Quote by georgina5520
I’m in a sexless marriage. My wife hasn’t allowed me to have sex with her for over 27 years and I’ve never played away. However, I would love it if she would. When I say she won’t have sex with me, I mean she won’t fuck with me. She does occasionally help me have a wank and teases me about taking a lover, but no luck yet.
But here you are on a swingers site!
I see this was dragged up from 2019 and it is still relevant today as it was then. Cheating is cheating. But the holier than thou comments from single males is the strangest part. We have had contact with single males and we always have a few conversations with them. Despite being assured they were actually single, they always trip up. As far as we are concerned, if you go to a pub or club to pull and that is just going out on the pull, how does this site differ and make singles, male and female, swingers? But then, after many let-downs from guys who have suddenly had an "emergency" so we now just don't meet singles!
But what if after discussing it with the wife and explaining the situation, she still is not interested in a sexual relationship?
Who knows, maybe she has been having a long term affaire and that is the reason? Or maybe it is something you are doing wrong?
If someone really doesn't want sex with you, or doesn't want sex at all, there is no point trying to convince them to have sex with you or try and emotionally blackmail them into doing it.
For me, the best part of sex is seeing and hearing my woman cum loudly. If that does not happen, there is absolutely no point. You might as well just have a private little wank.
If the issue can't be resolved satisfactorily through discussion, the next step is to ask her if it is OK if you take a mistress. If she flatly refuses to allow you, the next step is to consider separation.
In my case there was a time when my partner had a lover and got so involved that she lost interest in me. The balance was restored by me taking several regular mistresses, sometimes two at a time, plus a few one-night stands.
After my first away game she immediately reverted to being just as turned on by me and eager for my cock as before. Indeed, there was nothing she liked better than fucking me after I had been with another woman.
But one thing changed. She doesn't really like me going down on her any more (sadly). She says it is too demeaning. I know she made her lovers eat her cum filled pussy, as she told me. So maybe she doesn't like the possibility that I might be eating their cum as she thinks it is humiliating.
Nobody can give you a firm answer to this problem in a marriage. I guess I'm lucky and get something once a week.
I can get my extras from porn. I cheated once and it led to us swapping but since then we havent swapped.
Unless she says yes to you seeking sex elsewhere you are still cheating.
Personaly I would hate to be found out and break my wifes heart because even the lack of sex I love the women I married.
I’m with you on this one, my misses the same, we get on so well bar the sex, lost interest. It’s been over 5 years and I made a New Year’s resolution, I’m going to try new things I have never done and I have started on here. So yes it’s a YES from me😀👍
Quote by Whirlpool
Married 18 years tried flowers.. New car.. Meals out.. Weekends away...
Wife not Intrested in sex... Is it OK to play away or should I just live with the frustration and lack of any self esteem??
I can come at this from a slightly different angle. I am single and had a friend request on FB from someone I didn’t know but we went to the same school and had mutual friends so curiously accepted.
We got chatting and she said she’s in a sexless marriage but had young kids, didn’t want to split up the family home but loved her husband dearly but more as a friend than anything. She said she’s tried all sorts with him but he’s a bit of a prude. She said they have 2 children so as far as he’s concerned he’s done his bit and that’s it.
She asked if I’d like to be her FWB so she can have what she needs. I thought about it as she only lived a few miles from me but I was in the process of divorcing and I just kept thinking of her fella so I politely declined. A few years later it got me thinking about the what ifs etc. that led me here as I kept thinking husbands may enjoy their wife having a fella on the side and I was right…..
Unfortunately I have found myself in the same place and spent a long time thinking the rights and wrongs to looking elsewhere and like others starting looking and ended up here and now I see I am not alone in this problem so have started to seek some pleasure outside of the marriage, I love my wife and family and will never think to split but sex is part of the relationship and with that missing it does cause both males and females to explore
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Unfortunately I have found myself in the same place and spent a long time thinking the rights and wrongs to looking elsewhere and like others starting looking and ended up here and now I see I am not alone in this problem so have started to seek some pleasure outside of the marriage, I love my wife and family and will never think to split but sex is part of the relationship and with that missing it does cause both males and females to explore
Tricky I’m sure my friend. Couldn’t pay myself…the transaction would make little Dave go limp!!!
