I miss em .. i miss the global , ok perhaps not global but the ones we used to have way back when..
folk from the south coast came to the manchester dos .. folk from dundee ffs came to midlands dos..
too insular these days
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maybe people dont travel so far to munches now cus there are so many local socials ?
also the cost of travelling etc would put some people off too these days
yes there seems to be loads more socials than in the past than munches
here in the midlands there seems to be one quite often so heres my praise for the guys that set them up,
good on ya guys :thumbup:
trav..
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I miss the "old days" when there was at least a munch a month if not more..
The miles that were done going to munches was unreal sometimes :lol2:
There seems to be almost as many socials now as there were munches then so I'm not sure if the cost thing applies totally....
Could it be that social "rules" are slightly more relaxed than munches
i.e.
Munch is strictly no play where as social is allowed to be more adventurous
Munch is SH members only where as socials can invite members from other sites
The miles that were done going to munches was unreal sometimes :lol2:
There seems to be almost as many socials now as there were munches then so I'm not sure if the cost thing applies totally....
Could it be that social "rules" are slightly more relaxed than munches
i.e.
Munch is strictly no play where as social is allowed to be more adventurous
Munch is SH members only where as socials can invite members from other sites
Sex God
Quote by Steve
I miss the "old days" when there was at least a munch a month if not more..
The miles that were done going to munches was unreal sometimes :lol2:
There seems to be almost as many socials now as there were munches then so I'm not sure if the cost thing applies totally....
Could it be that social "rules" are slightly more relaxed than munches
i.e.
Munch is strictly no play where as social is allowed to be more adventurous
Munch is SH members only where as socials can invite members from other sites
without a doubt steve your right .. i know it puts many folk off but its an old argument that gets shouted down.. the type of ' play' ive seen at socials has never been 'shocking' or OTT but it can be enough to upset some folk i suppose .. maybe ive grown accustomed to it.. oh god battle weary me.. lol.
as for the travel and cost .. we ll yup its a big deal but a little more effort in the car sharing quarters and hey presto its not THAT bad ,
the splitting of this site way back was a real killer munch wise .. i think it still is.. but cest la vie.. its a shame swingers swing by site and not by the sheer fact they are swingers ,, and although i know some of you cross the roads .. for the most part folk play within the constraints of their chosen website..
we could do with a big bad manchester do one for all the sites .. promoted on all the sites and attended by allthe sites .. i chose manchester cos i still reckon its the best party city in the uk,..
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I miss the "old days" when there was at least a munch a month if not more..
The miles that were done going to munches was unreal sometimes :lol2:
There seems to be almost as many socials now as there were munches then so I'm not sure if the cost thing applies totally....
Could it be that social "rules" are slightly more relaxed than munches
i.e.
Munch is strictly no play where as social is allowed to be more adventurous
Munch is SH members only where as socials can invite members from other sites
without a doubt steve your right .. i know it puts many folk off but its an old argument that gets shouted down.. the type of ' play' ive seen at socials has never been 'shocking' or OTT but it can be enough to upset some folk i suppose .. maybe ive grown accustomed to it.. oh god battle weary me.. lol.
as for the travel and cost .. we ll yup its a big deal but a little more effort in the car sharing quarters and hey presto its not THAT bad(a)
the splitting of this site way back was a real killer munch wise .. i think it still is.. but cest la vie.. its a shame swingers swing by site and not by the sheer fact they are swingers ,, and although i know some of you cross the roads .. for the most part folk play within the constraints of their chosen website..(b)
we could do with a big bad manchester do one for all the sites .. promoted on all the sites and attended by allthe sites.. i chose manchester cos i still reckon its the best party city in the uk,..(c)
a - Oh but yes it can be :lol2: This seems a good idea though if after the munch you have the opportunity of any "apres" munch activity car sharing prevents this. We car shared twice and twice regretted it. Not the people we shared with I hasten to add but the situation
b - Really seems the case doesn't it - shame really - mind we do see some people from another site occasionally which is cool but it tends to be a little less faniliar socially as on sh meets we have sh in common.
c - That would be just such a good idea if it could be arranged, 100's of swingers in a big venue just chilling - brill put us down for a couple of tickets would you please
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in respect of A .. either make sure you are all booked into a hotel somewhere .. or make sure they are bi fem twins,, (that was our old routine) and keep em to yourself.. lol
yeah i can see your point i suppose we used to use munches really as a get to meet more than an apres play..meet at munches invite to our parties was the usual routine..we must of had 20 or 30 parties here before we started doing the mids thing..and inviting locals..
these days its been a little too close for comfort with just locals at parties .. much fresher when you get folk that hardly know each other than trying to source people that get on with each other and so on... we sit here doing a guest list thinking ..well (made up names) janet dont like susan and phil is annes ex and dave dont get on with bryan cos bryan is debbies old flame and so on..
