Hi
I think it's fair to say swinging would generally revolve around people older than their late teens but that said, there is nothing (so far as I am aware) written in stone that excludes individuals/couples of that age group.....
As you rightly suggest, a sense of maturity would also be necessary for others to take you seriously...That may sound harsh but if you read over some of the threads that have graced themselves on these pages, you will see a good number of people have gotten pretty "hacked off" by guys in particular who come on board with the, "Here I am who's first?" attitude......
The fact you were bothered to pose the question at all at least suggests it is something you have given some thought to and therefore lends you some credibility.....
If you do decide this is what you want then please bear in mind everyone will have their own ideas on age.....these just happen to reflect mine....I'm sure if you come across as a sensible level headed individual then people will respond accordingly.....
Don't be pushy....take time to get to know the members on here.....I'm sure your patience will be rewarded in the long run.....
i only 20 mucker!! n well people dont seem to be bother
they like abit of fresh meat!!
n well women like teaching is young uns a thing or two!!
Personal opinion here guys and gals but i think you are far too young to be involved in swinging.
how old r u then tounge?? how old were u wen u started
As you can already see......peoples opinions vary.......but please don't "mis-judge" them or indeed take offence. What you have to remember is their opinions are generally based on an experience of life....
Like I say, show patience and get to know a few members here and if youve an open mind you'll probably find yourself warming to them
no offence taken i hope it takes alot to offend me!!
but poeples opinions are glady welcomed!!
Well I'm only 21 been swinging for about a year now, I really enjoy it but I have to say some of the ladies that i've met have shown less maturity than I ever would but as the saying goes age aint nothing but a number, if you meet someone just show them mutual respect and enjoy yourself, after all you only live once!
sxyguy300 i agree with u
some of the women ive meet are wilder than my 20yo mates!!
n well were all young at heart eh!!
For me I see a process people go through before they decide to embark on swinging. This process is taken over a period, and I would find it difficult to relate to someone who hasn`t journyed through certain steps first. I doubt that a young person would have had the time to explore all their other options first. It may well be that there are other approaches to swinging that are just as valid, and which apply to younger people, but because I`ve never experianced them I can`t relate. I tend to judge better from personal experiance.
So theres no offense intended, it`s simply how I think!
Venusxxx
Well I'm speaking from fairly limited experience as a single guy at the moment! guess it kinda depends on your definition of swinging, and what you're personally involved in?
i would imagine that for many a young, single guy the decision to (try to) swing takes little more than the prospect of completely casual sex, with strangers likely to show you some damned enjoyable new experiences, without any expectation, commitment, obligation, or need for self-analysis on their part Testosterone tends to clarify situations like that quite well, and certainly helps with the decision and subsequent nerves.
different thing altogether for a couple to initially risk exploring their belief that they're strong enough to grant each other the freedom and space to experiment, and discover things they maybe never knew they liked, albeit together to mutual satisfaction. always gonna be an element of risk in that decision, i'd expect, and you certainly need an extra-ordinary confidence in your relationship to open it up to others, and security in your sexuality and desire for each other not to feel at all threatened by that!
only ever swung as a recently single guy, but discussed threesomes (both kinds ;-) ) at times (hypothetically ;-) ) with previous partners, and i'm not sure i'd ever be able to watch a partner enjoying sex with another guy, no matter what the circumstances, or personal rewards!! possibly a failing on my part or my relationships, but hey.....
i think that kind of maturity and security can only ever come with age and experience, and have to admit i find the idea of teen swinging couples a little odd! but hey, i've had a sheltered life, so what do i know ;-) !!! but i have to admit to a sometimes fleeting jealousy of rampant rabbits, let alone another guy. and introducing your partner to a bi-fem must raise questions for any guy????
common to most threads here on this kinda subject, is evidence of real emotional intelligence, and very deep understanding between partners, and an unusually complete awareness of the other partners needs and desires. i'm sure that kind of comfortable, confident sensitivity isn't common to all relationships at all, and must take time and effort to build, if ever!
neil i think that's a bloody good point regarding the difference between being mature enough for swinging as a couple, and swinging as a single male. I don't think I'd neccesarily be able to handle seeing a girlfriend of mine with someone else, but being a single male it would be easier to maintain that sense of detachment that i think you need.
Anais I'd completely agree with what you're saying about changing the age of consent. I reckon a lot of adults are too immature to make sensible decisions about sex, let alone children (and i agree that people under the age of 16 are children). I know people would argue that will happen regardless, but the fact that it has got the is in my opinion discouraging.
How can a child give consent to such risk when they are not legally allowed to make an informed decision about drinking, smoking or consenting to an operation etc.? It doesn't make sense to me tbh - just my opinion!
i dont think anyone can give an age where it is right to start, it will differ from person to person as people mature and come to grips with their own life/ sexuality at diff ages.
i was 22 when i first started and have to say i feel i was mature enough........
and two years later i am still loving every min.
WBB
xxx
Im 36, been swinging full time for 5 years
My opinion is similar to that of WBB you must be able to handle the situation with a very mature attitude.I think that younger guys are far less able to do not saying that to swing at a young age is wrong but you need a mature attitude towards people,it comes across to me that young guys dont seem to have the right attitude towards females.
In my experience, young people are either totally cavalier and arrogant in their attitude to sex, or they regard it as a proposal of marriage. There seems to be no in between position for people under about 25, and I would therefore say that a swinging lifestyle is something that the vast majority of teens/twenties can not only not fit into, but probably can't even understand.
Just a personal observation based on my own experience, and it's not a generalisation before any indignant sixth formers with trainee moustaches tell me they are exceptions.
Ice
WELL......................
I would say it depends on individual maturity and tastes. The fact that Daz is 16 years older than me made it easier for me to take on a mature outlook about the whole thing, as i had a "Grown Up"(as it were) view to guide me. The fact that Daz and i have been together a year and known each other for near on 2 was a factor as well, i couldnt just start swinging with someone i've only known or been with for 5 minutes, lol!!!
But in certain other circumstances i would say SOME younger people (as in, for example... a couple both aged 18 who have been together for 2 months) may not be totally aware of the trust issues involved in swinging between yourselves as a couple and the other person(s) involved.
I think swinging isnt something you "decide" to do, if you have the "swinging instinct" in you then it just falls naturally into place whether you're 18 or 80!
Okay, words of wisdom over now!
