Safe sex used to be all about condoms, but a recent incident shows that mobile phones can be just as dangerous. At a recent party (not a munch or a social, just a party at which some of our number were guests) a minute or two of video was recorded by a person believed to have been using a mobile phone. That video clip has now been seen by quite a lot of people here, much to the horror of the people shown on the clip who did not give their consent or even know it was being taken. Pictures at parties for “personal use” are commonplace at some of our meets and events, but what do you all think of a person who secretly does a “candid camera” stunt and worse still, passes the result around ??
i was the person who this video was taken of i was never asked if i could be filmed this was done without my knowledge or consent. when i confrunted the person he said he had loaded the wrong file onto the disc and has handed it out to people. iam shocked that a fellow swinger could do such a thing am just wondering why the hell somebody would film me in such a way. please all learn from my leason do not trust people who have a camera or mobile phone in their hand at a party whats happened to me is proof people dont give a damn for their actions other people were also filmed without their knowledge by this person iam totally gutted and heart broken by this
Disgusting, absolutely disgusting. Yes this person is a member and yes - personally I think they should be banned. I certainly wouldn't be comfortable turning up to a club or party knowing they were there.
Westie chin up matey and other people affected - this person is a total waste of skin. I am so angry for you because the whole basis of this scene is trust and respect.
To the vile oxygen thief who did this - hope you're really proud you pathetic person.
Not a lot you can do about retrieving the situation, which is really shitty.
Send a complaint to a mod if it has been distributed on the forums or admin if it is elswhere on the site, with as much evidence as you can find.
This is a serious breach of trust.
.
as a private party...don't think there is alot SH can actually do......
but the person concerned knows who he is...and so do na great many others...so the person concerned should beaware when people ignore him..and he never gets invited anywhere...that it is a result of his own stupid and pathetic actions.
the first think he should do now..is wipe the clip clean from his phone and his computer and any other record he has of it...then go away and think very seriously about his actions.
I know this is an emotional topic but please don't be tempted to name and shame the idiot. I would hate to have to pull the thread and stop the warning it is giving to others :thumbup:
Anyorganisers of events in the future should be informed of this persons wish to attend so they may make an informed choice as to whether to risk inviting them.
I think a public naming and shaming is not the way to go BTW...
cant add anything to this, my feelings have been already expressed to you in person and by others above, it will be universally condemned by one and all im sure westy, your not the first this has happened to and im afraid you wont be the last.
wrats
the problem now is that those people in the mids room know who it is... and I am sure that will get around the room.... but this people could go to other events in other rooms around the country and no one would be any the wiser.....
wouldn't it be wise to let the organisors or social/munches know that this person is on their lists so they can then make a valued decision???
pickles hun in no way shape or form is this down to you, you didnt know along with the rest of us what this person has done is betrayed all of our trust xxxxxxxxxxx
thanx westy - the friendship of you guys means alot to me and don't wanna lose it over this xxx
Disgusting, I wouldn't be comfortable turning up to a club or party knowing they were there.
Westy {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
I am so upset for you because the whole basis of this scene is trust and respect.
to the person who did this - hope you're really happy...cos u aint gonna be at anymore parties.....
pickles that aint ever gonna happen xxxxxxx
Pickle's you cant blame yourself hun it is not your fault in any way at all. Its the peeps that have done it who is soley too blame. If it is the same peeps has we have meet well they wont be getting any-more invites too the partys we do.
Cant say anymore on the subject has we fully agree 100% with wot has already been said in the thread.
sugs xxxx
i was the guy in the phone clip, im very upset about it but not half as much as i am for the girls involved. Their dignity has being abused in a way that should never have happened. I was never asked if this video clip could be taken, let alone be sent to any Tom,Dick or Harry. This person SHOULD NOT be invited to anymore parties/socials due to his actions at this party.
When I posted this thread last night I was too angry to express my views without getting a ban, but I think I’ve calmed down enough now.
Pictures are an integral part of this scene and videos are also becoming more commonplace, but one of the most important aspects is what you do with them after they are taken. Consent from the person you are capturing on cam is important but what you do with the resulting images is also vital. To hawk the pics round, as these seem to have been, is in my opinion, despicable and reflects badly not on the party organiser or the people who’s images were captured, but on the person with the cam.
My sympathy to the people who have been upset by this incident, and it’s a small consolation that the perpetrator will be remembered in a bad way far longer than the people on the video, or the party organiser.
OI PICKLES........................we still love you babe, u aint done nowt wrong at all, so stop worrying. In all honesty it wudn't have made any differance where it was held, the occasion wud have still arisen. 