Swinger or Swomger - do I have a right to be here?

15 Oct 2007

now for those of u who know me ,you will know im not easily pissed off ,however after a convo on chat ,i was told i dont have a right to be on sh !!!after 15 yrs of swinging and a marriage break up i met my current partner on sh ,however !!! i managed to fall in love with the only bloke on sh not intrested in swinging ,strange yes i know !!! :shock: however i ave now become a swonger :P :P .i was recentlly challenged as to whether i have a right to be here ??i pay my subscription just like the rest of sh in fact we actually pay for 2 accounts, it does state on both of ur pfs that we are not looking for anything ,however men never get past the pics and read the texts then hurl abuse when u decline there offer :!: mad

im straight with ppl i never give false hope and im hoping that im a popular addition to the chat rooms :shock: :shock: if not , tough ur stuck with me :!: :!: :twisted: :twisted: so come on give ur views am i entitled to be here or should i pack my bags and leave now :!: :!: :!:

15 Oct 2007

You have as much right as anyone to be here and don`t let anyone tell you any different! kiss

15 Oct 2007

It is a compliment that 'they' are aggrieved that you don't 'swing'.
With some swongers it is a sigh of relief 'they' breath when told. lol

you have has much right to be here as anyone else. Paying or not.
splendid

15 Oct 2007

Well, I post here occasionally. I'm not active - I have an interest. That may change or it may not - but I think I have a right to be here. So do you - just cause you don't 'actively participate' so what? Your opinion, input and whatever you bring to the SH community should be just as valued, IMHO.
Sounds like you've come across some neanderthals who've adopted the 'If I can't shag you, then f**k off' attitude. Just ignore them, they'll disappear when they realize this place isn't an automatic ticket to all the girls/guys they want!
Just my 2p'north
Japes

15 Oct 2007

You don't have to swing or swong (what's swong btw? confused

) to be a member here, you can be here for friendships, chats or social scenes or whatever you want.
I hate it when people become judge and tell people either they shouldn't be here or not to post in the forums! mad

You just remain here and be yourself Pussy, stuff them!

15 Oct 2007

Take someone saying that you don't have a right to be on here as an opinion and nothing more. Most probably fuelled by their realisation that their expectations of the site (free tail whenever they want it?) isn't going to be met (well not whilst being disrespectful to other members, maybe).
You paid your money, so as far as the 'site' is concerned you have a perfect right to be here, now it is up to others to take their choice (or not in your case).
It is entirely possible that statements such as "u couldn't possibly offer me anything I don't already have!! so find another victim!!!!" won't endear you to the passing observer so maybe there is a little of 'you reap what you sow' involved - but as I wasn't party to your conversation or the circumstances around it, I couldn't comment one way or another.
There is a legitimate debate to had, however, about the number of swingers to swongers at any one time on the site - and what commercial impact this ratio has to the financial profitability of the site (but then the displaying of unrealistic site stats is part of the same debate).
At the end of the day - you paid to join, aren't breaking any rules (that I know of), so you have the 'right' to be here.

15 Oct 2007

You have every right to stay on the site. The fact you choose not to swing has no bearing on the issue even if you didn't pay for your membership. The site is about more than just meeting people for sex.
I know quite a few who frequent the site purely to chat to like minded people, whether thats on the forums or in the chatroom. IMHO its the people who hurl abuse because they don't get what they want who shouldn't be here.

15 Oct 2007

Quote by ukbeannie
Take someone saying that you don't have a right to be on here as an opinion and nothing more. Most probably fuelled by their realisation that their expectations of the site (free tail whenever they want it?) isn't going to be met (well not whilst being disrespectful to other members, maybe).
You paid your money, so as far as the 'site' is concerned you have a perfect right to be here, now it is up to others to take their choice (or not in your case).
It is entirely possible that statements such as "u couldn't possibly offer me anything I don't already have!! so find another victim!!!!" won't endear you to the passing observer so maybe there is a little of 'you reap what you sow' involved - but as I wasn't party to your conversation or the circumstances around it, I couldn't comment one way or another.
There is a legitimate debate to had, however, about the number of swingers to swongers at any one time on the site - and what commercial impact this ratio has to the financial profitability of the site (but then the displaying of unrealistic site stats is part of the same debate).
At the end of the day - you paid to join, aren't breaking any rules (that I know of), so you have the 'right' to be here.

ty hun for honest comments ,but had to say the statement i put in was beacause the ones that said here for chat not looking just werent working i cant make it any plainer can i rolleyes

:roll: :roll:

15 Oct 2007

pussy, leave now, we dont want your kind here, you must only be here if your a couple, very sexy and willing to meet other people who have huge cocks and that amazing body described as rugby build and turn out they ment they look like a rugby ball lol
at times ive felt exasberated (sp) with some people on here.
im a single bi sexual female, often been told i shouldnt be here as swinging is about couples only.
i consider myself a swinger cuse i love fun, friendship and sometimes sex with others.
this site isnt just about meeting or chatting about sex, and thank god it isnt.
its a community of like minded open minded people.
the only people who i dont think should be here are those seeking to abuse others for their lifestyle choices whatever they may be ( as long as legal)
stay put xxxxxxxxxxxxx fem xxxxxxxxxxx

15 Oct 2007

Quote by pussygalore33
the statement i put in was beacause the ones that said here for chat not looking just werent working i cant make it any plainer can i :roll: :roll:

I've never fathomed why putting "currently taking a break" at the top of my ads and profile ups the response rate as well! biggrin

15 Oct 2007

Who cares what others think...
Are you happy? Do you enjoy? Do you have your fun?
Paid your dues... Made things clear so its their problem not yours.. Sod em I say xx
Mike x
P.S. What's a Swonger anyway??

