Socials/munches - how do you view them?

26 Nov 2007

Taking the idea from one of Marya's threads about social name lists seperated into SF, SM's and couples I thought I'd expand on this a little without taking over her thread.
How do you view socials/munches? Purely social like a night out with your normal mates? A swinger orientated event looking for potential playmates?
Do people who don't actively play view them differently?
So let me go first:
We see them as a way of chilling with like minded people, we can flirt, say naughty things and not get looked at strangely or told we perverts. I love to meet people I know from this Forum (as does Blue) even though some are insulting (you feckin' know who you are mate rolleyes

) However, we have a busy social life anyway with our vanilla friends which is by far the bigger lifestyle for us so when we go to socials we do treat them as a way of meeting potential playmates, suss them out, see if we get on socially. We're not attending to talk about new knitting patterns :roll:
So ultimately I guess yes we do go to socials to find potential playmates, I always remember Dark saying she would watch from afar and suss potentials out on the QT.
pink x

26 Nov 2007

I go to have a few beers and a laff in the company of others who share the same interests and I also use them to see who I may like to contact in the future.

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
I go to have a few beers and a laff in the company of others who share the same interests and I also use them to see who I may like to contact in the future.

There you go same as us then, but said so much more concisely! cool

26 Nov 2007

We use them to catch up with old friends.. people you don't ness play with but really want to catch up with..
Also a good way of chatting to people away from the computer.. surprised

The more we go to the more fun we seem to have.
Mike x

26 Nov 2007

I see them as a huge party with a room full of like minded pervs such as myself :smug: but with the added advantage of being able to walk up to anyone and start chatting without them thinking they've attracted the party version of the 'nutter on the bus' :evil2:

26 Nov 2007

dek doesnt like the social side of things he is quite quiet in big groups and prefers a smaller group to chat in , i however love the socials and use them as a way of mostly putting a face to a name seeing if you click with that person offline as well as you do online etc and often get shocks (even though i shoudnt) how different in appearence people appear from the cams /photgraphs.
dont make much sence do i lol

26 Nov 2007

Chance to play in the walk in showers :P
Chance to dress up or down lol

Chat, dance, drink, exchange phone nubers :P
To meet people who I have got to 'known' on the forums or in the chatrooms.
A chance to have an aching head in the morning, and sore feet.
I have to do most of my chatting in the afternoons and early evenings as once the music goes up in volume I have no chance what so ever of hearing anything any one might say to me!!

26 Nov 2007

I almost forgot about that extremely sexy male butt in my shower in Notts. :doh:
that does it for me too :inlove:

26 Nov 2007

I have used them in a way to get to know people I have chatted to on line, sometimes to put a name to a face, other times to check someone out! innocent

I mostly go for the same reason as most others, to have a good socialise chat, say Hi to a few Iv meet before, and have a little natter although other times I may sit in the corner quietly as I did at the Manchester munch.
Also, I usually meet up with someone Iv meet and know and hotel share, also share the shower too! wink

No matter what the munch is, it is a way to meet old and new peeps, to put a face to a name and sometimes a thread or two! Be in good open minded company, and enjoy a good natter, dance, beer or two and in my case vodka! smile

26 Nov 2007

I bet sales of shower gel goes up just before a munch / social weekend... all these people sharing showers in order to save water. :twisted:

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Sarah
I bet sales of shower gel goes up just before a munch / social weekend... all these people sharing showers in order to save water. :twisted:

you share showers at a munch :shock: what ever next

26 Nov 2007

No not at the munch, but just beofre the munch, or next morning
:twisted:

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Sarah
No not at the munch, but just beofre the munch, or next morning
:twisted:

I cant believe you actually made a proper reply to that, i actually had an ulterior motive in saying what i did :twisted:

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
I go to have a few beers and a laff in the company of others who share the same interests and I also use them to see who I may like to contact in the future.

Yup, same as. Primarily a night on the lash with like-minded folk but if I spot someone I like the look of, we can chat and that's a bonus.
I've attended a couple of social events already knowing from the guestlist that there wasn't any potential playmates but it's social so it doesn't matter to me.
I do know some people use the socials/Munches as an opportunity to suss out future shags - and fine, yeh, good for them - that's why I asked about the guestlist thing - is that what you all do? If not, why the list then?
No no no sorry, not going back to that, just saying! wink

26 Nov 2007

As a weekend away from the normality and hum-drum-ness of life and a chance to meet people, people-watch, have a drink and a right good laugh with friends old and new. biggrin