once upon a time everyone liked everyone cos all they wanted to do was shag em and have a party.. but then in those days no one got to know each other too well to discover likes and dislikes..we met at munches .. some played after .. no major alliences were made and no real close bonds.. these days everyone is in everyones pocket so much .. thats fine but it doesnt bode well and in an inbred sort of way i think the swinging world is poorer for it.
ill be frank i pretty much hate everyone .. lol
staggy
yeah i can see your point i suppose we used to use munches really as a get to meet more than an apres play..meet at munches invite to our parties was the usual routine..we must of had 20 or 30 parties here before we started doing the mids thing..and inviting locals..
these days its been a little too close for comfort with just locals at parties .. much fresher when you get folk that hardly know each other than trying to source people that get on with each other and so on... we sit here doing a guest list thinking ..well (made up names) janet dont like susan and phil is annes ex and dave dont get on with bryan cos bryan is debbies old flame and so on..
once upon a time everyone liked everyone cos all they wanted to do was shag em and have a party.. but then in those days no one got to know each other too well to discover likes and dislikes..we met at munches .. some played after .. no major alliences were made and no real close bonds.. these days everyone is in everyones pocket so much .. thats fine but it doesnt bode well and in an inbred sort of way i think the swinging world is poorer for it.
ill be frank i pretty much hate everyone .. lol
staggy
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We don't mind travelling anywhere for a munch or a meet. We went to the leeds munch in August and are down for the October one. We weren't the only people that weren't from the area that attended.
We've travelled to Dundee for a couple of meets, even knowing full well on our first trip up there that there would be not playing at all. We still made the journey as we were going to meet people we liked.
To us distance isn't an issue, it's more about a good fun night out and meeting up with new interesting people. There are others that think the same as us but due to the currant financial situation many find themselves in it restricts lots who wish to attend further afield munches from doing so.
I do agree with Steve that going back a while there were a lot more munches to choose from on a far more regular basis, but I also understand that they may have dwindled due to the amount of time and hard work setting one up entails. Modern lifestyles are very demanding on all our times so those who do take the time and put a great deal of effort into arranging these munches deserve medals in my books .
WELL DONE AND THANKS to all those who give up so much of their precious time to arrange munches for the masses :thrilled: :cheers: :thrilled: :cheers: :thrilled: :cheers:
We've travelled to Dundee for a couple of meets, even knowing full well on our first trip up there that there would be not playing at all. We still made the journey as we were going to meet people we liked.
To us distance isn't an issue, it's more about a good fun night out and meeting up with new interesting people. There are others that think the same as us but due to the currant financial situation many find themselves in it restricts lots who wish to attend further afield munches from doing so.
I do agree with Steve that going back a while there were a lot more munches to choose from on a far more regular basis, but I also understand that they may have dwindled due to the amount of time and hard work setting one up entails. Modern lifestyles are very demanding on all our times so those who do take the time and put a great deal of effort into arranging these munches deserve medals in my books .
WELL DONE AND THANKS to all those who give up so much of their precious time to arrange munches for the masses :thrilled: :cheers: :thrilled: :cheers: :thrilled: :cheers:
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the vast majority of munches stopped when the main group of munch organisers left this site.. which was a shame .. but that falls into the cest la vie bit i mentioned above ,
as for the credit crunch well that started last year .. this issue goes back further than us all being skint since then.. but yeah i can see it being reason enough now..
Annie i reckon folk fall into a security blanket of being with locals ,its a real shame as both you and i know the swinging world is much bigger the old way. theres many that have never done the travel and all that it brings.. but then theres still loads that havent even been to one of the midlands dos or other local event.. im not saying the local dos are bad far from it.. just suggesting we spread our wings a little and how i miss the old ways .. no more
as for the credit crunch well that started last year .. this issue goes back further than us all being skint since then.. but yeah i can see it being reason enough now..
