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Hello to you all.
I recently became a member of SH, and I recieved some very warm and encouraging replies to my first post... so many thanks to all who took the time to say Hi.
Since then i've been keeping my powder dry and watching what has been said on the Forum, and basically getting a feel for the etiquette within the community.
One thing that has struck me is how tight everyone is (easy!), and there is a definite feeling of community which is inspiring.
At first that felt quite daunting, but I suppose it's as much up to us newbies to get involved as it is for the existing members to open up (no, missus).
The first thing i did was get myself an ad with some decent pics, and then I sat down for a good while and thought about what I really want from this, and what sort of person/s I woud like to meet. This wasn't as easy as you'd think at first, and you need to be really honest with yourself about why you're here.
I found that reading up on some of the documents in the advice section really helped with putting together my ad, and although most of it seemed like common sense, it was still useful having some kind of framework to work within.
Now, as a single guy on here I knew from that start that I would be handicapped somewhat but I now feel that my ad says exactly what I want it to, and hopefully that will mean that any reponses I get are going to be of a high quality and pretty much already qualified.
This assumption has already been tested and so far proved right. I recieved a reply from a young lady looking for an exploratory partner... she is attractive, intelligent and above all as keen as I to find out what's on offer and how far we are prepared to delve into this world. We are meeting in a few days time and i'm already tingling with anticipation.
So, what's the moral of the story?
I'm just a lucky bastard... wink
Seriously, i'd say that for all the newbies out there, don't rush into this, take your time and understand the 'ground' before deciding which path to take.
As I wrote this it reminded me of an old story about two bulls in a field on top of a hill. Below them is a field of cows gently eating the grass. The young bull spots that the farmer has left the gate open and he turns to the older bull and says... " Hey look, the gate's open, let's run down there and fuck one of those cows". The old bull looks up and says to the younger bull "no, let's walk down and fuck them all" lol
Jx
Wooooooooohooooooooooooo DaHamsta!!!
:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Well done to you ......... and a great big massive for taking the time to do a bit of research.
A lot of people come on here, and never listen when we suggest they take a look round, read back etc. So it's great to hear of someone who's done just that and benefitted from it - in more ways than one :twisted:
Bluddy well done to ya! :twisted:
Oh and well done on your ad too, tis a goodun :rose:
biggrin well done DaHamsta
dahamster,.... first to the serious stuff........ you are hamster yet you have a pic of a bunny for your avatar... now ONE of you is lying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
are u a bunny who pretends to be a hamster or a hamster who pretends to be a bunny???
when you have sorted all that out we can get on with telling you what a fab post that was.. and how we are delighted to have you here,
WBB
xxxxx
Well done!!
I am jealous, i think its to do with the soldier's uniform, hey i had to check out the competion guy's. biggrin
TB1 F.A.B. :D
Quote by DaHamsta
As I wrote this it reminded me of an old story about two bulls in a field on top of a hill. Below them is a field of cows gently eating the grass. The young bull spots that the farmer has left the gate open and he turns to the older bull and says... " Hey look, the gate's open, let's run down there and fuck one of those cows". The old bull looks up and says to the younger bull "no, let's walk down and fuck them all" lol

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bloody hell!
dahamsta!
i can't tell you what a refreshing change a post like that is! having the right attitude, and getting a feel for the place, and more importantly the people here, can work miracles, as you've just found out! nice work fella! keep it up! ;)
neil x x x ;)
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are u a bunny who pretends to be a hamster or a hamster who pretends to be a bunny???

Hmm. Could be one of those chimeral species like the fabled Esquilax - that mythological horse with the head of a rabbit and the body of... a rabbit!
~Reese! surprised
P.S. to DaHamsta: Well done on your post & your ad, congratulations on the success you've had, and to the SH forums!!
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are u a bunny who pretends to be a hamster or a hamster who pretends to be a bunny???

Well, i'm a hamster, but I have a high profile job within the Ministry of Rodents so I wear a bunny costume in order not to be recognised... I've no idea who the other ugly git is who has hijacked my ad but he seems to enjoy digging holes which is an almost hamster like trait so he can't be all bad. smile
Thanks for all the praise guys, it just reinforces what i've said about the community aspect of the site.
TTFN
great post and ad
Just one thing though, why the hell do u have to be in the south!!!
Damn just my luck sad
What a refreshing change!!!!
Nice to have a post from someone who has bothered to take the time and has been patient. Unlike so many others who think that any ad should bring instant gratification and when it doesn't thinks we are all figments of our own imaginations!
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:
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Just one thing though, why the hell do u have to be in the south!!!(

Well, that raises an interesting point...
As I mentioned I have been sitting back, quietly deliberating on my plans for world domination... er, sorry, wrong website...
I have been sitting back, quietly researching the site, and I have come to the conclusion that southern women and southern couples seeking guys, are harder to find than Osama Bin Laden in 'Funny Hat and Beard' competition.
What's wrong with the South? Are we all repressed? City living does make you extremely insular, but then you could argue that no-holds barred, no strings attached sex would be the perfect antidote to city life.
Fair play to the North for taking the UK by the hand, leading it into the bedroom, pulling down it's trousers and spanking it into submission!
Oooh, i've come over all unnecessary... waiter, cheque please...
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Fair play to the North for taking the UK by the hand, leading it into the bedroom, pulling down it's trousers and spanking it into submission!