15 Oct 2007

If you read my profile you will see you have as much right as I have to be here!! confused

:?

:lol: :lol:

15 Oct 2007

Quote by Sgt Bilko
If you read my profile you will see you have as much right as I have to be here!! :? :lol: :lol:

Where the fook did you come from? :shock:

15 Oct 2007

Puss...
I have the pleasure of knowing you and your better half...
Don't let others make that decision for you, you are both really nice people......
Just because one person says you don't belong why listen to them.....not everyone has to actively participate, and you go to socials so you are an active member of the community just happens to be in other ways....
you are as big a part of this community as anyone else... and you would be missed.... kiss

sean xxxxxxxx

15 Oct 2007

Quote by fabio
Puss...
you are as big a part of this community as anyone else... and you would be missed....
sean xxxxxxxx

yep and so are you Sean which is why so many people posted on your birthday thread, hope you have seen it seeing how you've been back in here :P

15 Oct 2007

Quote by fabio
Puss...
I have the pleasure of knowing you and your better half...
Don't let others make that decision for you, you are both really nice people......
Just because one person says you don't belong why listen to them.....not everyone has to actively participate, and you go to socials so you are an active member of the community just happens to be in other ways....
you are as big a part of this community as anyone else... and you would be missed....
sean xxxxxxxx

awww ty hunni xxxx and wot u mean my better half im the better half !!!!! :twisted: :twisted: rolleyes

15 Oct 2007

Tell em to fuck off....
You have as much right as the next to be here...
There are plenty of members who dont swing...

15 Oct 2007

puss we luffs you in the forums and in the chat rooms and most of all luffs you at the various socials. always a pleasure to see you ( not sure about the minger tho pmsl :twisted: ) you bring sunshine and smiles whenever i have chatted and met you so i say sod the ignorant and carry on with how you carry on your swinging/swonging

15 Oct 2007

Quote by Mallock2006
Tell em to fuck off....
You have as much right as the next to be here...
There are plenty of members who dont swing...

That sums it up for me ^^^^ and I totally agree.
or get them to post in this thread their views :shock:

15 Oct 2007

puss, ask them if they have a right to be here, as SH is not a place for rude narrow minded morons, with less brain capacity than a stick.
I dont know you from Adam (who IS this Adam) but, you have as much right to be here as anyone else, swinging is not just about sex, its about being in the company of like minded individuals, where you can be yourself and chat about your lifestyle with people who understand you.
and swonging........thats a swinger who doesnt have sex **is quietly embarrassed redface

because she had to ask someone last week what it meant***

15 Oct 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
puss, ask them if they have a right to be here, as SH is not a place for rude narrow minded morons, with less brain capacity than a stick.
I dont know you from Adam (who IS this Adam) but, you have as much right to be here as anyone else, swinging is not just about sex, its about being in the company of like minded individuals, where you can be yourself and chat about your lifestyle with people who understand you.
and swonging........thats a swinger who doesnt have sex **is quietly embarrassed because she had to ask someone last week what it meant***

no need for embaresment mrs bone hun if you dont ask you will never find out the good bits in life. swonging goes on in all walks of swinging life ..... usualy once a month surprised

ops: for ladies and somtimes for 9 months or more if you are pregnant or illness or any reason you so wish .... just because some are a swonger it doesnt exclude them from joing the site or using the site during swonging times in a swinging life.
i hope that makes sence lol it did when i typed it

15 Oct 2007

mwah!! Sara, I LOVES ya to bits hun passionkiss

and I know exactly what ya meant!!

15 Oct 2007

:rose:

15 Oct 2007

Everyone that is a member of this site has a right to be here, whether they swing swong or swat rolleyes

.
This site IMHO has become more than a swinging site and is now a community with a community spirit.
People come on here to post when happy, sad or even horny wink

.
We have made more friends from this site than we have sexual partners and those friend's will always remain friends.
Some friends we have never even met face to face, for example Sara_2006.
Still a friend tho, altho she may say different :wink:
So ignore those that say "ffs you don't swing, what are you doing here then?"
They obviously have no friends and probably no sex either cos of their chat up lines confused

regards

15 Oct 2007

So you don't fancy a shag then? rolleyes

15 Oct 2007

woo

you say the sweatest thing .............. dont forget your phone book if ever we do meet bolt

15 Oct 2007

Quote by winchwench
So you don't fancy a shag then?

ehh!!!!
What about dinner first?? wink

and then if youre a really good girl and eat all your sweet, just maybe :roll:

15 Oct 2007

Quote by Sara_2006
woo you say the sweatest thing .............. dont forget your phone book if ever we do meet

Ffs Sara I don't sweat that much. wink

Don't worry I won't need my phone book,when I take you out for dinner you can walk in the road and I will walk on the high pavement and after that who knows, but we are all the same size lying down rolleyes

xx

15 Oct 2007

you trying to get me run over :grin:

15 Oct 2007

they fibbed about the same height lying down lol