Annie i reckon folk fall into a security blanket of being with locals ,its a real shame as both you and i know the swinging world is much bigger the old way. theres many that have never done the travel and all that it brings.. but then theres still loads that havent even been to one of the midlands dos or other local event.. im not saying the local dos are bad far from it.. just suggesting we spread our wings a little and how i miss the old ways .. no more
Sex God
We keep promising ourselves to venture to the Midlands for a social, And as for things getting too close with locals etc, well thats sort of happened a bit for us in the social way like. At one point not many a week would go by without a few of us getrting together for a bit of a laugh etc. This year though has seen a marked decline in that :sad:
I know its only people moving onto other things and stuff but hell, I don't want them too
Some things are so much fun yet when it comes down to it regretfully superficial too, more's the pity, by no means all of course. Swinging can cause more problems for some than its worth i guess. Not happened to us yet though - still raring to go :swingingchair: 
:wanker: 
:cheers:
By the way...We miss the Bristol munch :cry: (not the bloody under 30's thing but the proper one) with 100+ people giving it large
I know its only people moving onto other things and stuff but hell, I don't want them too
Some things are so much fun yet when it comes down to it regretfully superficial too, more's the pity, by no means all of course. Swinging can cause more problems for some than its worth i guess. Not happened to us yet though - still raring to go :swingingchair: :wanker: :cheers:By the way...We miss the Bristol munch :cry: (not the bloody under 30's thing but the proper one) with 100+ people giving it large
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By the way...We miss the Bristol munch :cry: (not the bloody under 30's thing but the proper one) with 100+ people giving it large
:thumbup:
Agreed.....Last one I went to was proper :-)
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I think I have been one of the more vocal people in this subject so promise not to bore you all anymore... but I think the Regional Chatrooms in effect killed the big munches....
very few people from there own regional chatrooms travel outside of them anymore....
people from the mids room don't go to north west, people from yorks room don't go to the north east.... people from north east room don't go to scotland....
and the list goes on and on... the site has become more and more and more insular...
for example... halloween night 31st october... event in leeds and an event in nottingham - distance between leeds and notts is 60 miles ish..
people would have clubbed together and got a minibus in the past... or would have come up as a group, but now its one group at one party and one at anyone and everyone else in the middle picks sides...
back in the past, there was also an unwritten rule where people wouldn't organise events on the same weekends... so that people could go to events all over the place... doesn't happen anymore
very few people from there own regional chatrooms travel outside of them anymore....
people from the mids room don't go to north west, people from yorks room don't go to the north east.... people from north east room don't go to scotland....
and the list goes on and on... the site has become more and more and more insular...
for example... halloween night 31st october... event in leeds and an event in nottingham - distance between leeds and notts is 60 miles ish..
people would have clubbed together and got a minibus in the past... or would have come up as a group, but now its one group at one party and one at anyone and everyone else in the middle picks sides...
back in the past, there was also an unwritten rule where people wouldn't organise events on the same weekends... so that people could go to events all over the place... doesn't happen anymore
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I think I have been one of the more vocal people in this subject so promise not to bore you all anymore... but I think the Regional Chatrooms in effect killed the big munches....
very few people from there own regional chatrooms travel outside of them anymore....
people from the mids room don't go to north west, people from yorks room don't go to the north east.... people from north east room don't go to scotland....
and the list goes on and on... the site has become more and more and more insular...
for example... halloween night 31st october... event in leeds and an event in nottingham - distance between leeds and notts is 60 miles ish..
people would have clubbed together and got a minibus in the past... or would have come up as a group, but now its one group at one party and one at anyone and everyone else in the middle picks sides...
back in the past, there was also an unwritten rule where people wouldn't organise events on the same weekends... so that people could go to events all over the place... doesn't happen anymore
quite right fabio .. am going to make more effort to get out and about more ,, we use another site and its global, the chatrooms arent as local as sh, they are country only , ie UK room Usa room Dutch room and so on, the rooms arent as busy but each will have a couple of hundred in on a busy night..the meets are still very much a travel affair , we attended one a few weeks back in london and there were folk from all over making up the fifty or so that showed..
theres no turning back the clock here as i really think the site is better in so many ways for the localized chat rooms and of course folk can choose to hang out in the beach bars and so on .. but for us i think the future lies at least in a little bit more getting out to the darker depths of the uk ..
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theres no turning back the clock here as i really think the site is better in so many ways for the localized chat rooms and of course folk can choose to hang out in the beach bars and so on .. but for us i think the future lies at least in a little bit more getting out to the darker depths of the uk ..
I've been thinking about this a lot over the last month or so I've been back - I do miss a lot of people I've met from all corners of the UK. As a few may recall from the older days - I was a total Munch Whore (too much so - one of the reasons I had to step away from the scene)
Once I've sorted a few things out I intend to step out of the Midlands a lot more.....so beware :twisted:
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I think I have been one of the more vocal people in this subject so promise not to bore you all anymore... but I think the Regional Chatrooms in effect killed the big munches....
I tend to agree fabes...
very few people from there own regional chatrooms travel outside of them anymore....
people from the mids room don't go to north west, people from yorks room don't go to the north east.... people from north east room don't go to scotland....and the list goes on and on... the site has become more and more and more insular...
Possibly not entirely the sites fault, we are in a major recession here, add to that the price of fuel etc ....? I do think that a lot of ‘excuses' are made, let’s face it, it’s not easy to say, sorry, I just can’t afford it.