Come over here and I'll show you this for real :evil2:
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:
Quote by DaHamsta
One thing that has struck me is how tight everyone is (easy!)........

Hang on..... confused he's calling us tight :shock: .....especially me.. mad
I prefer the term frugal if yer don't mind. rolleyes :dry:
Well done Da! Not only have you taken the time to learn the ways and listen to the advice that's been given, but it looks like you've proved that if you do your chances of having some fun greatly increase.
Good luck on your meet. I guess we'll be keeping our fingers crossed for you. :cheers:
Wow!! What a post and ad!!! Looks like you've started as you (hopefully) mean to carry on.. I for one look forward to reading your posts... Perhaps we should make all newbies read this thread before being allowed to post!!! lol
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Fair play to the North for taking the UK by the hand, leading it into the bedroom, pulling down it's trousers and spanking it into submission!

Come over here and I'll show you this for real :evil2:
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:
And right on cue, as if too prove my point... God bless the Watford Gap, and all who swing north of her wink
I am jealous, i think its to do with the soldier's uniform, hey i had to check out the competion guy's.

He was just checking out which Thunderbird you might be lol
So - if there's a South/North divide going on here - what happens to those in the Midlands. Looks lke there's a fair few on here.
And yeah - I second all the others - great post there old chap. :color:
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Just one thing though, why the hell do u have to be in the south!!!(

Well, that raises an interesting point...
As I mentioned I have been sitting back, quietly deliberating on my plans for world domination... er, sorry, wrong website...
I have been sitting back, quietly researching the site, and I have come to the conclusion that southern women and southern couples seeking guys, are harder to find than Osama Bin Laden in 'Funny Hat and Beard' competition.
What's wrong with the South? Are we all repressed? City living does make you extremely insular, but then you could argue that no-holds barred, no strings attached sex would be the perfect antidote to city life.
Fair play to the North for taking the UK by the hand, leading it into the bedroom, pulling down it's trousers and spanking it into submission!
Oooh, i've come over all unnecessary... waiter, cheque please...
Actually that's an interesting point. It certainly seems from the adverts that there are more females and couples seeking guys in the north than the south. It could be a thing about our personalities....southerners are in general more stand-offish than northerners I think (I know that's a sweeping generalisation so no offence intended).
Personally though I think it's just a perception thing...when you're looking for somone to reply to everyone seems to be from somewhere else or want something a little different. I bet if I lived in Manchester I'd be thinking that all the advertisers I was interested in were in Essex. Luckily for me my story is similar to yours though, I took my time, did a bit of reading and then placed an advert. Within a week I'd had a really nice reply from a very nice lady and have been having fun ever since smile
Well DaHamsta, what a bloody excellent post. biggrin
You seem to have your head screwed on and know what you want and how to get it. Good on you and the suggestion that some other newbies should read this post is so true.
Keep em coming like that hunni and you won't go wrong.
Gill & Del x
Lovely post DaHamsta .
Good luck ;) you'll go far LOL
This is such high quality it deserves to be bumped up. I am glad you have made a connection. This should be read (an re-read).
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Well DaHamsta, what a bloody excellent post. biggrin
You seem to have your head screwed on and know what you want and how to get it.

Exactly!! At least he doesn't have a pancake on his head!
~Reese! surprised
P.S. Hmm. Maybe we could get DHamsta's & FlapJackBoy's bunnies together! It is a swinging site, after all.
Hi Hamster.
Wanna fLuck?
rotflmao :rotflmao:
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Hi Hamster.
Wanna fLuck?
rotflmao :rotflmao:

Is this some kind of new sexual activity i'm not aware of, or a case of bad spelling? Can I expect to see 'To fLuck' on Call My Bluff in the next few months?
If fLucking is the latest thing for boys and girls (or whatever combination you prefer) to do together can someone please explain what it is, and do I need to purchase some sort of implement?
Oh and Reese, the rabbit is too nervous to try swinging... we tried dogging once and there was this 'incident' with a Jack Russell... terrible business... traumatized for life...
FLuck happens to be TM to someone here as a polite way of saying the word without an L.
HTH
V
X
Call me an old cynic if you like but they haven't actually met yet rolleyes
Yeah. I really hope your young lady doesn't turn out to be a 30 stone short fat guy with three inches of stuibble. (Unless you swing that way, I guess...)
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Call me an old cynic if you like but they haven't actually met yet rolleyes

Who?