males and females could be very offended by this remark.
2. What if said partner found out who his/her partner was playing with, then paid them a visit to exact revenge?
Most swingers go for honesty, I think you will find.
We personally wouldn't swing with a married cheat (male or female) but I know that some do; end of the day, it comes down to personal choice - it's not something we want to pursue, but we appreciate that others might.
Bev
xx
Sex God
Very true..... but in a perfect world the partner would realise that something is a miss to force the other half to do it on their own!!! but again valid point.
In a perfect world, you would be able to talk to your partner and discuss with her your need for extra marital sex and she might be able to tell you why she doesn't fulfil your needs (you might not be fulfilling hers?)
Quote by nunnian
Very true..... but in a perfect world the partner would realise that something is a miss to force the other half to do it on their own!!! but again valid point.
Do I? Do I?! Naaah, it`s far to early and he`s far too pretty for me to want to make mincemeat of that remark!
nunnian
Just because you have an honest face!
Venusxxx
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As far as the single man part goes, I would have thought that going with a lad/lass doing it behind a partners back would be much easier to cope with as you would not have to worry about them falling for you all stalking you..
1. Swingers are not all stalkers and I'm sure that many single males and females could be very offended by this remark.
2. What if said partner found out who his/her partner was playing with, then paid them a visit to exact revenge?
Most swingers go for honesty, I think you will find.
We personally wouldn't swing with a married cheat (male or female) but I know that some do; end of the day, it comes down to personal choice - it's not something we want to pursue, but we appreciate that others might.
Bev
xx
I see where you are coming from but I think that the use of the "honest" was incorrect, after all those peeps who say that are in a relationship but are doing this on the quiet are indeed being honest. It's those peeps who claim to be dead straight single and who turn out to be not are the ones to be careful of.
Sex God
I see where you are coming from but I think that the use of the "honest" was incorrect, after all those peeps who say that are in a relationship but are doing this on the quiet are indeed being honest. It's those peeps who claim to be dead straight single and who turn out to be not are the ones to be careful of.
My point was, as you spotted, that most couples are indeed honest.
Particularly with each other.
You are being honest in that you are telling US that you are married and 'playing away', but does your wife know? Are you being honest with her?
Bev
xx
Quote by freckledbird
I see where you are coming from but I think that the use of the "honest" was incorrect, after all those peeps who say that are in a relationship but are doing this on the quiet are indeed being honest. It's those peeps who claim to be dead straight single and who turn out to be not are the ones to be careful of.
My point was, as you spotted, that most couples are indeed honest.
Particularly with each other.
You are being honest in that you are telling US that you are married and 'playing away', but does your wife know? Are you being honest with her?
Bev
xx
Nope I'm in a loving relationship not married, but I want to try a swinging party and a ffm before the relationship goes anyfurther into the realms of the thumb print on my head!!
We are very much still in the early stages.
Yes I agree with all what you say, and as you said earlier there are I'm sure people out there who would accommodate.
Sex God
Your relationship is in the early stages and you're going behind her back now? If that's right, and she finds out, it might not get to the later stages :shock:
Bev
Bev
Quote by freckledbird
Your relationship is in the early stages and you're going behind her back now? If that's right, and she finds out, it might not get to the later stages :shock:
Bev
Yep indeed, that is the risk I am prepared to take!!! foolish I know but I am the type of person who sets goals and try to achieve em.
Sex God
Maybe you could consider asking her if it's her goal as well?
Sex God
*gives up*
/sigh
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