Hello to you all.
I recently became a member of SH, and I recieved some very warm and encouraging replies to my first post... so many thanks to all who took the time to say Hi.
Since then i've been keeping my powder dry and watching what has been said on the Forum, and basically getting a feel for the etiquette within the community.
One thing that has struck me is how tight everyone is (easy!), and there is a definite feeling of community which is inspiring.
At first that felt quite daunting, but I suppose it's as much up to us newbies to get involved as it is for the existing members to open up (no, missus).
The first thing i did was get myself an ad with some decent pics, and then I sat down for a good while and thought about what I really want from this, and what sort of person/s I woud like to meet. This wasn't as easy as you'd think at first, and you need to be really honest with yourself about why you're here.
I found that reading up on some of the documents in the advice section really helped with putting together my ad, and although most of it seemed like common sense, it was still useful having some kind of framework to work within.
Now, as a single guy on here I knew from that start that I would be handicapped somewhat but I now feel that my ad says exactly what I want it to, and hopefully that will mean that any reponses I get are going to be of a high quality and pretty much already qualified.
This assumption has already been tested and so far proved right. I recieved a reply from a young lady looking for an exploratory partner... she is attractive, intelligent and above all as keen as I to find out what's on offer and how far we are prepared to delve into this world. We are meeting in a few days time and i'm already tingling with anticipation.
So, what's the moral of the story?
I'm just a lucky bastard...
Seriously, i'd say that for all the newbies out there, don't rush into this, take your time and understand the 'ground' before deciding which path to take.
As I wrote this it reminded me of an old story about two bulls in a field on top of a hill. Below them is a field of cows gently eating the grass. The young bull spots that the farmer has left the gate open and he turns to the older bull and says... " Hey look, the gate's open, let's run down there and fuck one of those cows". The old bull looks up and says to the younger bull "no, let's walk down and fuck them all"
Jx