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back in the past, there was also an unwritten rule where people wouldn't organise events on the same weekends... so that people could go to events all over the place... doesn't happen anymore
:thumbup: AHHHH, now here's a point in fact, as you say, it was an unwritten rule. I think this is a major problem now, I was looking only recently to organise something for my 50th, not a chanceso much other stuff going on
living in cornwall has it issues alone, but when the bristol munch was only on say once a year and that was the closest to me i would try and arrange things so i could attend.
there was always plenty of notice so you could book in advance and get cheaper accommodation, most people would travel to it and would all stay in the same hotel if possible, they were munches, so no worry of chatting away to a vanilla or be stared at like the weirdo swinger, or worse considered easy sex by the drunk vanilla.
it was a chance to put faces to forum names.
and after hours if play happened so be it but it was completely pressure free enviroment at the munch.
i miss the old munch days. they were more special as they were big planned for events. might have cost more, took more arranging, but more people from far and wide would attend as it was special.
xx fem xx
there was always plenty of notice so you could book in advance and get cheaper accommodation, most people would travel to it and would all stay in the same hotel if possible, they were munches, so no worry of chatting away to a vanilla or be stared at like the weirdo swinger, or worse considered easy sex by the drunk vanilla.
it was a chance to put faces to forum names.
and after hours if play happened so be it but it was completely pressure free enviroment at the munch.
i miss the old munch days. they were more special as they were big planned for events. might have cost more, took more arranging, but more people from far and wide would attend as it was special.
xx fem xx
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living in cornwall has it issues alone, but when the bristol munch was only on say once a year and that was the closest to me i would try and arrange things so i could attend.
there was always plenty of notice so you could book in advance and get cheaper accommodation, most people would travel to it and would all stay in the same hotel if possible, they were munches, so no worry of chatting away to a vanilla or be stared at like the weirdo swinger, or worse considered easy sex by the drunk vanilla.
it was a chance to put faces to forum names.
and after hours if play happened so be it but it was completely pressure free enviroment at the munch.
i miss the old munch days. they were more special as they were big planned for events. might have cost more, took more arranging, but more people from far and wide would attend as it was special.
xx fem xx
You could always think about getting a train to say......The Midlands if there was a munch further north you wanted to go to...
I'm certain someone in the Midlands would be willing to help out with travel etc from there on
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Yes, things have changed from the old munch days where some of us travelled long distances. I think one factor not mentioned so far on this thread is how much more popular swinging has become in the last four or five years since this site started. These days there seem to be articles in the mainstream media all the time about swinging and how popular it has become. And look how long the list of swinging clubs is now, compared with the few in the old days of this site. So most people can easily find other swingers who live near them, without the travelling.
At the same time there seem to be quite a few people in here who get to know each other via the generic chat rooms: beach bar, jacuzzi, etc., who do travel some distance to meet up with each other. But it's not so apparent to others here that that is going on, as it's often not planned via the forums.
At the same time there seem to be quite a few people in here who get to know each other via the generic chat rooms: beach bar, jacuzzi, etc., who do travel some distance to meet up with each other. But it's not so apparent to others here that that is going on, as it's often not planned via the forums.
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the vast majority of munches stopped when the main group of munch organisers left this site.. which was a shame .. but that falls into the cest la vie bit i mentioned above ,
Who?
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the generic chatrooms are not an issue for me..... when those socials are organised because they involve people from all over the country, people go from all over, so thank for the the as an example BBW socials........
for example.. i'll give you another example that frustrates me... 5th december.. munch in wigan, so then someone organises another event in coventry.....
now i would love to support events all over the country... Two on the same day that would not have happened, not everyone would have been able to go to both, but you have put a lot of people in a position where they have to choose.....
that doesn't help the "regionalisation" of the site.....so people from the north west go to one.... people from the mids room go to the other, they don't mix and a brilliant chance for new people to meet new people has been lost.....
I wish organisors would liase with each other, rather than being blinkered to there own socials, thats what use to happen...people use to space them out, and you had a semi calender... now that doesn't exist anymore....and that great thing the site had has been lost
for example.. i'll give you another example that frustrates me... 5th december.. munch in wigan, so then someone organises another event in coventry.....
now i would love to support events all over the country... Two on the same day that would not have happened, not everyone would have been able to go to both, but you have put a lot of people in a position where they have to choose.....
that doesn't help the "regionalisation" of the site.....so people from the north west go to one.... people from the mids room go to the other, they don't mix and a brilliant chance for new people to meet new people has been lost.....
I wish organisors would liase with each other, rather than being blinkered to there own socials, thats what use to happen...people use to space them out, and you had a semi calender... now that doesn't exist anymore....and that great thing the site had has been lost
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