Spot folks I like, but tend not to approach them 'cos I'm shy really redface

Unless I'm running the show, in which case it's an excuse to run round with no sense or purpose trying to do 8 jobs at once and doing them all badly while not drinking. :shock: :lol2:
...... right when am I organising the next one for? :giggle:
Just to go off on a little tangent, how the hell do folks who do it regularly actually do it without going crackers? confused

Fair play to folks like NWC and Sarah worship

26 Nov 2007

thanks Easy. I cant comment on Sarah's mentality lol

but I was aleady crackers before I ever did or went to a munch :lol:

Quote by easy
...... right when am I organising the next one for? :giggle:

OOhh can we put our names down :lol:
Munches for me are a way to put faces to the names I see on line, to meet new people for a good old natter (pre loud music) and to catch up with old friends. I do have to say that I think they are one of the best things about this site and long live the munches and socials :cheers:

26 Nov 2007

I like crackers with cheese please, I *think* my mentality is ok
lol

26 Nov 2007

socials are all in derby and munches arent worth going to...thats pretty much how we see things these days...
a little more seriously
just a place to put faces to names

26 Nov 2007

A chance to sing karakoe without anyone laughing? biggrin

26 Nov 2007

Quote by blueandpink
Do people who don't actively play view them differently?
pink x

I had been on the site for nearly three years before I plucked up the courage to go to my first munch. Being honest, I was quite nervous attending socials/munches because Im not involved in the scene *activity wise*.
I decided to go as I had got to know a few faces via the forum (didnt use chat then :shock smile

and thought it might be good to meet a few faces and see what all the fuss was about... dunno

Everyone always had a great time...and I was missing out :lol2: :lol2:
I worried about all sorts of things and I really checked out all the munch threads re: behaviour etc Being in the same room as all these sexually liberated people :shock: lol

How will I feel if someone propositions me, how will I deal with it etc etc Well, Im a big gal and know I can look after myself if a situation arises without being rude with it.. so I dipped my toes in the water with a local one first!
Think Ive been to about 10 socials/munches now... and I can honestly say its the best thing I ever did. Ive had very few problems, mainly from people who dont know that I wasnt active on the scene (plus someone else has a similar name to me)..but that was soon sorted.
I have made so many friends through attending them, I go to enjoy myself just as I would with other friends and to let my hair down and be ME.
I dont even think of munches or socials as an event organised by swingers (is that a bad thing??) they are organised by friends, friends of friends and genuinely lovely people that I would spend time with in my personal life... probably more than some of my real life aquaintances.
I might not be a swinger... but I am open minded and accepting of other peoples choices in life. Im not judged for who I am here (I hope hehe), and I dont judge any of you for who you are......thats probably one of the main reasons why I stay on the site besides staying contact with friends :) :)
Ive met some fantastic, crazy, genuine people and made some wonderful friendships kiss

the *twirly frocks and princess shoes* are great as well :lol: :lol: .....I recommend anyone whether in the scene or not to attend them.
It would be a very sad day for me though if all of a sudden, people who weren't active on the scene were excluded for some reason......:cry: confused

:?
xanaisx

26 Nov 2007

Quote by anais
It would be a very sad day for me though if all of a sudden, people who weren't active on the scene were excluded for some reason......:cry: :?
xanaisx

I would like to know how that would be 'measured' no-one here can tell whether I swing or not so they surely can't tell about you.

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
I go to have a few beers and a laff in the company of others who share the same interests and I also use them to see who I may like to contact in the future.

Yep, me too wink

god help you come March then Mallock :grin:

26 Nov 2007

Somewhere to meet up with old friends and put faces to newer names.

26 Nov 2007

Quote by anais
I had been on the site for nearly three years before I plucked up the courage to go to my first munch.

It took me 18 months to my first munch and then Angelica took a good while longer.
I can't say I was ever nervous about it - I was really looking forward to my first Munch and I enjoyed it.
When I was on me own I wasn't looking for shags.
.

26 Nov 2007

I think I go for the hugs. Anyone wanna hug me, please go ahead lol

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Cherrytree
I think I go for the hugs. Anyone wanna hug me, please go ahead

naw i go for the passionkiss

26 Nov 2007

I go because they are not far away....... rolleyes

27 Nov 2007

Quote by jaymar
I go to have a few beers and a laff in the company of others who share the same interests and I also use them to see who I may like to contact in the future.

Yep, me too wink

god help you come March then Mallock :grin:
Counting the days :wink:

27 Nov 2007

Quote by markz
I go because they are not far away.......

not mentioning that no one else will have you :lol2:

27 Nov 2007

I think we view them as a night out/away with those who think the way we think.
We have also made a few new contacts who we may share time with in the future but mostly its a time to flirt and perv without being looked down apon as we feel its all about having fun whether in a sexual or non-sexual way ... the hugs and kisses are always most welcome tho kiss